I may not have a PhD but I have been there and done that. I am trying to write an advice book for young women. It may be a hit, it may not but I need some guidance. I usually give good advice but I need some advice questions. They could be from young women or adults, I just need questions the I can answer giving my advice to. They can deal with anything...Friends, Family, Death, Drugs, School, Boyfriends....anything. Even if the question is not your own but you think it would be a very common question, please ask, I would really appreciate it. Thank you!I'm a writer and I am writing an advice book for young women. Does anyone have any suggestions?
What do you do/say to a friend who says she drinks or does drugs?
How do you deal with peer pressure?
Ways to see signs of a predator or stay safe when alone.
I think advice on how to help friends with problems is important.
I'm a real advocate of good old-fashioned manners, so I think it would be nice to have a manners section, especially cell-phone etiquette and how to treat adults.
I'm eighteen and I think that's a great idea. Anything that can help young people today is great. Oh, one more thing, talk about sex and the consequences since I think there should be more talk about that. Thank you so much, I think your idea is great and I hope it's a success!I'm a writer and I am writing an advice book for young women. Does anyone have any suggestions?
My advice to you about writing a book is pick a subject that you know.
If you have to ask for advice here, maybe you should stick with a topic you know more about.
Monday, August 23, 2010
My fiance is away for work, hasn't called me and I just recieved a call from a woman. Advice?
My fiance has gone on a cruise ship to refurbish some of the areas of the ship. He has been gone for 10 days and he has called me 4 out of these past 10 days and 1 text saying how much he misses and loves me. When we talk he tells me how much he misses me but he can't talk for more than 10 minutes because he either has to go back for work or he says that the phone line is really expensive. He told me that he works from 7am to 1am with 5 1hour breaks throughout the day. I called his number yesterday in the morning and then at night and he didn't pick up. I just miss him and feel frustrated that we cannot communicate more than this. I feel so anxious about what and how he is doing. Every time he calls it says UNKNOWN because he is on a ship.
THEN today I just received an UNKNOWN call and picked up and a woman just said 'Hello', then hung up.
NOW, I am Freaking out. What was that all about? Things go through my mind because I am feeling so distant from him. Should I call him and ask him about this? What should I do?? Am I over exaggerating
Thank youMy fiance is away for work, hasn't called me and I just recieved a call from a woman. Advice?
Hi, I know this must be very frustrating for you. I honestly can not tell you that you should or shouldn't be worried. I don't know what the work schedule is for someone who does cruise ship maintence. I also don't know if the woman that called knows your fiancee or not. I will say this, why would he leave his phone with you if he was cheating and thought a woman could call, so maybe you are over reacting on this part. It's very important that you have piece of mind in your life, how can you live the rest of your life always worried about what he is doing? You need to make the choice to trust him, or if he is the trust worthy type. If you decide that he is not the trust worthy type then maybe it's time to say goodbye, but if he is the trust worthy type then you need to learn to deal with your jealous feelings. Goodluck.My fiance is away for work, hasn't called me and I just recieved a call from a woman. Advice?
try to relax a bit. it was probably a wrong number. i get them all the time. i literally just had a pediatrics office call me about a doctor's appointment and i don't have kids! people mix up numbers.
the fact is on cruise ships he could just be hard to reach! he probably does have a deadline and has to work crazy hours. have a bit of trust.
Girl, calm down, relax...there can be so many reasons for that. I understand you missed him so much, that's why you are freaking jealous of almost everything. Sure it's nothing, he still calling you and telling his deep feelings for you, he loves you.
If it only happened once, you should just consider it an unfortunate coincidence, unless it happens again...then it becomes more than coincidence.
Uh, it could have been a wrong number. No worries.
Find out who the woman was by calling the captain. If not, call the ship corporation.
When he returns, be unavailable FOR a while. Hire a detective to follow him if his Nights are long away from you. I think romeo is looking around.
See if he is hanging around a woman there romantically. If so, do NOT marry HIM. In fact, it does appear another year of being his fiance is necessary Top regain TRUST. If this is his work and he is not in communication regularly, make sure not to sleep with him.
They're using the same phone system in the various offices, she wanted to see if the line wasn't busy so she said hello? when she heard you [or anyone] on the other end she hung up, if the line was not busy she would have made her call. That's how those phones work. Your fiance is right there, she's not looking for him. So, they probably all speak spanish. All he does is take his break and have a drink, a meal or a coffee, if he messed with the guests or employees he would be out of a job, or mabye he gets on the computer. This is his job if you love him you'll accept it, it's normal to only make one call per day anyway, stop making yourself crazy.
There is not one thing you or I can ever do to change our men and make them act like puppets, people do what they want to do in this life, just love him and if you don't have proof then don't suspect him of anything.
THEN today I just received an UNKNOWN call and picked up and a woman just said 'Hello', then hung up.
NOW, I am Freaking out. What was that all about? Things go through my mind because I am feeling so distant from him. Should I call him and ask him about this? What should I do?? Am I over exaggerating
Thank youMy fiance is away for work, hasn't called me and I just recieved a call from a woman. Advice?
Hi, I know this must be very frustrating for you. I honestly can not tell you that you should or shouldn't be worried. I don't know what the work schedule is for someone who does cruise ship maintence. I also don't know if the woman that called knows your fiancee or not. I will say this, why would he leave his phone with you if he was cheating and thought a woman could call, so maybe you are over reacting on this part. It's very important that you have piece of mind in your life, how can you live the rest of your life always worried about what he is doing? You need to make the choice to trust him, or if he is the trust worthy type. If you decide that he is not the trust worthy type then maybe it's time to say goodbye, but if he is the trust worthy type then you need to learn to deal with your jealous feelings. Goodluck.My fiance is away for work, hasn't called me and I just recieved a call from a woman. Advice?
try to relax a bit. it was probably a wrong number. i get them all the time. i literally just had a pediatrics office call me about a doctor's appointment and i don't have kids! people mix up numbers.
the fact is on cruise ships he could just be hard to reach! he probably does have a deadline and has to work crazy hours. have a bit of trust.
Girl, calm down, relax...there can be so many reasons for that. I understand you missed him so much, that's why you are freaking jealous of almost everything. Sure it's nothing, he still calling you and telling his deep feelings for you, he loves you.
If it only happened once, you should just consider it an unfortunate coincidence, unless it happens again...then it becomes more than coincidence.
Uh, it could have been a wrong number. No worries.
Find out who the woman was by calling the captain. If not, call the ship corporation.
When he returns, be unavailable FOR a while. Hire a detective to follow him if his Nights are long away from you. I think romeo is looking around.
See if he is hanging around a woman there romantically. If so, do NOT marry HIM. In fact, it does appear another year of being his fiance is necessary Top regain TRUST. If this is his work and he is not in communication regularly, make sure not to sleep with him.
They're using the same phone system in the various offices, she wanted to see if the line wasn't busy so she said hello? when she heard you [or anyone] on the other end she hung up, if the line was not busy she would have made her call. That's how those phones work. Your fiance is right there, she's not looking for him. So, they probably all speak spanish. All he does is take his break and have a drink, a meal or a coffee, if he messed with the guests or employees he would be out of a job, or mabye he gets on the computer. This is his job if you love him you'll accept it, it's normal to only make one call per day anyway, stop making yourself crazy.
There is not one thing you or I can ever do to change our men and make them act like puppets, people do what they want to do in this life, just love him and if you don't have proof then don't suspect him of anything.
In college, I would have sexual urges for any woman my type, but I get nervous about kids and babies. Advice?
I currently get sexually aroused. I think about sexual intercourse on certain occasions. I currently have sensitive ears, and cannot stand the sound of crying (especially from babies, toddlers, and kids below pre-adolescent growing levels). I would like to have a relationship, but I am uncomfortable going to certain places in the world (w/ people all ages going around). I usually like quiet places. I would like to have a relationship like Winston and Julia in George Orwell's NINETEEN EIGHTY-FOUR. Can you give me any advice? What could I do to make things easier? How could I have a sexual relationship and not have kids?
If you have any advice / tips for me, please post a response, but BE SPECIFIC and tell me what you know.
NO SOURCE LINKS!
NO SIMPLE ANSWERS!
NO UNANSWERED RESPONSES!
NO FALSE ANSWERS (Jokes)!In college, I would have sexual urges for any woman my type, but I get nervous about kids and babies. Advice?
if you don't want kids, use a condom and make sure she's on bc!In college, I would have sexual urges for any woman my type, but I get nervous about kids and babies. Advice?
use condoms, birth control pills and be careful. there are lot of contraceptives you could use you can ask an ob gyne about itmakeup class
If you have any advice / tips for me, please post a response, but BE SPECIFIC and tell me what you know.
NO SOURCE LINKS!
NO SIMPLE ANSWERS!
NO UNANSWERED RESPONSES!
NO FALSE ANSWERS (Jokes)!In college, I would have sexual urges for any woman my type, but I get nervous about kids and babies. Advice?
if you don't want kids, use a condom and make sure she's on bc!In college, I would have sexual urges for any woman my type, but I get nervous about kids and babies. Advice?
use condoms, birth control pills and be careful. there are lot of contraceptives you could use you can ask an ob gyne about it
My boyfriend of 8 years left me for another woman. We have a child together. Please give me some advice?
My boyfriend (who is 33, I am 29) and I have been together for 8 years. We have a 5 year old daughter. He left me for a 21 year old woman who he says he fell in love with and makes him feel better than anyone ever has, within two hours of talking to her. I had no idea we were having any problems or anything was wrong. I was so happy with him. Besides being hurt, betrayed and upset, I can't stop thinking our daughter is going to be affected by this because of this long distance relationship with this new woman. He also has an older son from a previous relationship. He is in a cover band, and travels a lot. I am wondering if he will be gone much more than before. I don't know what to do. We have no custody arrangement or anything. I didn't think there was any need for that. I don't want him to hate me, but do I need to see a lawyer?My boyfriend of 8 years left me for another woman. We have a child together. Please give me some advice?
Not being married gave him an easy way out of the relationship. He knew all along he could do that.
When couples don't get married and just live together, it is usually the guy who does not want to get married. Mostly because of what happened to you. They like having an easy escape route. If you two were married, he would not be able to just walk away like that so easily.
You need to get an attorney and so what if he hates you over this. You need to protect yourself and your daughter. He is not willing. He is only thinking about himself.My boyfriend of 8 years left me for another woman. We have a child together. Please give me some advice?
Well I am divorced and my son was about 4 at the time- it will NOT be easy for your daughter. I'd give you a lecture about how you should have been married when you had a kid but you dont want to hear it... I would get the custody issue resolved- if you dont think he will be compliant with your interests, do NOT talk to him about it- go straight to a lawyer. You may love him and may not have seen this coming but he screwed you over once and will again- trust me
For your daughter's sake, you need to see an attorney as soon as possible.
You need to establish custody, and you need to establish child support. It isn't about making him hate you - it's about making sure your daughter receives the financial support she deserves.
I would say ';Good riddance'; he's a jerk. If he ever wants to come back to you, slam the door in his face. Your going to be just fine raising your daughter by yourself. I would never put my daughter thew the pain of it all. Now you need a lawyer for child support. And ring him dry.
RUN to a lawyer.
This guy seriously needs to grow up, is the new love a groupie?
This happened to me at 24 years, except our kids were grown. I am a lot happier now than I ever was with the ex.
Why should he hate you? You didn't do anything, did you? This sounds like it was all him.
The guy left you high and dry for some bimbo he just met! Of course you need to see a lawyer, set up child support payments and a visitation schedule. It doesn't have to be vindictive in nature but it does have to be done. You can't expect someone who acts like this to be responsible on his own!
Also, yes your daughter is going to be afected by this. How much is going to up to you. Despite your confusion and hurt you have to maintain control for her sake. Answer her questions to the best of your ability without putting her dad down. And is she asks something you don't have an answer for, it is okay to tell her you just don't know.
Not being married gave him an easy way out of the relationship. He knew all along he could do that.
When couples don't get married and just live together, it is usually the guy who does not want to get married. Mostly because of what happened to you. They like having an easy escape route. If you two were married, he would not be able to just walk away like that so easily.
You need to get an attorney and so what if he hates you over this. You need to protect yourself and your daughter. He is not willing. He is only thinking about himself.My boyfriend of 8 years left me for another woman. We have a child together. Please give me some advice?
Well I am divorced and my son was about 4 at the time- it will NOT be easy for your daughter. I'd give you a lecture about how you should have been married when you had a kid but you dont want to hear it... I would get the custody issue resolved- if you dont think he will be compliant with your interests, do NOT talk to him about it- go straight to a lawyer. You may love him and may not have seen this coming but he screwed you over once and will again- trust me
For your daughter's sake, you need to see an attorney as soon as possible.
You need to establish custody, and you need to establish child support. It isn't about making him hate you - it's about making sure your daughter receives the financial support she deserves.
I would say ';Good riddance'; he's a jerk. If he ever wants to come back to you, slam the door in his face. Your going to be just fine raising your daughter by yourself. I would never put my daughter thew the pain of it all. Now you need a lawyer for child support. And ring him dry.
RUN to a lawyer.
This guy seriously needs to grow up, is the new love a groupie?
This happened to me at 24 years, except our kids were grown. I am a lot happier now than I ever was with the ex.
Why should he hate you? You didn't do anything, did you? This sounds like it was all him.
The guy left you high and dry for some bimbo he just met! Of course you need to see a lawyer, set up child support payments and a visitation schedule. It doesn't have to be vindictive in nature but it does have to be done. You can't expect someone who acts like this to be responsible on his own!
Also, yes your daughter is going to be afected by this. How much is going to up to you. Despite your confusion and hurt you have to maintain control for her sake. Answer her questions to the best of your ability without putting her dad down. And is she asks something you don't have an answer for, it is okay to tell her you just don't know.
Would you ever call a woman on a hot line for phone sex or advice?
I work as a Phone sex operator and I have always wanted to ask. Most people think is very dirty but I get a lot of guys that just cant express themselves to their loved one or they have a dark secret , some just call to talk.
I love what I do it never gets dull , I also have lerned alot about sexuality and human nature.Would you ever call a woman on a hot line for phone sex or advice?
Yes I would.....I have actually
I love what I do it never gets dull , I also have lerned alot about sexuality and human nature.Would you ever call a woman on a hot line for phone sex or advice?
Yes I would.....I have actually
I need a woman's advice... I want to plan a suprise for my girlfriend?
I got circumcised about 2.5 weekd ago and i've been keeping it a secret because i wanted to suprise my girlfriend... yeah coming up with excuses has been real hard... But anyways i can finally have sex again this coming weekend. I was just wondering if my girlfriend will actually feel the difference or if there are any posistions etc i can use that will really make her feel the difference?
This would be a good thing if your boyfriend did it right?I need a woman's advice... I want to plan a suprise for my girlfriend?
Are you crazy? Check out an anatomy book - women only have sensation at the opening of the vagina - that's how we can wear tampons.
I really hope you were not so silly as to get that operation done for no good reason.I need a woman's advice... I want to plan a suprise for my girlfriend?
Well just put her hand there and she will know.
regarding the last part of the question ... honastly .. she may not feel anything ... when hard.. a cut and uncut penis look the same.... almost .
its not a big deal to woman ...
honastly i think its an unnecisary ... and messed up thing to do to urself.. or ur child... unless ur religous.... then theres no need....
watch Penn and Teller's Bullshit ..... its a show debunking staryotyps... such as cercomsisionl..... check it out
A circumcised penis doesn't feel any different from an uncircumcised penis...sorry bud!
This would be a good thing if your boyfriend did it right?I need a woman's advice... I want to plan a suprise for my girlfriend?
Are you crazy? Check out an anatomy book - women only have sensation at the opening of the vagina - that's how we can wear tampons.
I really hope you were not so silly as to get that operation done for no good reason.I need a woman's advice... I want to plan a suprise for my girlfriend?
Well just put her hand there and she will know.
regarding the last part of the question ... honastly .. she may not feel anything ... when hard.. a cut and uncut penis look the same.... almost .
its not a big deal to woman ...
honastly i think its an unnecisary ... and messed up thing to do to urself.. or ur child... unless ur religous.... then theres no need....
watch Penn and Teller's Bullshit ..... its a show debunking staryotyps... such as cercomsisionl..... check it out
A circumcised penis doesn't feel any different from an uncircumcised penis...sorry bud!
My boyfriend left me for another woman. She麓s married and has 2 children I麓m not . I need advice !!!?
I am so in love with him when I shouldn鈥檛. He's a pretty dysfunctional man. He's a 34 yr old twice divorced man. An alcoholic with 2 DUI's on his record and now working on probation. I'm a 26 yr old never married woman. He cheated several times. We were together for about two years, this last time he cheated it was with a younger 22 year old married girl with two babies (a six month old and an 8 year old). I work at hooters and have had plenty of chances to cheat on him and never once did because I love him and him cheating on me makes me feel like trash. Especially when he left me for a MARRIED woman a MARRIED woman. And with children !!! Someone please explain to me what happpened. What's wrong with me? what could I have done wrong for him to chose her over me? and then when we talk he literally cries to me telling me that's he's really sorry for hurting me? and says that if he never had told me the truth about sleeping with her, me and him still would have been together?My boyfriend left me for another woman. She麓s married and has 2 children I麓m not . I need advice !!!?
Wow, are YOU ever picking the WRONG kind of MEN!!!
Get over him, what a loser. I don't know that you are going to find the right kind of man working for Hooters.
Guys don't really have a whole lot of respect for women like that sorry to say, even though you are a good and faithful person by the sound of it. You have to know that men have a certain opinion about the kind of girls who work there even when it's likely not the case at all.
Why would you pick a guy with all that ';garbage'; and baggage on his shoulders?
I think you should cut your losses and say good riddens. Guys like him will ping pong back and forth so expect him to come calling again when he's tired of playing daddy-o but have some self respect and lose the loser.
Set your sights a little higher next time and don't give in to men so quickly in future. You shouldn't be that desperate for affection that you will take anyone who throws an interest your way seriously.My boyfriend left me for another woman. She麓s married and has 2 children I麓m not . I need advice !!!?
You didn't do anything wrong, he's obviously a piece of S***. Move on and let some other girl worry about how many times he cheats on her.
I think you really need to examine why you are allowing yourself to be treated so poorly by someone. We cannot control who we love but we can control whether or not we allow others to abuse us. You need to take a look about why you got into a relationship with this disfunctional man and perhaps get some consuelling to discover why you are doing this to yourself. Treat yourself better girl, there are lots of great guys out there who will treat you right, but you have to get yourself to a place where you believe you deserve a great guy who will treat you right. Let go of this guy, he has a history and that behaviour is not likely to suddenly change, you dont deserve this kind of treatment
uh, why dont you have 2 kids and get married, then he will come back to you
Well what are you needing advice on? This guy is not good for you. Why even waste the tears and pain over this guy. You did nothing wrong and there is nothing wrong with you. This guy just thinks that he saw greener pastures. The only advice that I could give you would be to find out who her husband is and let him know what is going on. He has cheated on you serveral times. Why are you letting your heart get broken so many times? He is 34 and not grown up yet. He will never be the kind of guy that settles down with just one woman. Dont waste your time.
What is wrong with you is that you picked a man to trust who wasn't trustworthy. It doesn't matter how loyal and faithful you are to him, or how good you are to him, if he doesn't have the ability to appreciate it. If it is in his nature to be a dog you can't change that with your behavior. Look at who he was before you met him. He is that same exact person today. You are young, single and lovable. You don't need him and just because you can't keep a loser doesn't make you a loser--it makes you lucky. Next time you think about getting into a serious relationship look at the person's character very closely. If you don't like what it shows then reject him, because you can't save em from themselves.
I think your biggest problem is the fact you feel rejected and it makes you want this loser more than you normally would. Get over him and start dating someone else. Once you give him the cut, you will be getting the same thing from him. Pretty sick the way people react to it isn't it? If you just get a little self-esteem you would realize that you deserve better than that kind of treatment to begin with and get angry enough to never turn back. What kind of idiot man hooks up with a 22 yr old girl with an 8 yr old kid? A sick trailer trash pervert that's who. Hell she had that kid when she was 14!!! They deserve each other. And you pine for this guy?
You make it sound like a married woman with children can't have/or take away a man. You haven't done anything wrong I know your hurt and upset but things happen. Honestly you will be better off without him. Maybe he fell for her we can't choose who we fall for (look at who you fell for isn't it obvious). It will be hard but this might end up being good for you. Your young still you'll bounce back no problem it might be hard but it will eventually get easier.
good luck
Say she is new best friend.! You might not know it yet but she has done you the biggest favor of your life by taking that fore flushing bum off your hands for you.
What you need to do first is figure out what is wrong with your self esteem that makes you want to be with someone who clearly doesn't want to be with you. You need to pick yourself up and demand respect and show yourself some in the process and others will follow.
Get out of Hooters. I understand it is what it is but.... it is what it is. Nothing good comes out of it after a time. Case in point.
He used you simple as that. He is searching for a woman.
Sorry to hear, just leave him and u stay alone for sometime,
u may meet another man, but be causes......
Oh honey, it sounds like you think you can help this guy get his life straightened out, and you can't. No one can change anyone. I'm sorry you feel the way you do about him, but please listen to me when I say dump him now. He won't do anything but make your life miserable. I promise you that.
why would you want to be with someone with a bad track record like that?
So was ur boyfriend haveing an affair??? if so u do not need a cheater ,u r so better than that!!!!!!!!! And his record will bring so much drama that u dont even need!!! dump him!! u dont need tht!!!!!
I'm sorry to hear that... Its hard... but when it comes to this, you have to accept that he's not treating you right---by any means--- and he never will treat ANY girl right. Move on because the deeper you get into this relationship... honey, it only gets worse from here. You know what you have to do... Be Brave and DO IT!
so a woman with children cant be as sexy as you??? LOL, you are one bigheaded person and needed a reality check!
the guy's a jerk and you're lucky to be rid of him. The only problem with you is that you kept him around as long as you did otherwise HE's the problem NOT you!! Stop taking his calls and let him know he made his choice and it wasnt you.. he's trying to have his cake and eat it too!! dont let him get away with it.. you're better than that.. i also commend you for not cheating, it's sad how many girls do
If it was not this Married lady then he would have found another Lady anyway. He is seeking a strong lady with the patience to let him play in the open field. He has found security within this Lady. God only knows why. Anyone can cheat Miss. You have the class to over look what other Women are willing to provide to Men like this four time looser. Dump him and move on in your life. Better yourself and prepare your future. When he realizes what he has lost slam the damn door in this loosers face forever. Marry out of love and move away from this Man. He will self destruct himself. Look at the other side. If her ex caught him with his children. I believe that a good *** kicking would justify the situation.
your ? is so stupid, I just threw up with cupid,now I will tell you why, you really love this guy,because you are a joke, and his life will be your yoke, so run from him right quick and find another d*ck
hes a burden on you..focus on getting yourself together..you being with him just adds on more problems to your life..he needs to get his $hit together..be4 he can fully commit to anyone..i suggest for your safety you find someone that will appreciate you and love you enough to not cheat on you..good luck!
You should be counting your blessings. someone is praying for you. first of all it is not you. look at all the things you stated about him. is that how you want to describe YOUR MAN. one thing i know for sure that if a man does not have himself in order he will be no good to the woman he is with. based upon what you have stated, love or no love, you should be thankful that he left. yes it will hurt but that will pass in time. stay focused on you and before you know it you will attract the right person for you. stay strong and love yourself fist! 1
YOU didn't do ANYHTING wrong EXCEPT get involed with a looser and then stay with him to let him treat you like crap.
You can do so much better....don't let him drag you down to his level.
Why in the world would you think something is wrong with you? When relationships break up, as humans we always want to fix something the other may not have valued. I honestly don't think that anything was wrong with you. It sounds like this guys self destructed and purposely cheated for you to leave him. And when you did not, he left you. There is nothing that you can do or should do to get this guy back. Move on and get a real man who will cherish you, be faithful to you and your relationship and be a man
To be in love w/ someone like that, I'm betting you have a self esteem problem. And like most people w/ this problem, I'm betting you have plenty of reasons to be proud of yourself. Focus on the positive and work toward smoothing out your negatives.....and as you make progress, pat yourself on your back and add it to your list of positives. Oh yeah, add to your list of positives the fact he probably felt like you were too good for him; that's why he left you.
Trust me, you don't need this guy....unless you're looking for a lifetime of pain and disappointment.
The 22 year old had a 8 year old ? so she had it when she was 14? hmmmm.confused .
Dump this dude and move on seriously hook up with 1 of your bosses or something that way you are well looked afta .
What u need 2 do is get on with your life. He left you for another woman. The kids have nothing to do with things. You have time to meet and fall in love with someone else, maybe, this time find one without all that baggage. You don't need to be with someone who cheats, cause you will never trust him.
Move on. And leave him ALONE!
Wow, are YOU ever picking the WRONG kind of MEN!!!
Get over him, what a loser. I don't know that you are going to find the right kind of man working for Hooters.
Guys don't really have a whole lot of respect for women like that sorry to say, even though you are a good and faithful person by the sound of it. You have to know that men have a certain opinion about the kind of girls who work there even when it's likely not the case at all.
Why would you pick a guy with all that ';garbage'; and baggage on his shoulders?
I think you should cut your losses and say good riddens. Guys like him will ping pong back and forth so expect him to come calling again when he's tired of playing daddy-o but have some self respect and lose the loser.
Set your sights a little higher next time and don't give in to men so quickly in future. You shouldn't be that desperate for affection that you will take anyone who throws an interest your way seriously.My boyfriend left me for another woman. She麓s married and has 2 children I麓m not . I need advice !!!?
You didn't do anything wrong, he's obviously a piece of S***. Move on and let some other girl worry about how many times he cheats on her.
I think you really need to examine why you are allowing yourself to be treated so poorly by someone. We cannot control who we love but we can control whether or not we allow others to abuse us. You need to take a look about why you got into a relationship with this disfunctional man and perhaps get some consuelling to discover why you are doing this to yourself. Treat yourself better girl, there are lots of great guys out there who will treat you right, but you have to get yourself to a place where you believe you deserve a great guy who will treat you right. Let go of this guy, he has a history and that behaviour is not likely to suddenly change, you dont deserve this kind of treatment
uh, why dont you have 2 kids and get married, then he will come back to you
Well what are you needing advice on? This guy is not good for you. Why even waste the tears and pain over this guy. You did nothing wrong and there is nothing wrong with you. This guy just thinks that he saw greener pastures. The only advice that I could give you would be to find out who her husband is and let him know what is going on. He has cheated on you serveral times. Why are you letting your heart get broken so many times? He is 34 and not grown up yet. He will never be the kind of guy that settles down with just one woman. Dont waste your time.
What is wrong with you is that you picked a man to trust who wasn't trustworthy. It doesn't matter how loyal and faithful you are to him, or how good you are to him, if he doesn't have the ability to appreciate it. If it is in his nature to be a dog you can't change that with your behavior. Look at who he was before you met him. He is that same exact person today. You are young, single and lovable. You don't need him and just because you can't keep a loser doesn't make you a loser--it makes you lucky. Next time you think about getting into a serious relationship look at the person's character very closely. If you don't like what it shows then reject him, because you can't save em from themselves.
I think your biggest problem is the fact you feel rejected and it makes you want this loser more than you normally would. Get over him and start dating someone else. Once you give him the cut, you will be getting the same thing from him. Pretty sick the way people react to it isn't it? If you just get a little self-esteem you would realize that you deserve better than that kind of treatment to begin with and get angry enough to never turn back. What kind of idiot man hooks up with a 22 yr old girl with an 8 yr old kid? A sick trailer trash pervert that's who. Hell she had that kid when she was 14!!! They deserve each other. And you pine for this guy?
You make it sound like a married woman with children can't have/or take away a man. You haven't done anything wrong I know your hurt and upset but things happen. Honestly you will be better off without him. Maybe he fell for her we can't choose who we fall for (look at who you fell for isn't it obvious). It will be hard but this might end up being good for you. Your young still you'll bounce back no problem it might be hard but it will eventually get easier.
good luck
Say she is new best friend.! You might not know it yet but she has done you the biggest favor of your life by taking that fore flushing bum off your hands for you.
What you need to do first is figure out what is wrong with your self esteem that makes you want to be with someone who clearly doesn't want to be with you. You need to pick yourself up and demand respect and show yourself some in the process and others will follow.
Get out of Hooters. I understand it is what it is but.... it is what it is. Nothing good comes out of it after a time. Case in point.
He used you simple as that. He is searching for a woman.
Sorry to hear, just leave him and u stay alone for sometime,
u may meet another man, but be causes......
Oh honey, it sounds like you think you can help this guy get his life straightened out, and you can't. No one can change anyone. I'm sorry you feel the way you do about him, but please listen to me when I say dump him now. He won't do anything but make your life miserable. I promise you that.
why would you want to be with someone with a bad track record like that?
So was ur boyfriend haveing an affair??? if so u do not need a cheater ,u r so better than that!!!!!!!!! And his record will bring so much drama that u dont even need!!! dump him!! u dont need tht!!!!!
I'm sorry to hear that... Its hard... but when it comes to this, you have to accept that he's not treating you right---by any means--- and he never will treat ANY girl right. Move on because the deeper you get into this relationship... honey, it only gets worse from here. You know what you have to do... Be Brave and DO IT!
so a woman with children cant be as sexy as you??? LOL, you are one bigheaded person and needed a reality check!
the guy's a jerk and you're lucky to be rid of him. The only problem with you is that you kept him around as long as you did otherwise HE's the problem NOT you!! Stop taking his calls and let him know he made his choice and it wasnt you.. he's trying to have his cake and eat it too!! dont let him get away with it.. you're better than that.. i also commend you for not cheating, it's sad how many girls do
If it was not this Married lady then he would have found another Lady anyway. He is seeking a strong lady with the patience to let him play in the open field. He has found security within this Lady. God only knows why. Anyone can cheat Miss. You have the class to over look what other Women are willing to provide to Men like this four time looser. Dump him and move on in your life. Better yourself and prepare your future. When he realizes what he has lost slam the damn door in this loosers face forever. Marry out of love and move away from this Man. He will self destruct himself. Look at the other side. If her ex caught him with his children. I believe that a good *** kicking would justify the situation.
your ? is so stupid, I just threw up with cupid,now I will tell you why, you really love this guy,because you are a joke, and his life will be your yoke, so run from him right quick and find another d*ck
hes a burden on you..focus on getting yourself together..you being with him just adds on more problems to your life..he needs to get his $hit together..be4 he can fully commit to anyone..i suggest for your safety you find someone that will appreciate you and love you enough to not cheat on you..good luck!
You should be counting your blessings. someone is praying for you. first of all it is not you. look at all the things you stated about him. is that how you want to describe YOUR MAN. one thing i know for sure that if a man does not have himself in order he will be no good to the woman he is with. based upon what you have stated, love or no love, you should be thankful that he left. yes it will hurt but that will pass in time. stay focused on you and before you know it you will attract the right person for you. stay strong and love yourself fist! 1
YOU didn't do ANYHTING wrong EXCEPT get involed with a looser and then stay with him to let him treat you like crap.
You can do so much better....don't let him drag you down to his level.
Why in the world would you think something is wrong with you? When relationships break up, as humans we always want to fix something the other may not have valued. I honestly don't think that anything was wrong with you. It sounds like this guys self destructed and purposely cheated for you to leave him. And when you did not, he left you. There is nothing that you can do or should do to get this guy back. Move on and get a real man who will cherish you, be faithful to you and your relationship and be a man
To be in love w/ someone like that, I'm betting you have a self esteem problem. And like most people w/ this problem, I'm betting you have plenty of reasons to be proud of yourself. Focus on the positive and work toward smoothing out your negatives.....and as you make progress, pat yourself on your back and add it to your list of positives. Oh yeah, add to your list of positives the fact he probably felt like you were too good for him; that's why he left you.
Trust me, you don't need this guy....unless you're looking for a lifetime of pain and disappointment.
The 22 year old had a 8 year old ? so she had it when she was 14? hmmmm.confused .
Dump this dude and move on seriously hook up with 1 of your bosses or something that way you are well looked afta .
What u need 2 do is get on with your life. He left you for another woman. The kids have nothing to do with things. You have time to meet and fall in love with someone else, maybe, this time find one without all that baggage. You don't need to be with someone who cheats, cause you will never trust him.
Move on. And leave him ALONE!
Advice-- from guys...what do guys look for in a woman...?
wut do u guys look for in a woman?Advice-- from guys...what do guys look for in a woman...?
You answered my question... now I'll answer yours. I think most men would appreciate a woman who knows HERSELF. In other words, it is usually difficult to deal with a woman who doesn't know what she wants... or who usually does multiple things just to feel satisfied with herself and finding ways to crave her inner cravings, wants, and needs. Those kind of women are difficult to deal with because it's NEVER EASY satisfying them in a way they want to be satisfied. These type of women are usually insecure.
So it really helps if a woman learns to respect a man for who he is and not what he has or what he can do for her just so she is 100% satisfied. I really like women who are mature. The immature ones are difficult to deal with. It's like dealing with cases of ADD or bi polar disorder patients. Other than that, it also helps if women show pride in themselves just for being who they are.
And, like most women, men also appreciate outer and inner beauty. Let's be honest, looks are, to some degree, important. After that, it's usually the personality. It also helps if a woman is financially independent. Really, they are given the opportunity to succeed in any field they want.
I'm a mature guy who is 28 yrs old, single, and have been complimented for my looks. Other than that, I have a difficult time getting by with women who do not have a clue about what they want. Also, most women I know are taken, so that's another sad side of coping with being alone.
Anytime you want to talk about this then just let me know. You are free to email me. Just ask. :) Thanks.Advice-- from guys...what do guys look for in a woman...?
Men look for a woman who is different from the rest. It's a given that most females are successful career wise and have some type of spiritual background. But what else do you do? You don't ever want to be known as a female that just looks good and that's it. We require a confident woman as much as women require a confident man. We also can't stand a complaining woman. We alos listen to how women treat and talk about their friends. We know if you do it to them, YOU'LL DO IT TO US! But most importantly, be a woman. Just because you are a woman by sex, does not mean you are a woman mentally! Be confident, use your common sense, and don't tell everything about yourself, and just maybe you'll be blessed with a great guy.
Virtues that are still there and visible after switching off the lights.
You answered my question... now I'll answer yours. I think most men would appreciate a woman who knows HERSELF. In other words, it is usually difficult to deal with a woman who doesn't know what she wants... or who usually does multiple things just to feel satisfied with herself and finding ways to crave her inner cravings, wants, and needs. Those kind of women are difficult to deal with because it's NEVER EASY satisfying them in a way they want to be satisfied. These type of women are usually insecure.
So it really helps if a woman learns to respect a man for who he is and not what he has or what he can do for her just so she is 100% satisfied. I really like women who are mature. The immature ones are difficult to deal with. It's like dealing with cases of ADD or bi polar disorder patients. Other than that, it also helps if women show pride in themselves just for being who they are.
And, like most women, men also appreciate outer and inner beauty. Let's be honest, looks are, to some degree, important. After that, it's usually the personality. It also helps if a woman is financially independent. Really, they are given the opportunity to succeed in any field they want.
I'm a mature guy who is 28 yrs old, single, and have been complimented for my looks. Other than that, I have a difficult time getting by with women who do not have a clue about what they want. Also, most women I know are taken, so that's another sad side of coping with being alone.
Anytime you want to talk about this then just let me know. You are free to email me. Just ask. :) Thanks.Advice-- from guys...what do guys look for in a woman...?
Men look for a woman who is different from the rest. It's a given that most females are successful career wise and have some type of spiritual background. But what else do you do? You don't ever want to be known as a female that just looks good and that's it. We require a confident woman as much as women require a confident man. We also can't stand a complaining woman. We alos listen to how women treat and talk about their friends. We know if you do it to them, YOU'LL DO IT TO US! But most importantly, be a woman. Just because you are a woman by sex, does not mean you are a woman mentally! Be confident, use your common sense, and don't tell everything about yourself, and just maybe you'll be blessed with a great guy.
Virtues that are still there and visible after switching off the lights.
My fiance is away for work, hasn't called me and I just recieved a call from a woman. Advice?
My fiance has gone on a cruise ship to refurbish some of the areas of the ship. He has been gone for 10 days and he has called me 4 out of these past 10 days and 1 text saying how much he misses and loves me. When we talk he tells me how much he misses me but he can't talk for more than 10 minutes because he either has to go back for work or he says that the phone line is really expensive. He told me that he works from 7am to 1am with 5 1hour breaks throughout the day. I called his number yesterday in the morning and then at night and he didn't pick up. I just miss him and feel frustrated that we cannot communicate more than this. I feel so anxious about what and how he is doing. Every time he calls it says UNKNOWN because he is on a ship.
THEN today I just received an UNKNOWN call and picked up and a woman just said 'Hello', then hung up.
NOW, I am Freaking out. What was that all about? Things go through my mind because I am feeling so distant from him. Should I call him and ask him about this? What should I do?? Am I over exaggerating
He is spanish and he is in the caribbean on a ship right now. The lady who said HELLO had a strong spanish accent.My fiance is away for work, hasn't called me and I just recieved a call from a woman. Advice?
To those that are questioning the working hours and habits on cruise ships. It is normal to work 18 hrs days while underway with many breaks like the original poster stated. Performing renovations/maintenance while underway is also very normal. Usually they will happen in the areas where the passengers are not allowed access to. If it is in areas do have access to they will block of areas around there to prevent passengers from actually seeing the areas being worked on if possible.
The more the ship is out at sea with passengers means that the cruise ship makes money. Keeping a ship in port is expensive in itself. So when they can maintenance is down while underway. Making a ship to shore phone call is very expensive also if they are using the ship communications. Getting a chance to go ashore if you are part of the maintenance/engineering crew is rare also.
My fiance is away for work, hasn't called me and I just recieved a call from a woman. Advice?
Maybe she was a relative, and thought she had the wrong number. Maybe she got disconnected accidently. When we took a cruise, i called my mother from our room on the ship. I stayed on the phone for I swear like 2 mins. and the bill was $100. It is very expensive. Next time you talk to him, ask him.
With many years of experience counseling members of my church I can say without a doubt Fred Borman is 100% correct. Often times we tend to shift blame to others then take the hard path of accepting some of the responsibility ourselves. Hopefully you will embrace his heritage and put this relationship back on track.
calm down. i think you're totally blowing this out of proportion. it could've simply been somthing along the lines of the person that went to use the phone next simply hit redial or something stupid like that. i think you're really overreacting.
Soy asi' cunfused por este.
Pienso que el hace trampas en usted!
UNKNOWN.
It could've just been a wrong number you know. The fact that she had a spanish accent could've been a coincidence.
Fred Borman- divine answer, just one minor thing, Spaniards don't eat burritos, we prefer empanadillas ;)
you are 100% over exaggerating. This call could have come from anywhere
So what you got the SAME call yesterday to?????
Or wait, I guess you did not get the answer you wanted YESTERDAY when you posted this....
Hmmmm.....i would just calll him. I'm sure its nothing. Prolly just a quincidence. I hope he returns home to you soon. Take care.
Maybe it was a wrong number, and instead of her saying ';oops. sorry!'; she just hung up. I've had that happen before.
I think you might be over reacting. Wait til you talk to him again.
wow you really dont trust your husband at all.
let's hope it was just a wrong number.
First of all don't overreact...
Just because a woman calls said ';Hello'; then hung up, doesn't mean anything wrong is happening. She knows he is on the ship so there is no reason for her to call his home except to start trouble. Her goal may be to get you to loose your head ';freaking out'; and piss off your fiance with accusations and maby drive him to her.
This happened to me once when I turned a nightcap down. The woman got mad and said ';Whats the matter?!?!?! Im not good enough?!?!?!'; She called my house the next morning to let my wife know that I had been having an affair with her. My wife coolly asked this woman to describe the birth mark on my gentiles. She couldn't because she had never seen them.
Yes phone usage on a ship is usually very expensive especially if it is a satellite phone system, which most are.
The #1 thing in any marriage is not love, it is trust, without trust there can be no love because love is the ultimate form of trust.
LOL, it's probably just a wrong number. Trust your man and show him the love he deserves! Wait till he calls you again and ask him to please stay longer than 10 minutes because the lack of communication is depressing you. Tell him about the silly call and about your irrational thoughts. I'm sure he'll comfort you. Just relax, he sounds like a good man.
My first thoughts are why would your fiance give this woman his home number when he knows he's away from home?
That doesn't make much sense. I think this was just a wrong number and just a fluke that she has a spanish accent. Also I am sure the phone calls to you are extremely expensive. I remember when I was in Jamacia on vacation and I made a couple short phone calls and almost passed out when I saw how much they cost. I am sure this is nothing and your relationship is fine but if you still are uneasy simply tell me about the weird phone call and ask him if he was expecting a phone call. Good luck!
dont listen to Fred Boreman or whatever..
just cuz u dont cook or know spanish dialect doesnt give your husband the right to cheat on you.. of course u should always put out though..
as for the hang up call.. could be a wrong number, but i highly doubt it.
your husband is away on a cruise ship, of course hes gunna cheat on you...what man doesnt cheat?? what women doesnt cheat? WE ALL DO.
meh, when you call and he dont pick up?? obvious cheating...these other people are stupid saying hes not.
he is...
dump his ***
You are overreacting.
Your husband has called you frequently to make sure you're all right. He loves you. He misses you. You can feel secure in that.
What you had to day is known as a wrong number. It's totally harmless. And in case you didn't notice, you two aren't the only spanish people on the globe.
So, put this worry away. You're a big girl now, and you have to learn how to handle being on your own once in a while. If you feel lonely, call up some gals and go for a few drinks. Do some socializing and you'll feel better.
If your husband comes home to a wife who is freaked out, frazzeled, and fustraited...how happy will he be to see you?
Spend the rest of your week preparing something nice for him.
-A big home cooked meal.
-Maybe something naughty to change into his first night back.
-Get some massage oil and plan to give his sore muscles a rub down.
Whatever you plan, make it something relaxing and unstressful (big fancy dinners at restaurants and dancing all night are not good ideas. He'll be very tired).
So instead of worrying about your marriage, you'll be PLANNING how to make it even better. And it'll give you something to look forward to.
You can even drop him little hints on the phone, letting him know he's got a surpise when he comes home.
Heck, even letting him off the leash and sending him out to the bar with his friends would be a really sweet thing to do for him.
One thing is certain; the more time you spend worrying about YOURSELF and how YOU feel, the more difficult it鈥檒l be for him when he gets back. Nobody wants to come home to a jilted spouse. It makes coming home such a chore.
Then you really will be in danger of your husband straying. And that鈥檚 not good. By being a loving and supportive wife, you'll feel better about your position in the marriage. By thinking about HIM FIRST...you've actually served YOURSELF FIRST. You'll have a devoted husband and you'll feel much much better.
So, start laying plans. Go see your girlfriends. Take a trip to see family. Do some projects around the house. Hell, even curl up and watch all the girl movies he never wants to see in your DVD collection. Bring along a little Ben and Jerry鈥檚 for a date.
Keep yourself stress and worry-free. When he comes home to a beautiful woman, a warm house, a good meal, and body massage鈥?you鈥檒l never have to worry about fidelity.
And he鈥檒l boast that he鈥檚 married to the most wonderful woman on the planet!
Good Luck!
Could be a lot of things, could have been a wrong number, more then one number comes up listed as unknown for anywhere in the country. And that is what I would assume it is unless you dont trust him, could be he left his phone lay and one of the staff picked it up and hit the last number called..I mean not everyone is trustworthy and lots of people mess with your stuff when you are at hotels and on cruiseships..they're not supposed to but they do.
Try not to think the worst
Dear HotJewels,
Hello! Fred Borman here!
It would appear to me that we have an unquestionable case of infidelity on our hands. But before we jump up and start pointing fingers here let us ask ourselves the real question which is... who is to blame?
The clear answer of course is yourself. This man is slaving away on a cruise ship while doing what he can to make himself a living while you are spending your days lounging around with nothing better to do than call him in inappropriate times of day. To think that this wouldn't happen eventually is simply naive and thickheaded.
You mentioned that he is Spanish. What have you done to make him feel comfortable around yourself, a non-Spaniard? Have you began learning his native dialect? Have you made it a point to have a hot, fresh Qdoba burrito waiting for him on the dinner table after a long days work? Have you done the things in the bedroom that a Spanish man would come to expect from his partner? I think not, or you would not be in this situation right now.
You are now at a crossroads in life. You can either fight to win back the man of your dreams, or just rollover and die. I would recommend you sharpen your tequila drinking abilities, because if there is one thing that can impress a Spaniard it is tequila.
Your friend,
Fred Borman, Family Counselor
Definitely do not call him again. Wait for him to call you. If he doesn't, so what! Don't lead on that you're suspicious or worried about a thing, and don't mention the woman calling you -- until you confront him in person. Wait for him to get back, sit right in front of his face, and civilly ask him whatever you wish...while watching his body language (nose red, itchy, or tugging at his ear, or looking down or closing his eyes, and a big one is if he can't look you in the eyes). Google search ';body language, how to tell when he is lying'; for websites on details. Otherwise, I can tell you from personal experience, that when someone is guilty, they usually get defensive and/or yell (the angry escape). For me, a man on a ship with those rediculous (unreal!) hours, would not work out. I want my man working in town!
I don't know, working from 7am-1am that's pretty unbelievable, I also think it's kinda weird that he is working on a ship while it's on a voyage, seems like they would wait till it's docked to do the renovations. I'd be suspicious too, sounds like the girl he might be seeing was looking for info too and called your number to see who it was.makeup class
THEN today I just received an UNKNOWN call and picked up and a woman just said 'Hello', then hung up.
NOW, I am Freaking out. What was that all about? Things go through my mind because I am feeling so distant from him. Should I call him and ask him about this? What should I do?? Am I over exaggerating
He is spanish and he is in the caribbean on a ship right now. The lady who said HELLO had a strong spanish accent.My fiance is away for work, hasn't called me and I just recieved a call from a woman. Advice?
To those that are questioning the working hours and habits on cruise ships. It is normal to work 18 hrs days while underway with many breaks like the original poster stated. Performing renovations/maintenance while underway is also very normal. Usually they will happen in the areas where the passengers are not allowed access to. If it is in areas do have access to they will block of areas around there to prevent passengers from actually seeing the areas being worked on if possible.
The more the ship is out at sea with passengers means that the cruise ship makes money. Keeping a ship in port is expensive in itself. So when they can maintenance is down while underway. Making a ship to shore phone call is very expensive also if they are using the ship communications. Getting a chance to go ashore if you are part of the maintenance/engineering crew is rare also.
My fiance is away for work, hasn't called me and I just recieved a call from a woman. Advice?
Maybe she was a relative, and thought she had the wrong number. Maybe she got disconnected accidently. When we took a cruise, i called my mother from our room on the ship. I stayed on the phone for I swear like 2 mins. and the bill was $100. It is very expensive. Next time you talk to him, ask him.
With many years of experience counseling members of my church I can say without a doubt Fred Borman is 100% correct. Often times we tend to shift blame to others then take the hard path of accepting some of the responsibility ourselves. Hopefully you will embrace his heritage and put this relationship back on track.
calm down. i think you're totally blowing this out of proportion. it could've simply been somthing along the lines of the person that went to use the phone next simply hit redial or something stupid like that. i think you're really overreacting.
Soy asi' cunfused por este.
Pienso que el hace trampas en usted!
UNKNOWN.
It could've just been a wrong number you know. The fact that she had a spanish accent could've been a coincidence.
Fred Borman- divine answer, just one minor thing, Spaniards don't eat burritos, we prefer empanadillas ;)
you are 100% over exaggerating. This call could have come from anywhere
So what you got the SAME call yesterday to?????
Or wait, I guess you did not get the answer you wanted YESTERDAY when you posted this....
Hmmmm.....i would just calll him. I'm sure its nothing. Prolly just a quincidence. I hope he returns home to you soon. Take care.
Maybe it was a wrong number, and instead of her saying ';oops. sorry!'; she just hung up. I've had that happen before.
I think you might be over reacting. Wait til you talk to him again.
wow you really dont trust your husband at all.
let's hope it was just a wrong number.
First of all don't overreact...
Just because a woman calls said ';Hello'; then hung up, doesn't mean anything wrong is happening. She knows he is on the ship so there is no reason for her to call his home except to start trouble. Her goal may be to get you to loose your head ';freaking out'; and piss off your fiance with accusations and maby drive him to her.
This happened to me once when I turned a nightcap down. The woman got mad and said ';Whats the matter?!?!?! Im not good enough?!?!?!'; She called my house the next morning to let my wife know that I had been having an affair with her. My wife coolly asked this woman to describe the birth mark on my gentiles. She couldn't because she had never seen them.
Yes phone usage on a ship is usually very expensive especially if it is a satellite phone system, which most are.
The #1 thing in any marriage is not love, it is trust, without trust there can be no love because love is the ultimate form of trust.
LOL, it's probably just a wrong number. Trust your man and show him the love he deserves! Wait till he calls you again and ask him to please stay longer than 10 minutes because the lack of communication is depressing you. Tell him about the silly call and about your irrational thoughts. I'm sure he'll comfort you. Just relax, he sounds like a good man.
My first thoughts are why would your fiance give this woman his home number when he knows he's away from home?
That doesn't make much sense. I think this was just a wrong number and just a fluke that she has a spanish accent. Also I am sure the phone calls to you are extremely expensive. I remember when I was in Jamacia on vacation and I made a couple short phone calls and almost passed out when I saw how much they cost. I am sure this is nothing and your relationship is fine but if you still are uneasy simply tell me about the weird phone call and ask him if he was expecting a phone call. Good luck!
dont listen to Fred Boreman or whatever..
just cuz u dont cook or know spanish dialect doesnt give your husband the right to cheat on you.. of course u should always put out though..
as for the hang up call.. could be a wrong number, but i highly doubt it.
your husband is away on a cruise ship, of course hes gunna cheat on you...what man doesnt cheat?? what women doesnt cheat? WE ALL DO.
meh, when you call and he dont pick up?? obvious cheating...these other people are stupid saying hes not.
he is...
dump his ***
You are overreacting.
Your husband has called you frequently to make sure you're all right. He loves you. He misses you. You can feel secure in that.
What you had to day is known as a wrong number. It's totally harmless. And in case you didn't notice, you two aren't the only spanish people on the globe.
So, put this worry away. You're a big girl now, and you have to learn how to handle being on your own once in a while. If you feel lonely, call up some gals and go for a few drinks. Do some socializing and you'll feel better.
If your husband comes home to a wife who is freaked out, frazzeled, and fustraited...how happy will he be to see you?
Spend the rest of your week preparing something nice for him.
-A big home cooked meal.
-Maybe something naughty to change into his first night back.
-Get some massage oil and plan to give his sore muscles a rub down.
Whatever you plan, make it something relaxing and unstressful (big fancy dinners at restaurants and dancing all night are not good ideas. He'll be very tired).
So instead of worrying about your marriage, you'll be PLANNING how to make it even better. And it'll give you something to look forward to.
You can even drop him little hints on the phone, letting him know he's got a surpise when he comes home.
Heck, even letting him off the leash and sending him out to the bar with his friends would be a really sweet thing to do for him.
One thing is certain; the more time you spend worrying about YOURSELF and how YOU feel, the more difficult it鈥檒l be for him when he gets back. Nobody wants to come home to a jilted spouse. It makes coming home such a chore.
Then you really will be in danger of your husband straying. And that鈥檚 not good. By being a loving and supportive wife, you'll feel better about your position in the marriage. By thinking about HIM FIRST...you've actually served YOURSELF FIRST. You'll have a devoted husband and you'll feel much much better.
So, start laying plans. Go see your girlfriends. Take a trip to see family. Do some projects around the house. Hell, even curl up and watch all the girl movies he never wants to see in your DVD collection. Bring along a little Ben and Jerry鈥檚 for a date.
Keep yourself stress and worry-free. When he comes home to a beautiful woman, a warm house, a good meal, and body massage鈥?you鈥檒l never have to worry about fidelity.
And he鈥檒l boast that he鈥檚 married to the most wonderful woman on the planet!
Good Luck!
Could be a lot of things, could have been a wrong number, more then one number comes up listed as unknown for anywhere in the country. And that is what I would assume it is unless you dont trust him, could be he left his phone lay and one of the staff picked it up and hit the last number called..I mean not everyone is trustworthy and lots of people mess with your stuff when you are at hotels and on cruiseships..they're not supposed to but they do.
Try not to think the worst
Dear HotJewels,
Hello! Fred Borman here!
It would appear to me that we have an unquestionable case of infidelity on our hands. But before we jump up and start pointing fingers here let us ask ourselves the real question which is... who is to blame?
The clear answer of course is yourself. This man is slaving away on a cruise ship while doing what he can to make himself a living while you are spending your days lounging around with nothing better to do than call him in inappropriate times of day. To think that this wouldn't happen eventually is simply naive and thickheaded.
You mentioned that he is Spanish. What have you done to make him feel comfortable around yourself, a non-Spaniard? Have you began learning his native dialect? Have you made it a point to have a hot, fresh Qdoba burrito waiting for him on the dinner table after a long days work? Have you done the things in the bedroom that a Spanish man would come to expect from his partner? I think not, or you would not be in this situation right now.
You are now at a crossroads in life. You can either fight to win back the man of your dreams, or just rollover and die. I would recommend you sharpen your tequila drinking abilities, because if there is one thing that can impress a Spaniard it is tequila.
Your friend,
Fred Borman, Family Counselor
Definitely do not call him again. Wait for him to call you. If he doesn't, so what! Don't lead on that you're suspicious or worried about a thing, and don't mention the woman calling you -- until you confront him in person. Wait for him to get back, sit right in front of his face, and civilly ask him whatever you wish...while watching his body language (nose red, itchy, or tugging at his ear, or looking down or closing his eyes, and a big one is if he can't look you in the eyes). Google search ';body language, how to tell when he is lying'; for websites on details. Otherwise, I can tell you from personal experience, that when someone is guilty, they usually get defensive and/or yell (the angry escape). For me, a man on a ship with those rediculous (unreal!) hours, would not work out. I want my man working in town!
I don't know, working from 7am-1am that's pretty unbelievable, I also think it's kinda weird that he is working on a ship while it's on a voyage, seems like they would wait till it's docked to do the renovations. I'd be suspicious too, sounds like the girl he might be seeing was looking for info too and called your number to see who it was.
10pts for best advice!!! How do I become a stronger woman?
Although some people tell me sensitivity is good, it's NOT GOOD whenever I get a job. I need to toughen up, as any adult (30 or 40) can make me cry if they criticize or yell at me enough.
-Thinking of something else or funny doesn't work.
-Karate lessons are out the question.
-Self help books hardly help.
-Being positive works for a while, until the negatives takes over again.
Why can't I tap into my ';inner strength';?10pts for best advice!!! How do I become a stronger woman?
Read Proverbs 31:10-31
http://www.blueletterbible.org/Bible.cfm鈥?/a>
Pro 31:30 Favour [is] deceitful, and beauty [is] vain: [but] a woman [that] feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.10pts for best advice!!! How do I become a stronger woman?
Try reading ';Becoming a better you'; byJoel Osteen or listen to his cd's. We were never meant to live from the outside in but from the inside out. So you must truly see the need for a change, which you seem to do, and if you do then I think you will stop at nothing to reach it. I used to be sensitive too but, try to wean yourself off the sensitivity. Next time you feel like getting touchy allow yourself to be upset for 2 minutes then keep on reducing the time till you get to seconds. That is the method I used.All the best in your search.
Most self help books are trash IMHO.
I would suggest you read just a single section out of ';The Feeling Good Handbook.'; by Dr. Burns. The chapter on communication...
Building up your self confidence may help you not cry, but I personally don't think crying is necessarily a sign of weakness.
Learn to hate. Become the most important person in the world and that would be you.
In the work place don't get there smiling and laughing looking to make friends, let people do that for you.
Demand respect at all times and from absolutely everything. ( don't ask openly for it but just respect your self)
You can't hit a target you you can't see so don't tell your life story to anyone. So just be calm and cool.
For confidence go sky diving or bunji jumping or find what scares you the most and do it without hesitating.
Push-ups and pull-ups. Plus plenty of squat-thrusts.
Karate helps.
Try the book ';Women Who Run with Wolves';.
And always remember, be positive!
Dont do Karate its completely useless. Enroll in a Brazilian jui jitsu or Muay Thai class. Your self confidence and strength both mentally and phsycally will sky rocket.
-Thinking of something else or funny doesn't work.
-Karate lessons are out the question.
-Self help books hardly help.
-Being positive works for a while, until the negatives takes over again.
Why can't I tap into my ';inner strength';?10pts for best advice!!! How do I become a stronger woman?
Read Proverbs 31:10-31
http://www.blueletterbible.org/Bible.cfm鈥?/a>
Pro 31:30 Favour [is] deceitful, and beauty [is] vain: [but] a woman [that] feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.10pts for best advice!!! How do I become a stronger woman?
Try reading ';Becoming a better you'; byJoel Osteen or listen to his cd's. We were never meant to live from the outside in but from the inside out. So you must truly see the need for a change, which you seem to do, and if you do then I think you will stop at nothing to reach it. I used to be sensitive too but, try to wean yourself off the sensitivity. Next time you feel like getting touchy allow yourself to be upset for 2 minutes then keep on reducing the time till you get to seconds. That is the method I used.All the best in your search.
Most self help books are trash IMHO.
I would suggest you read just a single section out of ';The Feeling Good Handbook.'; by Dr. Burns. The chapter on communication...
Building up your self confidence may help you not cry, but I personally don't think crying is necessarily a sign of weakness.
Learn to hate. Become the most important person in the world and that would be you.
In the work place don't get there smiling and laughing looking to make friends, let people do that for you.
Demand respect at all times and from absolutely everything. ( don't ask openly for it but just respect your self)
You can't hit a target you you can't see so don't tell your life story to anyone. So just be calm and cool.
For confidence go sky diving or bunji jumping or find what scares you the most and do it without hesitating.
Push-ups and pull-ups. Plus plenty of squat-thrusts.
Karate helps.
Try the book ';Women Who Run with Wolves';.
And always remember, be positive!
Dont do Karate its completely useless. Enroll in a Brazilian jui jitsu or Muay Thai class. Your self confidence and strength both mentally and phsycally will sky rocket.
In need of advice to give to a friend - who would you choose? the man or the woman for a relationship?
Sorry to ask, but i have ran out of advice for my friend.
The sitiation is this.
Girl (1) had a 6 year fling with girl (2) - they were best friends and never been with other women before. They lived with eachother and did everything u usually do in a relationship. It was niver oficial as girl (1) could not accept a relationship with another woman
Girl (1) has now moved in with a Boyfriend last week. He has been on the scene for years.
He banned the girls from seeing eachother.After 6 months,the girls met up again last week.
Girl 1 does not share a bed with her boyfriend and only slept together once in 8 months.
The girls have slept together since girl 1 and the boyfriend have been going out, but not since they re-united last week after the 6 month period.
Nobody knows about the woman and are hoping
do you think she really likes the man who she moved in with, or does she like the woman?
she seems happy to settle with the man but may like the girl too???In need of advice to give to a friend - who would you choose? the man or the woman for a relationship?
Your friend is one confused individual. It sounds like she wants a man because that feels normal, but she is sexually and emotionally attached to the woman. Tell her to grow some balls and open the closet door.In need of advice to give to a friend - who would you choose? the man or the woman for a relationship?
It sounds like you may be girl 2 in this story, I think she is getting her rocks of with both.
I think she is having a problem accepting her sexuality. Maybe she is trying to do ';the right thing'; by being with the boyfriend but I think she is really a lesbian and the right thing for her to do is stay with the girlfriend.
Girl 1 is in serious denial of her gayness and should not be ashamed of it. It's unfair to the guy in the relationship and in turn unfair to not being true to herself. She needs to quite worrying about everybody else and do what she feels is right for her.
weird that 2 girls in the same family are gay..
but you need to be who you are, not who your family thinks you should be.
girl needs to make up her mind and either stick with the guy or the girl. she needs to do what SHE wants, not what she thinks her family will accept. it sounds like she's happier with the girl, but wants the guy as a cover.
i'd suggest she do some deep soul searching and do what SHE wants, but she can't keep playing both sides of the fence.. 2 years or 6 years: it's a long time to be doing both.
good luck
she has to do whatever is best for her %26amp; her alone sounds like she may really be more into the girl though but again she has to make a decision she can live with :)d
she obviously has no idea what she wants. it sounds as though she's just stringing them both along until she makes up her mind!
The answers is 27....I suck at word problems.
Unfortunately, she likes the girl better.
I think she's with the man for appearances only. She may feel that's the right thing to do. However, I think she'd rather be with the other woman. Maybe she hasn't come to terms yet with her sexual preference.
It doesn't seem to me she likes the man all that well, if she has only slept with him ONCE sense living with him for 8 months!!
There isn't enough to judge if she likes the girl more or not. I'm sure she cares to keep a friendship though.
I bet Bi sexuals have a really hard time dealing in relationships!! Can't make up their minds! And bet there's lots of drama!!
girl 1 hasn't slept with her boyfriend in 8 months????? Friend asking is being taken for a fool! You cannot know any of these facts are true unless you lived with all parties yourself, therefore it's all suffisition and conjecture! leave them all be to sort themselves out. I'm female and personally have always fancied males! there is simply NOTHING any woman could do for me and she certainly couldn't make me feel the way a man can! Sorry, it's my own opinion and you don't have to like it. Men just KNOW what pleases a woman!!!!! AND how to do it!
I think girl (1) is lying about not having a physical relationship with the guy and wants her cake and eat it too as they say.
sorry, I do not answer anything that involves homosexuality.
it's just too unfamiliar to me and the culture i was raised in.
it's fine if that's your thing but don't expect us older generation to get used to it overnight.
The sitiation is this.
Girl (1) had a 6 year fling with girl (2) - they were best friends and never been with other women before. They lived with eachother and did everything u usually do in a relationship. It was niver oficial as girl (1) could not accept a relationship with another woman
Girl (1) has now moved in with a Boyfriend last week. He has been on the scene for years.
He banned the girls from seeing eachother.After 6 months,the girls met up again last week.
Girl 1 does not share a bed with her boyfriend and only slept together once in 8 months.
The girls have slept together since girl 1 and the boyfriend have been going out, but not since they re-united last week after the 6 month period.
Nobody knows about the woman and are hoping
do you think she really likes the man who she moved in with, or does she like the woman?
she seems happy to settle with the man but may like the girl too???In need of advice to give to a friend - who would you choose? the man or the woman for a relationship?
Your friend is one confused individual. It sounds like she wants a man because that feels normal, but she is sexually and emotionally attached to the woman. Tell her to grow some balls and open the closet door.In need of advice to give to a friend - who would you choose? the man or the woman for a relationship?
It sounds like you may be girl 2 in this story, I think she is getting her rocks of with both.
I think she is having a problem accepting her sexuality. Maybe she is trying to do ';the right thing'; by being with the boyfriend but I think she is really a lesbian and the right thing for her to do is stay with the girlfriend.
Girl 1 is in serious denial of her gayness and should not be ashamed of it. It's unfair to the guy in the relationship and in turn unfair to not being true to herself. She needs to quite worrying about everybody else and do what she feels is right for her.
weird that 2 girls in the same family are gay..
but you need to be who you are, not who your family thinks you should be.
girl needs to make up her mind and either stick with the guy or the girl. she needs to do what SHE wants, not what she thinks her family will accept. it sounds like she's happier with the girl, but wants the guy as a cover.
i'd suggest she do some deep soul searching and do what SHE wants, but she can't keep playing both sides of the fence.. 2 years or 6 years: it's a long time to be doing both.
good luck
she has to do whatever is best for her %26amp; her alone sounds like she may really be more into the girl though but again she has to make a decision she can live with :)d
she obviously has no idea what she wants. it sounds as though she's just stringing them both along until she makes up her mind!
The answers is 27....I suck at word problems.
Unfortunately, she likes the girl better.
I think she's with the man for appearances only. She may feel that's the right thing to do. However, I think she'd rather be with the other woman. Maybe she hasn't come to terms yet with her sexual preference.
It doesn't seem to me she likes the man all that well, if she has only slept with him ONCE sense living with him for 8 months!!
There isn't enough to judge if she likes the girl more or not. I'm sure she cares to keep a friendship though.
I bet Bi sexuals have a really hard time dealing in relationships!! Can't make up their minds! And bet there's lots of drama!!
girl 1 hasn't slept with her boyfriend in 8 months????? Friend asking is being taken for a fool! You cannot know any of these facts are true unless you lived with all parties yourself, therefore it's all suffisition and conjecture! leave them all be to sort themselves out. I'm female and personally have always fancied males! there is simply NOTHING any woman could do for me and she certainly couldn't make me feel the way a man can! Sorry, it's my own opinion and you don't have to like it. Men just KNOW what pleases a woman!!!!! AND how to do it!
I think girl (1) is lying about not having a physical relationship with the guy and wants her cake and eat it too as they say.
sorry, I do not answer anything that involves homosexuality.
it's just too unfamiliar to me and the culture i was raised in.
it's fine if that's your thing but don't expect us older generation to get used to it overnight.
I'm falling for this absolutely wonderful woman. Can you give me advice on what to do now?
There's a girl in my optometry class (eyes) at university who is about 4 years older than me (i'm 22), but I like her A LOT. Can't stress that enough :) She's very down to earth and likes talking to me whenever we bump into each other. Problem is she lives in Canada and I live in London. She will eventually move back after a years additional training here for a year (we're in our final year of university at the moment) and that for me is the only thing that's making me undecided about asking her.
Second thing when I look into her eyes, she stares into my eyes with a lovely smile for a very long time. Is this a sign that she's interested in me?
Should I tell her how I feel? I'm only seeing her till march next year and she will move south (2h hours by train) in july. Any help I would be so grateful (I think of her all the time)
ThanksI'm falling for this absolutely wonderful woman. Can you give me advice on what to do now?
I think you should ask her out on a date. Find out if the two of you really do have a spark. At the very least, you can enjoy your final year at the university together. And if things get serious, you can handle that when the time comes. You'll regret it if you graduate with out giving it a chance.I'm falling for this absolutely wonderful woman. Can you give me advice on what to do now?
wow it looks like something straight from a movie. You should tell her how you feel or else it would eat you up inisde. Like its awesome that you get along well with her
Second thing when I look into her eyes, she stares into my eyes with a lovely smile for a very long time. Is this a sign that she's interested in me?
Should I tell her how I feel? I'm only seeing her till march next year and she will move south (2h hours by train) in july. Any help I would be so grateful (I think of her all the time)
ThanksI'm falling for this absolutely wonderful woman. Can you give me advice on what to do now?
I think you should ask her out on a date. Find out if the two of you really do have a spark. At the very least, you can enjoy your final year at the university together. And if things get serious, you can handle that when the time comes. You'll regret it if you graduate with out giving it a chance.I'm falling for this absolutely wonderful woman. Can you give me advice on what to do now?
wow it looks like something straight from a movie. You should tell her how you feel or else it would eat you up inisde. Like its awesome that you get along well with her
What's the best way for a 32 year old guy like me to meet a nice woman? I'm tired of the bar scene. Advice?
A little background: I just earned my 2nd undergrad degree after years of going to school pursuing ';a dream'; that I thought I wanted, traveling/studying/working abroad, and finally finding a direction that I feel that is more of a fit. Going back to undergrad when I was around 27 years old, I was already a lot older than my classmates. At first I was worried I wouldn't make that many friends, but it became a blessing in the long run because I've made some good friends and they didn't care that I was several years older. I'm also very athletic, funny, and morally respectful to everyone. Not to sound vain, but I'm a decent looking guy who looks a lot younger than I am. While in school I've had chances to date younger women but I didn't feel comfortable with it so I never pursued anything. So now I feel that I'm in a strange position in life. Now that I'm out of school AGAIN, I feel like I'm older than most of the regular college grads and so I can't relate to them, especially some friends who still like to party. At the same time I don't feel that I relate to others my age who are already into their careers, are married, have children, etc. So I feel like I'm in a strange position in life, sort of like in a social limbo. Add to this, I have financial debt from school loans. Going to school for as long as I have, I've accrued a good amount to where I'm ashamed of it, even though my brother has told me that I shouldn't be ashamed because it's school debt, at least, and not like credit card foolishness. But I feel like added to my age, and the fact that I am just starting a career in my field (fortunately I'm in the process of finding a job with this economic crisis so to speak), that having school loan debt will keep me from meeting a loving, quality woman who will want to be with me. I feel like if I found my direction earlier in life that I wouldn't have a problem now. I sincerely feel (and maybe I'm skewed in my reasoning) that women my age or close are looking for a guy who can take care of them financially -- whether they admit or not. I would do anything to take care of my future wife and family, but I feel like I'm being held back because of these things. I don't know what to do, and I'm at the point in life where I'm struggling to be positive and to simply do the best that I can in life, and to not worry. I suppose there's no point in complaining. I feel like it's difficult for me to find a woman that is my age and fits the criteria that I need (beautiful, wonderful smile, positive attitude, takes care of her body, is physically active, has a good job, and is always wanting to learn in life, just like me). Seems like the old adage that ';all the good ones are taken'; seems true. Am I deceiving myself into thinking that all the quality women now are being snatched and taken ';off the shelves'; by guys who have started earlier than me and are getting the attention of all the smart, beautiful ladies. I know there are some women who could be in the same position as me: pursuing their direction in life even if it means a lot of risk and not meeting someone right away. I know there are women like this out there but I haven't found them. I don't want to sound shallow in any way because I have my own faults, but I've been told I have high standards in looking for a woman, which everyone should have. I mean, if I didn't have certain criteria in a wife, then they should just be ';friends.'; It's that special woman that is going to capture my heart. I want to embrace her and love her and to feel love. I want to be able to share my dreams with her. I guess in the position in life now, I'm a lot lonelier than I thought. In the meantime, I've been making myself a better person -- a better ';candidate'; for this type of lady -- so to speak. I've been reading more books for leisure, taking up new activities, learning how to dance, lifting weights, running, yoga, keeping up to date in my field of study (graphic design and photography), eating better, cooking and trying to learn a new recipe each week, trying to sleep better, improving personal habits, learning how to be financially responsible, and drinking lots of water. There's so much in life that I want to do. While I was ';finding a direction'; I've had to opportunity to travel and see the world. At least this is something I can talk about and relate with to a girl. To try to sum this (too) long of a story ';short,'; I feel alone here. I don't have anybody to talk to and I don't want to turn into one of those freaks who become hermits and gain a beer belly. I'm probably the most open minded guy you'll meet. Being of an ';ethnic'; background, I know how it feels to be on the ';outside,'; so I believe this is what helps me to be more sensitive to others. To those who took the patience to thoroughly read and even relate to me, thank you. I'm not sure what kind of advice I'm asking for -- maybe I'm just venting. Maybe I need to find a friend who is in the same awkward position in lifeWhat's the best way for a 32 year old guy like me to meet a nice woman? I'm tired of the bar scene. Advice?
There are PLENTY of people in your situation...and you aren't ';too late'; to meet a woman. I am 29 years old, half of my friends are single, and the other half are in relationships (most with boyfriends/girlfriends....a few who are married....and VERY few of my friends have children). Everyone works at their own pace.
Yes, it's extremely difficult to meet the ';right'; person (especially at a bar....I actually don't drink, so I don't even GO to bars!). Online dating is always an option. Another option is to meet people doing what you enjoy doing. Personally, I like to do community theater (I love to act and sing)...I meet so many people doing that! My problem is that most of them are gay! haha! BUT, there are plenty of straight men to meet as well. I met one guy because he was the cousin of a girl who was in a show with me. I met another guy because he was in a Cancer Benefit concert with me.
Not all women are looking for money. BUT, most women are looking for a man who is financially stable. You don't have to be rich, but no woman wants to come into a relationship and have to deal with your debt (whether it be school debt or credit card debt or whatever). I am a strong and independent woman, but I don't want to have to be financially responsible for my boyfriend because he is in debt. You know what I mean? You might want to get out of debt before you jump into dating or a relationship. Once you have your s**t together, you will meet someone who sees you as a wonderful guy with a great head on his shoulders!
Don't stress...you don't have to be in a relationship at 32 to be happy. You have plenty of time. The more time you take, the happier you'll be in the long run. Never rush things and never ';settle.'; You sound like you're on your way to a great future, so take your time, enjoy life, and everything will fall into place soon!
EDIT: Ok...read the response from the guy below me. Keep in mind he is 15 years old. The things he is telling you to do may work at 15, but not at 32. There are more important things in life as you get older. Do NOT listen to this kid's advice....a 15 year old ';ladies man'; will no longer be a ';ladies man'; at 32. It takes more than a smile and waiting to make a phone call to land a lady!What's the best way for a 32 year old guy like me to meet a nice woman? I'm tired of the bar scene. Advice?
I completely understand. Just focus on ';you'; right now. Once you are content with yourself and where you are in life, people will come along. I know you will get to where you want to be soon...just hang in there and stay positive!!! Best of luck!
Try for a job to get a steady and regular income. Once you are financially sound girls will get more confidence in your ability to take care of them . Do not waste your time thinking about your past and day dreaming. You are still in your prime.
Okay bro, here's the deal. I'm a tad bit younger than you, but good with the ladies. Sorry to inform you that the bar scene is probably the most likely way you're gonna meet a lady. But there are also some other ways. Rule #1 ';Less is More'; so how many times has a girl said she was gonna call you....and then doesn't. It happens to a lot of people. But you have to learn from this. When she says she is gonna call, you get anxious, and you start checking your phone every five seconds. This is because by nature, we want what we can not have, orrrr what is not given to us. So the less she calls you, the more you want her. This same principal applies to women. Moving on, Rule #2, ';24 Hours.'; I know it's tough but you may NOT FOR ANY REASON, call her before the first 24 hours. You have to call at the right time. Too early.... and she thinks your desperate. Too late..... and she has already decided you're not interested and have moved on. I know it's tough but you have to follow these rules. But before you have to follow these rules....you need a lady. So whether it's the bar scene, or the gym, or the movie store, etc. You need to be charming. Smile smile smile is all i can say. Girls like guys who are sweet and charming. You might even score some digits this way. BUT BEFORE ANY OF THIS, please make sure she does not have a boyfriends. That is information you need lol. There is nothing worse than talking to you're ';lady'; and having her tell you she forgot to tell you she has a boyfriend. If you follow all of these rules you will score a lady. If you have any questions on whether she is interested or not shoot me an email.
Oh, and by the way. If there is any doubt in your mind that she doesn't like you......she doesn't like you lol. That's just how it is.
I'm 32 and not married either. I am a single mom and have a bf, but he is my neighbor which is how we met. From your question, it doesn't sound like you have a job? You should get one of them before you try finding a lady. My ex was able to explore his twenties like you did and he is very responsible and ambitious, but waited around for the perfect job. Big mistake/turnoff, you take what you get and keep looking for better. It sounds to me, you need to get out from under your parents. Bars are not the place, try the park or church or even shopping at the grocery store...
i think you think too much. just relax and don't overanalyze the situation. instead of focusing on yourself, focus on others. give. volunteer. get to know your neighbors. join a social group or two (a real one, not an internet one). good luck.
ps: even married guys can gain beer bellies. :-)
There are PLENTY of people in your situation...and you aren't ';too late'; to meet a woman. I am 29 years old, half of my friends are single, and the other half are in relationships (most with boyfriends/girlfriends....a few who are married....and VERY few of my friends have children). Everyone works at their own pace.
Yes, it's extremely difficult to meet the ';right'; person (especially at a bar....I actually don't drink, so I don't even GO to bars!). Online dating is always an option. Another option is to meet people doing what you enjoy doing. Personally, I like to do community theater (I love to act and sing)...I meet so many people doing that! My problem is that most of them are gay! haha! BUT, there are plenty of straight men to meet as well. I met one guy because he was the cousin of a girl who was in a show with me. I met another guy because he was in a Cancer Benefit concert with me.
Not all women are looking for money. BUT, most women are looking for a man who is financially stable. You don't have to be rich, but no woman wants to come into a relationship and have to deal with your debt (whether it be school debt or credit card debt or whatever). I am a strong and independent woman, but I don't want to have to be financially responsible for my boyfriend because he is in debt. You know what I mean? You might want to get out of debt before you jump into dating or a relationship. Once you have your s**t together, you will meet someone who sees you as a wonderful guy with a great head on his shoulders!
Don't stress...you don't have to be in a relationship at 32 to be happy. You have plenty of time. The more time you take, the happier you'll be in the long run. Never rush things and never ';settle.'; You sound like you're on your way to a great future, so take your time, enjoy life, and everything will fall into place soon!
EDIT: Ok...read the response from the guy below me. Keep in mind he is 15 years old. The things he is telling you to do may work at 15, but not at 32. There are more important things in life as you get older. Do NOT listen to this kid's advice....a 15 year old ';ladies man'; will no longer be a ';ladies man'; at 32. It takes more than a smile and waiting to make a phone call to land a lady!What's the best way for a 32 year old guy like me to meet a nice woman? I'm tired of the bar scene. Advice?
I completely understand. Just focus on ';you'; right now. Once you are content with yourself and where you are in life, people will come along. I know you will get to where you want to be soon...just hang in there and stay positive!!! Best of luck!
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Try for a job to get a steady and regular income. Once you are financially sound girls will get more confidence in your ability to take care of them . Do not waste your time thinking about your past and day dreaming. You are still in your prime.
Okay bro, here's the deal. I'm a tad bit younger than you, but good with the ladies. Sorry to inform you that the bar scene is probably the most likely way you're gonna meet a lady. But there are also some other ways. Rule #1 ';Less is More'; so how many times has a girl said she was gonna call you....and then doesn't. It happens to a lot of people. But you have to learn from this. When she says she is gonna call, you get anxious, and you start checking your phone every five seconds. This is because by nature, we want what we can not have, orrrr what is not given to us. So the less she calls you, the more you want her. This same principal applies to women. Moving on, Rule #2, ';24 Hours.'; I know it's tough but you may NOT FOR ANY REASON, call her before the first 24 hours. You have to call at the right time. Too early.... and she thinks your desperate. Too late..... and she has already decided you're not interested and have moved on. I know it's tough but you have to follow these rules. But before you have to follow these rules....you need a lady. So whether it's the bar scene, or the gym, or the movie store, etc. You need to be charming. Smile smile smile is all i can say. Girls like guys who are sweet and charming. You might even score some digits this way. BUT BEFORE ANY OF THIS, please make sure she does not have a boyfriends. That is information you need lol. There is nothing worse than talking to you're ';lady'; and having her tell you she forgot to tell you she has a boyfriend. If you follow all of these rules you will score a lady. If you have any questions on whether she is interested or not shoot me an email.
Oh, and by the way. If there is any doubt in your mind that she doesn't like you......she doesn't like you lol. That's just how it is.
I'm 32 and not married either. I am a single mom and have a bf, but he is my neighbor which is how we met. From your question, it doesn't sound like you have a job? You should get one of them before you try finding a lady. My ex was able to explore his twenties like you did and he is very responsible and ambitious, but waited around for the perfect job. Big mistake/turnoff, you take what you get and keep looking for better. It sounds to me, you need to get out from under your parents. Bars are not the place, try the park or church or even shopping at the grocery store...
i think you think too much. just relax and don't overanalyze the situation. instead of focusing on yourself, focus on others. give. volunteer. get to know your neighbors. join a social group or two (a real one, not an internet one). good luck.
ps: even married guys can gain beer bellies. :-)
Should i go for it or just be friends( boys, girls , women and men ) i really need ya advices?
i talked to this girl for the first day and I ask for her num and she said she doesn't know me that much so she didn't want to give it to me.I saw the next day and I was talking to her and she went inside the restroom and I was standing infront of the restroom and we were talking(we talked for about 3 to 4 minutes)she ask for my name and I told her but she didn't get it.She sometimes sees me on the hallway and walk fast or stares at me like 2 seconds and turns away: so I saw her walking in the hallway after school and I called her and she came over, we started chatting and she said her friend thinks am cute, and I said am not interested,.
She was like I can hook you up,and I said I don't like nobody in the skool I only like one person and she looked deep into my eyes.She told me this guy(rodney) that I know likes her but she doesn't like the guy and she even told me where she lives( we talked for about 10 minutes and I walked her to the main entrance)she really pays attention to whatever I tell her and she gives me all the smiles.She even ask for my name and my grade and she said am cool, am not like the other guys,and I was like are we cool and she said yes but I need to get to know you more.
I really like her, do you think she likes me ?Nb; she finally told rodney she doesn't like rodney but she likes someoneelse and riight know she keeps on pointing at me to her friends whenever I see her. does she likes me or what?
She saw me standing next to my locker and she didn't even say hi, she just walked away and she saw me today and I try not to talk to her and she said, now you don't say hi no more and I said I didn't see her, I also said you don't even talk to me and she said because I don't see you. I ask her so whatz up and she said nothing but what about you and I said nothing and she saw her bus and said bye.
does she like me. we didn't say hi or talk for 1 week and she said hi to me today and I ask her can I walk you to class and she said okay and she was like, I you not going to be late? and I said is nothing and whiles we were taking she was holding her necklace and asking about my classes.i finally ask for her number again and she said her parents are strict and dont allow her to talk on the phone andshe said she hasn't seen me ina while, and i was like i was sick and she said i hope u get better.she also said she knows me know since she said she want to know me? should i just be friends with her or go for it?Should i go for it or just be friends( boys, girls , women and men ) i really need ya advices?
sounds to me like she playing some kinda games..let me tell you how to deal with this my freind he had the same problem you are having. i will tell you the same thing i told him...just ignore her like how she sees you and walk pass do the same...women like to chase also...as soon as she sees that you aren't interested she will find a way to get closer to you and even give you a call....trust me it works my freind is now with the girl....i hope i helped.....
She was like I can hook you up,and I said I don't like nobody in the skool I only like one person and she looked deep into my eyes.She told me this guy(rodney) that I know likes her but she doesn't like the guy and she even told me where she lives( we talked for about 10 minutes and I walked her to the main entrance)she really pays attention to whatever I tell her and she gives me all the smiles.She even ask for my name and my grade and she said am cool, am not like the other guys,and I was like are we cool and she said yes but I need to get to know you more.
I really like her, do you think she likes me ?Nb; she finally told rodney she doesn't like rodney but she likes someoneelse and riight know she keeps on pointing at me to her friends whenever I see her. does she likes me or what?
She saw me standing next to my locker and she didn't even say hi, she just walked away and she saw me today and I try not to talk to her and she said, now you don't say hi no more and I said I didn't see her, I also said you don't even talk to me and she said because I don't see you. I ask her so whatz up and she said nothing but what about you and I said nothing and she saw her bus and said bye.
does she like me. we didn't say hi or talk for 1 week and she said hi to me today and I ask her can I walk you to class and she said okay and she was like, I you not going to be late? and I said is nothing and whiles we were taking she was holding her necklace and asking about my classes.i finally ask for her number again and she said her parents are strict and dont allow her to talk on the phone andshe said she hasn't seen me ina while, and i was like i was sick and she said i hope u get better.she also said she knows me know since she said she want to know me? should i just be friends with her or go for it?Should i go for it or just be friends( boys, girls , women and men ) i really need ya advices?
sounds to me like she playing some kinda games..let me tell you how to deal with this my freind he had the same problem you are having. i will tell you the same thing i told him...just ignore her like how she sees you and walk pass do the same...women like to chase also...as soon as she sees that you aren't interested she will find a way to get closer to you and even give you a call....trust me it works my freind is now with the girl....i hope i helped.....
What advice of clothing stores would you give me in reference to a wardrobe for a 21 year old woman?
I need a more casual and professional appearance... I've grown very tired of trends, and I would really like something that I can stick with during the rest of my 20's. I'm also very big on having durable and quality material. I've been browsing online, and Banana Republic and New York %26amp; Co are my favorites so far. TJ Maxx, Marshalls, and Old Navy are more along the lines of my budget, and they have a great selection as well.. I'm looking for another store that is more versatile and aimed towards sports, since I like athletic wear as well. It would be great if the store offers a credit card/rewards program that is linked with other athletic or clothing stores, because I love to shop and I would like to get discounts for my dedication. LOL! Thanks for your time and input.What advice of clothing stores would you give me in reference to a wardrobe for a 21 year old woman?
A great store To Go to Is Banana Republic, it will give a great fresh young look. Also Try Ann Taylor that would be a Good store for a pro look. Last Is Jcrew, it has very cute stuff that would give you a younger looking look.
Glad To Help,
S.MWhat advice of clothing stores would you give me in reference to a wardrobe for a 21 year old woman?
Forever 21!! Duh!!
Forever 21 is very inexpensive, and unlike Charlotte Russe or DEB, you can find clothes for all types of styles, for a cheap price. They sell from casual to dress. Make sure the MATERIALS you choose are generally durable though... some there can be flimsy and cheap. Watch out for thin materials, especially.
If you like TJMaxx and Marshalls, try Ross and Burlington Coat Factory... even Value City as well.
well like the other answer forever 21 is great
if i was your age i would wear maybe some flared jeans, a cute sweater and matching heels.
it gives you a casual but professional look.
and remember to accessorize and show your creativity.
Express has some good professional clothes if youre in the USmakeup class
A great store To Go to Is Banana Republic, it will give a great fresh young look. Also Try Ann Taylor that would be a Good store for a pro look. Last Is Jcrew, it has very cute stuff that would give you a younger looking look.
Glad To Help,
S.MWhat advice of clothing stores would you give me in reference to a wardrobe for a 21 year old woman?
Forever 21!! Duh!!
Forever 21 is very inexpensive, and unlike Charlotte Russe or DEB, you can find clothes for all types of styles, for a cheap price. They sell from casual to dress. Make sure the MATERIALS you choose are generally durable though... some there can be flimsy and cheap. Watch out for thin materials, especially.
If you like TJMaxx and Marshalls, try Ross and Burlington Coat Factory... even Value City as well.
well like the other answer forever 21 is great
if i was your age i would wear maybe some flared jeans, a cute sweater and matching heels.
it gives you a casual but professional look.
and remember to accessorize and show your creativity.
Express has some good professional clothes if youre in the US
';If you want to be happy for the rest of your life never make a pretty woman your wife..'; Good advice?
I would tend to think this is true. my reasoning is that Women that are generally considered hot and sexy, tend to be Bit**s, They know they are good looking most of the time, and they know they can have any man they want, they know tons of men will approach them, so they have little incentive to be loyal to one man. if he angers her or bores her she can find a new guy in half a second. good looking women also tend to have an entitlement complex because they are so desirable. Attractive women also seem to lack skills typical of feminine women, such as being able to cook etc.
Most importantly good looking women are more likely to cheat than ugly women. they have more men going after them, so they have more opportunity, and if their aren't 100 percent happy with their man they will cheat. So a man married to a hot woman has to constantly worry about being perfect enough so his hot woman doesn't cheat on him.
Ugly women aren't sought after, and so are grateful to their man. They tend to have nicer and kinder personalities, aren't stuck up, and usually aren't man-hating feminists.
Like the song says; ';if you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife..';
Would you agree with this? Beauty and loyalty and a good personality seem to be mutually exclusive.';If you want to be happy for the rest of your life never make a pretty woman your wife..'; Good advice?
Hmmmm coming from the ugly woman's point of veiw with a man who has lost several prettier women ....yep I agree Its not that we are grateful its that we are patient enough to wait on a handsome man who will get burned by barbie one too many times and come to appreciate a real woman who only thinks of him and not herself ....All the time .';If you want to be happy for the rest of your life never make a pretty woman your wife..'; Good advice?
I think your reasons why this statement is true is complete bull$hit. No I don't agree. I know and am an attractive woman and being attractive does not make me a ***** or stuck on myself. I know some ugly chicks that swear they are Gods gift to men and the whole word.
Yeah, you're right I am a b*tch. Fortunately I possess enough intelligence to realize that looks don't last forever. And enough humanity to be faithful and loyal to one man.
The phrase/lyric you cited only applies to the shallow minded.
My husband would certainly disagree with you.
Yes, if you choose a mate based on looks you'll likely be disappointed. If you have anything going for you at all, you'll chose to be with someone whom you find to be attractive AND compatible with.
That is not true and very out dated. Being good looking does not make us whores. A person that cheats does so because what is on their inside not the outside. I get hit on all the time and have never cheated and I do not see myself cheating ever.
I worry more about ugly souls than less-attractive people.
It seems to me that the kinder and more thoughtful a person is (despite their physical appearance), the more attractive they become.
I wonder when I read this how many times the write has been turned down by good looking women. I am guessing every single time they tried.
In any case, wasy to generalize. But no, you are wrong.
My grandma married a man prettier than her (on par with Clark Gable), and he proceeded to make her miserable intermittently for the rest of her life.
i am going to answer on the title
you can make a pretty woman your wife as long as she is not a sl.t,no brainer or a cheat.
Disagree. My girlfriend has all those qualities and more.
Jealous of other guys who get them.
I could say the same thing about good looking men. Hhhmmm...
Its difficult being pretty - it really is!
I've been called pretty seen i was a teen, and despite being married for almost ten years I have had men left, right and centre try it on with me.
Some are richer, some are better looking, some are mad bad and dangerous to know...
The temptation is there and you always wonder if the grass is greener.
You can't be friendly without men thinking you fancy them, you never get to go out with your best mate if she is with her bloke because she doesn't like the competition...it can be hell.
I was always a tomboy as a kid. My best friend was a boy, my knees were forever scabby and I always had a frog or a toad or some other slimey creature in my pocket.
I miss those days. I miss being able to be ';one of the lads';. I grew breasts and that was it. I was confined to the catty bitchy side of the human race.
I love my husband though. He's everything to me. And I cook and clean for him so ner!
Not in the least.
Rather than listening to old rock-n-roll songs, I suggest you re-read the Wife of Bath's tale by Chaucer.
Besides, what are YOU bringing to the bargain? Are you handsome, well-off, considerate, kind, hard working, educated, intelligent, honest, sincere, humble, happy, proud of your beautiful woman, and about three hundred other adjectives?
OR are you a big beer-bellied, foul toothed, smelly-cigar-smoking, gambling, drinking slob with a pile of moocher friends who ogle at your woman with hungry eyes? What happens to your paycheck? Do you spend it on every bar-fly who looks like she's been rode hard and put away wet too many times - or do you pop it in the bank never to be used on anything but your petty desires (what do you really need that giant gas-guzzling truck for?) Do you believe her main interest in life should be whatever you desire?
What kind of a man are you? If you're worthy, then your pretty gal will stick around and be loyal and happy and contented. IF you aren't - she'll be gone faster than you can pop a beer tab.
What makes you think good looking men are any different?
If you are looking for a good home cooked meal, then you need to learn how to cook. Don't you think it's time for men like you to stop expecting women to do all the thing they don't want to do.
If you're too lazy to be an adult and take care of yourself and you don't think you're man enough to keep a pretty woman happy, then maybe you SHOULD marry an ugly woman.
You're wrong. I have a lot of men approach me and have often been told I am attractive. However, I have NEVER been unfaithful, never even kissed someone while in a relationship. I'm 29 and have only had long term relationships. When i'm single I do not sleep around either. Attractive people have their insecurities the same as anyone else, and I think that to generalise and suggest they are all 'stuck on themselves' is way off the mark. I would hate to the 'unattractive' woman you settle for just cos you think she'll be grateful. Good luck with that.
That is such a broad statement. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And some guys can't get a ';hot and sexy'; women to be their wife, so does that mean they will never be happy.
And then what about all the women who my not be model sexy but are still cute or pretty, what does that mean for them.
Just because some one marries a hot chick doesn't mean they will be happier. And just because a women is very beautiful doesn't mean she is a bizz and doesn't want some one to love and be with forever, and can't be loyal. I think if a women who is very attractive knew she was attractive and decided to get married, then that would mean that is what she wanted, if it wasn't then she wouldn't settle down.
I wouldn't consider myself to be ugly...in fact, I believe to be very pretty, but I would never and have never cheated.
I am kind, understanding, forgiving, appreciative, and always grateful; I am also bossy, but not controlling.
So I would have to to say ';no';; I do not agree with this statement. I think it depends on a woman's moral beliefs and the way she was raised.
So so wrong!
I am one hot mamma and no matter how many men whistle at me or approach me, there is not a '; man'; on this planet that can make me stir and swoon like my man can
And - I can cook, bake, clean, be a great mother, send him out on a fishing trip, cook one he l l of a mean steak, not embarass him in front of his buddies and suck the h e l l out of his D i c k enough to make him moan and scream every night
I am not a b i t c h, not controlling and sure as hell not ever going to come close to cheating
You are a d i c k
Stick that on a stick and lick it
-well- maybe after this I feel like a b i t ch.. but frankly, I'm pretty insulted that you'd consider good looking woman to be completely useless and mindless
you know what? just by reading the lyric you have there, i'd say i totally agree. if you want to be happy AT ALL, then i suggest to NEVER get married. more often than not, your going to get screwed, whether it be a guy or girl.
however, based on that lyric and what you say that pretty girls are beotches. i'd have to disagree. not all gorgeous girls are like that. yes some are preppy and SO full of themselves. but others realize that they were blessed with their good looks and could have easily, EASILY been born w/ a freakin handicapped disease thing. they have humility, aren't cocky and don't rub it in people's faces. so i think that's a wrong generalization.
hope this helps.
No I dont agree with this at all, I happen to be a good looking woman, I can cook very well and I am a freakishly organized and clean person. I'm faithful to no end even when some low life is hitting on me. I could never be unfaithful to my husband, ever.
I know there are some women out there who are not very attractive at all and cheat on their men all the time...so I'm just not sure where you got this notion from.
here is my picture of me and my daughter, I'm no playmate but I am certainly not ugly...so I just cant agree with you
http://i12.photobucket.com/albums/a208/s鈥?/a>
it is good advice, but your reasons are wrong.
too bad.
I don't think that your conclusions are in line with human behavior - too general, too negaative, insults the beautiful, faithful women who read it...
the saying applies to women as well as related to attractive men, because women do in fact hit on them and flirt, even knowing they are in committed relationships, married, etc.
Wow. I can cook, I am a bit** I have never cheated in my life and I am so loyal to my partner as well as I clean and have all of those skills. \
I like the attention I get yes however I always advise and introduce my bf to them.
SO your wrong. there are some beautiful women out there who are everything you say an ugly woman is.
And there are ugly women out there that have the qualities of a beautiful woman so your little statement is incorrect it depends on the person's qualities and personality and how they've been brought up.
Most importantly good looking women are more likely to cheat than ugly women. they have more men going after them, so they have more opportunity, and if their aren't 100 percent happy with their man they will cheat. So a man married to a hot woman has to constantly worry about being perfect enough so his hot woman doesn't cheat on him.
Ugly women aren't sought after, and so are grateful to their man. They tend to have nicer and kinder personalities, aren't stuck up, and usually aren't man-hating feminists.
Like the song says; ';if you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife..';
Would you agree with this? Beauty and loyalty and a good personality seem to be mutually exclusive.';If you want to be happy for the rest of your life never make a pretty woman your wife..'; Good advice?
Hmmmm coming from the ugly woman's point of veiw with a man who has lost several prettier women ....yep I agree Its not that we are grateful its that we are patient enough to wait on a handsome man who will get burned by barbie one too many times and come to appreciate a real woman who only thinks of him and not herself ....All the time .';If you want to be happy for the rest of your life never make a pretty woman your wife..'; Good advice?
I think your reasons why this statement is true is complete bull$hit. No I don't agree. I know and am an attractive woman and being attractive does not make me a ***** or stuck on myself. I know some ugly chicks that swear they are Gods gift to men and the whole word.
Yeah, you're right I am a b*tch. Fortunately I possess enough intelligence to realize that looks don't last forever. And enough humanity to be faithful and loyal to one man.
The phrase/lyric you cited only applies to the shallow minded.
My husband would certainly disagree with you.
Yes, if you choose a mate based on looks you'll likely be disappointed. If you have anything going for you at all, you'll chose to be with someone whom you find to be attractive AND compatible with.
That is not true and very out dated. Being good looking does not make us whores. A person that cheats does so because what is on their inside not the outside. I get hit on all the time and have never cheated and I do not see myself cheating ever.
I worry more about ugly souls than less-attractive people.
It seems to me that the kinder and more thoughtful a person is (despite their physical appearance), the more attractive they become.
I wonder when I read this how many times the write has been turned down by good looking women. I am guessing every single time they tried.
In any case, wasy to generalize. But no, you are wrong.
My grandma married a man prettier than her (on par with Clark Gable), and he proceeded to make her miserable intermittently for the rest of her life.
i am going to answer on the title
you can make a pretty woman your wife as long as she is not a sl.t,no brainer or a cheat.
Disagree. My girlfriend has all those qualities and more.
Jealous of other guys who get them.
I could say the same thing about good looking men. Hhhmmm...
Its difficult being pretty - it really is!
I've been called pretty seen i was a teen, and despite being married for almost ten years I have had men left, right and centre try it on with me.
Some are richer, some are better looking, some are mad bad and dangerous to know...
The temptation is there and you always wonder if the grass is greener.
You can't be friendly without men thinking you fancy them, you never get to go out with your best mate if she is with her bloke because she doesn't like the competition...it can be hell.
I was always a tomboy as a kid. My best friend was a boy, my knees were forever scabby and I always had a frog or a toad or some other slimey creature in my pocket.
I miss those days. I miss being able to be ';one of the lads';. I grew breasts and that was it. I was confined to the catty bitchy side of the human race.
I love my husband though. He's everything to me. And I cook and clean for him so ner!
Not in the least.
Rather than listening to old rock-n-roll songs, I suggest you re-read the Wife of Bath's tale by Chaucer.
Besides, what are YOU bringing to the bargain? Are you handsome, well-off, considerate, kind, hard working, educated, intelligent, honest, sincere, humble, happy, proud of your beautiful woman, and about three hundred other adjectives?
OR are you a big beer-bellied, foul toothed, smelly-cigar-smoking, gambling, drinking slob with a pile of moocher friends who ogle at your woman with hungry eyes? What happens to your paycheck? Do you spend it on every bar-fly who looks like she's been rode hard and put away wet too many times - or do you pop it in the bank never to be used on anything but your petty desires (what do you really need that giant gas-guzzling truck for?) Do you believe her main interest in life should be whatever you desire?
What kind of a man are you? If you're worthy, then your pretty gal will stick around and be loyal and happy and contented. IF you aren't - she'll be gone faster than you can pop a beer tab.
What makes you think good looking men are any different?
If you are looking for a good home cooked meal, then you need to learn how to cook. Don't you think it's time for men like you to stop expecting women to do all the thing they don't want to do.
If you're too lazy to be an adult and take care of yourself and you don't think you're man enough to keep a pretty woman happy, then maybe you SHOULD marry an ugly woman.
You're wrong. I have a lot of men approach me and have often been told I am attractive. However, I have NEVER been unfaithful, never even kissed someone while in a relationship. I'm 29 and have only had long term relationships. When i'm single I do not sleep around either. Attractive people have their insecurities the same as anyone else, and I think that to generalise and suggest they are all 'stuck on themselves' is way off the mark. I would hate to the 'unattractive' woman you settle for just cos you think she'll be grateful. Good luck with that.
That is such a broad statement. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And some guys can't get a ';hot and sexy'; women to be their wife, so does that mean they will never be happy.
And then what about all the women who my not be model sexy but are still cute or pretty, what does that mean for them.
Just because some one marries a hot chick doesn't mean they will be happier. And just because a women is very beautiful doesn't mean she is a bizz and doesn't want some one to love and be with forever, and can't be loyal. I think if a women who is very attractive knew she was attractive and decided to get married, then that would mean that is what she wanted, if it wasn't then she wouldn't settle down.
I wouldn't consider myself to be ugly...in fact, I believe to be very pretty, but I would never and have never cheated.
I am kind, understanding, forgiving, appreciative, and always grateful; I am also bossy, but not controlling.
So I would have to to say ';no';; I do not agree with this statement. I think it depends on a woman's moral beliefs and the way she was raised.
So so wrong!
I am one hot mamma and no matter how many men whistle at me or approach me, there is not a '; man'; on this planet that can make me stir and swoon like my man can
And - I can cook, bake, clean, be a great mother, send him out on a fishing trip, cook one he l l of a mean steak, not embarass him in front of his buddies and suck the h e l l out of his D i c k enough to make him moan and scream every night
I am not a b i t c h, not controlling and sure as hell not ever going to come close to cheating
You are a d i c k
Stick that on a stick and lick it
-well- maybe after this I feel like a b i t ch.. but frankly, I'm pretty insulted that you'd consider good looking woman to be completely useless and mindless
you know what? just by reading the lyric you have there, i'd say i totally agree. if you want to be happy AT ALL, then i suggest to NEVER get married. more often than not, your going to get screwed, whether it be a guy or girl.
however, based on that lyric and what you say that pretty girls are beotches. i'd have to disagree. not all gorgeous girls are like that. yes some are preppy and SO full of themselves. but others realize that they were blessed with their good looks and could have easily, EASILY been born w/ a freakin handicapped disease thing. they have humility, aren't cocky and don't rub it in people's faces. so i think that's a wrong generalization.
hope this helps.
No I dont agree with this at all, I happen to be a good looking woman, I can cook very well and I am a freakishly organized and clean person. I'm faithful to no end even when some low life is hitting on me. I could never be unfaithful to my husband, ever.
I know there are some women out there who are not very attractive at all and cheat on their men all the time...so I'm just not sure where you got this notion from.
here is my picture of me and my daughter, I'm no playmate but I am certainly not ugly...so I just cant agree with you
http://i12.photobucket.com/albums/a208/s鈥?/a>
it is good advice, but your reasons are wrong.
too bad.
I don't think that your conclusions are in line with human behavior - too general, too negaative, insults the beautiful, faithful women who read it...
the saying applies to women as well as related to attractive men, because women do in fact hit on them and flirt, even knowing they are in committed relationships, married, etc.
Wow. I can cook, I am a bit** I have never cheated in my life and I am so loyal to my partner as well as I clean and have all of those skills. \
I like the attention I get yes however I always advise and introduce my bf to them.
SO your wrong. there are some beautiful women out there who are everything you say an ugly woman is.
And there are ugly women out there that have the qualities of a beautiful woman so your little statement is incorrect it depends on the person's qualities and personality and how they've been brought up.
I'm falling for this absolutely wonderful woman. Can you give me advice on what to do now?
There's a girl in my optometry class (eyes) at university who is about 4 years older than me (i'm 22), but I like her A LOT. Can't stress that enough :) She's very down to earth and likes talking to me whenever we bump into each other. Problem is she lives in Canada and I live in London. She will eventually move back after a years additional training here for a year (we're in our final year of university at the moment) and that for me is the only thing that's making me undecided about asking her.
Second thing when I look into her eyes, she stares into my eyes with a lovely smile for a very long time. Is this a sign that she's interested in me?
Should I tell her how I feel? I'm only seeing her till march next year and she will move south (2h hours by train) in july. Any help I would be so grateful (I think of her all the time)
ThanksI'm falling for this absolutely wonderful woman. Can you give me advice on what to do now?
i think you talk to her. this way you won't regret. even if you only see each other while she is in london and then turn out friends.
love and dating are not destination but journey. When we find true love it stick against all odds.
thxI'm falling for this absolutely wonderful woman. Can you give me advice on what to do now?
Hey dude don't let distance or moving stop you from dating her. Life can surprise you. I was going through the same thing about 6 months ago. I finally casually decided to ask her out for dinner. She agreed. I took my time with her even though we didn't have much time. I was doing everything I can to kepe her interested. A friend of mine even suggested for me to read a book called Life's Little How To Book which I found online at Barnes and Noble. The book gives tips on dating, how to remain desirable towards your date and other life stuff. The tips helped. She decided not to move to her home town. We are still dating! I decided to move to her home town after I am done with college which is in a year and a half. What I am saying you can make it work and you can keep her interested in you. She's giving you that look that's a great sign right there. If it worked for me it can work for you.
Second thing when I look into her eyes, she stares into my eyes with a lovely smile for a very long time. Is this a sign that she's interested in me?
Should I tell her how I feel? I'm only seeing her till march next year and she will move south (2h hours by train) in july. Any help I would be so grateful (I think of her all the time)
ThanksI'm falling for this absolutely wonderful woman. Can you give me advice on what to do now?
i think you talk to her. this way you won't regret. even if you only see each other while she is in london and then turn out friends.
love and dating are not destination but journey. When we find true love it stick against all odds.
thxI'm falling for this absolutely wonderful woman. Can you give me advice on what to do now?
Hey dude don't let distance or moving stop you from dating her. Life can surprise you. I was going through the same thing about 6 months ago. I finally casually decided to ask her out for dinner. She agreed. I took my time with her even though we didn't have much time. I was doing everything I can to kepe her interested. A friend of mine even suggested for me to read a book called Life's Little How To Book which I found online at Barnes and Noble. The book gives tips on dating, how to remain desirable towards your date and other life stuff. The tips helped. She decided not to move to her home town. We are still dating! I decided to move to her home town after I am done with college which is in a year and a half. What I am saying you can make it work and you can keep her interested in you. She's giving you that look that's a great sign right there. If it worked for me it can work for you.
(For Women) I need your advice?
I am wondering where on you will allow/not be angry if you boyfriend, husband, lover ejaculated on you. I am not trying to be perverted, the girl I am currently seeing wants to do somethings that I am not used to doing. So if you could give me an answer that doesn't involve rude remarks, it will be appreciated. And please don't point out the obvious STD factor. So if you could give me a yes and no list that would be great.(Include ejaculating inside and outside).(For Women) I need your advice?
try what she wants to try it will make her happy and feel more confident and she will like you more because you listen to her ideas and not ignore her(For Women) I need your advice?
I would allow.
I love that kind of stuff.
try what she wants to try it will make her happy and feel more confident and she will like you more because you listen to her ideas and not ignore her(For Women) I need your advice?
I would allow.
I love that kind of stuff.
I'm writing a play for Women's History month and I need advice?
Which women of history would you like to see featured in a play? This is going to be an informative play for a local Girl's Inc club. Our local AAUW group is performing it for young girls. For me, the hardest part is picking which women get to be featured.I'm writing a play for Women's History month and I need advice?
Well, you could do a play about the early women's rights movement in America. That includes some remarkable personalities, like Elizabeth Cady Stanton, Susan B. Anthony, Lucretia Mott, Lucy Stone, Sojourner Truth etc. Wonderful colourful women.
Or another subject might be women and abolition, which would include people like the remarkable Grimke sisters, the first female anti-slavery lecturers in the USA, and Lydia Maria Child, who wrote a book called An Appeal In Favour Of That Class of Americans Called Africans, in 1833. And there was the tenacious Prudence Crandall, who started a school for black girls in Canterbury, Connecticut, in 1831, so that black girls could become teachers. What she and her pupils endured would make an exciting play. And of course there was Harriet Beecher Stowe, whose novel 'Uncle tom's Cabin' was enormously influential in the anti-slavery movement. and there was Maria Weston Chapman who organised anti-slavery fairs and once said, when an angry mob besiged a mixed race anti-slavery meeting in Boston ';If this be the last bulwark of freedom, we may as well die here as anywhere.'; And of course the remarkable Harriet Tubman, who rescued hundreds of slaves from bondage in the South.
Or you might do a play about the Temperence movement in the late 19th century perhaps. That includes some remarkable personalities too, like Frances Willard, who was president of the Women'sChristian Temperence Union, and the extraordinary Carrie Nationa, who went around smashing up saloons.
Or what about women of the Revolutionary War? There were some great personalities around then, like Abigail Adams, who wrote to her husband John, while she was holding down the fort at the family farm in Massachussetts ';We are in no way dispirted here. If our men are all drawn off and we should be attacked, you would find a Race of Amazons in America.'; And there were women like Deborah Sampson, who disguised herself as a man to fight in the war, and women who followed their husbands to the battlefield and sometimes replaced them in the line when they fell. Margaret Corbin stepped in for her dead husband at the Battle of Fort Washington and was severely wounded, losing the use of one arm. She was later awarded a military pension and was buried at the West Point Cemetery. And then there is the anonymous woman who set fire to New York to protect the retreating Americans. The female rebel, according to Edmund Burke, had been found in a cellar ';with her visage besmeared and smutted over, with every mark of rage, despair, resolution and the most exalted heroism, buried in the ashes - she wasbrought forth, and knowing she would be condemend to die, upon being asked her purpose, said ';to fire the city!'; and was determined to omit no opportunity for doing what her country called for.'; In Massachusetts, a group of women disguised in their husbands' clothing intercepted a Tory captain en route for Boston, took the important papers he was carrying, and escorted him to the Groton jail. Emily Geiger, an 18-year-old girl carried a vital message from General Greene to Sumter in South Carolina. When she was captured on route by Tories they locke dher in a guardhouse and sent for a Tory matron to search her. Emily quickly memorised Greene's note to General Sumter, and then ate it. Finding no incriminating evidence, the British scouts released her, and she continued on her journey and safely delivered her message to General Sumter. Deborah Champion made a long and dangerous ride from New London to Boston to deliver key intelligence to General Washington.
The Civil War is another era that produced a crop of remarkably interesting women. For instance there was Dorothea Dix, superintendent of nurses for the Union Army. clara Barton, who delviered vital supplies to soldiers on the battlefield, and nursed and assisted at operations on the field. Another remarkable women who nursed soldiers was Mary Ann 'Mother' bickerdyke, who arrived to deliver a releif fund, and seeing the conditions in the filthy, overcrowded hospital tents, got to work cleaning and nursing without asking anyone's permission. She was famous for ordering everyone around, and her reputation gave her the clout to get away with it. An army surgeon who challenged one of her orders was told ';Mother Bickerdyke outranks everybody, even Lincoln.'; Mary Walker, an army surgeon for the Union Army, was awarded the Congressional Medal of Honour for her bravery under fire at Gettysburg and other battles. There were women spies like 'Rebel Rose' Greenhow and Belle Boyd, who both spied for the Confederate Army. Harriet Tubman, the former conductor of the Underground Railway, worked as a spy and a scout for the Union Army. Some women disguised themselves as men to fight in the war, like Loreta Velasquez, who fought for the confederate Army, and Sarah Emma Edmonds, who fought under the name of 'Frank Thompson' for the Union Army.
These are some of my favourite women from American history, but there are many more, it's such a wide field to pick from.I'm writing a play for Women's History month and I need advice?
There's a womens history month and a black history month why not a white-male history month? after white males have made the most technological advances in human civilizations. One example is thomas edison who created the light-bulb.
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You want to entertain the kids, and Annie Oakley's story is just that. She's all I've thought of so far. I'll come back with more that are kid friendly as I think of them. It's easy to come up with thousands of examples of women in history, but the ones that kids might be into will take some thinking.
Margaret Thatcher or Golda Meir.
i would love to see a play about the fabulous moolah: http://www.wrestlingmuseum.com/pages/bio鈥?/a>
Well, you could do a play about the early women's rights movement in America. That includes some remarkable personalities, like Elizabeth Cady Stanton, Susan B. Anthony, Lucretia Mott, Lucy Stone, Sojourner Truth etc. Wonderful colourful women.
Or another subject might be women and abolition, which would include people like the remarkable Grimke sisters, the first female anti-slavery lecturers in the USA, and Lydia Maria Child, who wrote a book called An Appeal In Favour Of That Class of Americans Called Africans, in 1833. And there was the tenacious Prudence Crandall, who started a school for black girls in Canterbury, Connecticut, in 1831, so that black girls could become teachers. What she and her pupils endured would make an exciting play. And of course there was Harriet Beecher Stowe, whose novel 'Uncle tom's Cabin' was enormously influential in the anti-slavery movement. and there was Maria Weston Chapman who organised anti-slavery fairs and once said, when an angry mob besiged a mixed race anti-slavery meeting in Boston ';If this be the last bulwark of freedom, we may as well die here as anywhere.'; And of course the remarkable Harriet Tubman, who rescued hundreds of slaves from bondage in the South.
Or you might do a play about the Temperence movement in the late 19th century perhaps. That includes some remarkable personalities too, like Frances Willard, who was president of the Women'sChristian Temperence Union, and the extraordinary Carrie Nationa, who went around smashing up saloons.
Or what about women of the Revolutionary War? There were some great personalities around then, like Abigail Adams, who wrote to her husband John, while she was holding down the fort at the family farm in Massachussetts ';We are in no way dispirted here. If our men are all drawn off and we should be attacked, you would find a Race of Amazons in America.'; And there were women like Deborah Sampson, who disguised herself as a man to fight in the war, and women who followed their husbands to the battlefield and sometimes replaced them in the line when they fell. Margaret Corbin stepped in for her dead husband at the Battle of Fort Washington and was severely wounded, losing the use of one arm. She was later awarded a military pension and was buried at the West Point Cemetery. And then there is the anonymous woman who set fire to New York to protect the retreating Americans. The female rebel, according to Edmund Burke, had been found in a cellar ';with her visage besmeared and smutted over, with every mark of rage, despair, resolution and the most exalted heroism, buried in the ashes - she wasbrought forth, and knowing she would be condemend to die, upon being asked her purpose, said ';to fire the city!'; and was determined to omit no opportunity for doing what her country called for.'; In Massachusetts, a group of women disguised in their husbands' clothing intercepted a Tory captain en route for Boston, took the important papers he was carrying, and escorted him to the Groton jail. Emily Geiger, an 18-year-old girl carried a vital message from General Greene to Sumter in South Carolina. When she was captured on route by Tories they locke dher in a guardhouse and sent for a Tory matron to search her. Emily quickly memorised Greene's note to General Sumter, and then ate it. Finding no incriminating evidence, the British scouts released her, and she continued on her journey and safely delivered her message to General Sumter. Deborah Champion made a long and dangerous ride from New London to Boston to deliver key intelligence to General Washington.
The Civil War is another era that produced a crop of remarkably interesting women. For instance there was Dorothea Dix, superintendent of nurses for the Union Army. clara Barton, who delviered vital supplies to soldiers on the battlefield, and nursed and assisted at operations on the field. Another remarkable women who nursed soldiers was Mary Ann 'Mother' bickerdyke, who arrived to deliver a releif fund, and seeing the conditions in the filthy, overcrowded hospital tents, got to work cleaning and nursing without asking anyone's permission. She was famous for ordering everyone around, and her reputation gave her the clout to get away with it. An army surgeon who challenged one of her orders was told ';Mother Bickerdyke outranks everybody, even Lincoln.'; Mary Walker, an army surgeon for the Union Army, was awarded the Congressional Medal of Honour for her bravery under fire at Gettysburg and other battles. There were women spies like 'Rebel Rose' Greenhow and Belle Boyd, who both spied for the Confederate Army. Harriet Tubman, the former conductor of the Underground Railway, worked as a spy and a scout for the Union Army. Some women disguised themselves as men to fight in the war, like Loreta Velasquez, who fought for the confederate Army, and Sarah Emma Edmonds, who fought under the name of 'Frank Thompson' for the Union Army.
These are some of my favourite women from American history, but there are many more, it's such a wide field to pick from.I'm writing a play for Women's History month and I need advice?
There's a womens history month and a black history month why not a white-male history month? after white males have made the most technological advances in human civilizations. One example is thomas edison who created the light-bulb.
Answer Mine Please.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?鈥?/a>
You want to entertain the kids, and Annie Oakley's story is just that. She's all I've thought of so far. I'll come back with more that are kid friendly as I think of them. It's easy to come up with thousands of examples of women in history, but the ones that kids might be into will take some thinking.
Margaret Thatcher or Golda Meir.
i would love to see a play about the fabulous moolah: http://www.wrestlingmuseum.com/pages/bio鈥?/a>
I have been told the lining of my uterus is extremely thick for a woman in her early thirties any advice?
I should add that since the birth of the babies I am having 12 day long periods (21 days apart) that are so heavy painful that I am afraid to leave the house as I go through so many pads and tampons. That is what brought me back to the OB/GYN.I have been told the lining of my uterus is extremely thick for a woman in her early thirties any advice?
What is cancer of the uterus?
Cancer of the uterus is the most common gynaecological cancer affecting women. There are several types of cancer of the uterus, depending in which part of the uterus the cancer occurs. The majority are actually cancers of the endometrium, the lining of the uterus. Cancers can also develop in the muscle layers of the uterus.
Endometrial hyperplasia
Occasionally some women develop a very thick lining of the uterus (hyperplasia) which can result in very heavy periods or bleeding at irregular times or a watery, bloody discharge, even after menopause (the ceasing of periods). Some types of endometrial hyperplasia may be a pre-cancerous condition. If you have finished child-bearing, your doctor may advise you to have a hysterectomy, the removal of the uterus by surgery.
Abnormal bleeding before menopause, and in all women who recommence bleeding after the menopause is clearly over (more than 12 months after the end of the last monthly period), must be investigated by your doctor.
Adenocarcinoma of the endometrium
An adenocarcinoma is a cancer that starts in glandular tissue. Most women (about 85 per cent) with cancer of the uterus are diagnosed with this form of endometrial cancer.
Other types of cancer of the uterus
The less common types of cancer of the uterus are adenosquamous carcinoma, papillary serous carcinoma and, rarely, clear cell carcinoma or uterine carcinoma. They are called high-risk cancers because they may be more likely to spread.
Stages of cancer of the uterus
Cancer of the uterus generally starts in the lining of the uterus and, if untreated, will fill up the uterus. It is a cancer that generally stays in the pelvic cavity, and can also affect the cervix and, less commonly, the vagina, the Fallopian tubes and the ovaries.
However, cancers which develop in the uterus may spread to other parts of the body via the lymph system鈥攐ne of your body's natural defences against infection. Cancer cells from the primary tumour in the uterus can also escape into the abdomen.
Depending on how much cancer you have, you will be said to have a certain 'stage' of cancer of the uterus. Sometimes endometrial hyperplasia is called 'cancer in situ' and is named a Stage 0 cancer. Cancer which is confined to the uterus is called Stage I; if it has spread to the cervix it is called a Stage II cancer. Stage III cancer has extended from the uterus to the fallopian tubes, ovaries or pelvic and abdominal lymph glands. Cancer that extends outside the pelvis or that involves the rectum or bladder and has spread to distant sites is called Stage IV cancer.
How common is cancer of the uterus?
Anti-Cancer Council of Victoria statistics show that, in Victoria each year, there are about 350 women diagnosed with cancer of the uterus.
About 80 per cent of these women will have undergone menopause.
Most will be aged in their 60s and 70s when they are found to have cancer of the uterus.
What causes cancer of the uterus?
The causes of cancer of the uterus are only just beginning to be understood. There needs to be more investigation before doctors can explain why some women get this disease. More research is being carried out in Australia and overseas. However, there are some things that are known about this cancer.
Cancer of the uterus is not caused by sexual activity and can not be passed on by sexual activity.
The uterus is hormone-sensitive and can sometimes be over-stimulated by oestrogen. Women who take long-term oestrogen therapy need to talk with their doctors about how to protect themselves. Women on hormone replacement therapy (HRT) usually take oestrogen together with progesterone. This combination reduces a woman's likelihood of getting cancer of the uterus.
Using the contraceptive pill seems to provide some protection against cancer of the uterus. The longer the pill has been used, the greater the degree of protection.
Women who have developed hyperplasia of the uterine lining are believed to be at an increased risk.
Women who have gone through menopause, who are infertile or who have never had children seem to have a higher risk than other women. Women with problems with high blood pressure (hypertension) and diabetes also seem at risk.
Some women who are overweight may be at an increased risk of cancer of the uterus because fatty tissue makes a form of the oestrogen hormone.
Cancer of the uterus seems to be more common in families who have a history of endometrial, breast or colon cancer.
Having one or more of the risk factors does not mean you are going to get cancer of the uterus; some women diagnosed with the disease do not have any known risk factors.
What does my future look like?
The vast majority of women with early cancer of the uterus will be cured of their disease. For women with more advanced cases of the disease, a cure may still be possible. For other women, treatment can keep the disease under control for long peI have been told the lining of my uterus is extremely thick for a woman in her early thirties any advice?
Only your doctor can advise for certain about the best course to take. The only thing I can tell you for certain is that if your family is complete, a laproscopic hysterectomy is not a difficult surgery. I had one six weeks ago (along with lumpectomy and node removal for breast cancer) and recovery from that surgery was not difficult for me. If that is an option for you, it might be worth it to relieve the misery you have been experiencing and the worries about cancer. I also had problems with heavy bleeding and once cancer became an issue, it was the best choice to resolve the problem.
What is cancer of the uterus?
Cancer of the uterus is the most common gynaecological cancer affecting women. There are several types of cancer of the uterus, depending in which part of the uterus the cancer occurs. The majority are actually cancers of the endometrium, the lining of the uterus. Cancers can also develop in the muscle layers of the uterus.
Endometrial hyperplasia
Occasionally some women develop a very thick lining of the uterus (hyperplasia) which can result in very heavy periods or bleeding at irregular times or a watery, bloody discharge, even after menopause (the ceasing of periods). Some types of endometrial hyperplasia may be a pre-cancerous condition. If you have finished child-bearing, your doctor may advise you to have a hysterectomy, the removal of the uterus by surgery.
Abnormal bleeding before menopause, and in all women who recommence bleeding after the menopause is clearly over (more than 12 months after the end of the last monthly period), must be investigated by your doctor.
Adenocarcinoma of the endometrium
An adenocarcinoma is a cancer that starts in glandular tissue. Most women (about 85 per cent) with cancer of the uterus are diagnosed with this form of endometrial cancer.
Other types of cancer of the uterus
The less common types of cancer of the uterus are adenosquamous carcinoma, papillary serous carcinoma and, rarely, clear cell carcinoma or uterine carcinoma. They are called high-risk cancers because they may be more likely to spread.
Stages of cancer of the uterus
Cancer of the uterus generally starts in the lining of the uterus and, if untreated, will fill up the uterus. It is a cancer that generally stays in the pelvic cavity, and can also affect the cervix and, less commonly, the vagina, the Fallopian tubes and the ovaries.
However, cancers which develop in the uterus may spread to other parts of the body via the lymph system鈥攐ne of your body's natural defences against infection. Cancer cells from the primary tumour in the uterus can also escape into the abdomen.
Depending on how much cancer you have, you will be said to have a certain 'stage' of cancer of the uterus. Sometimes endometrial hyperplasia is called 'cancer in situ' and is named a Stage 0 cancer. Cancer which is confined to the uterus is called Stage I; if it has spread to the cervix it is called a Stage II cancer. Stage III cancer has extended from the uterus to the fallopian tubes, ovaries or pelvic and abdominal lymph glands. Cancer that extends outside the pelvis or that involves the rectum or bladder and has spread to distant sites is called Stage IV cancer.
How common is cancer of the uterus?
Anti-Cancer Council of Victoria statistics show that, in Victoria each year, there are about 350 women diagnosed with cancer of the uterus.
About 80 per cent of these women will have undergone menopause.
Most will be aged in their 60s and 70s when they are found to have cancer of the uterus.
What causes cancer of the uterus?
The causes of cancer of the uterus are only just beginning to be understood. There needs to be more investigation before doctors can explain why some women get this disease. More research is being carried out in Australia and overseas. However, there are some things that are known about this cancer.
Cancer of the uterus is not caused by sexual activity and can not be passed on by sexual activity.
The uterus is hormone-sensitive and can sometimes be over-stimulated by oestrogen. Women who take long-term oestrogen therapy need to talk with their doctors about how to protect themselves. Women on hormone replacement therapy (HRT) usually take oestrogen together with progesterone. This combination reduces a woman's likelihood of getting cancer of the uterus.
Using the contraceptive pill seems to provide some protection against cancer of the uterus. The longer the pill has been used, the greater the degree of protection.
Women who have developed hyperplasia of the uterine lining are believed to be at an increased risk.
Women who have gone through menopause, who are infertile or who have never had children seem to have a higher risk than other women. Women with problems with high blood pressure (hypertension) and diabetes also seem at risk.
Some women who are overweight may be at an increased risk of cancer of the uterus because fatty tissue makes a form of the oestrogen hormone.
Cancer of the uterus seems to be more common in families who have a history of endometrial, breast or colon cancer.
Having one or more of the risk factors does not mean you are going to get cancer of the uterus; some women diagnosed with the disease do not have any known risk factors.
What does my future look like?
The vast majority of women with early cancer of the uterus will be cured of their disease. For women with more advanced cases of the disease, a cure may still be possible. For other women, treatment can keep the disease under control for long peI have been told the lining of my uterus is extremely thick for a woman in her early thirties any advice?
Only your doctor can advise for certain about the best course to take. The only thing I can tell you for certain is that if your family is complete, a laproscopic hysterectomy is not a difficult surgery. I had one six weeks ago (along with lumpectomy and node removal for breast cancer) and recovery from that surgery was not difficult for me. If that is an option for you, it might be worth it to relieve the misery you have been experiencing and the worries about cancer. I also had problems with heavy bleeding and once cancer became an issue, it was the best choice to resolve the problem.
Pregnant Woman! Why do you ask for peoples advice about the health of your baby?
Do you not think it would be more appropriate to ask a doctor at your local clinic or hospital? Especially if its about pains? Or am I just being a bit daft?Pregnant Woman! Why do you ask for peoples advice about the health of your baby?
pregnancy, especially if its the first one can be very confusing for a woman bc there's SO many changes in your body! rather than be the ';crazy mommy'; that calls the doctor every 5 minutes, i picked up a copy of ';What to Expect While You're Expecting';. its the most helpful pregnancy book ever! not every little problem needs a doctor (like a yeast infection is normal and can be treated over the counter meds) but sometimes a hormonal pregger woman likes to have her fears quelled. most mommies know when to call the dr!Pregnant Woman! Why do you ask for peoples advice about the health of your baby?
Speaking for myself, I ask questions while I am waiting for my appointment. Unfortunately, in this day and age in Canada, you cannot call for an appointment one minute and get in the next. It usually takes days to get an appointment, sometimes more.
So it is nice to get advice from other people who may have been in a similar situation and have some insight to provide. so yes, you are being a bit daft to assume that these women have not already made medical appointments. When you are pregnant and worried, waiting for an appointment seems like an eternity. What's wrong with getting opinions in the meantime???
As a pregnant woman myself, i like to ask other fellow pregnant mothers for advice. I'm barely in my first trimester so i turn to women who have already been pregnant or in later trimesters. it's just more convenient and free to turn to a friend than to hassle trying to get a doctor. also, there's just this trust factor you have with a friend, hence, feeling more comfortable to open up with questions.
i was having pains in my abdomen, and i did talk about it with non-pregnant friends first just for the sake of opinion. maybe the hormones were just getting to me? maybe i was just hungry? i tried developing my own conclusion based on peer's opinions before i go into the doctor's office just so i have a tad bit of understanding of what i'm feeling.
How much time does your doctor give you when you see a doctor? Do you ever get to chat with her? Really, there is so little time in the visit to get all the information you need to to really get that information fleshed out - and relating your personal experience to what the doctor said is not the same as relating it to someone else's personal experience.
Doctors DO NOT have all the answers, first of all they are human, secondly I HAVE NEVER gotten good advice on nursing an infant from a doctor nor have I had a doctor on my beck and call in any event. When I have asked about my infant's development they say ';That's normal.'; And offer no examples of why that's normal, which is really more reassuring then telling me it's normal - because not all doctors have the personal experience they have the data.
Yes you are being a bit daft and too narrowly focused.
Well I don't know about other people but I know that I ask questions about things going on with me just to see other peoples opinons and to see if other people are going threw any of the same things and its nice to see how other people deal with the things they go threw but I dont know why people alway ask am I pregnant because they only way to know that would be to take a test
Good point....
It never ceases to amaze me that people come here with what appear to be quite serious issues that require fairly prompt attention.
Surely this is the last place you'd come under the circumstances...this is just for fun and if you have the time.
If my cat was ill I'd take it to a vet before wasting my time here never mind my child.
So no, you're not being daft...you're one of the few sane people here.
yeah i often think that , but i suppose they just want to know if anyone has experienced the same pains etc as what there having, if there pains were that serious im sure they would go to see the doctor,
It never hurts to get a second opinion. Specially when you're pregant, you need assurance as well as informed opinions. Every little bit counts.
you are quite right, it always amazes me why they do not ask the ante natal clinic or doctor, if they are so concerned
I don't know. If my daughter is sick, i would take her to the doctor not ask a question on YA.
oh shut upmakeup class
pregnancy, especially if its the first one can be very confusing for a woman bc there's SO many changes in your body! rather than be the ';crazy mommy'; that calls the doctor every 5 minutes, i picked up a copy of ';What to Expect While You're Expecting';. its the most helpful pregnancy book ever! not every little problem needs a doctor (like a yeast infection is normal and can be treated over the counter meds) but sometimes a hormonal pregger woman likes to have her fears quelled. most mommies know when to call the dr!Pregnant Woman! Why do you ask for peoples advice about the health of your baby?
Speaking for myself, I ask questions while I am waiting for my appointment. Unfortunately, in this day and age in Canada, you cannot call for an appointment one minute and get in the next. It usually takes days to get an appointment, sometimes more.
So it is nice to get advice from other people who may have been in a similar situation and have some insight to provide. so yes, you are being a bit daft to assume that these women have not already made medical appointments. When you are pregnant and worried, waiting for an appointment seems like an eternity. What's wrong with getting opinions in the meantime???
As a pregnant woman myself, i like to ask other fellow pregnant mothers for advice. I'm barely in my first trimester so i turn to women who have already been pregnant or in later trimesters. it's just more convenient and free to turn to a friend than to hassle trying to get a doctor. also, there's just this trust factor you have with a friend, hence, feeling more comfortable to open up with questions.
i was having pains in my abdomen, and i did talk about it with non-pregnant friends first just for the sake of opinion. maybe the hormones were just getting to me? maybe i was just hungry? i tried developing my own conclusion based on peer's opinions before i go into the doctor's office just so i have a tad bit of understanding of what i'm feeling.
How much time does your doctor give you when you see a doctor? Do you ever get to chat with her? Really, there is so little time in the visit to get all the information you need to to really get that information fleshed out - and relating your personal experience to what the doctor said is not the same as relating it to someone else's personal experience.
Doctors DO NOT have all the answers, first of all they are human, secondly I HAVE NEVER gotten good advice on nursing an infant from a doctor nor have I had a doctor on my beck and call in any event. When I have asked about my infant's development they say ';That's normal.'; And offer no examples of why that's normal, which is really more reassuring then telling me it's normal - because not all doctors have the personal experience they have the data.
Yes you are being a bit daft and too narrowly focused.
Well I don't know about other people but I know that I ask questions about things going on with me just to see other peoples opinons and to see if other people are going threw any of the same things and its nice to see how other people deal with the things they go threw but I dont know why people alway ask am I pregnant because they only way to know that would be to take a test
Good point....
It never ceases to amaze me that people come here with what appear to be quite serious issues that require fairly prompt attention.
Surely this is the last place you'd come under the circumstances...this is just for fun and if you have the time.
If my cat was ill I'd take it to a vet before wasting my time here never mind my child.
So no, you're not being daft...you're one of the few sane people here.
yeah i often think that , but i suppose they just want to know if anyone has experienced the same pains etc as what there having, if there pains were that serious im sure they would go to see the doctor,
It never hurts to get a second opinion. Specially when you're pregant, you need assurance as well as informed opinions. Every little bit counts.
you are quite right, it always amazes me why they do not ask the ante natal clinic or doctor, if they are so concerned
I don't know. If my daughter is sick, i would take her to the doctor not ask a question on YA.
oh shut up
Need advice dealing with husband asking another woman out for dinner.?
Found email that my husband sent to a woman he met a car racing asking her out to dinner. He says it nothing but I told him that I considered it cheating. If it was nothing then why did he keep it hidden from me. I am having a hard time coping with this. Any ideas how to live through this. I love him so much. Just really need to talk to someone that can help me work this out.Need advice dealing with husband asking another woman out for dinner.?
Hon, husbands do NOT take other women out for dinner. Especially hidding it from you. You are full of emotions now.
Get your heard on straight and be strong.
Tell him, he cancles the dinner and makes an appointment with you at a marriage counselors. If he says no, it is like saying no to his marriage vows. Perhaps he has forgotten his marriage vows.
If this dinner is nothing, he would have you and him met her for dinner. Married men or women don't go out for dinner with somone of the opposite sex.
Why bother getting married if he can't be faithful. A dinner isn't cheating.....but he is on the boundry line that says NO GO. Once he has crosses that boundry and goes to dinner with her....then he is out of bounds and all kinds of trouble can happen.
You husband is highly disrespecting you and his marriage vows to you. Don't let it slide. He either acts like a loving husband or he needs to get some counceling to repair things or else he is boldly saying to you that his vows in marriage to you mean very little to him.
Be strong, if he won't get counseling you go on your own. It sounds like he doesn't mind hurting you/ This rush he has gotten from flirting and making plans with this woman has made him make some very bad judgments. I do pray that he will snap out of this childlike behaviour and step forward and be the husband that you need. He needs to be a man of his vows and be a husband and lover that he commited to be when he married you.
You have every right to not be coping well with this. The biggest thing is to not let him do this to you over and over again. He gets his chance to pull out of this....if he can't, he shouldn't be married.Need advice dealing with husband asking another woman out for dinner.?
go have dinner yourself with a man other then your man!
I found myself in a simular situation once, My husband wanted to ask another woman to dance, while we where out on a date. My first instinct was to kill him. After cooling down though, I realized that maybe I over reacted. There must be some reason why u didnt trust him to start with or u wuldnt have found that email. Im thinking there is alot of distrust issues with the two of you. You might want to consider talking to him. If this doesnt work out then I would have to say that maybe you are holding on to something that isnt there anymore. When men start to hold back and lie and hide things that usually means they arent interested or they have found someone else. Try couseling or you be the one to meet him at the dinner instead of her. Seeing is believing.
I am sorry for your pain. I would suggest telling someone and you and that person both confront him with it so that he knows it's serious. To put it bluntly, he is probably interested in her because he finds interest in you lacking. That's why he needs to be approached - so that you and he can come to an understanding of why his interest in you has faltered. And don't give up. Keep telling people, keep getting help in approaching him. Keep after him. If you don't, he won't have anything stopping him from these inclinations.
Did you ask him why he is meeting her or did you just assume he is planning to cheat on you? Instead of chewing him out for ';cheating'; talk to him. It could be innocent. Men and women can actually be friends without having sex. Maybe he hid it from you because he knew you would respond this way.
You need to have a sit down talk with him. If he's willing to put his marriage on the line for a dinner with another women then you need to find out why.
unless it's business, he close to crossing the line and close to cheating. If that was my husband he would be in big trouble!!! He would be sleeping in the living room and no special treats.
Oh the head games they play. Keep your eyes and ears open my dear, my bet is that you are already on to something here and its gonna drive you crazy in your own mind until the truth comes out. You may ';love him so much'; but it still doesnt change the fact that he might be having an affair. Of course he is going to tell you that its nothing when you confront him, what else is he going to say hon? Yes dear. There is something there and I am going to have an affair, See ya when I get home? Im not trying to be sarcastic Im only trying to get you to see his games hes gonna play. They will never fess up when you ask them. You have to catch them in a lie. Do what you must to find out the truth. A married man has no business taking another woman out to dinner. You may email me if you like. Its a tough situation and I have been there myself.
Girl, sorry, I think you are in trouble.
I agree with you. Any time a married man is alone with another woman for dinner, it's bad news.
This is going to sound weird, but trust me, OK.
Go to the library and pick up the book
The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands
sit down and read it, and see if there is something that's helps you improve the situation at home.
Either you have unintentionally created a situation that he is looking to escape from, or you married a scum-bag.....
Either way, the book will help you figure that part out.
You also have to tell him that behavior is completely unacceptable to you and you will not allow it to continue.
I will be holding out good thoughts for you... Divorce SUCKS!!!
You make very good points.
Sorry to be so blunt but your options are:
Therapy - see if he is willing to tell you why he is doing this and if there is a way you both can repair your marriage.
Separation - dump him on his butt.
If he will go for one woman, he will go for another, so it's not worth chasing *the other one* away.
He obviously does not value what he has at home.
If you dump him, he has a chance to think this over.
Divorce - you know this drill.
Also, go get an STD test. Make sure you are still healthy.
He needs to know how serious this behavior is, and you need to act like it is serious.
How long have you been married? But you would only know by asking him for sure. Sometimes people are just seeking a little exitement but that is a wrong way to go about it. It seems to me at this point he must reassure you in a good way. By you letting him know strongly you feel about the situation. You can give all the love you want but if you get so little in return then eventually you will be left exhausted, tire, and incomplete...
They always say it is nothing. I found something like that too. It hurts and you don't trust him. I still don't. Take care.
Your husband cannot be trusted. He is cheating. Accept it or divorce him or go for counselling.
Husbands are not supposed to date.
When you get married dating other people is supposed to stop.
Don't let your husband make you think you're just being jealous...he's just upset that you caught him....this time.
a conversation here, a dinner there, mixed with a little conversation, a little confiding, and than she is suddenly in bed with your hubby. you should confront him and ask him why he chooses to take another woman to dinner and not you. i suggest u go to the car races with him from now on.
yeah pretty much there seems to be something going on if he just kept it from you. He's a married man he has no business taking out another woman to dinner or anywhere else without your knowlege unless its his mother or family. I think you have every right to be upset with him. sounds to me like hes cheating behind your back. I know thats hard to hear but i've been with someone just like that and turns out he was a cheater all along. Have you ever thought of getting a tape recorder and sticking it in his car under his seat or something. You might find alot out. play detective. it could be its nothing but you will never know if you dont do it.
If he's hiding it, how did you find it in the email? But it is a little shady. If I do anything with another woman, I invite my wife too.
dont take no rubbish from him, he wants her...ask him how he would feel if u had done the same thing then ask him to be honest with u regarding whether he still loves u or not...cos if he really did he wouldnt do this, believe me
This is completely harmless. It's just dinner. Ease up on him a little.
Hon, husbands do NOT take other women out for dinner. Especially hidding it from you. You are full of emotions now.
Get your heard on straight and be strong.
Tell him, he cancles the dinner and makes an appointment with you at a marriage counselors. If he says no, it is like saying no to his marriage vows. Perhaps he has forgotten his marriage vows.
If this dinner is nothing, he would have you and him met her for dinner. Married men or women don't go out for dinner with somone of the opposite sex.
Why bother getting married if he can't be faithful. A dinner isn't cheating.....but he is on the boundry line that says NO GO. Once he has crosses that boundry and goes to dinner with her....then he is out of bounds and all kinds of trouble can happen.
You husband is highly disrespecting you and his marriage vows to you. Don't let it slide. He either acts like a loving husband or he needs to get some counceling to repair things or else he is boldly saying to you that his vows in marriage to you mean very little to him.
Be strong, if he won't get counseling you go on your own. It sounds like he doesn't mind hurting you/ This rush he has gotten from flirting and making plans with this woman has made him make some very bad judgments. I do pray that he will snap out of this childlike behaviour and step forward and be the husband that you need. He needs to be a man of his vows and be a husband and lover that he commited to be when he married you.
You have every right to not be coping well with this. The biggest thing is to not let him do this to you over and over again. He gets his chance to pull out of this....if he can't, he shouldn't be married.Need advice dealing with husband asking another woman out for dinner.?
go have dinner yourself with a man other then your man!
I found myself in a simular situation once, My husband wanted to ask another woman to dance, while we where out on a date. My first instinct was to kill him. After cooling down though, I realized that maybe I over reacted. There must be some reason why u didnt trust him to start with or u wuldnt have found that email. Im thinking there is alot of distrust issues with the two of you. You might want to consider talking to him. If this doesnt work out then I would have to say that maybe you are holding on to something that isnt there anymore. When men start to hold back and lie and hide things that usually means they arent interested or they have found someone else. Try couseling or you be the one to meet him at the dinner instead of her. Seeing is believing.
I am sorry for your pain. I would suggest telling someone and you and that person both confront him with it so that he knows it's serious. To put it bluntly, he is probably interested in her because he finds interest in you lacking. That's why he needs to be approached - so that you and he can come to an understanding of why his interest in you has faltered. And don't give up. Keep telling people, keep getting help in approaching him. Keep after him. If you don't, he won't have anything stopping him from these inclinations.
Did you ask him why he is meeting her or did you just assume he is planning to cheat on you? Instead of chewing him out for ';cheating'; talk to him. It could be innocent. Men and women can actually be friends without having sex. Maybe he hid it from you because he knew you would respond this way.
You need to have a sit down talk with him. If he's willing to put his marriage on the line for a dinner with another women then you need to find out why.
unless it's business, he close to crossing the line and close to cheating. If that was my husband he would be in big trouble!!! He would be sleeping in the living room and no special treats.
Oh the head games they play. Keep your eyes and ears open my dear, my bet is that you are already on to something here and its gonna drive you crazy in your own mind until the truth comes out. You may ';love him so much'; but it still doesnt change the fact that he might be having an affair. Of course he is going to tell you that its nothing when you confront him, what else is he going to say hon? Yes dear. There is something there and I am going to have an affair, See ya when I get home? Im not trying to be sarcastic Im only trying to get you to see his games hes gonna play. They will never fess up when you ask them. You have to catch them in a lie. Do what you must to find out the truth. A married man has no business taking another woman out to dinner. You may email me if you like. Its a tough situation and I have been there myself.
Girl, sorry, I think you are in trouble.
I agree with you. Any time a married man is alone with another woman for dinner, it's bad news.
This is going to sound weird, but trust me, OK.
Go to the library and pick up the book
The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands
sit down and read it, and see if there is something that's helps you improve the situation at home.
Either you have unintentionally created a situation that he is looking to escape from, or you married a scum-bag.....
Either way, the book will help you figure that part out.
You also have to tell him that behavior is completely unacceptable to you and you will not allow it to continue.
I will be holding out good thoughts for you... Divorce SUCKS!!!
You make very good points.
Sorry to be so blunt but your options are:
Therapy - see if he is willing to tell you why he is doing this and if there is a way you both can repair your marriage.
Separation - dump him on his butt.
If he will go for one woman, he will go for another, so it's not worth chasing *the other one* away.
He obviously does not value what he has at home.
If you dump him, he has a chance to think this over.
Divorce - you know this drill.
Also, go get an STD test. Make sure you are still healthy.
He needs to know how serious this behavior is, and you need to act like it is serious.
How long have you been married? But you would only know by asking him for sure. Sometimes people are just seeking a little exitement but that is a wrong way to go about it. It seems to me at this point he must reassure you in a good way. By you letting him know strongly you feel about the situation. You can give all the love you want but if you get so little in return then eventually you will be left exhausted, tire, and incomplete...
They always say it is nothing. I found something like that too. It hurts and you don't trust him. I still don't. Take care.
Your husband cannot be trusted. He is cheating. Accept it or divorce him or go for counselling.
Husbands are not supposed to date.
When you get married dating other people is supposed to stop.
Don't let your husband make you think you're just being jealous...he's just upset that you caught him....this time.
a conversation here, a dinner there, mixed with a little conversation, a little confiding, and than she is suddenly in bed with your hubby. you should confront him and ask him why he chooses to take another woman to dinner and not you. i suggest u go to the car races with him from now on.
yeah pretty much there seems to be something going on if he just kept it from you. He's a married man he has no business taking out another woman to dinner or anywhere else without your knowlege unless its his mother or family. I think you have every right to be upset with him. sounds to me like hes cheating behind your back. I know thats hard to hear but i've been with someone just like that and turns out he was a cheater all along. Have you ever thought of getting a tape recorder and sticking it in his car under his seat or something. You might find alot out. play detective. it could be its nothing but you will never know if you dont do it.
If he's hiding it, how did you find it in the email? But it is a little shady. If I do anything with another woman, I invite my wife too.
dont take no rubbish from him, he wants her...ask him how he would feel if u had done the same thing then ask him to be honest with u regarding whether he still loves u or not...cos if he really did he wouldnt do this, believe me
This is completely harmless. It's just dinner. Ease up on him a little.
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