LOL assuming that you're not a chauvinistic, arrogant, egotistical, illiterate, air head...I'd say just be yourself.
Really we all like to feel special and wanted so just use your natural charm, it'll do the trick every time. good luck!!I have been single for ages and i would like some advice on chatting to women?
Same thing you do here, just in person.I have been single for ages and i would like some advice on chatting to women?
One thing I would tell you not to do is use a chat up line because all they do is make you look is stupid. I think that looking at women in the eye is a good thing to do because if they like you then they wouldnt look away and then you could move in and talk to them.
Good luck and dont give up !!!
Well there's no special formula... just be yourself and wait when someone will except you the way you are. In the meanwhile enjoy go out with your friends, do something that makes you feel nice...beacouse when you will have a date you wont have time about doing what you really want.
good luck :)
Just go up to a woman in the street and tell her she's got a lovely pair of knockers, followed by your best Sid James style laugh.
Saturday, July 31, 2010
A question for fuller figured women...bra size 38DD and higher...i need your advice!?
Im a 38DD and i have THEE worst time finding bras. They are always popping out the tops of my bras or the bra wont fit right and make them look weird. So im going bra shopping today after my last bra finally broke (they do that like every 2 months) and i wanna know what bra has worked wonders for you? I have pretty much tried everything. I used to get those playtex ones that come in the box but they make my boobs look pointy and weird. So i need an inexpensive great bra and im open to all of your suggestions!A question for fuller figured women...bra size 38DD and higher...i need your advice!?
I am also a 38DD.
As crazy as it may sound, Wal Mart has some great bras for $8.88. Fredericks of Hollywood also carries great bras.A question for fuller figured women...bra size 38DD and higher...i need your advice!?
I know it seems weird, but wear 2 bras. That's what I do, and I am also a 38DD.
The first bra should be one that lifts you. I wear one that is a cup size too small, it gives me some lift.
The second bra should be one that covers more area than the first, and it should be the right size. Get one that has a little bit of padding so it will smooth over the one that is a little small.
**By the way: wearing the smaller bra will give a minimizing effect.. it does for me.
I think you are not buying the proper fit bras. Instead of spending money on ones that break every two months, invest in a couple of GOOD bras. If there's a Victoria's Secret or a good lingerie shop near you, go in and have them measure you properly and assist you with buying the proper fit bra. There are bras out there for EVERY shape and size, so you need to put a concentrated effort in now. It will make life much easier for you down the road.
same problem i have.
unfortunately, you get what you pay for.
my advise is go to Victoria's Secret. Their bras give you good support and i love them.
expensive? yes.
worth it? totally.
42 DD.....was 38 DD til put on weight. Best bras i ever liked were from Avenue. Have worn their bras for many years. They have a few different styles that i really like. And are a little pricy (compared to like walmart) but resonable, but i try to catch the buy one get one half off sales .
They also last a while.....i know other brand underwires last much shorter before they manage to poke out at the ends or break.....and Ive never had them poking out at the ends with these bras....only eventually breaking........underwire breaking is what usually when the bra dies....but they are usually good at lasting a while before they break that I have actually had some that the cups losing elastisity and not supporting right was when i had to toss it and not the wire. I cant stand bras that do not have underwires. Ever since i got up to DD anything that didnt have an underwire either wasnt comfortable, or shapped them weird....pointy boobs are the worst. I used to like lane bryant too.....always liked how their underwire bras fit......but always had issues with the wires poking out....sometimes within a month of me having them. Havent worn them in years so may be better now....or i may have just had bad luck
forget victoria's secret, in my experience the few bras they have that will fit large boobs are just not sturdy enough to hold up. it's like they just made the bras for smaller sized boobs bigger without taking the physics of large breasts into account. if you want a decent bra that'll hold up longer than two months, you're going to have to shell out some cash for it (plan on paying at least $30). try frederick's of hollywood, i always loved their bras. also, another place you can try is lane bryant. the smallest size they carry is 38DD, but they're good quality bras. also, sometimes they have buy one, get one half off sales.
I am also a 38DD.
As crazy as it may sound, Wal Mart has some great bras for $8.88. Fredericks of Hollywood also carries great bras.A question for fuller figured women...bra size 38DD and higher...i need your advice!?
I know it seems weird, but wear 2 bras. That's what I do, and I am also a 38DD.
The first bra should be one that lifts you. I wear one that is a cup size too small, it gives me some lift.
The second bra should be one that covers more area than the first, and it should be the right size. Get one that has a little bit of padding so it will smooth over the one that is a little small.
**By the way: wearing the smaller bra will give a minimizing effect.. it does for me.
I think you are not buying the proper fit bras. Instead of spending money on ones that break every two months, invest in a couple of GOOD bras. If there's a Victoria's Secret or a good lingerie shop near you, go in and have them measure you properly and assist you with buying the proper fit bra. There are bras out there for EVERY shape and size, so you need to put a concentrated effort in now. It will make life much easier for you down the road.
same problem i have.
unfortunately, you get what you pay for.
my advise is go to Victoria's Secret. Their bras give you good support and i love them.
expensive? yes.
worth it? totally.
42 DD.....was 38 DD til put on weight. Best bras i ever liked were from Avenue. Have worn their bras for many years. They have a few different styles that i really like. And are a little pricy (compared to like walmart) but resonable, but i try to catch the buy one get one half off sales .
They also last a while.....i know other brand underwires last much shorter before they manage to poke out at the ends or break.....and Ive never had them poking out at the ends with these bras....only eventually breaking........underwire breaking is what usually when the bra dies....but they are usually good at lasting a while before they break that I have actually had some that the cups losing elastisity and not supporting right was when i had to toss it and not the wire. I cant stand bras that do not have underwires. Ever since i got up to DD anything that didnt have an underwire either wasnt comfortable, or shapped them weird....pointy boobs are the worst. I used to like lane bryant too.....always liked how their underwire bras fit......but always had issues with the wires poking out....sometimes within a month of me having them. Havent worn them in years so may be better now....or i may have just had bad luck
forget victoria's secret, in my experience the few bras they have that will fit large boobs are just not sturdy enough to hold up. it's like they just made the bras for smaller sized boobs bigger without taking the physics of large breasts into account. if you want a decent bra that'll hold up longer than two months, you're going to have to shell out some cash for it (plan on paying at least $30). try frederick's of hollywood, i always loved their bras. also, another place you can try is lane bryant. the smallest size they carry is 38DD, but they're good quality bras. also, sometimes they have buy one, get one half off sales.
Quick one...advice for dating a younger woman???
I'm 22...and yes...I have been seeing an 18 year old girl....we went to the movies recently...and she put her hand in mine and said she was scared. i thought it was cute and later that night we made out a little, and then i took her home. She's a really cute and sweet girl, but she still lives with her parents. Any advice for dating a girl like this??? I think she likes being around me because I am secure, independent, and can financially support myself and the things we do.Quick one...advice for dating a younger woman???
LMAO damn..its really not that big of an age gap, im 18 and my bf is 24 we get along fine sweetie EVERY chick is gonna look at them dollar signs
but make sure shes got a license,car,job
if that hoe doesnt have those them shes not very mature for her ageQuick one...advice for dating a younger woman???
Just ride it out, sweety. She is not that much younger than you. Respect the fact she resides with her parents, enjoy your time getting to know her and see where it leads. I hope its great for you!
LMAO damn..its really not that big of an age gap, im 18 and my bf is 24 we get along fine sweetie EVERY chick is gonna look at them dollar signs
but make sure shes got a license,car,job
if that hoe doesnt have those them shes not very mature for her ageQuick one...advice for dating a younger woman???
Just ride it out, sweety. She is not that much younger than you. Respect the fact she resides with her parents, enjoy your time getting to know her and see where it leads. I hope its great for you!
Any advice for a newly pregnant woman!!??
HEY everyone.
I just found out that I am pregnant. I'm 5 weeks and have seen the double line that will change my life forever. it's actually not as bas as i thought.....i'm not sick and my breasts only tingle-not even sore! I'm just really tired!!! Is this normal? Any words of advice? I appreciate all advice..this is my first and I'm completely new at this whole thing!!
Thank you!Any advice for a newly pregnant woman!!??
Hey Lola!
congratulations! I am pregnant too!! 6 weeks...I'm not sick either, morning sickness actually appears usually within the second month, and it is normal to be tired, and to feel the need for sleep all the time..you may also want to pee more often, and feel a little abdominal pain (very mild)...
My advice to you is to quit smoking of you are a smoker or at least reduce it, also do not drink alcohol, and eat a healthy food, full of well cooked vegetables (avoid salads) and very well cooked meat, unless you know what is your serological status for toxoplasmosis and rubella...no cats allowed as well if you do not have this information...you may also need iron and folic acid so you 'd better go see your doctor as soon as possible to have the prescriptions you may need (acid folic is very important during the first weeks of pregnancy, our body gets its intake mostly from green vegetables )...
And above all, my advice to you is to enjoy these wonderfull moments!!!Any advice for a newly pregnant woman!!??
for the tiredness ask your doctor for iron pills this should make you feel a little better. eat lots, and drink lots of water when you have your first scan this will give you a clear pic of your baby :) best of luck
get on prenatal vitamins ASAP
also, a Doula or Midwife are great references for more natural ways of dealing with pregnancy. (A doula is a trained pregnancy coach, often a midwife in training, and a midwife can be both a coach %26amp; perform delivery)
Massage therapy is REALLY good for pregnant women, unless you are high risk. - find someone who is trained specifically in prenatal massage %26amp; make sure they are certified or licensed in your state.
Try not to spend too much time on your back as this will effect the positioning of the baby (get a fitness ball! They are great for pregnant women!)
practice squatting %26amp; kegels right away %26amp; regularly to get your pelvic muscles trained for what's ahead... and have your partner massage your perinium (area between vulva %26amp; anus) with oil or lotion, bonding experience with them that will also prevent ripping, tearing or an episiotomy. (sp?)
Don't drink alchohol.
See a doctor as soon as possible so you can get on prenatal vitamins. Health care is very important. Also, find some cocoa butter cream to keep stretch marks at bay. Enjoy this time and find some cute maternity clothes. Have fun!
You sound a lot like me..I was only 5 weeks when I found out too. Yes it is very normal to feel tired alot. It takes alot from you for your body to support and creat this new life. I'm 7 months and still tired alot. And it's also normal not to have breast tenderness. I never had this whole time. As you get farther along and they start to fill with pre-milk, they may start to feel sore then. But as for the not throwing up, you are lucky. Alot of pregnant women I know never got sick the whole time, and I had stayed sick. Some days it's not so bad. But everything you are experiencing so far is normal. You seem to have nothing to worry about. Good Luck and Congrats!!!
Aww congratulations! I just found out yesterday that I'm expecting number 2!
The best advice I can give you is to enjoy your pregnancy, no matter how tired (which yes, is so normal), hormonal, or sore you are, because soon after you have the baby, you'll miss it :)
Congrats!! How exciting- and scary!! Get the book ';What to expect when your expecting';. It's great!! Feeling tired is completely normal. It's your body telling you to get more rest, so listen! Drink plenty of water and try whole food vitamens until you get your prenatal vitamens from your doctor. They are available at most health food stores. Be careful what you eat too! Remember, anything you eat, or drink, so does your baby. No more McDonald's fake food, no more diet soda, and a glass of wine every now and then is a good thing for you and your baby. Also, take every bit of advice with a grain of salt - everyone will be telling you so many things!! oh, and childbirth is not as bad as everyone says. I think moms like to scare other moms-to-be. Stay relaxed and good luck!!
It is normal. Get lots of rest and eat healthy food. Don't eat and eat and eat, the baby will still gain weight if you don't over eat. The extra weight is hard to lose.
Congrats!
I recommend keeping active, eating healthy and taking prenatals. Besure to read as much as possible about being prego, as different trimesters are (obviously) different for the baby. Some months the baby benefits from tons of protein...etc.
Take care to get lots of rest (the first trimester is the worse, all your energy goes to the baby), but then it gets easier, until you are so big you have to have ten pillows positioned just right to get a wink of sleep, between the peeing..LOL.
Yoga and Swimming are excellent exercises while expecting.
Good luck!
Its very normal. You are making someone! That takes effort! Now go out and get the book What to Expect When Your Expecting. I went through many books over my three pregnancies, and thats the one i kept going back to. Its extremely detailed, well-written and easy to read. It also has way more info in it than most. Another good one is The Girlfriends Guide to Pregnancy, it is written in a funny context and gives some great advice. Now relax, grab a glass of milk, and settle down to read all there is to know about what is going on.
Being tired is soooo normal! i recommend you buy the book what to expect when your expecting! its a great book it really helped me out with so many questions i had about pregnancy! congratulations and good luck!
Congrats and enjoy it! You are very lucky because some of us have been trying to get where you are now for a while. Have a wonderful pregnancy!
Best advice...enjoy it!! I was never sick at all...only had itchy nipples. Enjoy the whole experience. I did, and can't wait to do it again.
Most importantly eat healthier and exercise regularly.
enjoy the following 8 months!!!!!!!!!
first of all congrats!!!second just dont do anything that will make u fall that will gove u a miscarrige!!!so be careful and eat right!!!
remember.. you're smoking for 2 now
congradulations i just had my baby and he is my first but anyways my pregnancy was easy just tired the whole entire time i will let u know enjoy ur sleep now cause your not goin to get it when the baby is born which is ok because the bundle of joy is all worth it. advice enjoy being pregnant it is a beautiful thing and before u know it u will have a baby to hold in ur arms good luck
my advice is to ignore 90% of advice you will be given!!! stick with what your doctor tells you, if you are uncomfortable switch doctors!
Congrats first off! Just remember your prenatals, exercise, and good nutrition. Enjoy it!
wooooooooow congrates..........just have goood nutrtion food...
Get the book what to expect when expecting-it will help you with any questions you may have-it really helped me with my first, I am sure it will do you well. Just take it easy and enjoy, congrats!!!!!
Well congratulations!! It is so exciting to be pregnant. Get ready for a wild ride with a lot of ups and downs! Yes being tired is a normal symptom. And I didnt get sick until I was 4 months!! I suggest that you just eat healthy and keep yourself hydrated. Also try to get some exercise in. Try walking! I really reccommend it! I was told to walk alot because it makes labor easier. I didnt listen and I was having conctractions for 4 days!! My labor went soooo slow! So start walkin girl!!
CONGRATS to all you women who are pregnant. My kids are now 36 and 33. Both of my pregnancies were the healthiest time of my life. I lOVED being pregnant. I wish I could do it all over again!!! Congrats again, and healthy happy babies to all!!!!!
yep!!! you will experience thing you never have before and sleepiness is something you get to look foward to for the rest of your life....haha... every woman is different so if you have any questions it is honestly best to ask your ob doctor he will not think you are silly.... expecially since its your first.... good luck and congrats
Enjoy your pregnancy and take a picture each week to show to your child some day... Congrats and best wishes!
Don't do tiring things, strains, exc... don't drink alcohol... if u want to eat s/t tell ur husband/boyfriend that u want it, if not ur child would have a birthmark... (that's a gd excuse 4 everything!)... and CONGRATULATIONS!!
Have fun w/ ur baby!! Would u prefer a daughter or a son? How will u call him/her? Do u already know it?
;-D Kisses
Good luck there is still alot to come just be easy on yourself and take care of your body eat healthy and go to the Dr on a regular basis usually every 4 weeks this early once again good luck!!!
congrats!!! pregnancy is such an awesome thing! I slept all the time for the first trimester...i was pooped. get what to expect when you're expecting, i turned to that book almost everyday! write things down, and just take it day by day. i know it's exciting to look forward to your next appt., but just savor the day!it goes by sssooooo quickly! and i didnt do any perineum massage, only one stitch. drink lots of water. Remember, everything you're doing is for two now! dont smoke or drink.
Congratulations! I'm sorry to tell you this but your symptoms may kick in in a couple more weeks. I was like you at first but then after 6 weeks I was sick as a dog and my boobs hurt like hell! The tiredness is normal too although I didn't suffer too much from this in the beginning. The only advice I can give you is just to take one day at a time, try not to worry too much, relax, get pampered and above all else, no matter how rough you might feel, really try to enjoy your pregnancy as it will be over before you know it.
I just found out that I am pregnant. I'm 5 weeks and have seen the double line that will change my life forever. it's actually not as bas as i thought.....i'm not sick and my breasts only tingle-not even sore! I'm just really tired!!! Is this normal? Any words of advice? I appreciate all advice..this is my first and I'm completely new at this whole thing!!
Thank you!Any advice for a newly pregnant woman!!??
Hey Lola!
congratulations! I am pregnant too!! 6 weeks...I'm not sick either, morning sickness actually appears usually within the second month, and it is normal to be tired, and to feel the need for sleep all the time..you may also want to pee more often, and feel a little abdominal pain (very mild)...
My advice to you is to quit smoking of you are a smoker or at least reduce it, also do not drink alcohol, and eat a healthy food, full of well cooked vegetables (avoid salads) and very well cooked meat, unless you know what is your serological status for toxoplasmosis and rubella...no cats allowed as well if you do not have this information...you may also need iron and folic acid so you 'd better go see your doctor as soon as possible to have the prescriptions you may need (acid folic is very important during the first weeks of pregnancy, our body gets its intake mostly from green vegetables )...
And above all, my advice to you is to enjoy these wonderfull moments!!!Any advice for a newly pregnant woman!!??
for the tiredness ask your doctor for iron pills this should make you feel a little better. eat lots, and drink lots of water when you have your first scan this will give you a clear pic of your baby :) best of luck
get on prenatal vitamins ASAP
also, a Doula or Midwife are great references for more natural ways of dealing with pregnancy. (A doula is a trained pregnancy coach, often a midwife in training, and a midwife can be both a coach %26amp; perform delivery)
Massage therapy is REALLY good for pregnant women, unless you are high risk. - find someone who is trained specifically in prenatal massage %26amp; make sure they are certified or licensed in your state.
Try not to spend too much time on your back as this will effect the positioning of the baby (get a fitness ball! They are great for pregnant women!)
practice squatting %26amp; kegels right away %26amp; regularly to get your pelvic muscles trained for what's ahead... and have your partner massage your perinium (area between vulva %26amp; anus) with oil or lotion, bonding experience with them that will also prevent ripping, tearing or an episiotomy. (sp?)
Don't drink alchohol.
See a doctor as soon as possible so you can get on prenatal vitamins. Health care is very important. Also, find some cocoa butter cream to keep stretch marks at bay. Enjoy this time and find some cute maternity clothes. Have fun!
You sound a lot like me..I was only 5 weeks when I found out too. Yes it is very normal to feel tired alot. It takes alot from you for your body to support and creat this new life. I'm 7 months and still tired alot. And it's also normal not to have breast tenderness. I never had this whole time. As you get farther along and they start to fill with pre-milk, they may start to feel sore then. But as for the not throwing up, you are lucky. Alot of pregnant women I know never got sick the whole time, and I had stayed sick. Some days it's not so bad. But everything you are experiencing so far is normal. You seem to have nothing to worry about. Good Luck and Congrats!!!
Aww congratulations! I just found out yesterday that I'm expecting number 2!
The best advice I can give you is to enjoy your pregnancy, no matter how tired (which yes, is so normal), hormonal, or sore you are, because soon after you have the baby, you'll miss it :)
Congrats!! How exciting- and scary!! Get the book ';What to expect when your expecting';. It's great!! Feeling tired is completely normal. It's your body telling you to get more rest, so listen! Drink plenty of water and try whole food vitamens until you get your prenatal vitamens from your doctor. They are available at most health food stores. Be careful what you eat too! Remember, anything you eat, or drink, so does your baby. No more McDonald's fake food, no more diet soda, and a glass of wine every now and then is a good thing for you and your baby. Also, take every bit of advice with a grain of salt - everyone will be telling you so many things!! oh, and childbirth is not as bad as everyone says. I think moms like to scare other moms-to-be. Stay relaxed and good luck!!
It is normal. Get lots of rest and eat healthy food. Don't eat and eat and eat, the baby will still gain weight if you don't over eat. The extra weight is hard to lose.
Congrats!
I recommend keeping active, eating healthy and taking prenatals. Besure to read as much as possible about being prego, as different trimesters are (obviously) different for the baby. Some months the baby benefits from tons of protein...etc.
Take care to get lots of rest (the first trimester is the worse, all your energy goes to the baby), but then it gets easier, until you are so big you have to have ten pillows positioned just right to get a wink of sleep, between the peeing..LOL.
Yoga and Swimming are excellent exercises while expecting.
Good luck!
Its very normal. You are making someone! That takes effort! Now go out and get the book What to Expect When Your Expecting. I went through many books over my three pregnancies, and thats the one i kept going back to. Its extremely detailed, well-written and easy to read. It also has way more info in it than most. Another good one is The Girlfriends Guide to Pregnancy, it is written in a funny context and gives some great advice. Now relax, grab a glass of milk, and settle down to read all there is to know about what is going on.
Being tired is soooo normal! i recommend you buy the book what to expect when your expecting! its a great book it really helped me out with so many questions i had about pregnancy! congratulations and good luck!
Congrats and enjoy it! You are very lucky because some of us have been trying to get where you are now for a while. Have a wonderful pregnancy!
Best advice...enjoy it!! I was never sick at all...only had itchy nipples. Enjoy the whole experience. I did, and can't wait to do it again.
Most importantly eat healthier and exercise regularly.
enjoy the following 8 months!!!!!!!!!
first of all congrats!!!second just dont do anything that will make u fall that will gove u a miscarrige!!!so be careful and eat right!!!
remember.. you're smoking for 2 now
congradulations i just had my baby and he is my first but anyways my pregnancy was easy just tired the whole entire time i will let u know enjoy ur sleep now cause your not goin to get it when the baby is born which is ok because the bundle of joy is all worth it. advice enjoy being pregnant it is a beautiful thing and before u know it u will have a baby to hold in ur arms good luck
my advice is to ignore 90% of advice you will be given!!! stick with what your doctor tells you, if you are uncomfortable switch doctors!
Congrats first off! Just remember your prenatals, exercise, and good nutrition. Enjoy it!
wooooooooow congrates..........just have goood nutrtion food...
Get the book what to expect when expecting-it will help you with any questions you may have-it really helped me with my first, I am sure it will do you well. Just take it easy and enjoy, congrats!!!!!
Well congratulations!! It is so exciting to be pregnant. Get ready for a wild ride with a lot of ups and downs! Yes being tired is a normal symptom. And I didnt get sick until I was 4 months!! I suggest that you just eat healthy and keep yourself hydrated. Also try to get some exercise in. Try walking! I really reccommend it! I was told to walk alot because it makes labor easier. I didnt listen and I was having conctractions for 4 days!! My labor went soooo slow! So start walkin girl!!
CONGRATS to all you women who are pregnant. My kids are now 36 and 33. Both of my pregnancies were the healthiest time of my life. I lOVED being pregnant. I wish I could do it all over again!!! Congrats again, and healthy happy babies to all!!!!!
yep!!! you will experience thing you never have before and sleepiness is something you get to look foward to for the rest of your life....haha... every woman is different so if you have any questions it is honestly best to ask your ob doctor he will not think you are silly.... expecially since its your first.... good luck and congrats
Enjoy your pregnancy and take a picture each week to show to your child some day... Congrats and best wishes!
Don't do tiring things, strains, exc... don't drink alcohol... if u want to eat s/t tell ur husband/boyfriend that u want it, if not ur child would have a birthmark... (that's a gd excuse 4 everything!)... and CONGRATULATIONS!!
Have fun w/ ur baby!! Would u prefer a daughter or a son? How will u call him/her? Do u already know it?
;-D Kisses
Good luck there is still alot to come just be easy on yourself and take care of your body eat healthy and go to the Dr on a regular basis usually every 4 weeks this early once again good luck!!!
congrats!!! pregnancy is such an awesome thing! I slept all the time for the first trimester...i was pooped. get what to expect when you're expecting, i turned to that book almost everyday! write things down, and just take it day by day. i know it's exciting to look forward to your next appt., but just savor the day!it goes by sssooooo quickly! and i didnt do any perineum massage, only one stitch. drink lots of water. Remember, everything you're doing is for two now! dont smoke or drink.
Congratulations! I'm sorry to tell you this but your symptoms may kick in in a couple more weeks. I was like you at first but then after 6 weeks I was sick as a dog and my boobs hurt like hell! The tiredness is normal too although I didn't suffer too much from this in the beginning. The only advice I can give you is just to take one day at a time, try not to worry too much, relax, get pampered and above all else, no matter how rough you might feel, really try to enjoy your pregnancy as it will be over before you know it.
Does anyone have any advice for an American man who is about to marry a Russian woman?
In a couple of months my fiancee will come to me here in the USA and we will marry. To answer your obvious questions:
No, we did not meet through the internet we met while I was working in Russia.
Yes, I have seen her and I know her better than most men know their fiancees.
Anyway, I just thought that since other people have done this perhaps you could let me know what I can do to help her adjust and be happy. Spasibo!Does anyone have any advice for an American man who is about to marry a Russian woman?
Learn Russian! If you have that mastered, you are ahead of the game. She will appreciate that, unless she is very fluent in English. Make sure she gets some time to learn about her new culture, don't expect her to sit at home and cook all day. Give her passes to local museums, art galleries, sporting events, concerts, anything. Learn Russian cuisine and make her meals that remind her of home, while introducing her to ';American'; foods.
Plan weekend getaways and spend lots of alone time with her. It can be lonely and overwhelming to move to a new and scary country.
Good luck!Does anyone have any advice for an American man who is about to marry a Russian woman?
I suspect that she will soon advise you herself on what you can do to make her happy..... As you're already her Fiancee, then you must be half way there already..........The very best to both of you !.
Be the best fiance ever. Shower her with kindness and gifts and make her feel at home. She's moving around the globe to be with you so you must be doing something right.
I don't know but you should try talking to her about things that would make her comfortable! I am very happy for you and your to-be wife, and I hope you two have a great future. Maybe wikipedia Russian culture,
Blessed Be
- Don't listen to the people who are sterotyping your wife, they don't know her.
make sure when she comes that she says that she doesnt plan on marrying anyone in the US when she is at Customs. Otherwise, they will most likely deny her entrance into the US. Just have her say she is visiting friends and touring.
She will break you!
well, my advice is don't do it unless you are 100% positive she is the real deal.
if you are convinced you must marry her then when she comes to america try to make her feel as comfortable as possible. make sure she knows that she can still hold on to her russian culture, she doesn't have to completely give that up to be an american. answer all her questions to the best of your ability. just think back to when you went to a place that wasn't familar to you. such as a new job. how did you feel? what things made you feel better and more comfortable? Be as supportive as possible and don't get fustrated if she doesn't understand certian american ways of doing things.
good luck
%26amp; congrats!
:]
RUN !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
be very careful. that is all i want to say.
Yes-DON'T!!!!
I know tons of ';Russian Brides'; at work and they all ';fall in love'; with Americans, come over here, and send for their mothers in a few months. They'll rule your life, push you around and make your life miserable. Do it only if you want to hand your balls over and never see them again.
LMAO at ';Russian women are hot';- which ones, the ones with mustaches or arms bigger than my waist?
Get a prenup. She might be shell shocked if she never came to america, i am not saying she will do anything bad, but the temptation is there. keep your money to yourself, and if she loves u she will sign.
Good Luck
She's gonna be hard to communicate with.
good luck, buddy. When it comes to certain cultural differences, take it in stride.
well it helps if you know her but lock down your assets for 5 yrs till you know for sure. i know a lot of scams and drama from loads of men who marry russian women and asian.thai women... manipulative and greedy and dominating after a few momnths when they get what they want and then pull the abuse card once they find out how that bloody works. lock her in a prenup.. if she doesn't do it then you know she is a scammer and liar. sorry.
I think the best thing to do is make sure that she really loves you and is not just looking for a greencard
No offence but it has happened before
If it's tru love...and I hope it is , introduce her to all of your friends....maybe take some extra holiday time when she comes over so you can help her adjust , etc
good Luck and Congrats
they are strong
she does not speak english?
well then, if she has problems with that, might as well helping her out with what ever has to do with her english.
put it like this, if she feels good with you, if she feels welcomed in your home and as youe wife, she will find her path and make it through here in the usa.
all you have to do is show her you love her (that is of course if you really do and this really isnt one of those pick through the net russian girl kinda thing) be romantic, support her when she needs it, and just be there for her always when ever need!!
good luck.
congrats. Russian women are hot.
learn hecca good russian
and how to cook russian food
nothing reminds you of home like food and language
No, we did not meet through the internet we met while I was working in Russia.
Yes, I have seen her and I know her better than most men know their fiancees.
Anyway, I just thought that since other people have done this perhaps you could let me know what I can do to help her adjust and be happy. Spasibo!Does anyone have any advice for an American man who is about to marry a Russian woman?
Learn Russian! If you have that mastered, you are ahead of the game. She will appreciate that, unless she is very fluent in English. Make sure she gets some time to learn about her new culture, don't expect her to sit at home and cook all day. Give her passes to local museums, art galleries, sporting events, concerts, anything. Learn Russian cuisine and make her meals that remind her of home, while introducing her to ';American'; foods.
Plan weekend getaways and spend lots of alone time with her. It can be lonely and overwhelming to move to a new and scary country.
Good luck!Does anyone have any advice for an American man who is about to marry a Russian woman?
I suspect that she will soon advise you herself on what you can do to make her happy..... As you're already her Fiancee, then you must be half way there already..........The very best to both of you !.
Be the best fiance ever. Shower her with kindness and gifts and make her feel at home. She's moving around the globe to be with you so you must be doing something right.
I don't know but you should try talking to her about things that would make her comfortable! I am very happy for you and your to-be wife, and I hope you two have a great future. Maybe wikipedia Russian culture,
Blessed Be
- Don't listen to the people who are sterotyping your wife, they don't know her.
make sure when she comes that she says that she doesnt plan on marrying anyone in the US when she is at Customs. Otherwise, they will most likely deny her entrance into the US. Just have her say she is visiting friends and touring.
She will break you!
well, my advice is don't do it unless you are 100% positive she is the real deal.
if you are convinced you must marry her then when she comes to america try to make her feel as comfortable as possible. make sure she knows that she can still hold on to her russian culture, she doesn't have to completely give that up to be an american. answer all her questions to the best of your ability. just think back to when you went to a place that wasn't familar to you. such as a new job. how did you feel? what things made you feel better and more comfortable? Be as supportive as possible and don't get fustrated if she doesn't understand certian american ways of doing things.
good luck
%26amp; congrats!
:]
RUN !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
be very careful. that is all i want to say.
Yes-DON'T!!!!
I know tons of ';Russian Brides'; at work and they all ';fall in love'; with Americans, come over here, and send for their mothers in a few months. They'll rule your life, push you around and make your life miserable. Do it only if you want to hand your balls over and never see them again.
LMAO at ';Russian women are hot';- which ones, the ones with mustaches or arms bigger than my waist?
Get a prenup. She might be shell shocked if she never came to america, i am not saying she will do anything bad, but the temptation is there. keep your money to yourself, and if she loves u she will sign.
Good Luck
She's gonna be hard to communicate with.
good luck, buddy. When it comes to certain cultural differences, take it in stride.
well it helps if you know her but lock down your assets for 5 yrs till you know for sure. i know a lot of scams and drama from loads of men who marry russian women and asian.thai women... manipulative and greedy and dominating after a few momnths when they get what they want and then pull the abuse card once they find out how that bloody works. lock her in a prenup.. if she doesn't do it then you know she is a scammer and liar. sorry.
I think the best thing to do is make sure that she really loves you and is not just looking for a greencard
No offence but it has happened before
If it's tru love...and I hope it is , introduce her to all of your friends....maybe take some extra holiday time when she comes over so you can help her adjust , etc
good Luck and Congrats
they are strong
she does not speak english?
well then, if she has problems with that, might as well helping her out with what ever has to do with her english.
put it like this, if she feels good with you, if she feels welcomed in your home and as youe wife, she will find her path and make it through here in the usa.
all you have to do is show her you love her (that is of course if you really do and this really isnt one of those pick through the net russian girl kinda thing) be romantic, support her when she needs it, and just be there for her always when ever need!!
good luck.
congrats. Russian women are hot.
learn hecca good russian
and how to cook russian food
nothing reminds you of home like food and language
Guy looking for advice on crazy woman behavior..?
I am married and my wife and I are having problems. The current issue tends to be that she feels ';smothered'; but I hardlly ever talk to her because she is avoiding me or does things to keep her busy. So now that she has pretty much told me to BACK UP I am moving on and finding other things to do and basically being as *** because my feelings are hurt but she is loving it and has even hinted that men should ';play hard to get like you don't love a woman or that you don't care and then you would be more interesting'; WTF!? If I continue to be a distant, irritable guy and it turns her on.. How is this supposed to work. I am quiet with my emotional wall up and she is looking at me lovingly. When I respond with warm conversation she acts like a so-and-so. I get mad again and put some distance between her and I and she can't wait until I return home.. to ignore her basically but when I enjoy the moment with her it turns her off.. WTF #2?Guy looking for advice on crazy woman behavior..?
If I were you Id leave you got married to be happy and you are obviously not.... who麓s to blame doesn't matter anymore.Guy looking for advice on crazy woman behavior..?
she sounds like she needs an abusive man to feel loved. maybe she had a screwed up childhood. get out while you can. you can be miserable by yourself.
Prayer there is to much chaos there for a husband %26amp; wife speak with your clergy..Read your vows again and analyze if it was just true for that moment or did you both mean it..God bless you have my prayers... God nevers gives to much to bare..
Either talk to her or write her a letter if she is hard to talk express your feelings and if you want things to work out suggest her soutions to this problems if not i will suggest you to move on there is no need to live under the same roof with even talking to each other.. A marriage is a thing of 2 to solve problems when they are good or bad..
seriously, meet her in the bathroom or somewhere else, give her the goods(no talking of course) when you are done, walk out (no talking of course) hope this works
Just take it for what it is it is hormones my husband is the same way but I have delt with his attitude and it is kind of nice sometimes keep only playing hard to get and have fun.
Sounds like she needs some serious counseling.May be something in her youth has taught that someone to close is scary.If this is her idea of kinky then tell her she needs a different playing stratergy, before you have to look for a new game.Talkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk
It sounds to me like she likes aan *** for a husband instead of a truly nice gentle guy. Someone just feel they need a source of danger or intrigue just to stay in a marriage. I think you have to get into some profeesional counselling and have the counselloer ask her why she needs you to be this way. She married you for you the last thing she should be doing is trying to change you after your married. I think really if she wnated someone like this she should have kept looking tell
her this is not the kind of guy you are and if she wants that kind of guy there is no other response then getting a divorce.
Why continue this escapade if all it is doing is making you confused and well pissed off and lonely.
God Bless and Best Wishes.
marriage counseling
We don't live with you guys so I can't tell you if you are a controlling guy or what. What I can tell from your description of your marriage is that you both need marriage counseling to sort out your issues. Suggest it to her.
You figured out the most difficult part--women are difficult! Just when you think you've figured us out, we give you another challenge. Could be that she's just tired of living the same old day-to-day life. Even though most women would appreciate a husband who wants to know what's going on with your day, that doesn't mean that it's the right thing to do with your wife. We're all different. and when we tell you what we want, sometimes 10 minutes later we want and need something totally different. We get hurt if you can't tell exactly what we need when we need it. We're much more complicated than men.
I would just play her little game if I were you. Just let her come to you. Then she might complain, ';How come you don't love me anymore?'; There's no one right answer to this.
No, you don't play hard to get or get mad or withdraw nor be a martyr.
You love her, court her, admire her, and charm her!!! Call her darling, sweetheart, babydoll, princess, and introduce her everywhere as Miss Universe or My Beloved Bride. Rub her neck for her or her feet - bring some joy home with you. She may be suspicious at first, but keep it up If you cannot win her over, insist on counseling.
Joy to you!!!
If
Women can be very frustrating some times. I generally don't put up with it, and if it is something that continues, I just move on. Life is way too short to live with a *****. You must make your own decisions, hope it works out for you.
You have a very bossy wife. I think it is time to let her know that you have as much right in that marriage as her. Stand up for yourself and put her in her place and if she wants to leave, then tell her selavi (goodbye).
I'd think with my legs!!!...
Honestly, this sounds like something I went through in high school. I hated guys that showed too much interest and were clingy. That said, that mentally ended for ME when I was about 25. Then I started appreciating interest. I agree with Chris to an extent, it sounds like she may have had some issues in childhood that cause her to feel more comfortable with a more stern, distant, neglecting guy. Have you always been the way you are with her...before you got married did you act the same as far as nice and interested?? I don't quite understand why she has changed her attitude. It could be that she is getting restless and ';too comfortable'; but you being mean should not be the answer...it's not working out for you. You can suggest counseling, that would be a start. If she denies you that there's not much more you can do. Good luck.your cosmetics
If I were you Id leave you got married to be happy and you are obviously not.... who麓s to blame doesn't matter anymore.Guy looking for advice on crazy woman behavior..?
she sounds like she needs an abusive man to feel loved. maybe she had a screwed up childhood. get out while you can. you can be miserable by yourself.
Prayer there is to much chaos there for a husband %26amp; wife speak with your clergy..Read your vows again and analyze if it was just true for that moment or did you both mean it..God bless you have my prayers... God nevers gives to much to bare..
Either talk to her or write her a letter if she is hard to talk express your feelings and if you want things to work out suggest her soutions to this problems if not i will suggest you to move on there is no need to live under the same roof with even talking to each other.. A marriage is a thing of 2 to solve problems when they are good or bad..
seriously, meet her in the bathroom or somewhere else, give her the goods(no talking of course) when you are done, walk out (no talking of course) hope this works
Just take it for what it is it is hormones my husband is the same way but I have delt with his attitude and it is kind of nice sometimes keep only playing hard to get and have fun.
Sounds like she needs some serious counseling.May be something in her youth has taught that someone to close is scary.If this is her idea of kinky then tell her she needs a different playing stratergy, before you have to look for a new game.Talkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk
It sounds to me like she likes aan *** for a husband instead of a truly nice gentle guy. Someone just feel they need a source of danger or intrigue just to stay in a marriage. I think you have to get into some profeesional counselling and have the counselloer ask her why she needs you to be this way. She married you for you the last thing she should be doing is trying to change you after your married. I think really if she wnated someone like this she should have kept looking tell
her this is not the kind of guy you are and if she wants that kind of guy there is no other response then getting a divorce.
Why continue this escapade if all it is doing is making you confused and well pissed off and lonely.
God Bless and Best Wishes.
marriage counseling
We don't live with you guys so I can't tell you if you are a controlling guy or what. What I can tell from your description of your marriage is that you both need marriage counseling to sort out your issues. Suggest it to her.
You figured out the most difficult part--women are difficult! Just when you think you've figured us out, we give you another challenge. Could be that she's just tired of living the same old day-to-day life. Even though most women would appreciate a husband who wants to know what's going on with your day, that doesn't mean that it's the right thing to do with your wife. We're all different. and when we tell you what we want, sometimes 10 minutes later we want and need something totally different. We get hurt if you can't tell exactly what we need when we need it. We're much more complicated than men.
I would just play her little game if I were you. Just let her come to you. Then she might complain, ';How come you don't love me anymore?'; There's no one right answer to this.
No, you don't play hard to get or get mad or withdraw nor be a martyr.
You love her, court her, admire her, and charm her!!! Call her darling, sweetheart, babydoll, princess, and introduce her everywhere as Miss Universe or My Beloved Bride. Rub her neck for her or her feet - bring some joy home with you. She may be suspicious at first, but keep it up If you cannot win her over, insist on counseling.
Joy to you!!!
If
Women can be very frustrating some times. I generally don't put up with it, and if it is something that continues, I just move on. Life is way too short to live with a *****. You must make your own decisions, hope it works out for you.
You have a very bossy wife. I think it is time to let her know that you have as much right in that marriage as her. Stand up for yourself and put her in her place and if she wants to leave, then tell her selavi (goodbye).
I'd think with my legs!!!...
Honestly, this sounds like something I went through in high school. I hated guys that showed too much interest and were clingy. That said, that mentally ended for ME when I was about 25. Then I started appreciating interest. I agree with Chris to an extent, it sounds like she may have had some issues in childhood that cause her to feel more comfortable with a more stern, distant, neglecting guy. Have you always been the way you are with her...before you got married did you act the same as far as nice and interested?? I don't quite understand why she has changed her attitude. It could be that she is getting restless and ';too comfortable'; but you being mean should not be the answer...it's not working out for you. You can suggest counseling, that would be a start. If she denies you that there's not much more you can do. Good luck.
Seasoned women: What advice can you give to teenage girls, concerning guys and what to look for in them?
Question is pretty straight-forward. Here it is again: Seasoned women: What advice can you give to teenage girls, concerning guys and what to look for in them?
Obviously I'll get some answers like ';oh, he has to be compassionate.. and sweet.. and handsome..'; but I want to see more than that. An example --%26gt; A guy that is good to his mother will be good to his wife.
Put your thinking caps on.Seasoned women: What advice can you give to teenage girls, concerning guys and what to look for in them?
Hi, I've kissed a lot of frogs in my day so therefore I think this is exactly my area of expertise.
Make sure he has a similar religion to yours, all kinds of problems can result if you are Christian (for instance) and he is something else.
Lying and cheating and battering (be it physical or mental), I do not put up with at all (anymore), but I had to learn that the hard way. Save yourself the trouble, by observing closely if he has these tendencies. If you see he does, then dump him like a hot potato immediately, because that behavior is in his genes and CANNOT change (even for you), no matter how much he professes his love or commitment to you, he will never change, because he CANNOT HELP IT!!!
Watch C %26amp; I - A LOT - it will put enough fear in you to make you extra careful about how you meet guys. Always meet in a PUBLIC area and never go home with them or take them home until you are absolutely sure what you are dealing with. Never give out your telephone numbers or home/ work address until you are absolutely sure what you are dealing with. Im my youth it was still safe to do so but not anymore.
Read the book: ';He's Just Not That Into You';, the author was on the Oprah show a while back. His thoughts are right on target!
DO a proper study of his family before you get involved, if his family are awful, you will always hit your head against a brick wall, especially if he is dead loyal to them and not you.
Check out his relationship with his mother in particular. If she has too much of a hold on him or he is having a problem letting go of her apron strings, then you are going to run into another kind of brick wall. Steer well clear of ';Mummy's Boys';.
Find out ahead of time if he ever wants to have children, to avoid disappointment later. See how he is with children and animals.
If he takes drugs or drinks like a fish that is going to be unlikely to change and neither will you ever be able to change that, because they just get more and more addicted. Trust me, I KNOW all the problems and pitfalls that come with that. Your life is turned upside down in such a relationship, because the man's whole personality changes for the worse whenever under the influence or high, and the man does nasty things he wouldn't normally do if he was clean.
I tried a relationship across the colour bar (which proves I am not racist). For me it didn't work, because our two cultures were too different. His culture was very drug and gangster orientated and my culture was very drug free and law abiding. Steer well clear of gangsters, or the mob, your whole life with become a mess if you hang around with that.
Most relationships fall apart because of money. Check out if he is a miser or if he spends his money like it's coming out of fashion. Either way it won't help you in the future. He needs to be balanced and sensible/ reasonable in this area.
If you have more questions or you want more advice feel free to e-mail me, as I have loads of experience with men.Seasoned women: What advice can you give to teenage girls, concerning guys and what to look for in them?
Girls are often attracted to the 'dangerous' type of guy, the boy who's the rebel and has a bad attitude toward authority. At the risk of freaking out the feminists, the reason lies in the feminine desire to have a strong, more domineering mate. But reality is that these are usually the guys who are the losers in school and in life. So you have to set your sites higher is you want a better chance at a better life. So avoid the losers and go for the guys who care about education, their appearance and have high standards. Start dating losers and you'll end up married to one and clawing your way through life.
Don't just look at the surface by noticing how good looking he is. Yes, young guys are cute and attractive, but try to see behind the flesh and bones. Try to see how they cope in an extreme situation Do they buckle under pressure, or do they lose their temper, or run away. Are they brave? Will they stand up to a bullying person? Will they take pity on a poor person who is begging in the street? Will they help an elderly woman cross the road? Will they keep their promises or will they break them and then make poor excuses for having broken them? You have to be an astute observer!
I hang out on YA in the relationship departments because I find the questions and answers very interesting.
What I have observed is that most people are just clueless about the opposite sex.
Finding our mate should happen after we find ourselves. We need to make sure that we are doing the right things in life so that we attract the right type of people to our mix. If you are doing the wrong things, then you will surely attract the wrong guy or gal.
Not much to add but how does he treat authority -
Parents
School
Governments - all levels
Is he up to the challenge of making changes? The world is not a constant.
What is his work ethic?
How is he around little kids and animals?
And was mentioned, how does he treat other females in his life - mother, sisters, grandmothers, etc.
Is he flirty with others when with you? A BIG NO-NO.
Does he have a sense of humor?
And is his mind above the gutter? VERY IMPORTANT.
Um correction just because a guy is good to his mommy doesn't mean he wont try to kill his GF! Psycho has taught me well. As long as he has a job and a car and doesn't still call his mom...mommy then you go for him! The shy quiet guys are the freakiest! The ones that look really really hot are either gay or full of themselves or harbor many STD's. Go for the guy that is laid back and funny but knows how to be a little serious too.
Well I guess Id advise a teenage girl to look for a guy that wasnt constantly trying to get in her knickers or use her as a ';trophey'; girlfriend, and to go for a guy that whilst might not be the coolest or hottest guy in school - but one that would treat her with respect.
xx
I think it's been pretty much covered now, PP - particularly well by Angelmusic, in my opinion, since she skipped the waffle and got right to several very salient points.
It only remains for me to give you that star, mate!
I'd say go out with a guy who will respect you for your morals and treats you with respect. Don't get some drop out who has nothing to offer you but what is in his pants.
Inner Happiness - Bigger dick than wallet.
Material Happiness - Bigger wallet than dick.
hmmm, well he has to make me laugh :D
PS. i love Peter Petrelli, lol Heroes rocks!!
Not sure I fully answer the description ';seasoned woman'; since I'm only 30, but maybe I'm not *that* long out of my teens and that'll help :)
Teenage girls are very sensitive to looks. Which isn't a bad thing, but obviously you have to see a bit further than that. He mainly I think needs to be kind.
Kindness and respect are the most important things at that age. You're not looking for a life partner, but you need someone who respects you.
Around 14/15, boys will obviously start thinking about sex, in my experience girls take a little longer. So if he does anything you're not comfortable with, make him stop. If he gets in a mood, or threatens to dump you if you don't have sex with him, run away!!! It's the sign of a controlling personality, and that's never a good thing.
He should also respect your tastes and choices. He should like you for who you are, so even if he doesn't like the same music, he shouldn't tell you off for liking what you like. He shouldn't try to change the way you dress either: you are who you are, and clothes are a big part of someone's personality. If he says: I don't think this suits you, then fine, he's merely expressing an opinion. If he says: you look like a tramp in this: not fine!
He should also like (or at least get on with) you friends. If your friends don't like him, it's a bad sign, especially if you've known your friends for a long time, they know you very well and can tell if someone is making you unhappy.
Going back to the ';sex'; problem, there is no right or wrong thing to do, as long as you're ok with it. If you're ok with him touching your boobs, then why not; if you're ok touching him, fine. But never EVER ever do anything you're not comfortable with. If he gets angry, leave him. Your body is important, and your needs come first, not his. He should understand that if he really likes you. Sex is a very important part of later relationships, and bad experiences when you're young can affect your sex life later. Wait until you're ready, and only do it with someone you like and trust, preferably someone you've been with for a little while, who understands and likes you. If your friends are doing it, if his friends are doing it, it doesn't matter. People mature at different rates.
There we go, that was my bit of advice. I think others have said interesting things as well, so I won't repeat them :)
Obviously I'll get some answers like ';oh, he has to be compassionate.. and sweet.. and handsome..'; but I want to see more than that. An example --%26gt; A guy that is good to his mother will be good to his wife.
Put your thinking caps on.Seasoned women: What advice can you give to teenage girls, concerning guys and what to look for in them?
Hi, I've kissed a lot of frogs in my day so therefore I think this is exactly my area of expertise.
Make sure he has a similar religion to yours, all kinds of problems can result if you are Christian (for instance) and he is something else.
Lying and cheating and battering (be it physical or mental), I do not put up with at all (anymore), but I had to learn that the hard way. Save yourself the trouble, by observing closely if he has these tendencies. If you see he does, then dump him like a hot potato immediately, because that behavior is in his genes and CANNOT change (even for you), no matter how much he professes his love or commitment to you, he will never change, because he CANNOT HELP IT!!!
Watch C %26amp; I - A LOT - it will put enough fear in you to make you extra careful about how you meet guys. Always meet in a PUBLIC area and never go home with them or take them home until you are absolutely sure what you are dealing with. Never give out your telephone numbers or home/ work address until you are absolutely sure what you are dealing with. Im my youth it was still safe to do so but not anymore.
Read the book: ';He's Just Not That Into You';, the author was on the Oprah show a while back. His thoughts are right on target!
DO a proper study of his family before you get involved, if his family are awful, you will always hit your head against a brick wall, especially if he is dead loyal to them and not you.
Check out his relationship with his mother in particular. If she has too much of a hold on him or he is having a problem letting go of her apron strings, then you are going to run into another kind of brick wall. Steer well clear of ';Mummy's Boys';.
Find out ahead of time if he ever wants to have children, to avoid disappointment later. See how he is with children and animals.
If he takes drugs or drinks like a fish that is going to be unlikely to change and neither will you ever be able to change that, because they just get more and more addicted. Trust me, I KNOW all the problems and pitfalls that come with that. Your life is turned upside down in such a relationship, because the man's whole personality changes for the worse whenever under the influence or high, and the man does nasty things he wouldn't normally do if he was clean.
I tried a relationship across the colour bar (which proves I am not racist). For me it didn't work, because our two cultures were too different. His culture was very drug and gangster orientated and my culture was very drug free and law abiding. Steer well clear of gangsters, or the mob, your whole life with become a mess if you hang around with that.
Most relationships fall apart because of money. Check out if he is a miser or if he spends his money like it's coming out of fashion. Either way it won't help you in the future. He needs to be balanced and sensible/ reasonable in this area.
If you have more questions or you want more advice feel free to e-mail me, as I have loads of experience with men.Seasoned women: What advice can you give to teenage girls, concerning guys and what to look for in them?
Girls are often attracted to the 'dangerous' type of guy, the boy who's the rebel and has a bad attitude toward authority. At the risk of freaking out the feminists, the reason lies in the feminine desire to have a strong, more domineering mate. But reality is that these are usually the guys who are the losers in school and in life. So you have to set your sites higher is you want a better chance at a better life. So avoid the losers and go for the guys who care about education, their appearance and have high standards. Start dating losers and you'll end up married to one and clawing your way through life.
Don't just look at the surface by noticing how good looking he is. Yes, young guys are cute and attractive, but try to see behind the flesh and bones. Try to see how they cope in an extreme situation Do they buckle under pressure, or do they lose their temper, or run away. Are they brave? Will they stand up to a bullying person? Will they take pity on a poor person who is begging in the street? Will they help an elderly woman cross the road? Will they keep their promises or will they break them and then make poor excuses for having broken them? You have to be an astute observer!
I hang out on YA in the relationship departments because I find the questions and answers very interesting.
What I have observed is that most people are just clueless about the opposite sex.
Finding our mate should happen after we find ourselves. We need to make sure that we are doing the right things in life so that we attract the right type of people to our mix. If you are doing the wrong things, then you will surely attract the wrong guy or gal.
Not much to add but how does he treat authority -
Parents
School
Governments - all levels
Is he up to the challenge of making changes? The world is not a constant.
What is his work ethic?
How is he around little kids and animals?
And was mentioned, how does he treat other females in his life - mother, sisters, grandmothers, etc.
Is he flirty with others when with you? A BIG NO-NO.
Does he have a sense of humor?
And is his mind above the gutter? VERY IMPORTANT.
Um correction just because a guy is good to his mommy doesn't mean he wont try to kill his GF! Psycho has taught me well. As long as he has a job and a car and doesn't still call his mom...mommy then you go for him! The shy quiet guys are the freakiest! The ones that look really really hot are either gay or full of themselves or harbor many STD's. Go for the guy that is laid back and funny but knows how to be a little serious too.
Well I guess Id advise a teenage girl to look for a guy that wasnt constantly trying to get in her knickers or use her as a ';trophey'; girlfriend, and to go for a guy that whilst might not be the coolest or hottest guy in school - but one that would treat her with respect.
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I think it's been pretty much covered now, PP - particularly well by Angelmusic, in my opinion, since she skipped the waffle and got right to several very salient points.
It only remains for me to give you that star, mate!
I'd say go out with a guy who will respect you for your morals and treats you with respect. Don't get some drop out who has nothing to offer you but what is in his pants.
Inner Happiness - Bigger dick than wallet.
Material Happiness - Bigger wallet than dick.
hmmm, well he has to make me laugh :D
PS. i love Peter Petrelli, lol Heroes rocks!!
Not sure I fully answer the description ';seasoned woman'; since I'm only 30, but maybe I'm not *that* long out of my teens and that'll help :)
Teenage girls are very sensitive to looks. Which isn't a bad thing, but obviously you have to see a bit further than that. He mainly I think needs to be kind.
Kindness and respect are the most important things at that age. You're not looking for a life partner, but you need someone who respects you.
Around 14/15, boys will obviously start thinking about sex, in my experience girls take a little longer. So if he does anything you're not comfortable with, make him stop. If he gets in a mood, or threatens to dump you if you don't have sex with him, run away!!! It's the sign of a controlling personality, and that's never a good thing.
He should also respect your tastes and choices. He should like you for who you are, so even if he doesn't like the same music, he shouldn't tell you off for liking what you like. He shouldn't try to change the way you dress either: you are who you are, and clothes are a big part of someone's personality. If he says: I don't think this suits you, then fine, he's merely expressing an opinion. If he says: you look like a tramp in this: not fine!
He should also like (or at least get on with) you friends. If your friends don't like him, it's a bad sign, especially if you've known your friends for a long time, they know you very well and can tell if someone is making you unhappy.
Going back to the ';sex'; problem, there is no right or wrong thing to do, as long as you're ok with it. If you're ok with him touching your boobs, then why not; if you're ok touching him, fine. But never EVER ever do anything you're not comfortable with. If he gets angry, leave him. Your body is important, and your needs come first, not his. He should understand that if he really likes you. Sex is a very important part of later relationships, and bad experiences when you're young can affect your sex life later. Wait until you're ready, and only do it with someone you like and trust, preferably someone you've been with for a little while, who understands and likes you. If your friends are doing it, if his friends are doing it, it doesn't matter. People mature at different rates.
There we go, that was my bit of advice. I think others have said interesting things as well, so I won't repeat them :)
Looking for advice from a woman please, on how do go about re-establisihing a frienship with my ex-girlfrie?
Please can one of you ladies provide me with some advice on how to reestablishing a friendship with my ex-girlfriend. we broke up in good terms and along the way it got real bad and she doesn't even want to talk to me anymore. I know for the holidays it would be a great time to do it especially woman tend to reflect on the good times and get sad, i was thinking of sending a bouquet of champagne and a card for her parents and a card just for her, to ask for forgiveness. i want to leave a question mark in her head for example i am not asking her back at the same time i did not say that i didn't want her back...please one of you ladies drop down a few ideas for me and also what should i write on her card. I really love this woman and also should i send her a gift...i was thinking of sending everything on the 31 of december....HELP
Advice for a Pisces man who is interested in an Aries woman with a bf?
I'm a 22 yr old Pisces. She's an 18 yr old Aries. I feel like she likes me a lot, we get along really well but she has a boyfriend who is currently away at work for about a month. We have an obvious connection but it's so frustrating that she's currently in a relationship. She once told me something like, ';Don't worry, it prob won't last.'; I know that I should wait to make a move and be hopeful that her current relationship will end, but I'm afraid that the spark will go away and I've never met anyone like this girl before. She rarely mentions her boyfriend to me and friends who have seen us together say that she shows signs of attraction when she's around me. However, I know that she is the type of girl who is loyal to whoever she is with and I definitely do not want to be a home-wrecker. Please help. Thanks so much.Advice for a Pisces man who is interested in an Aries woman with a bf?
Wait. Trust me. Wait. As painful as it is. Take it from a Pisces whose been there.Wait.Advice for a Pisces man who is interested in an Aries woman with a bf?
Speaking as an Aries woman, if she's even giving you the time of day you can be pretty sure she's interested. If we're not interested, we won't waste our time. We're also very perceptive when it comes to our relationships so if she says it prob won't last, it prob won't. Just wait it out....
If you dont want to be a home breaker uppper then dont. There is alot of like here but u can still respect the fact that she has a bf and she should too! and not encourage u by saying it probably won't last ..kind of manipulative. If you really like her then u will still stick around at a distance n wait ur turn regardless of what she is sayings its better to watch n see what she does
err she shouldnt be saying 'it prob wont last'
why is she even in relationship if she feels that way
pisces, stop being a push over and use your sense
if youve never met anyone like her before, the sparks wont go away most likely haha. i would wait.
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Wait. Trust me. Wait. As painful as it is. Take it from a Pisces whose been there.Wait.Advice for a Pisces man who is interested in an Aries woman with a bf?
Speaking as an Aries woman, if she's even giving you the time of day you can be pretty sure she's interested. If we're not interested, we won't waste our time. We're also very perceptive when it comes to our relationships so if she says it prob won't last, it prob won't. Just wait it out....
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If you dont want to be a home breaker uppper then dont. There is alot of like here but u can still respect the fact that she has a bf and she should too! and not encourage u by saying it probably won't last ..kind of manipulative. If you really like her then u will still stick around at a distance n wait ur turn regardless of what she is sayings its better to watch n see what she does
err she shouldnt be saying 'it prob wont last'
why is she even in relationship if she feels that way
pisces, stop being a push over and use your sense
if youve never met anyone like her before, the sparks wont go away most likely haha. i would wait.
Find someone Single.
I need advice on sex! This is for the woman.?
I dated this guy like 5 years ago and we are starting to talk again now but I'm not sure what to do. Everything is great between us, we get along great, have fun together. He's the perfect guy! Tall, cute, good values and morals. Except there is one problem. Sex is horrible with him. What do I do? It's not that he doesn't know what to do, is more like his equipment is on the smallish side. Nothing you can fix. For me I love sex and its important to me. SO what do I do? I need advice on sex! This is for the woman.?
i feel like you guys broke up for a reason. if sex is that important to you then its gping to bother you in the long run. i wouldnt even waste his time.I need advice on sex! This is for the woman.?
Me and my boyfriend both think it shouldn't be the basis of a relationship and the most inprotant thing. What makes it so horrible maybe it is because you really don't have the feelings for him you think you do. That is something you have to figure out. Too much sex can ruin a relationship and so can not enough. Just because he is on 'the smallish side' doesn't mean he can't please you. If he is good with something else well let him do that before
Oh that sucks...That is like the worst possible situation. I don't know if you watch sex and the city but it reminds me of that one episode with Samantha...anyways...Perhaps he can help hone his skills in other area's. I would suggest talking to him about it, maybe not say its because your penis is to small but something like I just don't get off through just vaginal intercourse...we need to come up with ways to make it better. That way he doesn't think its him so his confidence isn't shattered and he will be willing to do whatever it takes! Good luck cause sex is extremely important to me too, and if its not good its gone! lol
Have you ever watched Man and Wife on MTV? This is the perfect question to ask them. You can find their info on MTV.com to find out how to ask them. They will give you good advice.
Anyways if it were me, I like to take control in the bed when the man is not packing in that area.. It sucks but I do what I have to do to get mine like getting on top. But if you are trying to go somewhere with this relationship then you are going to have to teach him how to hit the right spots so he can give you some pleasure. Trust me I've been in the same situation. Its not the size its the way they work it..
Hope this helps.. good luck!!
......Shame on YOU darlin.
.....remind him of what a great friend and special person he is first........and then go out and find the new great guy with the new big equipment darlin...and be quiet.....what else?
He can't help it that God didn't bless him in the penile department darlin.........but maybe after five years sweetie?......maybe he's aquired some great tongue dance techniques possibly!
YIKES!!!
Go easy on him sweetie........cause great tongue enthusiasts can sometimes do great numbers on your very sensitive pleasure centers otherwise.......agreed?
Find out his real oral skills and tehniques first babe........and worry about cavity filling qualifications later.
Sound cool to you too sister?
Keep it wet.....and buy yourself a special toy to fill in the rest of the blanks with.....k?
Try to enjoy a good man really sweetie!
Not everyone has a big dick otherwise.
There is nothing you can do about the size i'm afraid although you could try alternatives, why not foreplay more or even invest in a few sex toys. Just an option for you. Good Luck
try dating him again and see if he has learned any new moves, if not and he is so perfect, forget the sex or spice it up your own way i.e toys and such
Have you tried tantric. It show you different breathing techniques that can help you orgasum.
.
try different positions and angles. you on top might work better.
surrender the guy
i know you asked for female advice here, but i feel that this is also a ';male'; problem too-
the concept of bieng sexually incompatable is not unique to women, if a woman is too small for a larger/wider guy then thats a problem too.
you need to examine sex and what you get out of it (specific acts), would you be just as pleased with oral sex?
if he is horrific in that department he can learn if he has a desire(unless he is the lizard man with a small tounge too)?
find alternative ways to get off to improve your sex life or find positions where he might hit the right spot easier.
there is also the option of incorporating sex toys into the mix but many immature and insecure guys are threatened by a woman's ';best friend';. (ok, maybe i'm a little harsh- that comfort level for guys comes with age, so a 20 yr old might take ';old faithfull'; personally while a guy in his 40's would almost certainly not).
he is obvioulsy not the ';perfect'; guy- no guy or girl is perfect- they are only ';perfect'; for you- which if you don't mesh sexually- and it is an issue for you- sounds like it is, then he might not be so perfect for you.
try to teach him and COMMUNICATE what you like and don't and what feels better- women DO come with instruction manuals- unfortunately they are VERBAL instruction manuals and need to be spoken (men do too but we are easier to figure out).
communication in yoru sex life is just as important as it is in every other aspect of your relationship-
sex is not to be ';pushed aside';- its how you explore your lover privately and feel physically connected to each other- without a good connection sexually the relaitonship will suffer greatly.
work out your issues with him and experiment- try not to get frustrated with him outwardly or he will pick up on it and it will create more frustration.
be patient and communicate your sexual needs to him, if he doesn't meet those (because he can't or won't) then you need to examine if this will meet your needs in the relationship and if you are willing to make that sacrifice-
if you are not- it isn't his or your fault, just the way it is- if you are, great problem sovled.
i feel like you guys broke up for a reason. if sex is that important to you then its gping to bother you in the long run. i wouldnt even waste his time.I need advice on sex! This is for the woman.?
Me and my boyfriend both think it shouldn't be the basis of a relationship and the most inprotant thing. What makes it so horrible maybe it is because you really don't have the feelings for him you think you do. That is something you have to figure out. Too much sex can ruin a relationship and so can not enough. Just because he is on 'the smallish side' doesn't mean he can't please you. If he is good with something else well let him do that before
Oh that sucks...That is like the worst possible situation. I don't know if you watch sex and the city but it reminds me of that one episode with Samantha...anyways...Perhaps he can help hone his skills in other area's. I would suggest talking to him about it, maybe not say its because your penis is to small but something like I just don't get off through just vaginal intercourse...we need to come up with ways to make it better. That way he doesn't think its him so his confidence isn't shattered and he will be willing to do whatever it takes! Good luck cause sex is extremely important to me too, and if its not good its gone! lol
Have you ever watched Man and Wife on MTV? This is the perfect question to ask them. You can find their info on MTV.com to find out how to ask them. They will give you good advice.
Anyways if it were me, I like to take control in the bed when the man is not packing in that area.. It sucks but I do what I have to do to get mine like getting on top. But if you are trying to go somewhere with this relationship then you are going to have to teach him how to hit the right spots so he can give you some pleasure. Trust me I've been in the same situation. Its not the size its the way they work it..
Hope this helps.. good luck!!
......Shame on YOU darlin.
.....remind him of what a great friend and special person he is first........and then go out and find the new great guy with the new big equipment darlin...and be quiet.....what else?
He can't help it that God didn't bless him in the penile department darlin.........but maybe after five years sweetie?......maybe he's aquired some great tongue dance techniques possibly!
YIKES!!!
Go easy on him sweetie........cause great tongue enthusiasts can sometimes do great numbers on your very sensitive pleasure centers otherwise.......agreed?
Find out his real oral skills and tehniques first babe........and worry about cavity filling qualifications later.
Sound cool to you too sister?
Keep it wet.....and buy yourself a special toy to fill in the rest of the blanks with.....k?
Try to enjoy a good man really sweetie!
Not everyone has a big dick otherwise.
There is nothing you can do about the size i'm afraid although you could try alternatives, why not foreplay more or even invest in a few sex toys. Just an option for you. Good Luck
try dating him again and see if he has learned any new moves, if not and he is so perfect, forget the sex or spice it up your own way i.e toys and such
Have you tried tantric. It show you different breathing techniques that can help you orgasum.
.
try different positions and angles. you on top might work better.
surrender the guy
i know you asked for female advice here, but i feel that this is also a ';male'; problem too-
the concept of bieng sexually incompatable is not unique to women, if a woman is too small for a larger/wider guy then thats a problem too.
you need to examine sex and what you get out of it (specific acts), would you be just as pleased with oral sex?
if he is horrific in that department he can learn if he has a desire(unless he is the lizard man with a small tounge too)?
find alternative ways to get off to improve your sex life or find positions where he might hit the right spot easier.
there is also the option of incorporating sex toys into the mix but many immature and insecure guys are threatened by a woman's ';best friend';. (ok, maybe i'm a little harsh- that comfort level for guys comes with age, so a 20 yr old might take ';old faithfull'; personally while a guy in his 40's would almost certainly not).
he is obvioulsy not the ';perfect'; guy- no guy or girl is perfect- they are only ';perfect'; for you- which if you don't mesh sexually- and it is an issue for you- sounds like it is, then he might not be so perfect for you.
try to teach him and COMMUNICATE what you like and don't and what feels better- women DO come with instruction manuals- unfortunately they are VERBAL instruction manuals and need to be spoken (men do too but we are easier to figure out).
communication in yoru sex life is just as important as it is in every other aspect of your relationship-
sex is not to be ';pushed aside';- its how you explore your lover privately and feel physically connected to each other- without a good connection sexually the relaitonship will suffer greatly.
work out your issues with him and experiment- try not to get frustrated with him outwardly or he will pick up on it and it will create more frustration.
be patient and communicate your sexual needs to him, if he doesn't meet those (because he can't or won't) then you need to examine if this will meet your needs in the relationship and if you are willing to make that sacrifice-
if you are not- it isn't his or your fault, just the way it is- if you are, great problem sovled.
I need some advice here what does it take for a woman to like me for me ?
only men answer my question.I need some advice here what does it take for a woman to like me for me ?
Well you must treat the woman with respect.Then she'll realise your a good guy and will be more friendly.I need some advice here what does it take for a woman to like me for me ?
You just half to be yourself dress like your self ~!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
Well you must treat the woman with respect.Then she'll realise your a good guy and will be more friendly.I need some advice here what does it take for a woman to like me for me ?
You just half to be yourself dress like your self ~!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
I NEED YOUR ADVICE RE: A WOMAN SPEAKING UP FOR WHAT SHE WANTS?
MY husband is out of town. He is involved with coaching my sons activities in every sport. He is out of town. My drive for work is 2 hours each way. the team my son was put on for the Fall Baseball, was one of Jeff's good friends team however it was another half and hour each way and the practice was two hours long. I just couldnt do it I thought twice a week. I was trying to get a hold of the coach and he wasnt responding I needed to know if carpool arrangements could be made or if I should just go to a more local team. I didnt hear practice was starting so I called the age group league organizer and he put him just like that on another team for me. My son went to practice the team had been practicing already for two weeks and my son is a great athlete and they treated him like a newcomer. The next day the coach on the original team emails and says come to practice we can mae carpool arrangements the practices are over because its a short season he explained to me it wont be so bad. Dylan my son came home not happy with that team he was put on so I emailed the organizer and said hey look Dylan wants to be put back on the other team and here are the reasons which I just told you, and because Dylan wasnt happy. So my son goes to the original team practice he was originally placed on because i didnt hear back from the league organizer. My son came home so happy from practice. I emailed the organizer again and finally got a response saying Dylan is to remain on the other team he switched him too. I didnt like that response. Being a social worker i spoke my mind sent emails to both of my team coaches and my husbands friends, and they said leave it up to the league at this point. I spoke my mind and I said its not about how many kids you have on each team its about my kid being happy now, yes I appreciate what you did however the games havent started yet. You had the same amount of kids on that team if I hadnt asked to put Dylan on that team so what the big deal.
He emails me back he doesnt call, and sends making me feel guilty email that how he made all of these special arrangements to make this happen. This was all in a matter of 3 days. It wasnt a big deal. Then I found out when he emailed me that he was teh CDR of NAVSEA a local base down here so he's a control guy to begin with.
SHould I feel embarrassed here with my husbands friends because I do. I sent emails back and forth when this request of mine should have been simpler, yes I made the mistake in the beginning but was just trying to get answers and when I did it was too late and then my son wasnt at all happy, and it wasnt a big deal to puthim back on the team. I think he could have handled this better without emabarrasing me. But because he's got these positions of power I look bad, or do I? Because others want to impress him??
Need your advice. I did thank him gratefully in the end and left it at that.
I NEED YOUR ADVICE RE: A WOMAN SPEAKING UP FOR WHAT SHE WANTS?
Dont feel bad. whether it was 3 days, 5 days, a week or a month with no reply, even if he was in the wrong, he still wouldve tried to make you look like the idiot. Thats what Men are good at. He was embarressed because to him, you were making it a big deal, BUT...sorry sir, her sons happiness is a big deal. You were just trying to get to the bottom of things like any concerned parent. Dont feel bad at all. Guys have a way of making us feel bad, or really pressed for sticking up for ourselves. They try to tone down our feelings and emotions, and turn them against us. He probably wanted to embaress you just so you dont ';step out of your place again'; (%26lt;-- guys way of thinking) Dont feel the least bit sorry, yet your right to thank him, he did help out, you didnt do anything wrong.....Your a Good Mommy!!I NEED YOUR ADVICE RE: A WOMAN SPEAKING UP FOR WHAT SHE WANTS?
no You wanted something, out of your life . and you got it , you lucky thing, was there any harm done, go for it girl ps life is to short
geeze...short ans sweet pleeze!!
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He emails me back he doesnt call, and sends making me feel guilty email that how he made all of these special arrangements to make this happen. This was all in a matter of 3 days. It wasnt a big deal. Then I found out when he emailed me that he was teh CDR of NAVSEA a local base down here so he's a control guy to begin with.
SHould I feel embarrassed here with my husbands friends because I do. I sent emails back and forth when this request of mine should have been simpler, yes I made the mistake in the beginning but was just trying to get answers and when I did it was too late and then my son wasnt at all happy, and it wasnt a big deal to puthim back on the team. I think he could have handled this better without emabarrasing me. But because he's got these positions of power I look bad, or do I? Because others want to impress him??
Need your advice. I did thank him gratefully in the end and left it at that.
I NEED YOUR ADVICE RE: A WOMAN SPEAKING UP FOR WHAT SHE WANTS?
Dont feel bad. whether it was 3 days, 5 days, a week or a month with no reply, even if he was in the wrong, he still wouldve tried to make you look like the idiot. Thats what Men are good at. He was embarressed because to him, you were making it a big deal, BUT...sorry sir, her sons happiness is a big deal. You were just trying to get to the bottom of things like any concerned parent. Dont feel bad at all. Guys have a way of making us feel bad, or really pressed for sticking up for ourselves. They try to tone down our feelings and emotions, and turn them against us. He probably wanted to embaress you just so you dont ';step out of your place again'; (%26lt;-- guys way of thinking) Dont feel the least bit sorry, yet your right to thank him, he did help out, you didnt do anything wrong.....Your a Good Mommy!!I NEED YOUR ADVICE RE: A WOMAN SPEAKING UP FOR WHAT SHE WANTS?
no You wanted something, out of your life . and you got it , you lucky thing, was there any harm done, go for it girl ps life is to short
geeze...short ans sweet pleeze!!
I need a woman's advice.....I have feelings for a female friend.?
I have been friends with this girl since high school. Six years later...I still have feelings for her. I never dated her. She moved away and was in a relationship for 5 years. She recently broke up with her bf.
Now, she lives about a hour away for school. We went on a road trip and hooked up. We held each other each night we fell asleep. At the end of the road trip, she said she didn't want a relationship right now because of work and school. We didn't have sex.
I might move to the same city where she lives after I finish school in 8 months. I told her I'm afraid of losing her again because I felt like she was out of my grasp when she moved away and was in a relationship. She said maybe I never lost her because she always wanted to be with me.
We always kept in touch throughout the years. She said she doesn't want me to be afraid of losing her. I totally see myself falling in love with her. What do I do on the long run? Short term-Flowers on valentines day?I need a woman's advice.....I have feelings for a female friend.?
HOLD ON UNTO THESE POWERFUL WORDS:
';she said I NEVER lost her...because she always wanted to be with me';
*Sometimes it takes us years (*TIME*) to OPEN our eyes, and go through a ';heartbreak'; just to realize that we have been after the WRONG person...don't get me wrong, EVERY person we have dated before and that have transformed into our ';Ex's'; have given us strenght, for the simple fact that they where there for us when we needed them..for a REASON (*Or perhaps a ';SEASON'; or in YOUR case a ';LIFETIME'; *wink*) =)
*It's complicated..what I am going to say here...but if you take time to experience it yourself...perhaps you might never want to let go of what you'll read!*
Okay..what would YOU prefer? *The person that has given you a heartbreak to die and wishing everything you and her (him..in my case!..lol) experienced together, had never happened? or NEVER knowing LOVE?
I will go with NEITHER...because how else will I know I will be COMPLETE? if I don't go ahead and gather ';information'; and Experience certain mixed up feelings in the name of love, how else will I SURVIVE heartbreaks?...
Well, before I DRIFT OFF..I will like to tell you that what you have finally done here is amazing, brilliant, and heart-warming!
You BOTH deserve this...and remember LONG DISTANCE Relationships HELP you to CONFESS hard things about EACH OF YOU...without the ';Pressure'; of not knowing each other's reactions...lol...as long as you sent each other e-mails and pictures...YOURE SET FOR ROMANCE!
You will be Fresh, Clean, Crisp, Loving, and RESPECTING of each other...trust me...because IT ISNT about NEEDING is about WANTING to be WITH EACH OTHER!
Good Luck on this Journey, My man....*wink*I need a woman's advice.....I have feelings for a female friend.?
To me, it sounds like she's stringing you along. There are lots of fish in the sea. Find one that is honest and true and doesn't play games.
I'm sorry but I don't think she's into it.
Sorry sorry sorry
Take it easy. Just don't lose what you already have with her - friendship.
let her know how you feel.
say ull be there wen shes ready.
stay friends.
and pray for the best.
good luck.
Not really interested, sorry.
oh thats so sweet. Why cant i find a man that will be in love with me for years.................... ohhh.
Sorry buddy sounds like shes not intrested may not be you but maybe shes just so upset about the break up. Give it time i wouldnt wait for her but i would give up on her either! Good luck
man...
wait till u finish ur school, and ask her out when u move to the city where she lives
Flowers on V'Day would be nice - just don't get your hopes up too high - she may not be ready for a new relationship!
GO FOR IT!!!
This is 2007, before you sit down and contemplate just tell her how you really feel...tomorrow is not promised and our lives are like a vapour in the wind.
If she feels the same way about you as you say then date her. Worst thing is not acting on how you feel and always wondering ';what if?';
flowers and chocolates on v-day are a great idea, find out her favorites(subtly or from her friends), talk to her about how you're feeling. If a guy friend talked to me like that instead of just trying to get together without talking, i would be more likely to be interested
ok, may not be a woman but i might spread some light on this.( from talking to a guy.) ok have you asked her out?%26lt;thats the big one. do you know what she wants to do in the future?%26lt; another big one. to the second anwser, find out what the way of her life is. if you know what her life is based on you might be able to ajust and help her in that way of her life. to the first one. let her know you love her. if she doesn't know you want to be with her your whole life she will be gone. (trust me i got dumped because of that!!!!) get her a good gift%26lt;%26lt;%26lt;%26lt;
trust your intuition-its always right ;)
I'd tell her how you feel. Keeping it inside it eating away at you. Just don't pressure her and becareful that you don't ruin the friendship.
Now, she lives about a hour away for school. We went on a road trip and hooked up. We held each other each night we fell asleep. At the end of the road trip, she said she didn't want a relationship right now because of work and school. We didn't have sex.
I might move to the same city where she lives after I finish school in 8 months. I told her I'm afraid of losing her again because I felt like she was out of my grasp when she moved away and was in a relationship. She said maybe I never lost her because she always wanted to be with me.
We always kept in touch throughout the years. She said she doesn't want me to be afraid of losing her. I totally see myself falling in love with her. What do I do on the long run? Short term-Flowers on valentines day?I need a woman's advice.....I have feelings for a female friend.?
HOLD ON UNTO THESE POWERFUL WORDS:
';she said I NEVER lost her...because she always wanted to be with me';
*Sometimes it takes us years (*TIME*) to OPEN our eyes, and go through a ';heartbreak'; just to realize that we have been after the WRONG person...don't get me wrong, EVERY person we have dated before and that have transformed into our ';Ex's'; have given us strenght, for the simple fact that they where there for us when we needed them..for a REASON (*Or perhaps a ';SEASON'; or in YOUR case a ';LIFETIME'; *wink*) =)
*It's complicated..what I am going to say here...but if you take time to experience it yourself...perhaps you might never want to let go of what you'll read!*
Okay..what would YOU prefer? *The person that has given you a heartbreak to die and wishing everything you and her (him..in my case!..lol) experienced together, had never happened? or NEVER knowing LOVE?
I will go with NEITHER...because how else will I know I will be COMPLETE? if I don't go ahead and gather ';information'; and Experience certain mixed up feelings in the name of love, how else will I SURVIVE heartbreaks?...
Well, before I DRIFT OFF..I will like to tell you that what you have finally done here is amazing, brilliant, and heart-warming!
You BOTH deserve this...and remember LONG DISTANCE Relationships HELP you to CONFESS hard things about EACH OF YOU...without the ';Pressure'; of not knowing each other's reactions...lol...as long as you sent each other e-mails and pictures...YOURE SET FOR ROMANCE!
You will be Fresh, Clean, Crisp, Loving, and RESPECTING of each other...trust me...because IT ISNT about NEEDING is about WANTING to be WITH EACH OTHER!
Good Luck on this Journey, My man....*wink*I need a woman's advice.....I have feelings for a female friend.?
To me, it sounds like she's stringing you along. There are lots of fish in the sea. Find one that is honest and true and doesn't play games.
I'm sorry but I don't think she's into it.
Sorry sorry sorry
Take it easy. Just don't lose what you already have with her - friendship.
let her know how you feel.
say ull be there wen shes ready.
stay friends.
and pray for the best.
good luck.
Not really interested, sorry.
oh thats so sweet. Why cant i find a man that will be in love with me for years.................... ohhh.
Sorry buddy sounds like shes not intrested may not be you but maybe shes just so upset about the break up. Give it time i wouldnt wait for her but i would give up on her either! Good luck
man...
wait till u finish ur school, and ask her out when u move to the city where she lives
Flowers on V'Day would be nice - just don't get your hopes up too high - she may not be ready for a new relationship!
GO FOR IT!!!
This is 2007, before you sit down and contemplate just tell her how you really feel...tomorrow is not promised and our lives are like a vapour in the wind.
If she feels the same way about you as you say then date her. Worst thing is not acting on how you feel and always wondering ';what if?';
flowers and chocolates on v-day are a great idea, find out her favorites(subtly or from her friends), talk to her about how you're feeling. If a guy friend talked to me like that instead of just trying to get together without talking, i would be more likely to be interested
ok, may not be a woman but i might spread some light on this.( from talking to a guy.) ok have you asked her out?%26lt;thats the big one. do you know what she wants to do in the future?%26lt; another big one. to the second anwser, find out what the way of her life is. if you know what her life is based on you might be able to ajust and help her in that way of her life. to the first one. let her know you love her. if she doesn't know you want to be with her your whole life she will be gone. (trust me i got dumped because of that!!!!) get her a good gift%26lt;%26lt;%26lt;%26lt;
trust your intuition-its always right ;)
I'd tell her how you feel. Keeping it inside it eating away at you. Just don't pressure her and becareful that you don't ruin the friendship.
Mostly for men??please advice a hurt woman?????
we met at my previous job, he still works there.we fell in love and started dating, its been 6 months now. he is divorced with a step daughter (11yrs) and a son (7yrs).he has the kids every 2nd week.hes 37, im 31yrs.
he treated me well and he loved me, we had a very good relationship and sex was also great.
he went with his male friends for skiing for a week, he was calling everyday and we also smsed daily.when he came back home he went to his place instead of mine as we had agreed, coz he had too much lagage and was to come to my place later.i got mad and told him to not contact me till after easter!same day i called him later coz he never replied my sms, we argued about that and he broke up with me.next day he contacts me n wants me back ,broke up coz he was mad!!im so insecure now coz i asked him if he loves me yesterday, he says he dont know coz he has suppresed his feelings as a defence mechanism???what should i make of all this?he presented me to his family, kids and friends!!Mostly for men??please advice a hurt woman?????
It's your fault. I wouldn't talk to you either if you told me not to get in touch with you until after Easter. You got mad at him for not wanting to go to your house after he just got back from a ski trip, still had all of his luggage in the car, and wanted to go home for a little bit BEFORE going to your house and to top it off I bet he was probably tired. Then you told him not to contact you until after Easter! That's called TRIPPIN. Do you know what that is? Your lucky he even called you back. I guarantee most people would classify you as a ';crazy ex'; and move on. I know I would.Mostly for men??please advice a hurt woman?????
well im just a few yrs over half ur age,but THESE THINGS HAPPEN! its perfectly normal..maybe u should look back and realise it was too much to argue over an sms..ur gonna go thru this a million times,and the only way to go on is to keep patching up,or better yet avoid arguing and fighting(actually its inevitable but u get points for trying) anyway,this all applies if this is the guy for u,and somehow i think he is,the way to know is just decide wat u feel for him,if he feels good for u then just patch up and keep going on ahead with ur lives..
Why dè°‹d you get so mad? you need to explain a bè°‹t more of why you broke up over the phone. You are obvè°‹ously both è°‹n love.
Sort è°‹t out sister. Good luck and God bless
This seems incomplete. Why did you get mad in the first place? You say he went to his house as agreed... you got mad and said not to call until after Easter... he stopped talking. Something is missing.
Bottom line is he's been there, done that. If it was me i probably do the same. Who needs the drama? He most likely over reacted and now is trying to apologize. Men are getting tired of the run-around and games some women play. There are plenty of other options and the energy you waste on women who are overly dramatic is too much. Be honest with him, tell him how you feel. Remember he already has a woman in his life (the ex-wife) that has probably put him through Hell. Be honest and no games.
Give it time!!!!
You have to remember he has been hurt and could still be caught up in some things that brings back ';bad memories';...So give it time!I know it hurts not ';knowing';but him keeping his emotions/feeling bottled up is never good!The fact that he called you and wants you back is because of the fact that he has exposed you to his kids,family and friends!What you now need to do(if of course this is what you want)is create a platform safe enough for him to air his views and opinions!!!!Your relationship will never work if ya'll are not communicating cause that is the key in making relationships last!So please do respond on his call and arrange to speak about the ';arguement';...You owe it to each other to act like adults cause two innocent children are also in the picture!!So please do the right thing!
Why did you even get upset in the first place,its not like he wasnt going to come to you,it was just the point of you being patient which clearly you werent!(no offence)Your insecurities are ok,the time it becomes a problem is when you allow it to control your thinking ability...And thus it will affect your decissions!!!!And him not ansewering the question';if he loves you';was also perhaps to safeguard himself....you really think someone that ';doesnt love you';will expose you to his family,friends,kids and keep sooooo in contact if he didnt???
I know I've left you with alot of things to think about,but want you to realise,this is a very fragile situation and anything right now,can either make it or break it for you two!
I wish you all of the best and I hope it works out for you!
pls try n join him again....
he treated me well and he loved me, we had a very good relationship and sex was also great.
he went with his male friends for skiing for a week, he was calling everyday and we also smsed daily.when he came back home he went to his place instead of mine as we had agreed, coz he had too much lagage and was to come to my place later.i got mad and told him to not contact me till after easter!same day i called him later coz he never replied my sms, we argued about that and he broke up with me.next day he contacts me n wants me back ,broke up coz he was mad!!im so insecure now coz i asked him if he loves me yesterday, he says he dont know coz he has suppresed his feelings as a defence mechanism???what should i make of all this?he presented me to his family, kids and friends!!Mostly for men??please advice a hurt woman?????
It's your fault. I wouldn't talk to you either if you told me not to get in touch with you until after Easter. You got mad at him for not wanting to go to your house after he just got back from a ski trip, still had all of his luggage in the car, and wanted to go home for a little bit BEFORE going to your house and to top it off I bet he was probably tired. Then you told him not to contact you until after Easter! That's called TRIPPIN. Do you know what that is? Your lucky he even called you back. I guarantee most people would classify you as a ';crazy ex'; and move on. I know I would.Mostly for men??please advice a hurt woman?????
well im just a few yrs over half ur age,but THESE THINGS HAPPEN! its perfectly normal..maybe u should look back and realise it was too much to argue over an sms..ur gonna go thru this a million times,and the only way to go on is to keep patching up,or better yet avoid arguing and fighting(actually its inevitable but u get points for trying) anyway,this all applies if this is the guy for u,and somehow i think he is,the way to know is just decide wat u feel for him,if he feels good for u then just patch up and keep going on ahead with ur lives..
Why dè°‹d you get so mad? you need to explain a bè°‹t more of why you broke up over the phone. You are obvè°‹ously both è°‹n love.
Sort è°‹t out sister. Good luck and God bless
This seems incomplete. Why did you get mad in the first place? You say he went to his house as agreed... you got mad and said not to call until after Easter... he stopped talking. Something is missing.
Bottom line is he's been there, done that. If it was me i probably do the same. Who needs the drama? He most likely over reacted and now is trying to apologize. Men are getting tired of the run-around and games some women play. There are plenty of other options and the energy you waste on women who are overly dramatic is too much. Be honest with him, tell him how you feel. Remember he already has a woman in his life (the ex-wife) that has probably put him through Hell. Be honest and no games.
Give it time!!!!
You have to remember he has been hurt and could still be caught up in some things that brings back ';bad memories';...So give it time!I know it hurts not ';knowing';but him keeping his emotions/feeling bottled up is never good!The fact that he called you and wants you back is because of the fact that he has exposed you to his kids,family and friends!What you now need to do(if of course this is what you want)is create a platform safe enough for him to air his views and opinions!!!!Your relationship will never work if ya'll are not communicating cause that is the key in making relationships last!So please do respond on his call and arrange to speak about the ';arguement';...You owe it to each other to act like adults cause two innocent children are also in the picture!!So please do the right thing!
Why did you even get upset in the first place,its not like he wasnt going to come to you,it was just the point of you being patient which clearly you werent!(no offence)Your insecurities are ok,the time it becomes a problem is when you allow it to control your thinking ability...And thus it will affect your decissions!!!!And him not ansewering the question';if he loves you';was also perhaps to safeguard himself....you really think someone that ';doesnt love you';will expose you to his family,friends,kids and keep sooooo in contact if he didnt???
I know I've left you with alot of things to think about,but want you to realise,this is a very fragile situation and anything right now,can either make it or break it for you two!
I wish you all of the best and I hope it works out for you!
pls try n join him again....
I am currently thinking of having a sex change as i resemble a man more than a woman who do i go to for advice
also my name is kathy what should i be calledI am currently thinking of having a sex change as i resemble a man more than a woman who do i go to for advice
Looking at your recent questions I think you may be suffering from body dysmorphia %26amp; think you are ugly, deformed %26amp; unattractive when you are probably no worse than the rest of us (most of whom are less attractive than our Avatars). If you have surgery, you probably still won't be happy with yourself. Look at people like Michael Jackson - he's totally ruined his appearance. You really need to talk to someone about this, who isn't just going to try and sell you plastic surgery, but find out why you feel this way.I am currently thinking of having a sex change as i resemble a man more than a woman who do i go to for advice
you should speak with your dr and maybe get councelling before undertaking such a major operaton
Come and see me Kathy and I'll run some checks on you to determine what sex you are. You may then change your mind about sexual regendering.
You need to have a better reason than resembling a man to have a sex change operation. You won't be able to get one otherwise.
A lot happens before the operation. You have to go through testing including psychological.
For advice, see a Psychiatrist who specializes with transexuals.
ask Dawn French
Me!
Truly, you need to discover who you are as a person, before you go making any permanent changes to your body. God created us the way that He wants us to be, you should talk to a councillor or some sort of therapist first. I think that this is an identity issue.
Looking at your recent questions I think you may be suffering from body dysmorphia %26amp; think you are ugly, deformed %26amp; unattractive when you are probably no worse than the rest of us (most of whom are less attractive than our Avatars). If you have surgery, you probably still won't be happy with yourself. Look at people like Michael Jackson - he's totally ruined his appearance. You really need to talk to someone about this, who isn't just going to try and sell you plastic surgery, but find out why you feel this way.I am currently thinking of having a sex change as i resemble a man more than a woman who do i go to for advice
you should speak with your dr and maybe get councelling before undertaking such a major operaton
Come and see me Kathy and I'll run some checks on you to determine what sex you are. You may then change your mind about sexual regendering.
You need to have a better reason than resembling a man to have a sex change operation. You won't be able to get one otherwise.
A lot happens before the operation. You have to go through testing including psychological.
For advice, see a Psychiatrist who specializes with transexuals.
ask Dawn French
Me!
Truly, you need to discover who you are as a person, before you go making any permanent changes to your body. God created us the way that He wants us to be, you should talk to a councillor or some sort of therapist first. I think that this is an identity issue.
Immigration advice? american friend married to woman in china for 3 years.?
They have 2 children together, who have duel citizenship, but can't get visa for wife even to visit (they live in china, he is american), any ideas? thanks.Immigration advice? american friend married to woman in china for 3 years.?
Direct Consular Filing process to sponsor his wife to get green card.
Your US Citizen friend can inquire information at US embassy in China for more information.
http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.鈥?/a>
http://www.usembassy.gov/Immigration advice? american friend married to woman in china for 3 years.?
Out of luck in China dude they do not fool around there
Direct Consular Filing process to sponsor his wife to get green card.
Your US Citizen friend can inquire information at US embassy in China for more information.
http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.鈥?/a>
http://www.usembassy.gov/Immigration advice? american friend married to woman in china for 3 years.?
Out of luck in China dude they do not fool around there
Dating advice please (for dealing with an older woman)?
Tomorrow night I am heading out to be a wing man for my buddy who is interested in a woman (let's call her Sue) in her early 40's (we are both in our early 30's). She will be bringing a friend (let's call Mary) out whom I have met on one other occasion (in a group outing). Long story short, they are both very attractive for their age but Mary who I will be left to entertain while my buddy chats up Sue, is kind of a kill-joy. She seemed to have a bit of a chip on her shoulder even as I casually chatted with her (I made zero sexual efforts on her and truth be told I'm not really that interested, short of her jumping my bones with no effort on my part). There is even good reason to believe that Mary c0ckblocked my friend from getting with Sue the first night (she invited him back to her place, but after a ride home with Mary, she didn't answer the door after he showed up)
My questions:
1) How would you handle a person like this in my role?
2) Why would a miserable person like that want to even BE in that type of situation again?Dating advice please (for dealing with an older woman)?
Looks like you are going to have to take one for the team.Dating advice please (for dealing with an older woman)?
Do her a favor. Stay home.
Why would a sophisticated, urbane, intelligent, experienced woman want to spend any time with a supercilious snotnose?
ETA: I REST MY CASE!! Thanks for proving my point. You have no idea what you're talking about. Stay home.
Why would she want to be in that awkward position?
Why do you?
I would deal with Ms. Ice Panties by staying far away.
Unless you owe your buddy a HUUUUGE favor.
Then just grin and edure it.
Make up a bowl of grain punch. Get the only hoot-nanny rockin and bang the dust out of her draws. I say do it for humanity.
Hang on to something and pray until she's finished :P. Yeah baby ;) lol
If they like each other so much, why is there a need for a wingman? He can't get her out alone?
In any case, as a wingman, it's your primary duty to see that the girl you're running interference on has a good time. This is easier said than done as some women go out with the mindset that they're not going to have a good time no matter what. My girlfriend has a friend like that - not only can she not have a good time, but if we're having a good time prior to her being there, she'll see to it that no one has fun after her arrival. We called her the funsucker.
My advice to you - Just let down any guard you have, have a few drinks, loosen up and keep your mind open. It's only for a night (although it certainly gets awkward if your friend hits it off with his date and expects you to hang out with the girls still). Smile, maintain eye contact, pretend you're interested, and be sure to keep her involved in the conversation - ask her questions (open ended ones).
If she's simply not into you or just cold as ice, there's really not much you can do other than be courteous and try to have fun regardless. From the sounds of it, your buddy owes you one.
My questions:
1) How would you handle a person like this in my role?
2) Why would a miserable person like that want to even BE in that type of situation again?Dating advice please (for dealing with an older woman)?
Looks like you are going to have to take one for the team.Dating advice please (for dealing with an older woman)?
Do her a favor. Stay home.
Why would a sophisticated, urbane, intelligent, experienced woman want to spend any time with a supercilious snotnose?
ETA: I REST MY CASE!! Thanks for proving my point. You have no idea what you're talking about. Stay home.
Why would she want to be in that awkward position?
Why do you?
I would deal with Ms. Ice Panties by staying far away.
Unless you owe your buddy a HUUUUGE favor.
Then just grin and edure it.
Make up a bowl of grain punch. Get the only hoot-nanny rockin and bang the dust out of her draws. I say do it for humanity.
Hang on to something and pray until she's finished :P. Yeah baby ;) lol
If they like each other so much, why is there a need for a wingman? He can't get her out alone?
In any case, as a wingman, it's your primary duty to see that the girl you're running interference on has a good time. This is easier said than done as some women go out with the mindset that they're not going to have a good time no matter what. My girlfriend has a friend like that - not only can she not have a good time, but if we're having a good time prior to her being there, she'll see to it that no one has fun after her arrival. We called her the funsucker.
My advice to you - Just let down any guard you have, have a few drinks, loosen up and keep your mind open. It's only for a night (although it certainly gets awkward if your friend hits it off with his date and expects you to hang out with the girls still). Smile, maintain eye contact, pretend you're interested, and be sure to keep her involved in the conversation - ask her questions (open ended ones).
If she's simply not into you or just cold as ice, there's really not much you can do other than be courteous and try to have fun regardless. From the sounds of it, your buddy owes you one.
What advice can you give for a broken hearted woman?
try to find another man........What advice can you give for a broken hearted woman?
Meet her good friends and share it out. Don't get into another relationship before she heals the wounds...What advice can you give for a broken hearted woman?
give it time... and hang out with your friends a lot...
cry your pain out.. and find some good friends..
Give yourself a day to be miserable. Don't wear makeup or even change out of your pj's, eat that whole pint of Ben and Jerry's, post a sad message on Craigslist. But don't let it go on too long, and remember how sad you were on that day---it hurts, but it'll help you grow later.
The next day, go out with friends. Join a club. Climb back up on that horse, so to speak. Remember that no matter how heartboken you are, there are some things you just can't change. It may hurt now, but later, you'll look back and see how much you've grown because of it.
And remember--we're all rooting for you, hon!
Time heals all wounds
Whatever you do, don't turn to chocolate! Seriously, talk to someone you trust, write it down in a journal to get it off your heart, cry a lot, stay away from stupid chat rooms where people rip you to shreds, ask someone who ';has it together'; how they found peace in their troubles(everyone's got 'um, hon!) and get some exercise to give your brain a breather.
Time will be your best friend.
The best advice I would give to you is, sometimes relationships just aren't meant to happen. This happens to men and women both. What you need to do first of all is to quit feeling sorry for yourself and say ';things happen for a reason'; and now it is time to move on. Don't worry if you pray and trust in ';God'; he will provide you with a person that will make you so happy and these sad days will be an after thought. Sometimes in life we have to go through the hard times to really appreciate the good times in life.
what happened ? everybody goes through a broken heart some time in thier life ,try to keep busy and do things that keep your mind off it .
it is better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all
have you not had any fun or pleasure from the relationship that also gave you such pain?
some people never know the thrill of love. I have not experienced such a love..i thought i did at the time and now know it was not real love.
Love..romantic love is very hard to keep..i have been in several relationships but they all end up the same way...
so now i wonder if i even know how to love..
i envy people who can love unconditionally.
its obvious you don't have unconditional love either...as true love would mean that you would give up that person you love if you knew they would be happier without you or with another person they love more then you...that is true love..unconditional love..that is the love i can never understand but i know it does exist...but the only person who you have to please now is yourself..just be happy you had that person in your life..and had them for a little while..is not that better then nothing..
better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all
Apparently, the only advice youve gotten today are all cliches!
You know what? When i had my heart broken, do you think that people telling me ';its gonna be ok'; '; better to have loved and lost...'; actually helped?
No. What did help though, was my best friend. We went to a bowling alley and got piss drunk, saw movies, went to the mall.
We kept eachother company. And because of that, time passed for me easier.
Oh, i was still heart broken, theres no getting around that. But confiding in someone, anyone, even if its a stranger in a chat room, just putting it all out there, heals you a little bit.
And never be afraid to rely on your friends and family for support. It might not always seem like it, but they want to be there.
I feel your pain my friend. Don't go out and find another person because that's not always the best solution. Be around friends and family for support. Have no contact with your ex because if you do, it will only hurt more. Time will heal your broken heart. Don't put yourself down, that will only make you feel worse. Go out and spoil yourself because you deserve it. Try not to isolate yourself by staying in your house. Go out and do something you like that you haven't done in a long time. If you're going to cry, cry it out. I know the pain will be unbearable at times, but just hang in there. The pain will go away a little bit everyday and you will be happy once again.
i don't know why you feel broken hearted.but what ever it is that your going threw has to get better ,we all have some kind of problem .you just need to find a way to deal with it .i wish i could of been more helpful but there wasn't enough information.good luck.
Go out meet new people
think about what is best for yourself and apply all of your mental energy into acting out those ideas in your life every second of every day.your cosmetics
Meet her good friends and share it out. Don't get into another relationship before she heals the wounds...What advice can you give for a broken hearted woman?
give it time... and hang out with your friends a lot...
cry your pain out.. and find some good friends..
Give yourself a day to be miserable. Don't wear makeup or even change out of your pj's, eat that whole pint of Ben and Jerry's, post a sad message on Craigslist. But don't let it go on too long, and remember how sad you were on that day---it hurts, but it'll help you grow later.
The next day, go out with friends. Join a club. Climb back up on that horse, so to speak. Remember that no matter how heartboken you are, there are some things you just can't change. It may hurt now, but later, you'll look back and see how much you've grown because of it.
And remember--we're all rooting for you, hon!
Time heals all wounds
Whatever you do, don't turn to chocolate! Seriously, talk to someone you trust, write it down in a journal to get it off your heart, cry a lot, stay away from stupid chat rooms where people rip you to shreds, ask someone who ';has it together'; how they found peace in their troubles(everyone's got 'um, hon!) and get some exercise to give your brain a breather.
Time will be your best friend.
The best advice I would give to you is, sometimes relationships just aren't meant to happen. This happens to men and women both. What you need to do first of all is to quit feeling sorry for yourself and say ';things happen for a reason'; and now it is time to move on. Don't worry if you pray and trust in ';God'; he will provide you with a person that will make you so happy and these sad days will be an after thought. Sometimes in life we have to go through the hard times to really appreciate the good times in life.
what happened ? everybody goes through a broken heart some time in thier life ,try to keep busy and do things that keep your mind off it .
it is better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all
have you not had any fun or pleasure from the relationship that also gave you such pain?
some people never know the thrill of love. I have not experienced such a love..i thought i did at the time and now know it was not real love.
Love..romantic love is very hard to keep..i have been in several relationships but they all end up the same way...
so now i wonder if i even know how to love..
i envy people who can love unconditionally.
its obvious you don't have unconditional love either...as true love would mean that you would give up that person you love if you knew they would be happier without you or with another person they love more then you...that is true love..unconditional love..that is the love i can never understand but i know it does exist...but the only person who you have to please now is yourself..just be happy you had that person in your life..and had them for a little while..is not that better then nothing..
better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all
Apparently, the only advice youve gotten today are all cliches!
You know what? When i had my heart broken, do you think that people telling me ';its gonna be ok'; '; better to have loved and lost...'; actually helped?
No. What did help though, was my best friend. We went to a bowling alley and got piss drunk, saw movies, went to the mall.
We kept eachother company. And because of that, time passed for me easier.
Oh, i was still heart broken, theres no getting around that. But confiding in someone, anyone, even if its a stranger in a chat room, just putting it all out there, heals you a little bit.
And never be afraid to rely on your friends and family for support. It might not always seem like it, but they want to be there.
I feel your pain my friend. Don't go out and find another person because that's not always the best solution. Be around friends and family for support. Have no contact with your ex because if you do, it will only hurt more. Time will heal your broken heart. Don't put yourself down, that will only make you feel worse. Go out and spoil yourself because you deserve it. Try not to isolate yourself by staying in your house. Go out and do something you like that you haven't done in a long time. If you're going to cry, cry it out. I know the pain will be unbearable at times, but just hang in there. The pain will go away a little bit everyday and you will be happy once again.
i don't know why you feel broken hearted.but what ever it is that your going threw has to get better ,we all have some kind of problem .you just need to find a way to deal with it .i wish i could of been more helpful but there wasn't enough information.good luck.
Go out meet new people
think about what is best for yourself and apply all of your mental energy into acting out those ideas in your life every second of every day.
Preparing for Marine Corps - suggestions, narratives from current/former women marines, advice appreciated.?
I am going to be going into the Marine Corps come August, and would like to be as prepared as I possibly can for recruit training, as well as after graduation - MOS suggestions from current Marines - male or female; Any suggestions to physically prepare for the Marine Corps, as well as anyone recently having experienced recruit training that could tell me what it will be like; obstacles - what the Crucible is like, really any information regarding the process would be helpful. I've already begun studying the 11 General Orders of a Sentry, acqainting myself with Marine Corps history, famous figures in the Corps, etc... so anything would help.Preparing for Marine Corps - suggestions, narratives from current/former women marines, advice appreciated.?
Not to worry to much, just be physically fit as they will put you through the rigors, try running a lot, be prepared for the mental stress (though I understand now that it was nothing like when I went through)...they will mold you into what they need! Go 0311
USMC 68 VietnamPreparing for Marine Corps - suggestions, narratives from current/former women marines, advice appreciated.?
Run, run, and run ! Build up your running endurance and upper body strength.
Semper Fi and good luck !.
Train your *** off.
Don't do it. The US military is disgusting. Refuse to fight illegal wars.
Not to worry to much, just be physically fit as they will put you through the rigors, try running a lot, be prepared for the mental stress (though I understand now that it was nothing like when I went through)...they will mold you into what they need! Go 0311
USMC 68 VietnamPreparing for Marine Corps - suggestions, narratives from current/former women marines, advice appreciated.?
Run, run, and run ! Build up your running endurance and upper body strength.
Semper Fi and good luck !.
Train your *** off.
Don't do it. The US military is disgusting. Refuse to fight illegal wars.
Women or men over 20 for serious relationship advice!. please help!!!?
well, i have a 24 year old boyfriend (I'm 19) and we have been going out together for 4 months now. the thing is I'm a freshman in college and i not only have to pay for tuition but also room and board and i work for autozone but only two days a week. obviously i don't make enough money to pay for school and my bills. do you think i should ask him for money?? why? how should i approach him about it?Women or men over 20 for serious relationship advice!. please help!!!?
NO, because after four months what exactly should he be paying for? I'm sorry you have money issues but you need to do things for yourself he is n ot your bank of america card. IF you have to pay for birth control(try planned parenthood) then you can ask him to split the bill since he is using the benefits too but money for living or school noo sorryWomen or men over 20 for serious relationship advice!. please help!!!?
First things first look into finacial aid, believe it or not it is very easy to get, unless your folks are horribly rich, secondly if you absolutly hate the notion of asking for help, you can try finding work at a place that offers tuition reinbersment, it will take some digging but there are places, i get tuition reimbersment through fed-ex, if you really hate the notion of asking him for help and I mean REALLY hate it you can also apply for student loans. That said I wouldnt ask him for money so much as ask for help, let him get involved, and see where his money would be going, go grocery shopping with him and make sure you get some stuff so you can cook a romantic dinner to show appreciation, you are still giving back, just what you can.
No way. You have not been in this relationship very long at all yet especially to ask for money. When I went to school I had to pay for everything and I was not able to apply for a loan. What you have to do is work really hard. Since you are only getting two days in at your job now you might want to consider getting a job where you can at least work 5 days a week. Get a full time temporary job during the summer months, along with your part time job. Try to work a full time schedule when you are on winter break. Factory work is not really the best type of work, but those types of jobs are excellent for a summer job, the pay is a little better then retail jobs and they will give you full time hours with a regular schedule. You have to make the money on your own and not borrow it from your boyfriend. It is never a good idea to be in debt with a person close to you. Take out the loans if you need them-they don't start to collect interest until after you graduate anyway.
Unless he is rich and could give a ****, no don't ask. You are not like married or anything, so don't USE him that way. It's also not his main concern.
Taks out a student loan. It's low interest. But only use it for school, don't buy him anything or go for luxuries. He may not be there to support you, but he should respect you enough to understand your situation. And if you do take a loan, don't tell him. It's not his business, and he may end up USING you.
if you ask him for money so soon he may think that's all you want or that you are irresponsible. i would just try to find a better job or something to do to cover the rest, but hold off on asking him for money. if you must ask him for a loan but i don't reccomend asking him for money at all so soon.
No. Do not ask him for money. You have only known him for 4 months. I know school costs are outrageous, suck it up. I paid out of pocket for everything!!! Yeah, it took me a few years to save up before I could go to school, I didn't start until I was 23 and got my degree at 27 and now I am 31 with a great job, but I did it all on my own. It's very rewarding feeling. Be a strong independent woman, you can do it!!!
How long have you been dating? depending on if you feel comfortable or not with asking then do it. Maybe to ease his nerves tell him you will write out a contract and agree to pay him back by a certin date.If you guys havnt been together for more then a year i wouldnt ask.
girl he would look at u and laugh. 4 months? hell i been with my boyfriend for 3 years and im still scared to ask him for money. find another job or something
no you dont want to have to depend on someone...why dont you just take out a loan.
No, don't ask him for money! You've only been dating for 4 months.. he's your boyfriend not your daddy or husband!
Ask those who claim to be your friends ...
NO!!! Do not ever ask for money from a guy. I think you will be able to find the help elsewhere.
that is a VERY poor idea.
first of all you don't want him to think you are a burden or are looking to latch onto him financially.
a guy who is 24 (presuming he has been through college) is recently out in the world.
he is actually in a very very different stage of life than you and the 5 years age difference is not as dangerous as the fact that you are in college- and he is out in the real world making a living.
you need to learn to be more frugal with your money- I live in NYC and thats one of the (if not the) most expensive spots in the world- if I can live frugally here and still have tons of fun, so can you. especially since the major dating expenses are paid for by the guy usually.
just budget yourself better-
what I said about the stage of life- thats true, you want to demonstrate to him that you are more mature, and a cut above the rest because he is going to become board with a needy child mentality quickly and no amount of hardbody 19 year old sex will change that, it might prolong it though.
he conversely, should lighten up a bit and come down to your party level too if you have any hope of your relationship surviving-
but DON'T DON'T DON'T ask him for money- if he offers TURN IT DOWN.
normally I would say ok- but you run the added risk of looking like an irresponsible juvinile. if both of you were out of school- you were 22 and he was 27 that would be a whole different story but you should still not ask him for money-
if you were out of school then at MOST a loan with signed legal papers to repay is the adult thing for any real money (ok, $5 is not something to flip about).
NO, because after four months what exactly should he be paying for? I'm sorry you have money issues but you need to do things for yourself he is n ot your bank of america card. IF you have to pay for birth control(try planned parenthood) then you can ask him to split the bill since he is using the benefits too but money for living or school noo sorryWomen or men over 20 for serious relationship advice!. please help!!!?
First things first look into finacial aid, believe it or not it is very easy to get, unless your folks are horribly rich, secondly if you absolutly hate the notion of asking for help, you can try finding work at a place that offers tuition reinbersment, it will take some digging but there are places, i get tuition reimbersment through fed-ex, if you really hate the notion of asking him for help and I mean REALLY hate it you can also apply for student loans. That said I wouldnt ask him for money so much as ask for help, let him get involved, and see where his money would be going, go grocery shopping with him and make sure you get some stuff so you can cook a romantic dinner to show appreciation, you are still giving back, just what you can.
No way. You have not been in this relationship very long at all yet especially to ask for money. When I went to school I had to pay for everything and I was not able to apply for a loan. What you have to do is work really hard. Since you are only getting two days in at your job now you might want to consider getting a job where you can at least work 5 days a week. Get a full time temporary job during the summer months, along with your part time job. Try to work a full time schedule when you are on winter break. Factory work is not really the best type of work, but those types of jobs are excellent for a summer job, the pay is a little better then retail jobs and they will give you full time hours with a regular schedule. You have to make the money on your own and not borrow it from your boyfriend. It is never a good idea to be in debt with a person close to you. Take out the loans if you need them-they don't start to collect interest until after you graduate anyway.
Unless he is rich and could give a ****, no don't ask. You are not like married or anything, so don't USE him that way. It's also not his main concern.
Taks out a student loan. It's low interest. But only use it for school, don't buy him anything or go for luxuries. He may not be there to support you, but he should respect you enough to understand your situation. And if you do take a loan, don't tell him. It's not his business, and he may end up USING you.
if you ask him for money so soon he may think that's all you want or that you are irresponsible. i would just try to find a better job or something to do to cover the rest, but hold off on asking him for money. if you must ask him for a loan but i don't reccomend asking him for money at all so soon.
No. Do not ask him for money. You have only known him for 4 months. I know school costs are outrageous, suck it up. I paid out of pocket for everything!!! Yeah, it took me a few years to save up before I could go to school, I didn't start until I was 23 and got my degree at 27 and now I am 31 with a great job, but I did it all on my own. It's very rewarding feeling. Be a strong independent woman, you can do it!!!
How long have you been dating? depending on if you feel comfortable or not with asking then do it. Maybe to ease his nerves tell him you will write out a contract and agree to pay him back by a certin date.If you guys havnt been together for more then a year i wouldnt ask.
girl he would look at u and laugh. 4 months? hell i been with my boyfriend for 3 years and im still scared to ask him for money. find another job or something
no you dont want to have to depend on someone...why dont you just take out a loan.
No, don't ask him for money! You've only been dating for 4 months.. he's your boyfriend not your daddy or husband!
Ask those who claim to be your friends ...
NO!!! Do not ever ask for money from a guy. I think you will be able to find the help elsewhere.
that is a VERY poor idea.
first of all you don't want him to think you are a burden or are looking to latch onto him financially.
a guy who is 24 (presuming he has been through college) is recently out in the world.
he is actually in a very very different stage of life than you and the 5 years age difference is not as dangerous as the fact that you are in college- and he is out in the real world making a living.
you need to learn to be more frugal with your money- I live in NYC and thats one of the (if not the) most expensive spots in the world- if I can live frugally here and still have tons of fun, so can you. especially since the major dating expenses are paid for by the guy usually.
just budget yourself better-
what I said about the stage of life- thats true, you want to demonstrate to him that you are more mature, and a cut above the rest because he is going to become board with a needy child mentality quickly and no amount of hardbody 19 year old sex will change that, it might prolong it though.
he conversely, should lighten up a bit and come down to your party level too if you have any hope of your relationship surviving-
but DON'T DON'T DON'T ask him for money- if he offers TURN IT DOWN.
normally I would say ok- but you run the added risk of looking like an irresponsible juvinile. if both of you were out of school- you were 22 and he was 27 that would be a whole different story but you should still not ask him for money-
if you were out of school then at MOST a loan with signed legal papers to repay is the adult thing for any real money (ok, $5 is not something to flip about).
Need advice about my boobs (for Woman)! 10pts for best answer?
Hey, im 15 and have size 38 DD bra. and i was wondering at what age did your boobs stop growing on avg. i want to know if this is the size they are going to stay ! I hope they don't get any bigger ! lol Thanks for all your help :D
p.s im not fat or anything either...Need advice about my boobs (for Woman)! 10pts for best answer?
Actually, it's mostly genetics that determine your breast size along with weight as if your were overweight, you would have more breast as they are essentially fat covered by skin.
Ironically, most of the women if they do any type of genealogical work will find out that the father's mother breast size is the one that is usually the same approximate size as the granddaughters breast will become.
This means that the largest chance of telling how large your breast are going to be, is to look at your father's mother. You will have the best knowledge out there today without going through all sorts of genetic testing which will not be much more accurate.
You may have to account for her overall weight but this is the most accurate way of telling with what we have now available.
There is about a 1/4 chance of having breast the size of your mother's also. But that is not the odds.Need advice about my boobs (for Woman)! 10pts for best answer?
they don't stop growing until your mid 20's
you can look into a breast reduction when you are a little older and it can be covered by insurance.
fyi it actually is not about genetics. my family were all b's and c's and I ended up a J cup! I got a reduction and love it.
Every woman is different, but breasts can change sizes throughout your years. I went from a 32AA to a 36 B down to a 34 A and now I'm a B again. I thought I was done with the bra changes at age 19, but now at age 24 they have gotten a bit larger, for no particular reason. My mother thought her breasts might diminish a little when she hit menopause, but she actually went up a cup size. Personally I doubt yours will get larger on their own, until you become pregnant, but a reduction is a possibility if they do. Good luck!
My breasts did not start growing until I became sexually active. You developed early so there is a pretty good chance they will get bigger. Also, if you have kids one day they will increase as well. If your back starts hurting too much because of the weight of your breasts, you may want to discuss with your parents about a breast reduction.
Your boobs will continue to change in size your entire life. Over the next few years, your boobs will probably stop growing for a while, then when you get pregnant, they'll poof up for a while, and you may bump up a bra size. Don't worry, some would DIE for DD boobs.
Hope this helps.
-J
Well i'm almost 16 and mine haven't grown in about 4 years. I have worn a 36 A since the time I was 12 years old..it's kinda sad lol but it's whatever. But yeah I don't think mine are getting any bigger. ;)
Your breasts can stop growing about a year or two after they start, but don't forget that your body will change when you have children.
Hey..um well lets see, when i was 15, mine were totally different from right now, im 22. so they definitely gre
jesus christ i want your boobs. haha im 15 too your lucckkyy :)
p.s im not fat or anything either...Need advice about my boobs (for Woman)! 10pts for best answer?
Actually, it's mostly genetics that determine your breast size along with weight as if your were overweight, you would have more breast as they are essentially fat covered by skin.
Ironically, most of the women if they do any type of genealogical work will find out that the father's mother breast size is the one that is usually the same approximate size as the granddaughters breast will become.
This means that the largest chance of telling how large your breast are going to be, is to look at your father's mother. You will have the best knowledge out there today without going through all sorts of genetic testing which will not be much more accurate.
You may have to account for her overall weight but this is the most accurate way of telling with what we have now available.
There is about a 1/4 chance of having breast the size of your mother's also. But that is not the odds.Need advice about my boobs (for Woman)! 10pts for best answer?
they don't stop growing until your mid 20's
you can look into a breast reduction when you are a little older and it can be covered by insurance.
fyi it actually is not about genetics. my family were all b's and c's and I ended up a J cup! I got a reduction and love it.
Every woman is different, but breasts can change sizes throughout your years. I went from a 32AA to a 36 B down to a 34 A and now I'm a B again. I thought I was done with the bra changes at age 19, but now at age 24 they have gotten a bit larger, for no particular reason. My mother thought her breasts might diminish a little when she hit menopause, but she actually went up a cup size. Personally I doubt yours will get larger on their own, until you become pregnant, but a reduction is a possibility if they do. Good luck!
My breasts did not start growing until I became sexually active. You developed early so there is a pretty good chance they will get bigger. Also, if you have kids one day they will increase as well. If your back starts hurting too much because of the weight of your breasts, you may want to discuss with your parents about a breast reduction.
Your boobs will continue to change in size your entire life. Over the next few years, your boobs will probably stop growing for a while, then when you get pregnant, they'll poof up for a while, and you may bump up a bra size. Don't worry, some would DIE for DD boobs.
Hope this helps.
-J
Well i'm almost 16 and mine haven't grown in about 4 years. I have worn a 36 A since the time I was 12 years old..it's kinda sad lol but it's whatever. But yeah I don't think mine are getting any bigger. ;)
Your breasts can stop growing about a year or two after they start, but don't forget that your body will change when you have children.
Hey..um well lets see, when i was 15, mine were totally different from right now, im 22. so they definitely gre
jesus christ i want your boobs. haha im 15 too your lucckkyy :)
I am a 46 yr old woman and 50+ lbs over weight, I need advice for dieting.?
Also i have dieted many times in my life and always seem hungry even after months of dieting, please help!!I am a 46 yr old woman and 50+ lbs over weight, I need advice for dieting.?
Think of adding foods to your diet. Add vegetables, berries, lean protein sources, nuts and fruit.
Think of adding foods to your diet. Add vegetables, berries, lean protein sources, nuts and fruit.
Any advice for a shy guy looking to find a woman to get to know in the area online?
I do feel I'm too shy and nervous to be able to approach a woman anywhere in person. It actually is more comfortable to get to know someone who is actually looking and/or willing to talk to you, which is usually online. Would anyone have any advice on some datings sites or a site's chat rooms? I appreciate any advice. If you have any questions, I'll address them immediately. I have tried myspace with no results.Any advice for a shy guy looking to find a woman to get to know in the area online?
Finding someone online and locally isn't always easy. Have you considered long distance dating? Are you willing to travel to be with the person you love? There are millions of people out there, so try lots of new things. Is there someone you've talked to lately that you think you might like? After talking to them, try asking them if they'd like to get to know you better. You never know until you ask.Any advice for a shy guy looking to find a woman to get to know in the area online?
Dont try the computer. If your shy thats a good thing w/ guys. Girls LIKE shy guys.
Just be yourself. on here they get to now you without face to face nerves. if you don't lie you won't be nerves when you do get to meet .
Finding someone online and locally isn't always easy. Have you considered long distance dating? Are you willing to travel to be with the person you love? There are millions of people out there, so try lots of new things. Is there someone you've talked to lately that you think you might like? After talking to them, try asking them if they'd like to get to know you better. You never know until you ask.Any advice for a shy guy looking to find a woman to get to know in the area online?
Dont try the computer. If your shy thats a good thing w/ guys. Girls LIKE shy guys.
Just be yourself. on here they get to now you without face to face nerves. if you don't lie you won't be nerves when you do get to meet .
Help! Fashion advice needed for a woman in her mid-thirties!?
I am in my mid-thirties and back in grad school. Seeing all the 20-somethings in their cute clothes makes me feel like I need an update. What looks good on a 30-something? Is there a way to pull off skinny jeans? leggings? ballet flats? I don't want to look ridiculous -- just stylish in a casual, campus, age-appropriate way. Please advise! Links to pictures would be great! (btw, I am a size 4 with an hourglass body type). Thank you!!Help! Fashion advice needed for a woman in her mid-thirties!?
If you're going for the skinny jean look of course you can do it but you can't do it like twenty year olds can. You can do a skinny jean but do a shirt with a more sophisticated design. most of these twenty year olds shop at places like Forever 21. You're going to want to stick with Macy's. They have great tops for women. Don't try to look young, per say, try to look mature. You can definitely do ballet flats. Leggings actually are something you just may want to avoid. Honestly I think leggings are for ten year olds and they do absolutely NO justice to a womans calves.Help! Fashion advice needed for a woman in her mid-thirties!?
Well, to be honest, you aren't 20, and you will probably look silly trying,. Try getting some good slacks, wool, and lined, or dark wash, straight leg jeans, and nice blouses, and jackets with good textures like velvet or polished cotton, and a line, pr pencil skirts, knee length. I would go with a kitten heel instead of ballet flats (to be honest, its not a very flattering trend, makes feet look wide.) or low boots.
Don't go too tight, too low, too short, or too patterned.
Heck yes you can pull of that look at any age...well maybe not any age but try finding cinched waist tops or lengthy tops with a darker skinny jean. If you want to pull the look together more, find a nicer blazer or wool sweater. Dangly necklaces and earrings go great with that style
skinny jeans, definetly not.
leggins under a dress yes.
ballet flats, always cute.
(:
watch ';What Not To Wear'; on TLC
the clothes the have on there are always awesome =)your cosmetics
If you're going for the skinny jean look of course you can do it but you can't do it like twenty year olds can. You can do a skinny jean but do a shirt with a more sophisticated design. most of these twenty year olds shop at places like Forever 21. You're going to want to stick with Macy's. They have great tops for women. Don't try to look young, per say, try to look mature. You can definitely do ballet flats. Leggings actually are something you just may want to avoid. Honestly I think leggings are for ten year olds and they do absolutely NO justice to a womans calves.Help! Fashion advice needed for a woman in her mid-thirties!?
Well, to be honest, you aren't 20, and you will probably look silly trying,. Try getting some good slacks, wool, and lined, or dark wash, straight leg jeans, and nice blouses, and jackets with good textures like velvet or polished cotton, and a line, pr pencil skirts, knee length. I would go with a kitten heel instead of ballet flats (to be honest, its not a very flattering trend, makes feet look wide.) or low boots.
Don't go too tight, too low, too short, or too patterned.
Heck yes you can pull of that look at any age...well maybe not any age but try finding cinched waist tops or lengthy tops with a darker skinny jean. If you want to pull the look together more, find a nicer blazer or wool sweater. Dangly necklaces and earrings go great with that style
skinny jeans, definetly not.
leggins under a dress yes.
ballet flats, always cute.
(:
watch ';What Not To Wear'; on TLC
the clothes the have on there are always awesome =)
I would like some advice form anypregnant women who have been prescribed medication for severe morning sickn?
i am 9 weeks pregnant and from about 6 weeks i have been really sick ,to the point that i cannot go to work and mostly lay on my back for the last 3 weeks, i could not keep any food or liquid down and vomited all day even when i hadnt eaten, so i got something from the pharmacy it was called emetrol and it helped a bit at first, but i needed to take 4 spoons every hour for it to help me keep food and liquid down so i went to a different pharmacy and they gave me something gynies recomend its called ASIC it helped alot but i am still getting sick, but much less, the only problem is i feel like ive had strong flu tablets as the side efect of this pill is sedation, so either way im not functioning, i hardly eat, by 12 in the afternoon ive only had one slice of bread, has anyone else been perscribed meds what where they did they help and were there any side effects, i just want to do some research before i get to the doctor as to my disapointment the doctors are not as up to date as i would like lots of people say oh you cant take anything, but i know thats not true, and i will land up in hospital if i dont do something about this. thanks for your adviceI would like some advice form anypregnant women who have been prescribed medication for severe morning sickn?
The medicine the doctor gave me worked okay, but made me really drowsy. He said if it didn't help there was a better prescription and didn't cause drowsiness but insurance wouldn't cover it unless I tried the other one and it didn't work.
I would just try to keep eating. Ultimately, that is what helped me with my twins. I was running my stomach too low on food and that is what made me nauseous then when I did eat it was too heavy and the stomach didn't know what to do with it and I ended up throwing up. I even had to wake up in the middle of the night and eat like a granola bar. If I ignored it when I started to get a little nauseous and didn't eat something it was like asking to get sick.
Ask your doctor if there is another anti-nausea medication you can try. Just remember to keep drinking water so you don't get dehydrated. I had severe morning sickness with my first pregnancy, all 9 months (that doctor never suggested the meds for it). With my girls it only lasted the first 3 months till I figured out what was causing it, the little munchers kept zapping every bit of nutrients I had in me.I would like some advice form anypregnant women who have been prescribed medication for severe morning sickn?
I had severe morning sickness during the first 5 months of my pregnancy and my doctor prescribed me a medication called Zofran. It is also used for chemo patients for nausea and is safe for pregnant women. It worked great for me, the only downside is it will constipate you pretty bad and if your insurance doesn't cover the cost it is very expensive. It really helped me a lot though. I was to the point where I couldn't even hold down a sip of water and I had to be put in the hospital for dehydration. Then when I started taking Zofran I was fine! Hope this helps and hope your sickness gets better. Congrats to you on your pregnancy!
The medicine the doctor gave me worked okay, but made me really drowsy. He said if it didn't help there was a better prescription and didn't cause drowsiness but insurance wouldn't cover it unless I tried the other one and it didn't work.
I would just try to keep eating. Ultimately, that is what helped me with my twins. I was running my stomach too low on food and that is what made me nauseous then when I did eat it was too heavy and the stomach didn't know what to do with it and I ended up throwing up. I even had to wake up in the middle of the night and eat like a granola bar. If I ignored it when I started to get a little nauseous and didn't eat something it was like asking to get sick.
Ask your doctor if there is another anti-nausea medication you can try. Just remember to keep drinking water so you don't get dehydrated. I had severe morning sickness with my first pregnancy, all 9 months (that doctor never suggested the meds for it). With my girls it only lasted the first 3 months till I figured out what was causing it, the little munchers kept zapping every bit of nutrients I had in me.I would like some advice form anypregnant women who have been prescribed medication for severe morning sickn?
I had severe morning sickness during the first 5 months of my pregnancy and my doctor prescribed me a medication called Zofran. It is also used for chemo patients for nausea and is safe for pregnant women. It worked great for me, the only downside is it will constipate you pretty bad and if your insurance doesn't cover the cost it is very expensive. It really helped me a lot though. I was to the point where I couldn't even hold down a sip of water and I had to be put in the hospital for dehydration. Then when I started taking Zofran I was fine! Hope this helps and hope your sickness gets better. Congrats to you on your pregnancy!
Being a women , what advice will you give a guy , 30 year old virgin for his time ?
find a woman who cares about u and knows that u are a virgin.. watch 40-Year-Old Virgin for more detailsBeing a women , what advice will you give a guy , 30 year old virgin for his time ?
To get a life...Being a women , what advice will you give a guy , 30 year old virgin for his time ?
I'm not believing that anyone is 30 and still a virgin
have sex or u will die
you waited to long get a life
go out to a nice church find the girl that is like you and have fun.
damm where have you been and why are waiting so long for
SAVE IT!!! Untill your really find your true love for it!!!
good to have a guy like u but u've missed out on so many thing..... get a life... but dont go on a spree....
To get a life...Being a women , what advice will you give a guy , 30 year old virgin for his time ?
I'm not believing that anyone is 30 and still a virgin
have sex or u will die
you waited to long get a life
go out to a nice church find the girl that is like you and have fun.
damm where have you been and why are waiting so long for
SAVE IT!!! Untill your really find your true love for it!!!
good to have a guy like u but u've missed out on so many thing..... get a life... but dont go on a spree....
Advice please for a woman who feels left out (have no family).?
Im mid 40s woman and recently have started feeling like life has left me behind. Most of my old school friends are married with their own families. I never met a guy I felt I could stay with for my life and as I'm not the kind to 'go it alone' on parenting, I stayed single, with a boyfriend now and again. I did lots of travelling and slaved at a difficult career. The thing is, it is now hitting me very hard that I don't have my own children. It hurts when friends talk about their teenagers in football teams, doing the things we used to do when I first met these girls. Anyone got any advice please? Is there still a chance I can meet someone and have a child or is this crazy thinking? I kow some of thes people with families probably aren't as happy as they make out (most will keep these problems to themselves). Some often say they envy my freedom/options.Advice please for a woman who feels left out (have no family).?
We live in an age where it's quit normal to get a steady relationship or a family at a higher age than say 20 years ago.
More and more people want to have their careers first before settling down. This goes for men and women.
Want this means for you is that a.) it's not 'weird' that you have come to this point at this age and b.) there are more 'souls' like you out there in the world.
Just because in your immediate surrounding people already have started families or long-term relationships doesn't mean that this is the standard.Advice please for a woman who feels left out (have no family).?
i know there is heart ache in you, but dont adopt, as its not the answer, foster is the better option, also, why dont you get a part time job looking after kids, i have three sons who suffer from adh,t they have mentors who take them out on a sat for a few hours, to give me a break and time to my self, maybe you cxould cope with that sort of job, dont pay much but very satifying.
you are not old, i bet that you will meet someone that really loves you, you will have a child and you will be very happy.
It is never too late for anything - and you shold begin to see every day as the beginning of a new adventure. Find yourself some friends, married or not that you can spend time with and begin enjoying yourself. You may find tht some of your married friends with childre actually envy you that you have no ties to hold you back from doing whatever you want to!!
Start a pen-pal relationship, join a new club, go to places that you have never been before, and meet new people.
All the best for the future!!
Try to adopt or work with youth in some way if you want to be around kids! Good luck!
Well, firstly I think you have made a mistake to start thinking about having kids at your age, by the time you find a bloke and get knocked up you are going to be nearly 50 and that is a VERY risky time for you to be having a child, you could die. Not to mention the fact that you would be having a HUMAN BEING and have to think about it (rather than having one, because you are lonely and feeling left out - not the right reasons). You will be 70 by the time the child is 18, and it won't have much of a childhood, because no doubt you will be too tired to do all the active things that kids want to do these days, not to mention the fact that you will never be able to give it a brother or sister.
So, your alternative is to adopt, you can have a very fullfilling life adopting kids, but if you have a challenging career, then I doubt you will be accepted to be a foster parent or whatever, because you won't be able to spare the time.
I think what you have to ask yourself is what YOU really want, is it just seeing other people with kids that has made you think this, or do you really want children and everything that goes with them??
Of course there is still time. You are only 40. You could also consider foster care, mentoring, and adoption. There are many avenues in which you can obtain your goals. If you dont want an infant there are numerous teenagers that are looking for a forever home. Contact your state for listings.
You are still in an age to find a mate and have kids....past is past don't dwell on it too much....there must be a way to meet men suitable for you....if you are not for it, you can adopt a child.( not a baby...you will not be able to cope with an infant at your age ).even a couple of them would be great....you can build a family around you if you put your mind to it., you sound such a capable person.
Why dont you try fostering?, or adoption, There are loads of kiddies, of all ages screaming out for sommeone like you. it may be getting too late to have a child of your own, but fostering or/and adoption is a very rewarding thing to do. Ask your local authority or citizens advice about info on both.
Look at the website below for a bit more advice.
The grass always looks greener on the other side of the street. You made your choice and you have been happy with your life. People with children have a tendency to tell you only the good things that their kids do they speak very little of the bad things and believe me when I tell you that there are plenty of bad things. I raised three sons and one daughter. I love them very much but they are all lucky that they lived through their teen years. All grown and living their own lives now and live all over the country. These days I am so thankful for the many friends I have made over the years and my loving husband. If you are in your mid forties now, you would be pushing 60 by the time your would be 15. I am 60 and if someone told me that I had to deal with a 15 year old everyday I would run away as fast as I could. My advice? Make some good solid friends that you can relate to and enjoy life. If you can find one person to share your life with and love and be loved....that's all you need.
it's never too late, you can even adopt! Although, i understand having your own offspring is special than adopting. However, im sure you will find someone you need confidence, determination and a lot of love. Goodluck!
you can start a family whenevefr you want if its later rather than sooner you van adopt, and as you said most families keep theyre problem to their selves and never forget that everyone has their own destiny even if u dont believe in god or a higher power where you are right now is where youre supposed to be and by the way youre still iin your mid 40's LIFE ISNT over you still have many many years to enjoy You can still do whatever the hell you want if you want kids its not too late and make sure that you do want kids perhaps your surroundings has planted this idea that you HAVe to haver kids.
I wish you all the best of luck
as you get older, your biological clock ticks harder and louder... to be honest, i would say that you left it a little late to have a child... but there is still time to meet a guy...
you need to stop looking at what you HAVEN'T got and be thankful for what you HAVE got...
The grass is always greener on the other side. You might be envious of these people now because your biological clock is ticking. Raising a family can be a blessing or the biggest hardship of your life. You never know how it will turn out. I'll bet your married parental friends often listen to your tales of freedom with as much envy as you do listening to them. Maybe you just need a soulmate.
Life has a funny way of throwing things at us. You can find love at any age, but I would honestly think twice about having children at this point in your life. Sorry to say this, but think about the child when he/she is finishing high school and starting college? Isn't that about the time you would be hoping to retire from the workforce. And that unthinkable uncertainty of an early death, leaving a small child parentless. There are other disadvantages of having children later in life, tiredness comes to mind, the generation gap is another. Being mistaken as the grandparent :(
Fostering children might be a good option. There are so many kids in need of good temporary and long term homes and some stay in contact with the foster parent/s for life.
Certainly you could meet someone and pregnancy is still on the table (tho some increased risks). To me, if you at this age are already questioning the results of your decisions about having family so far, it's only going to become more pressing to you. I think your really need to set aside how you've envisioned yourself doing things and decide what you want to do first. Figure out the who, what, when and where only after you've got this figured out. You probably are in a great financial situation to have a child and be a working mom, because of all the time you've spent working at your career. The way I see it, you've got to choose your path for yourself, as you've probably always done, instead of waiting for someone to lead you. good luck.
You can still improve childrens lives, either by adoption,fostering or care work - of course there still ';is a chance';. Good luck, and freedom and options are nice things, however they can become a prison and chain
We live in an age where it's quit normal to get a steady relationship or a family at a higher age than say 20 years ago.
More and more people want to have their careers first before settling down. This goes for men and women.
Want this means for you is that a.) it's not 'weird' that you have come to this point at this age and b.) there are more 'souls' like you out there in the world.
Just because in your immediate surrounding people already have started families or long-term relationships doesn't mean that this is the standard.Advice please for a woman who feels left out (have no family).?
i know there is heart ache in you, but dont adopt, as its not the answer, foster is the better option, also, why dont you get a part time job looking after kids, i have three sons who suffer from adh,t they have mentors who take them out on a sat for a few hours, to give me a break and time to my self, maybe you cxould cope with that sort of job, dont pay much but very satifying.
you are not old, i bet that you will meet someone that really loves you, you will have a child and you will be very happy.
It is never too late for anything - and you shold begin to see every day as the beginning of a new adventure. Find yourself some friends, married or not that you can spend time with and begin enjoying yourself. You may find tht some of your married friends with childre actually envy you that you have no ties to hold you back from doing whatever you want to!!
Start a pen-pal relationship, join a new club, go to places that you have never been before, and meet new people.
All the best for the future!!
Try to adopt or work with youth in some way if you want to be around kids! Good luck!
Well, firstly I think you have made a mistake to start thinking about having kids at your age, by the time you find a bloke and get knocked up you are going to be nearly 50 and that is a VERY risky time for you to be having a child, you could die. Not to mention the fact that you would be having a HUMAN BEING and have to think about it (rather than having one, because you are lonely and feeling left out - not the right reasons). You will be 70 by the time the child is 18, and it won't have much of a childhood, because no doubt you will be too tired to do all the active things that kids want to do these days, not to mention the fact that you will never be able to give it a brother or sister.
So, your alternative is to adopt, you can have a very fullfilling life adopting kids, but if you have a challenging career, then I doubt you will be accepted to be a foster parent or whatever, because you won't be able to spare the time.
I think what you have to ask yourself is what YOU really want, is it just seeing other people with kids that has made you think this, or do you really want children and everything that goes with them??
Of course there is still time. You are only 40. You could also consider foster care, mentoring, and adoption. There are many avenues in which you can obtain your goals. If you dont want an infant there are numerous teenagers that are looking for a forever home. Contact your state for listings.
You are still in an age to find a mate and have kids....past is past don't dwell on it too much....there must be a way to meet men suitable for you....if you are not for it, you can adopt a child.( not a baby...you will not be able to cope with an infant at your age ).even a couple of them would be great....you can build a family around you if you put your mind to it., you sound such a capable person.
Why dont you try fostering?, or adoption, There are loads of kiddies, of all ages screaming out for sommeone like you. it may be getting too late to have a child of your own, but fostering or/and adoption is a very rewarding thing to do. Ask your local authority or citizens advice about info on both.
Look at the website below for a bit more advice.
The grass always looks greener on the other side of the street. You made your choice and you have been happy with your life. People with children have a tendency to tell you only the good things that their kids do they speak very little of the bad things and believe me when I tell you that there are plenty of bad things. I raised three sons and one daughter. I love them very much but they are all lucky that they lived through their teen years. All grown and living their own lives now and live all over the country. These days I am so thankful for the many friends I have made over the years and my loving husband. If you are in your mid forties now, you would be pushing 60 by the time your would be 15. I am 60 and if someone told me that I had to deal with a 15 year old everyday I would run away as fast as I could. My advice? Make some good solid friends that you can relate to and enjoy life. If you can find one person to share your life with and love and be loved....that's all you need.
it's never too late, you can even adopt! Although, i understand having your own offspring is special than adopting. However, im sure you will find someone you need confidence, determination and a lot of love. Goodluck!
you can start a family whenevefr you want if its later rather than sooner you van adopt, and as you said most families keep theyre problem to their selves and never forget that everyone has their own destiny even if u dont believe in god or a higher power where you are right now is where youre supposed to be and by the way youre still iin your mid 40's LIFE ISNT over you still have many many years to enjoy You can still do whatever the hell you want if you want kids its not too late and make sure that you do want kids perhaps your surroundings has planted this idea that you HAVe to haver kids.
I wish you all the best of luck
as you get older, your biological clock ticks harder and louder... to be honest, i would say that you left it a little late to have a child... but there is still time to meet a guy...
you need to stop looking at what you HAVEN'T got and be thankful for what you HAVE got...
The grass is always greener on the other side. You might be envious of these people now because your biological clock is ticking. Raising a family can be a blessing or the biggest hardship of your life. You never know how it will turn out. I'll bet your married parental friends often listen to your tales of freedom with as much envy as you do listening to them. Maybe you just need a soulmate.
Life has a funny way of throwing things at us. You can find love at any age, but I would honestly think twice about having children at this point in your life. Sorry to say this, but think about the child when he/she is finishing high school and starting college? Isn't that about the time you would be hoping to retire from the workforce. And that unthinkable uncertainty of an early death, leaving a small child parentless. There are other disadvantages of having children later in life, tiredness comes to mind, the generation gap is another. Being mistaken as the grandparent :(
Fostering children might be a good option. There are so many kids in need of good temporary and long term homes and some stay in contact with the foster parent/s for life.
Certainly you could meet someone and pregnancy is still on the table (tho some increased risks). To me, if you at this age are already questioning the results of your decisions about having family so far, it's only going to become more pressing to you. I think your really need to set aside how you've envisioned yourself doing things and decide what you want to do first. Figure out the who, what, when and where only after you've got this figured out. You probably are in a great financial situation to have a child and be a working mom, because of all the time you've spent working at your career. The way I see it, you've got to choose your path for yourself, as you've probably always done, instead of waiting for someone to lead you. good luck.
You can still improve childrens lives, either by adoption,fostering or care work - of course there still ';is a chance';. Good luck, and freedom and options are nice things, however they can become a prison and chain
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