I may not have a PhD but I have been there and done that. I am trying to write an advice book for young women. It may be a hit, it may not but I need some guidance. I usually give good advice but I need some advice questions. They could be from young women or adults, I just need questions the I can answer giving my advice to. They can deal with anything...Friends, Family, Death, Drugs, School, Boyfriends....anything. Even if the question is not your own but you think it would be a very common question, please ask, I would really appreciate it. Thank you!I'm a writer and I am writing an advice book for young women. Does anyone have any suggestions?
What do you do/say to a friend who says she drinks or does drugs?
How do you deal with peer pressure?
Ways to see signs of a predator or stay safe when alone.
I think advice on how to help friends with problems is important.
I'm a real advocate of good old-fashioned manners, so I think it would be nice to have a manners section, especially cell-phone etiquette and how to treat adults.
I'm eighteen and I think that's a great idea. Anything that can help young people today is great. Oh, one more thing, talk about sex and the consequences since I think there should be more talk about that. Thank you so much, I think your idea is great and I hope it's a success!I'm a writer and I am writing an advice book for young women. Does anyone have any suggestions?
My advice to you about writing a book is pick a subject that you know.
If you have to ask for advice here, maybe you should stick with a topic you know more about.
Monday, August 23, 2010
My fiance is away for work, hasn't called me and I just recieved a call from a woman. Advice?
My fiance has gone on a cruise ship to refurbish some of the areas of the ship. He has been gone for 10 days and he has called me 4 out of these past 10 days and 1 text saying how much he misses and loves me. When we talk he tells me how much he misses me but he can't talk for more than 10 minutes because he either has to go back for work or he says that the phone line is really expensive. He told me that he works from 7am to 1am with 5 1hour breaks throughout the day. I called his number yesterday in the morning and then at night and he didn't pick up. I just miss him and feel frustrated that we cannot communicate more than this. I feel so anxious about what and how he is doing. Every time he calls it says UNKNOWN because he is on a ship.
THEN today I just received an UNKNOWN call and picked up and a woman just said 'Hello', then hung up.
NOW, I am Freaking out. What was that all about? Things go through my mind because I am feeling so distant from him. Should I call him and ask him about this? What should I do?? Am I over exaggerating
Thank youMy fiance is away for work, hasn't called me and I just recieved a call from a woman. Advice?
Hi, I know this must be very frustrating for you. I honestly can not tell you that you should or shouldn't be worried. I don't know what the work schedule is for someone who does cruise ship maintence. I also don't know if the woman that called knows your fiancee or not. I will say this, why would he leave his phone with you if he was cheating and thought a woman could call, so maybe you are over reacting on this part. It's very important that you have piece of mind in your life, how can you live the rest of your life always worried about what he is doing? You need to make the choice to trust him, or if he is the trust worthy type. If you decide that he is not the trust worthy type then maybe it's time to say goodbye, but if he is the trust worthy type then you need to learn to deal with your jealous feelings. Goodluck.My fiance is away for work, hasn't called me and I just recieved a call from a woman. Advice?
try to relax a bit. it was probably a wrong number. i get them all the time. i literally just had a pediatrics office call me about a doctor's appointment and i don't have kids! people mix up numbers.
the fact is on cruise ships he could just be hard to reach! he probably does have a deadline and has to work crazy hours. have a bit of trust.
Girl, calm down, relax...there can be so many reasons for that. I understand you missed him so much, that's why you are freaking jealous of almost everything. Sure it's nothing, he still calling you and telling his deep feelings for you, he loves you.
If it only happened once, you should just consider it an unfortunate coincidence, unless it happens again...then it becomes more than coincidence.
Uh, it could have been a wrong number. No worries.
Find out who the woman was by calling the captain. If not, call the ship corporation.
When he returns, be unavailable FOR a while. Hire a detective to follow him if his Nights are long away from you. I think romeo is looking around.
See if he is hanging around a woman there romantically. If so, do NOT marry HIM. In fact, it does appear another year of being his fiance is necessary Top regain TRUST. If this is his work and he is not in communication regularly, make sure not to sleep with him.
They're using the same phone system in the various offices, she wanted to see if the line wasn't busy so she said hello? when she heard you [or anyone] on the other end she hung up, if the line was not busy she would have made her call. That's how those phones work. Your fiance is right there, she's not looking for him. So, they probably all speak spanish. All he does is take his break and have a drink, a meal or a coffee, if he messed with the guests or employees he would be out of a job, or mabye he gets on the computer. This is his job if you love him you'll accept it, it's normal to only make one call per day anyway, stop making yourself crazy.
There is not one thing you or I can ever do to change our men and make them act like puppets, people do what they want to do in this life, just love him and if you don't have proof then don't suspect him of anything.
THEN today I just received an UNKNOWN call and picked up and a woman just said 'Hello', then hung up.
NOW, I am Freaking out. What was that all about? Things go through my mind because I am feeling so distant from him. Should I call him and ask him about this? What should I do?? Am I over exaggerating
Thank youMy fiance is away for work, hasn't called me and I just recieved a call from a woman. Advice?
Hi, I know this must be very frustrating for you. I honestly can not tell you that you should or shouldn't be worried. I don't know what the work schedule is for someone who does cruise ship maintence. I also don't know if the woman that called knows your fiancee or not. I will say this, why would he leave his phone with you if he was cheating and thought a woman could call, so maybe you are over reacting on this part. It's very important that you have piece of mind in your life, how can you live the rest of your life always worried about what he is doing? You need to make the choice to trust him, or if he is the trust worthy type. If you decide that he is not the trust worthy type then maybe it's time to say goodbye, but if he is the trust worthy type then you need to learn to deal with your jealous feelings. Goodluck.My fiance is away for work, hasn't called me and I just recieved a call from a woman. Advice?
try to relax a bit. it was probably a wrong number. i get them all the time. i literally just had a pediatrics office call me about a doctor's appointment and i don't have kids! people mix up numbers.
the fact is on cruise ships he could just be hard to reach! he probably does have a deadline and has to work crazy hours. have a bit of trust.
Girl, calm down, relax...there can be so many reasons for that. I understand you missed him so much, that's why you are freaking jealous of almost everything. Sure it's nothing, he still calling you and telling his deep feelings for you, he loves you.
If it only happened once, you should just consider it an unfortunate coincidence, unless it happens again...then it becomes more than coincidence.
Uh, it could have been a wrong number. No worries.
Find out who the woman was by calling the captain. If not, call the ship corporation.
When he returns, be unavailable FOR a while. Hire a detective to follow him if his Nights are long away from you. I think romeo is looking around.
See if he is hanging around a woman there romantically. If so, do NOT marry HIM. In fact, it does appear another year of being his fiance is necessary Top regain TRUST. If this is his work and he is not in communication regularly, make sure not to sleep with him.
They're using the same phone system in the various offices, she wanted to see if the line wasn't busy so she said hello? when she heard you [or anyone] on the other end she hung up, if the line was not busy she would have made her call. That's how those phones work. Your fiance is right there, she's not looking for him. So, they probably all speak spanish. All he does is take his break and have a drink, a meal or a coffee, if he messed with the guests or employees he would be out of a job, or mabye he gets on the computer. This is his job if you love him you'll accept it, it's normal to only make one call per day anyway, stop making yourself crazy.
There is not one thing you or I can ever do to change our men and make them act like puppets, people do what they want to do in this life, just love him and if you don't have proof then don't suspect him of anything.
In college, I would have sexual urges for any woman my type, but I get nervous about kids and babies. Advice?
I currently get sexually aroused. I think about sexual intercourse on certain occasions. I currently have sensitive ears, and cannot stand the sound of crying (especially from babies, toddlers, and kids below pre-adolescent growing levels). I would like to have a relationship, but I am uncomfortable going to certain places in the world (w/ people all ages going around). I usually like quiet places. I would like to have a relationship like Winston and Julia in George Orwell's NINETEEN EIGHTY-FOUR. Can you give me any advice? What could I do to make things easier? How could I have a sexual relationship and not have kids?
If you have any advice / tips for me, please post a response, but BE SPECIFIC and tell me what you know.
NO SOURCE LINKS!
NO SIMPLE ANSWERS!
NO UNANSWERED RESPONSES!
NO FALSE ANSWERS (Jokes)!In college, I would have sexual urges for any woman my type, but I get nervous about kids and babies. Advice?
if you don't want kids, use a condom and make sure she's on bc!In college, I would have sexual urges for any woman my type, but I get nervous about kids and babies. Advice?
use condoms, birth control pills and be careful. there are lot of contraceptives you could use you can ask an ob gyne about itmakeup class
If you have any advice / tips for me, please post a response, but BE SPECIFIC and tell me what you know.
NO SOURCE LINKS!
NO SIMPLE ANSWERS!
NO UNANSWERED RESPONSES!
NO FALSE ANSWERS (Jokes)!In college, I would have sexual urges for any woman my type, but I get nervous about kids and babies. Advice?
if you don't want kids, use a condom and make sure she's on bc!In college, I would have sexual urges for any woman my type, but I get nervous about kids and babies. Advice?
use condoms, birth control pills and be careful. there are lot of contraceptives you could use you can ask an ob gyne about it
My boyfriend of 8 years left me for another woman. We have a child together. Please give me some advice?
My boyfriend (who is 33, I am 29) and I have been together for 8 years. We have a 5 year old daughter. He left me for a 21 year old woman who he says he fell in love with and makes him feel better than anyone ever has, within two hours of talking to her. I had no idea we were having any problems or anything was wrong. I was so happy with him. Besides being hurt, betrayed and upset, I can't stop thinking our daughter is going to be affected by this because of this long distance relationship with this new woman. He also has an older son from a previous relationship. He is in a cover band, and travels a lot. I am wondering if he will be gone much more than before. I don't know what to do. We have no custody arrangement or anything. I didn't think there was any need for that. I don't want him to hate me, but do I need to see a lawyer?My boyfriend of 8 years left me for another woman. We have a child together. Please give me some advice?
Not being married gave him an easy way out of the relationship. He knew all along he could do that.
When couples don't get married and just live together, it is usually the guy who does not want to get married. Mostly because of what happened to you. They like having an easy escape route. If you two were married, he would not be able to just walk away like that so easily.
You need to get an attorney and so what if he hates you over this. You need to protect yourself and your daughter. He is not willing. He is only thinking about himself.My boyfriend of 8 years left me for another woman. We have a child together. Please give me some advice?
Well I am divorced and my son was about 4 at the time- it will NOT be easy for your daughter. I'd give you a lecture about how you should have been married when you had a kid but you dont want to hear it... I would get the custody issue resolved- if you dont think he will be compliant with your interests, do NOT talk to him about it- go straight to a lawyer. You may love him and may not have seen this coming but he screwed you over once and will again- trust me
For your daughter's sake, you need to see an attorney as soon as possible.
You need to establish custody, and you need to establish child support. It isn't about making him hate you - it's about making sure your daughter receives the financial support she deserves.
I would say ';Good riddance'; he's a jerk. If he ever wants to come back to you, slam the door in his face. Your going to be just fine raising your daughter by yourself. I would never put my daughter thew the pain of it all. Now you need a lawyer for child support. And ring him dry.
RUN to a lawyer.
This guy seriously needs to grow up, is the new love a groupie?
This happened to me at 24 years, except our kids were grown. I am a lot happier now than I ever was with the ex.
Why should he hate you? You didn't do anything, did you? This sounds like it was all him.
The guy left you high and dry for some bimbo he just met! Of course you need to see a lawyer, set up child support payments and a visitation schedule. It doesn't have to be vindictive in nature but it does have to be done. You can't expect someone who acts like this to be responsible on his own!
Also, yes your daughter is going to be afected by this. How much is going to up to you. Despite your confusion and hurt you have to maintain control for her sake. Answer her questions to the best of your ability without putting her dad down. And is she asks something you don't have an answer for, it is okay to tell her you just don't know.
Not being married gave him an easy way out of the relationship. He knew all along he could do that.
When couples don't get married and just live together, it is usually the guy who does not want to get married. Mostly because of what happened to you. They like having an easy escape route. If you two were married, he would not be able to just walk away like that so easily.
You need to get an attorney and so what if he hates you over this. You need to protect yourself and your daughter. He is not willing. He is only thinking about himself.My boyfriend of 8 years left me for another woman. We have a child together. Please give me some advice?
Well I am divorced and my son was about 4 at the time- it will NOT be easy for your daughter. I'd give you a lecture about how you should have been married when you had a kid but you dont want to hear it... I would get the custody issue resolved- if you dont think he will be compliant with your interests, do NOT talk to him about it- go straight to a lawyer. You may love him and may not have seen this coming but he screwed you over once and will again- trust me
For your daughter's sake, you need to see an attorney as soon as possible.
You need to establish custody, and you need to establish child support. It isn't about making him hate you - it's about making sure your daughter receives the financial support she deserves.
I would say ';Good riddance'; he's a jerk. If he ever wants to come back to you, slam the door in his face. Your going to be just fine raising your daughter by yourself. I would never put my daughter thew the pain of it all. Now you need a lawyer for child support. And ring him dry.
RUN to a lawyer.
This guy seriously needs to grow up, is the new love a groupie?
This happened to me at 24 years, except our kids were grown. I am a lot happier now than I ever was with the ex.
Why should he hate you? You didn't do anything, did you? This sounds like it was all him.
The guy left you high and dry for some bimbo he just met! Of course you need to see a lawyer, set up child support payments and a visitation schedule. It doesn't have to be vindictive in nature but it does have to be done. You can't expect someone who acts like this to be responsible on his own!
Also, yes your daughter is going to be afected by this. How much is going to up to you. Despite your confusion and hurt you have to maintain control for her sake. Answer her questions to the best of your ability without putting her dad down. And is she asks something you don't have an answer for, it is okay to tell her you just don't know.
Would you ever call a woman on a hot line for phone sex or advice?
I work as a Phone sex operator and I have always wanted to ask. Most people think is very dirty but I get a lot of guys that just cant express themselves to their loved one or they have a dark secret , some just call to talk.
I love what I do it never gets dull , I also have lerned alot about sexuality and human nature.Would you ever call a woman on a hot line for phone sex or advice?
Yes I would.....I have actually
I love what I do it never gets dull , I also have lerned alot about sexuality and human nature.Would you ever call a woman on a hot line for phone sex or advice?
Yes I would.....I have actually
I need a woman's advice... I want to plan a suprise for my girlfriend?
I got circumcised about 2.5 weekd ago and i've been keeping it a secret because i wanted to suprise my girlfriend... yeah coming up with excuses has been real hard... But anyways i can finally have sex again this coming weekend. I was just wondering if my girlfriend will actually feel the difference or if there are any posistions etc i can use that will really make her feel the difference?
This would be a good thing if your boyfriend did it right?I need a woman's advice... I want to plan a suprise for my girlfriend?
Are you crazy? Check out an anatomy book - women only have sensation at the opening of the vagina - that's how we can wear tampons.
I really hope you were not so silly as to get that operation done for no good reason.I need a woman's advice... I want to plan a suprise for my girlfriend?
Well just put her hand there and she will know.
regarding the last part of the question ... honastly .. she may not feel anything ... when hard.. a cut and uncut penis look the same.... almost .
its not a big deal to woman ...
honastly i think its an unnecisary ... and messed up thing to do to urself.. or ur child... unless ur religous.... then theres no need....
watch Penn and Teller's Bullshit ..... its a show debunking staryotyps... such as cercomsisionl..... check it out
A circumcised penis doesn't feel any different from an uncircumcised penis...sorry bud!
This would be a good thing if your boyfriend did it right?I need a woman's advice... I want to plan a suprise for my girlfriend?
Are you crazy? Check out an anatomy book - women only have sensation at the opening of the vagina - that's how we can wear tampons.
I really hope you were not so silly as to get that operation done for no good reason.I need a woman's advice... I want to plan a suprise for my girlfriend?
Well just put her hand there and she will know.
regarding the last part of the question ... honastly .. she may not feel anything ... when hard.. a cut and uncut penis look the same.... almost .
its not a big deal to woman ...
honastly i think its an unnecisary ... and messed up thing to do to urself.. or ur child... unless ur religous.... then theres no need....
watch Penn and Teller's Bullshit ..... its a show debunking staryotyps... such as cercomsisionl..... check it out
A circumcised penis doesn't feel any different from an uncircumcised penis...sorry bud!
My boyfriend left me for another woman. She麓s married and has 2 children I麓m not . I need advice !!!?
I am so in love with him when I shouldn鈥檛. He's a pretty dysfunctional man. He's a 34 yr old twice divorced man. An alcoholic with 2 DUI's on his record and now working on probation. I'm a 26 yr old never married woman. He cheated several times. We were together for about two years, this last time he cheated it was with a younger 22 year old married girl with two babies (a six month old and an 8 year old). I work at hooters and have had plenty of chances to cheat on him and never once did because I love him and him cheating on me makes me feel like trash. Especially when he left me for a MARRIED woman a MARRIED woman. And with children !!! Someone please explain to me what happpened. What's wrong with me? what could I have done wrong for him to chose her over me? and then when we talk he literally cries to me telling me that's he's really sorry for hurting me? and says that if he never had told me the truth about sleeping with her, me and him still would have been together?My boyfriend left me for another woman. She麓s married and has 2 children I麓m not . I need advice !!!?
Wow, are YOU ever picking the WRONG kind of MEN!!!
Get over him, what a loser. I don't know that you are going to find the right kind of man working for Hooters.
Guys don't really have a whole lot of respect for women like that sorry to say, even though you are a good and faithful person by the sound of it. You have to know that men have a certain opinion about the kind of girls who work there even when it's likely not the case at all.
Why would you pick a guy with all that ';garbage'; and baggage on his shoulders?
I think you should cut your losses and say good riddens. Guys like him will ping pong back and forth so expect him to come calling again when he's tired of playing daddy-o but have some self respect and lose the loser.
Set your sights a little higher next time and don't give in to men so quickly in future. You shouldn't be that desperate for affection that you will take anyone who throws an interest your way seriously.My boyfriend left me for another woman. She麓s married and has 2 children I麓m not . I need advice !!!?
You didn't do anything wrong, he's obviously a piece of S***. Move on and let some other girl worry about how many times he cheats on her.
I think you really need to examine why you are allowing yourself to be treated so poorly by someone. We cannot control who we love but we can control whether or not we allow others to abuse us. You need to take a look about why you got into a relationship with this disfunctional man and perhaps get some consuelling to discover why you are doing this to yourself. Treat yourself better girl, there are lots of great guys out there who will treat you right, but you have to get yourself to a place where you believe you deserve a great guy who will treat you right. Let go of this guy, he has a history and that behaviour is not likely to suddenly change, you dont deserve this kind of treatment
uh, why dont you have 2 kids and get married, then he will come back to you
Well what are you needing advice on? This guy is not good for you. Why even waste the tears and pain over this guy. You did nothing wrong and there is nothing wrong with you. This guy just thinks that he saw greener pastures. The only advice that I could give you would be to find out who her husband is and let him know what is going on. He has cheated on you serveral times. Why are you letting your heart get broken so many times? He is 34 and not grown up yet. He will never be the kind of guy that settles down with just one woman. Dont waste your time.
What is wrong with you is that you picked a man to trust who wasn't trustworthy. It doesn't matter how loyal and faithful you are to him, or how good you are to him, if he doesn't have the ability to appreciate it. If it is in his nature to be a dog you can't change that with your behavior. Look at who he was before you met him. He is that same exact person today. You are young, single and lovable. You don't need him and just because you can't keep a loser doesn't make you a loser--it makes you lucky. Next time you think about getting into a serious relationship look at the person's character very closely. If you don't like what it shows then reject him, because you can't save em from themselves.
I think your biggest problem is the fact you feel rejected and it makes you want this loser more than you normally would. Get over him and start dating someone else. Once you give him the cut, you will be getting the same thing from him. Pretty sick the way people react to it isn't it? If you just get a little self-esteem you would realize that you deserve better than that kind of treatment to begin with and get angry enough to never turn back. What kind of idiot man hooks up with a 22 yr old girl with an 8 yr old kid? A sick trailer trash pervert that's who. Hell she had that kid when she was 14!!! They deserve each other. And you pine for this guy?
You make it sound like a married woman with children can't have/or take away a man. You haven't done anything wrong I know your hurt and upset but things happen. Honestly you will be better off without him. Maybe he fell for her we can't choose who we fall for (look at who you fell for isn't it obvious). It will be hard but this might end up being good for you. Your young still you'll bounce back no problem it might be hard but it will eventually get easier.
good luck
Say she is new best friend.! You might not know it yet but she has done you the biggest favor of your life by taking that fore flushing bum off your hands for you.
What you need to do first is figure out what is wrong with your self esteem that makes you want to be with someone who clearly doesn't want to be with you. You need to pick yourself up and demand respect and show yourself some in the process and others will follow.
Get out of Hooters. I understand it is what it is but.... it is what it is. Nothing good comes out of it after a time. Case in point.
He used you simple as that. He is searching for a woman.
Sorry to hear, just leave him and u stay alone for sometime,
u may meet another man, but be causes......
Oh honey, it sounds like you think you can help this guy get his life straightened out, and you can't. No one can change anyone. I'm sorry you feel the way you do about him, but please listen to me when I say dump him now. He won't do anything but make your life miserable. I promise you that.
why would you want to be with someone with a bad track record like that?
So was ur boyfriend haveing an affair??? if so u do not need a cheater ,u r so better than that!!!!!!!!! And his record will bring so much drama that u dont even need!!! dump him!! u dont need tht!!!!!
I'm sorry to hear that... Its hard... but when it comes to this, you have to accept that he's not treating you right---by any means--- and he never will treat ANY girl right. Move on because the deeper you get into this relationship... honey, it only gets worse from here. You know what you have to do... Be Brave and DO IT!
so a woman with children cant be as sexy as you??? LOL, you are one bigheaded person and needed a reality check!
the guy's a jerk and you're lucky to be rid of him. The only problem with you is that you kept him around as long as you did otherwise HE's the problem NOT you!! Stop taking his calls and let him know he made his choice and it wasnt you.. he's trying to have his cake and eat it too!! dont let him get away with it.. you're better than that.. i also commend you for not cheating, it's sad how many girls do
If it was not this Married lady then he would have found another Lady anyway. He is seeking a strong lady with the patience to let him play in the open field. He has found security within this Lady. God only knows why. Anyone can cheat Miss. You have the class to over look what other Women are willing to provide to Men like this four time looser. Dump him and move on in your life. Better yourself and prepare your future. When he realizes what he has lost slam the damn door in this loosers face forever. Marry out of love and move away from this Man. He will self destruct himself. Look at the other side. If her ex caught him with his children. I believe that a good *** kicking would justify the situation.
your ? is so stupid, I just threw up with cupid,now I will tell you why, you really love this guy,because you are a joke, and his life will be your yoke, so run from him right quick and find another d*ck
hes a burden on you..focus on getting yourself together..you being with him just adds on more problems to your life..he needs to get his $hit together..be4 he can fully commit to anyone..i suggest for your safety you find someone that will appreciate you and love you enough to not cheat on you..good luck!
You should be counting your blessings. someone is praying for you. first of all it is not you. look at all the things you stated about him. is that how you want to describe YOUR MAN. one thing i know for sure that if a man does not have himself in order he will be no good to the woman he is with. based upon what you have stated, love or no love, you should be thankful that he left. yes it will hurt but that will pass in time. stay focused on you and before you know it you will attract the right person for you. stay strong and love yourself fist! 1
YOU didn't do ANYHTING wrong EXCEPT get involed with a looser and then stay with him to let him treat you like crap.
You can do so much better....don't let him drag you down to his level.
Why in the world would you think something is wrong with you? When relationships break up, as humans we always want to fix something the other may not have valued. I honestly don't think that anything was wrong with you. It sounds like this guys self destructed and purposely cheated for you to leave him. And when you did not, he left you. There is nothing that you can do or should do to get this guy back. Move on and get a real man who will cherish you, be faithful to you and your relationship and be a man
To be in love w/ someone like that, I'm betting you have a self esteem problem. And like most people w/ this problem, I'm betting you have plenty of reasons to be proud of yourself. Focus on the positive and work toward smoothing out your negatives.....and as you make progress, pat yourself on your back and add it to your list of positives. Oh yeah, add to your list of positives the fact he probably felt like you were too good for him; that's why he left you.
Trust me, you don't need this guy....unless you're looking for a lifetime of pain and disappointment.
The 22 year old had a 8 year old ? so she had it when she was 14? hmmmm.confused .
Dump this dude and move on seriously hook up with 1 of your bosses or something that way you are well looked afta .
What u need 2 do is get on with your life. He left you for another woman. The kids have nothing to do with things. You have time to meet and fall in love with someone else, maybe, this time find one without all that baggage. You don't need to be with someone who cheats, cause you will never trust him.
Move on. And leave him ALONE!
Wow, are YOU ever picking the WRONG kind of MEN!!!
Get over him, what a loser. I don't know that you are going to find the right kind of man working for Hooters.
Guys don't really have a whole lot of respect for women like that sorry to say, even though you are a good and faithful person by the sound of it. You have to know that men have a certain opinion about the kind of girls who work there even when it's likely not the case at all.
Why would you pick a guy with all that ';garbage'; and baggage on his shoulders?
I think you should cut your losses and say good riddens. Guys like him will ping pong back and forth so expect him to come calling again when he's tired of playing daddy-o but have some self respect and lose the loser.
Set your sights a little higher next time and don't give in to men so quickly in future. You shouldn't be that desperate for affection that you will take anyone who throws an interest your way seriously.My boyfriend left me for another woman. She麓s married and has 2 children I麓m not . I need advice !!!?
You didn't do anything wrong, he's obviously a piece of S***. Move on and let some other girl worry about how many times he cheats on her.
I think you really need to examine why you are allowing yourself to be treated so poorly by someone. We cannot control who we love but we can control whether or not we allow others to abuse us. You need to take a look about why you got into a relationship with this disfunctional man and perhaps get some consuelling to discover why you are doing this to yourself. Treat yourself better girl, there are lots of great guys out there who will treat you right, but you have to get yourself to a place where you believe you deserve a great guy who will treat you right. Let go of this guy, he has a history and that behaviour is not likely to suddenly change, you dont deserve this kind of treatment
uh, why dont you have 2 kids and get married, then he will come back to you
Well what are you needing advice on? This guy is not good for you. Why even waste the tears and pain over this guy. You did nothing wrong and there is nothing wrong with you. This guy just thinks that he saw greener pastures. The only advice that I could give you would be to find out who her husband is and let him know what is going on. He has cheated on you serveral times. Why are you letting your heart get broken so many times? He is 34 and not grown up yet. He will never be the kind of guy that settles down with just one woman. Dont waste your time.
What is wrong with you is that you picked a man to trust who wasn't trustworthy. It doesn't matter how loyal and faithful you are to him, or how good you are to him, if he doesn't have the ability to appreciate it. If it is in his nature to be a dog you can't change that with your behavior. Look at who he was before you met him. He is that same exact person today. You are young, single and lovable. You don't need him and just because you can't keep a loser doesn't make you a loser--it makes you lucky. Next time you think about getting into a serious relationship look at the person's character very closely. If you don't like what it shows then reject him, because you can't save em from themselves.
I think your biggest problem is the fact you feel rejected and it makes you want this loser more than you normally would. Get over him and start dating someone else. Once you give him the cut, you will be getting the same thing from him. Pretty sick the way people react to it isn't it? If you just get a little self-esteem you would realize that you deserve better than that kind of treatment to begin with and get angry enough to never turn back. What kind of idiot man hooks up with a 22 yr old girl with an 8 yr old kid? A sick trailer trash pervert that's who. Hell she had that kid when she was 14!!! They deserve each other. And you pine for this guy?
You make it sound like a married woman with children can't have/or take away a man. You haven't done anything wrong I know your hurt and upset but things happen. Honestly you will be better off without him. Maybe he fell for her we can't choose who we fall for (look at who you fell for isn't it obvious). It will be hard but this might end up being good for you. Your young still you'll bounce back no problem it might be hard but it will eventually get easier.
good luck
Say she is new best friend.! You might not know it yet but she has done you the biggest favor of your life by taking that fore flushing bum off your hands for you.
What you need to do first is figure out what is wrong with your self esteem that makes you want to be with someone who clearly doesn't want to be with you. You need to pick yourself up and demand respect and show yourself some in the process and others will follow.
Get out of Hooters. I understand it is what it is but.... it is what it is. Nothing good comes out of it after a time. Case in point.
He used you simple as that. He is searching for a woman.
Sorry to hear, just leave him and u stay alone for sometime,
u may meet another man, but be causes......
Oh honey, it sounds like you think you can help this guy get his life straightened out, and you can't. No one can change anyone. I'm sorry you feel the way you do about him, but please listen to me when I say dump him now. He won't do anything but make your life miserable. I promise you that.
why would you want to be with someone with a bad track record like that?
So was ur boyfriend haveing an affair??? if so u do not need a cheater ,u r so better than that!!!!!!!!! And his record will bring so much drama that u dont even need!!! dump him!! u dont need tht!!!!!
I'm sorry to hear that... Its hard... but when it comes to this, you have to accept that he's not treating you right---by any means--- and he never will treat ANY girl right. Move on because the deeper you get into this relationship... honey, it only gets worse from here. You know what you have to do... Be Brave and DO IT!
so a woman with children cant be as sexy as you??? LOL, you are one bigheaded person and needed a reality check!
the guy's a jerk and you're lucky to be rid of him. The only problem with you is that you kept him around as long as you did otherwise HE's the problem NOT you!! Stop taking his calls and let him know he made his choice and it wasnt you.. he's trying to have his cake and eat it too!! dont let him get away with it.. you're better than that.. i also commend you for not cheating, it's sad how many girls do
If it was not this Married lady then he would have found another Lady anyway. He is seeking a strong lady with the patience to let him play in the open field. He has found security within this Lady. God only knows why. Anyone can cheat Miss. You have the class to over look what other Women are willing to provide to Men like this four time looser. Dump him and move on in your life. Better yourself and prepare your future. When he realizes what he has lost slam the damn door in this loosers face forever. Marry out of love and move away from this Man. He will self destruct himself. Look at the other side. If her ex caught him with his children. I believe that a good *** kicking would justify the situation.
your ? is so stupid, I just threw up with cupid,now I will tell you why, you really love this guy,because you are a joke, and his life will be your yoke, so run from him right quick and find another d*ck
hes a burden on you..focus on getting yourself together..you being with him just adds on more problems to your life..he needs to get his $hit together..be4 he can fully commit to anyone..i suggest for your safety you find someone that will appreciate you and love you enough to not cheat on you..good luck!
You should be counting your blessings. someone is praying for you. first of all it is not you. look at all the things you stated about him. is that how you want to describe YOUR MAN. one thing i know for sure that if a man does not have himself in order he will be no good to the woman he is with. based upon what you have stated, love or no love, you should be thankful that he left. yes it will hurt but that will pass in time. stay focused on you and before you know it you will attract the right person for you. stay strong and love yourself fist! 1
YOU didn't do ANYHTING wrong EXCEPT get involed with a looser and then stay with him to let him treat you like crap.
You can do so much better....don't let him drag you down to his level.
Why in the world would you think something is wrong with you? When relationships break up, as humans we always want to fix something the other may not have valued. I honestly don't think that anything was wrong with you. It sounds like this guys self destructed and purposely cheated for you to leave him. And when you did not, he left you. There is nothing that you can do or should do to get this guy back. Move on and get a real man who will cherish you, be faithful to you and your relationship and be a man
To be in love w/ someone like that, I'm betting you have a self esteem problem. And like most people w/ this problem, I'm betting you have plenty of reasons to be proud of yourself. Focus on the positive and work toward smoothing out your negatives.....and as you make progress, pat yourself on your back and add it to your list of positives. Oh yeah, add to your list of positives the fact he probably felt like you were too good for him; that's why he left you.
Trust me, you don't need this guy....unless you're looking for a lifetime of pain and disappointment.
The 22 year old had a 8 year old ? so she had it when she was 14? hmmmm.confused .
Dump this dude and move on seriously hook up with 1 of your bosses or something that way you are well looked afta .
What u need 2 do is get on with your life. He left you for another woman. The kids have nothing to do with things. You have time to meet and fall in love with someone else, maybe, this time find one without all that baggage. You don't need to be with someone who cheats, cause you will never trust him.
Move on. And leave him ALONE!
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