I need advice on sex! This is for the woman.?

I dated this guy like 5 years ago and we are starting to talk again now but I'm not sure what to do. Everything is great between us, we get along great, have fun together. He's the perfect guy! Tall, cute, good values and morals. Except there is one problem. Sex is horrible with him. What do I do? It's not that he doesn't know what to do, is more like his equipment is on the smallish side. Nothing you can fix. For me I love sex and its important to me. SO what do I do? I need advice on sex! This is for the woman.?
i feel like you guys broke up for a reason. if sex is that important to you then its gping to bother you in the long run. i wouldnt even waste his time.I need advice on sex! This is for the woman.?
Me and my boyfriend both think it shouldn't be the basis of a relationship and the most inprotant thing. What makes it so horrible maybe it is because you really don't have the feelings for him you think you do. That is something you have to figure out. Too much sex can ruin a relationship and so can not enough. Just because he is on 'the smallish side' doesn't mean he can't please you. If he is good with something else well let him do that before
Oh that sucks...That is like the worst possible situation. I don't know if you watch sex and the city but it reminds me of that one episode with Samantha...anyways...Perhaps he can help hone his skills in other area's. I would suggest talking to him about it, maybe not say its because your penis is to small but something like I just don't get off through just vaginal intercourse...we need to come up with ways to make it better. That way he doesn't think its him so his confidence isn't shattered and he will be willing to do whatever it takes! Good luck cause sex is extremely important to me too, and if its not good its gone! lol
Have you ever watched Man and Wife on MTV? This is the perfect question to ask them. You can find their info on MTV.com to find out how to ask them. They will give you good advice.





Anyways if it were me, I like to take control in the bed when the man is not packing in that area.. It sucks but I do what I have to do to get mine like getting on top. But if you are trying to go somewhere with this relationship then you are going to have to teach him how to hit the right spots so he can give you some pleasure. Trust me I've been in the same situation. Its not the size its the way they work it..





Hope this helps.. good luck!!
......Shame on YOU darlin.


.....remind him of what a great friend and special person he is first........and then go out and find the new great guy with the new big equipment darlin...and be quiet.....what else?


He can't help it that God didn't bless him in the penile department darlin.........but maybe after five years sweetie?......maybe he's aquired some great tongue dance techniques possibly!


YIKES!!!


Go easy on him sweetie........cause great tongue enthusiasts can sometimes do great numbers on your very sensitive pleasure centers otherwise.......agreed?


Find out his real oral skills and tehniques first babe........and worry about cavity filling qualifications later.


Sound cool to you too sister?


Keep it wet.....and buy yourself a special toy to fill in the rest of the blanks with.....k?


Try to enjoy a good man really sweetie!


Not everyone has a big dick otherwise.
There is nothing you can do about the size i'm afraid although you could try alternatives, why not foreplay more or even invest in a few sex toys. Just an option for you. Good Luck
try dating him again and see if he has learned any new moves, if not and he is so perfect, forget the sex or spice it up your own way i.e toys and such
Have you tried tantric. It show you different breathing techniques that can help you orgasum.
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try different positions and angles. you on top might work better.
surrender the guy
i know you asked for female advice here, but i feel that this is also a ';male'; problem too-





the concept of bieng sexually incompatable is not unique to women, if a woman is too small for a larger/wider guy then thats a problem too.





you need to examine sex and what you get out of it (specific acts), would you be just as pleased with oral sex?





if he is horrific in that department he can learn if he has a desire(unless he is the lizard man with a small tounge too)?





find alternative ways to get off to improve your sex life or find positions where he might hit the right spot easier.





there is also the option of incorporating sex toys into the mix but many immature and insecure guys are threatened by a woman's ';best friend';. (ok, maybe i'm a little harsh- that comfort level for guys comes with age, so a 20 yr old might take ';old faithfull'; personally while a guy in his 40's would almost certainly not).





he is obvioulsy not the ';perfect'; guy- no guy or girl is perfect- they are only ';perfect'; for you- which if you don't mesh sexually- and it is an issue for you- sounds like it is, then he might not be so perfect for you.





try to teach him and COMMUNICATE what you like and don't and what feels better- women DO come with instruction manuals- unfortunately they are VERBAL instruction manuals and need to be spoken (men do too but we are easier to figure out).





communication in yoru sex life is just as important as it is in every other aspect of your relationship-





sex is not to be ';pushed aside';- its how you explore your lover privately and feel physically connected to each other- without a good connection sexually the relaitonship will suffer greatly.





work out your issues with him and experiment- try not to get frustrated with him outwardly or he will pick up on it and it will create more frustration.





be patient and communicate your sexual needs to him, if he doesn't meet those (because he can't or won't) then you need to examine if this will meet your needs in the relationship and if you are willing to make that sacrifice-





if you are not- it isn't his or your fault, just the way it is- if you are, great problem sovled.