Does anyone have advice for a seperated woman?

right now I'm currently seperated from my husband our 4th year anniversary is coming up in public and he runs into me he is a jerk in private he's kind and telling me he misses me. and he keeps saying he's ging to bring over dissolution papers but everytime he comes over he's forgot them. That and we were together for 7 yrs. and he's the father of all 4 of my kids. someone help me deal with stress, and depression if you can email me at playboypinkbunny@yahoo.com or mcgill_manor@yahoo.comDoes anyone have advice for a seperated woman?
go out, buy yourself a new sexy outfit, and have a few drinks, and just party for a little. It'll do the body good!!Does anyone have advice for a seperated woman?
Well the one thing you dont want to do is, stay together just because of the kids.to many couples make that mistake and it makes it hard on the kids more than you may think.the other is, why did you seperate to begin with,thats the question you have to ask yourself.
he dont wont a divorce. that all. but give it to him and take half of whats he worth
Sounds like he is playing games with you honey! Mind games, emotional games, etc.! Only you can put a stop to it. If he isn't gonna bring the papers to you then file some yourself and get out of that situation. he OBVIOUSLY does NOT value you at all. I'm sure you fear being on your own with your kids but I have 4 kids and was separated for over a year and I SURVIVED. You can too, plus you can get child support, alimony and damages for abandonment and emtional and mental distress. He deserves nothing less than for you to go and get what ever you can from him in the process. If you need further advice, or just need a friend who understands, feel free to e-mail me at s_ransom_2006@yahoo.com any time! I know it is rough but you can do it! Good luck!
Well, there are a couple of reasons I can think of to explain the difference in how he is treating you in different places. It may depend on if you left him or if he left you and the reasons for it. I don't need to know that, nor does anyone else here. However, if you did something to hurt him (his feelings), he could be lashing out to get back at you when he is being a jerk to you in public. And if that is the case, then possibly he wants you back which could be the reason why he is nice to you in private. That could also be why he keeps ';forgetting'; the dissolution papers. Maybe he has no intention of really bringing them. If you think this might be the case, I would sit down and talk to him to see if you can work things out, especially considering the fact that you have children together and that you've been together for 7 years. I'm sure it was probably just a rough time. Now, on the other hand, his reasons for being nice to you in private could be a selfish motive just to get you back into his bed. And maybe that isn't such a bad thing, considering that he is your husband. I think the next opportunity you have at one of those private times, you should take it to sit down with him and both of you really pour out your hearts to each other and find out if a dissolution is REALLY what you both want or if you both REALLY want to try to make things work. I know it is stressful and depressing. But, I think you'll feel better about the whole thing if both of you know where you really stand with each other and where you want to go from here. And if a dissolution is the answer, then don't let him sweet talk you back into his bed, go through with the papers as quickly and painlessly as possible, and don't get involved with anyone else too soon. Your emotions will need time to heal. Good luck!!!
First off, ';separated'; is a proper spelling... Second - start dating again, and make an effort to forget your husband. If you have depression - get some meds...They really work!
It takes time, but time in itself doesn't fix anything, its what you do with the time that counts. if you spend that time doing nothing but thinking about what was yesterday that is how you will spend your tomorrows. you have to grieve, but give yourself a limit, after that push yourself forward, no matter how much you don't want to, keep busy doing things that make you happy, at first it will serve no real purpose except distracting your brain, but eventually you will find joy in them again.





Take care of yourself physically, make great meals just for you, don't start eating junk just because hes not eating it, read some great books, listen to great music, DANCE (nobody can be sad when they dance) even if its home by yourself or with the kids, they'll love it and you'll all have a great laugh, shop, spend time with friends and family, volunteer in your community with people or dogs if you prefer. do the things you gave up for your relationship. soon you will find yourself understanding what went wrong and ready to try again. good luck, be patient with yourself, and remember it will get better!
The one thing you do NOT do before you get a final divorce paper is date.
Time to divorce and make a clean start. do not date him
Return to your husband. You had no right to leave, you are HIS property!
7yrs and 4 kids...tough situation. I would help you out but i dont trust emails. Find someone in your network of friends that can listen to you. I think he has feelings for you because if he really wanted to end it he would not forget the paperwork. No matter how forgetful a man is, they are pleasure seekers first. If something impedes their happiness it gets gone really quick. Talk to him some more and try mentioning your kids and the damage you guys will inflict on them with your separation.
He's having second thoughts. Move on with your social life and try not to pay so much attention to him...When you see him always make as if you are busy and in a rush. In time he will find another way to amuse himself.. Take care and good luck..
Get into a support group and go to thearpy. That worked for me. Take care of yourself and your kids first.