Women or men over 20 for serious relationship advice!. please help!!!?

well, i have a 24 year old boyfriend (I'm 19) and we have been going out together for 4 months now. the thing is I'm a freshman in college and i not only have to pay for tuition but also room and board and i work for autozone but only two days a week. obviously i don't make enough money to pay for school and my bills. do you think i should ask him for money?? why? how should i approach him about it?Women or men over 20 for serious relationship advice!. please help!!!?
NO, because after four months what exactly should he be paying for? I'm sorry you have money issues but you need to do things for yourself he is n ot your bank of america card. IF you have to pay for birth control(try planned parenthood) then you can ask him to split the bill since he is using the benefits too but money for living or school noo sorryWomen or men over 20 for serious relationship advice!. please help!!!?
First things first look into finacial aid, believe it or not it is very easy to get, unless your folks are horribly rich, secondly if you absolutly hate the notion of asking for help, you can try finding work at a place that offers tuition reinbersment, it will take some digging but there are places, i get tuition reimbersment through fed-ex, if you really hate the notion of asking him for help and I mean REALLY hate it you can also apply for student loans. That said I wouldnt ask him for money so much as ask for help, let him get involved, and see where his money would be going, go grocery shopping with him and make sure you get some stuff so you can cook a romantic dinner to show appreciation, you are still giving back, just what you can.
No way. You have not been in this relationship very long at all yet especially to ask for money. When I went to school I had to pay for everything and I was not able to apply for a loan. What you have to do is work really hard. Since you are only getting two days in at your job now you might want to consider getting a job where you can at least work 5 days a week. Get a full time temporary job during the summer months, along with your part time job. Try to work a full time schedule when you are on winter break. Factory work is not really the best type of work, but those types of jobs are excellent for a summer job, the pay is a little better then retail jobs and they will give you full time hours with a regular schedule. You have to make the money on your own and not borrow it from your boyfriend. It is never a good idea to be in debt with a person close to you. Take out the loans if you need them-they don't start to collect interest until after you graduate anyway.
Unless he is rich and could give a ****, no don't ask. You are not like married or anything, so don't USE him that way. It's also not his main concern.





Taks out a student loan. It's low interest. But only use it for school, don't buy him anything or go for luxuries. He may not be there to support you, but he should respect you enough to understand your situation. And if you do take a loan, don't tell him. It's not his business, and he may end up USING you.
if you ask him for money so soon he may think that's all you want or that you are irresponsible. i would just try to find a better job or something to do to cover the rest, but hold off on asking him for money. if you must ask him for a loan but i don't reccomend asking him for money at all so soon.
No. Do not ask him for money. You have only known him for 4 months. I know school costs are outrageous, suck it up. I paid out of pocket for everything!!! Yeah, it took me a few years to save up before I could go to school, I didn't start until I was 23 and got my degree at 27 and now I am 31 with a great job, but I did it all on my own. It's very rewarding feeling. Be a strong independent woman, you can do it!!!
How long have you been dating? depending on if you feel comfortable or not with asking then do it. Maybe to ease his nerves tell him you will write out a contract and agree to pay him back by a certin date.If you guys havnt been together for more then a year i wouldnt ask.
girl he would look at u and laugh. 4 months? hell i been with my boyfriend for 3 years and im still scared to ask him for money. find another job or something
no you dont want to have to depend on someone...why dont you just take out a loan.
No, don't ask him for money! You've only been dating for 4 months.. he's your boyfriend not your daddy or husband!
Ask those who claim to be your friends ...
NO!!! Do not ever ask for money from a guy. I think you will be able to find the help elsewhere.
that is a VERY poor idea.





first of all you don't want him to think you are a burden or are looking to latch onto him financially.





a guy who is 24 (presuming he has been through college) is recently out in the world.





he is actually in a very very different stage of life than you and the 5 years age difference is not as dangerous as the fact that you are in college- and he is out in the real world making a living.





you need to learn to be more frugal with your money- I live in NYC and thats one of the (if not the) most expensive spots in the world- if I can live frugally here and still have tons of fun, so can you. especially since the major dating expenses are paid for by the guy usually.





just budget yourself better-





what I said about the stage of life- thats true, you want to demonstrate to him that you are more mature, and a cut above the rest because he is going to become board with a needy child mentality quickly and no amount of hardbody 19 year old sex will change that, it might prolong it though.





he conversely, should lighten up a bit and come down to your party level too if you have any hope of your relationship surviving-





but DON'T DON'T DON'T ask him for money- if he offers TURN IT DOWN.





normally I would say ok- but you run the added risk of looking like an irresponsible juvinile. if both of you were out of school- you were 22 and he was 27 that would be a whole different story but you should still not ask him for money-





if you were out of school then at MOST a loan with signed legal papers to repay is the adult thing for any real money (ok, $5 is not something to flip about).