There's a girl in my optometry class (eyes) at university who is about 4 years older than me (i'm 22), but I like her A LOT. Cant stress that enough :) She's very down to earth and likes talking to me whenever we bump into each other. Problem is she lives in Canada and I live in London. She will eventually move back after training here for a year (we're in our final year of university) and that for me is the only thing that's making me undecided about asking her.
Second thing when I look into her eyes, she stares into my eyes with a lovely smile for a very long time. Is this a sign that she's interested in me?
Any kind of advice would help :)I'm falling for this absolutely wonderful woman. Can you give me advice on what to do now ?
Dude..you're 22. Surely you've figured if she likes you by now.
Don't let your fear of her leaving stop you from enjoying each other's company. One step at a time. You may go out twice and find you don't even like each other! So just ask her out and see what happens.
If it's real and the spark is there, who knows what can happen
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Advice on the best support cushions to get for a 35 wk pregnant woman?
Hi
Lately, as baby has been getting bigger - when I lie on my side at night, fall asleep and then turn over to my back in the night - my stomach aches. Its from all the weight being on one side with all my muscles and ligaments stretching.
I have been meaning to purchase a good cushion or two for a long time but it never bothered me as much as it has been the last few nights.
Any advice would be welcome - even if its not about a cushion or some procedures.
ThanksAdvice on the best support cushions to get for a 35 wk pregnant woman?
Mothercare do a wedge pillow that I found really useful. It gently props up the stomach to stop it from drooping down and causing the pain you described.Advice on the best support cushions to get for a 35 wk pregnant woman?
I purchased a Dream Geni maternity pillow from Amazon.co.uk and its great for support for your sides, back and legs ans stops you from rolling on to your back. It costs around 拢25 but I have slept well since I bought this pillow and never sleep without it at nights!
Otherwise, just place a pillow under your lower back, one between your thighs and two on either side to cushion your bump.
It helps also to do some gentle leg stretching before you sleep to keep your circulation going smoothly.
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Dream-Genii-Drea鈥?/a>
there is a big pillow i cant remember wat its called but you can bye them there made for pregnant wimen and it goes under your head around your boobs and under your belly for suport and then rests between your legs like a big 9 looking thing if you cant find one see if a tri pillow works the v or u shaped ones
http://www.nextag.com/pregnancy-body-pil鈥?/a>
I have a memory foam pad on top of my mattress it really helps a lot maybe if you don't already have get a body pillow. The pillow has helped me to stay off my back.
Cheaper than the boppy's but same effect, I loved it!
http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.d鈥?/a>
I used a pillow, at 35 weeks it would be a waste of money as you could go anytime - I would buy a ring type for sitting on afterwards.
Lately, as baby has been getting bigger - when I lie on my side at night, fall asleep and then turn over to my back in the night - my stomach aches. Its from all the weight being on one side with all my muscles and ligaments stretching.
I have been meaning to purchase a good cushion or two for a long time but it never bothered me as much as it has been the last few nights.
Any advice would be welcome - even if its not about a cushion or some procedures.
ThanksAdvice on the best support cushions to get for a 35 wk pregnant woman?
Mothercare do a wedge pillow that I found really useful. It gently props up the stomach to stop it from drooping down and causing the pain you described.Advice on the best support cushions to get for a 35 wk pregnant woman?
I purchased a Dream Geni maternity pillow from Amazon.co.uk and its great for support for your sides, back and legs ans stops you from rolling on to your back. It costs around 拢25 but I have slept well since I bought this pillow and never sleep without it at nights!
Otherwise, just place a pillow under your lower back, one between your thighs and two on either side to cushion your bump.
It helps also to do some gentle leg stretching before you sleep to keep your circulation going smoothly.
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Dream-Genii-Drea鈥?/a>
there is a big pillow i cant remember wat its called but you can bye them there made for pregnant wimen and it goes under your head around your boobs and under your belly for suport and then rests between your legs like a big 9 looking thing if you cant find one see if a tri pillow works the v or u shaped ones
http://www.nextag.com/pregnancy-body-pil鈥?/a>
I have a memory foam pad on top of my mattress it really helps a lot maybe if you don't already have get a body pillow. The pillow has helped me to stay off my back.
Cheaper than the boppy's but same effect, I loved it!
http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.d鈥?/a>
I used a pillow, at 35 weeks it would be a waste of money as you could go anytime - I would buy a ring type for sitting on afterwards.
Is it ok for boys to play Tomb raider games since you play as a woman i just need some advice?
hi everyone i use to play Tomb raider but now i don't since my friends say i should never play it again should i or should i counting playing it againIs it ok for boys to play Tomb raider games since you play as a woman i just need some advice?
yea, ur friends are definetly gay, no doubt about it. have they ever seen her b4? jeez. yea, well anyways, i like em and im a guy. actually...i own every TR made o_0. but i loveeee TR and if ur gay friends think u shuldnt play them, then they're just stupid. keep playing boob raider --- I MEAAAAN tomb raider ;-)Is it ok for boys to play Tomb raider games since you play as a woman i just need some advice?
What's wrong with Playing Tomb Raider? She's a hot chick, what guy doesn't want to play as Lara Croft? There's no reason to stop playing a game you enjoy because of what others say. Honestly, Me and my brother played that game all the time when we were growing up, the first and second one. Even now we play the Anniversary one once and awhile. Tomb Raider is amazing, it's not just a chick game, it's a game both genders can enjoy really.
You can play what you want, it's your life...
If they don't like you because you play a game then they clearly aren't you friends so stuff them.
I play guild wars which everyone seems to find geeky but I stay playing it because I think it's a good game...
If you like Tomb Raider keep playing it
why is it not ok to play? only cuz you play as a girl? well i'm a girl and i'm offended by what your friends say! so what if you play as a girl i play video games as a guy! so tell your friends that they're sexist and stupid and that no girl is ever really gonna want them if they don't stop being so narrow minded!
p.s. you don't have to listen to them! do what you feel is right. if you like the game, play it!
good luck oh and stand up for us girls! :)
its just a game..
the fact that you play as a woman character doesnt mean anything! god! your friends act really childish!
and also its an action game. its not any girly game with dolls or sth like that. keep playing dude if you like!
if that was right i should never play again grand theft auto o_O
LOL =))
Just play it. It's a game, and that character is very hot. I like her, too. It's not a problem if boys play with woman character. Your friends don't know what they loose :P
Yeahh just play it! I say just play what you want and it doesn't matter if others don't - there's no need to tell them if you still do anyway if you don't want them to know.
It's just a game :)
Wait wait wait!! Your friends say tomb raider is bad because the character is a sexy big breasted women? Who likes wearing very short shorts and very revealing shirts?
Are your friends gay or something?
Of course it's ok, it are great games and.. Lara Croft looks great ^^ !
Just keep playing it! (especially Tomb Raider Underworld)
Their right to be concerned. If you play it too much your penis will fall off and you'll develop a taste for the Jonas Bros.
Your friends sound like idiots.
I play just so I can watch a girl from behind. I wish all my characters were girls so I don't have to get close ups of a virtual man's backside.
so you play as a woman char but i rather be looking at a womans butt than playing a male char and looking at his butt
Theres nothing wrong with that.
Play Call of Duty instead
It's a game. Remember that.
just play it actually.. it's just a game.. right..?? ^^
tomb raiders hot and kicks ar.se.
Dude toumb raider is a guys game tell . y would they have a sexy girl??
its a nerdy game tho
sure it is
My brother plays them all, and so does my dad so its not really an issue =)
yea, ur friends are definetly gay, no doubt about it. have they ever seen her b4? jeez. yea, well anyways, i like em and im a guy. actually...i own every TR made o_0. but i loveeee TR and if ur gay friends think u shuldnt play them, then they're just stupid. keep playing boob raider --- I MEAAAAN tomb raider ;-)Is it ok for boys to play Tomb raider games since you play as a woman i just need some advice?
What's wrong with Playing Tomb Raider? She's a hot chick, what guy doesn't want to play as Lara Croft? There's no reason to stop playing a game you enjoy because of what others say. Honestly, Me and my brother played that game all the time when we were growing up, the first and second one. Even now we play the Anniversary one once and awhile. Tomb Raider is amazing, it's not just a chick game, it's a game both genders can enjoy really.
You can play what you want, it's your life...
If they don't like you because you play a game then they clearly aren't you friends so stuff them.
I play guild wars which everyone seems to find geeky but I stay playing it because I think it's a good game...
If you like Tomb Raider keep playing it
why is it not ok to play? only cuz you play as a girl? well i'm a girl and i'm offended by what your friends say! so what if you play as a girl i play video games as a guy! so tell your friends that they're sexist and stupid and that no girl is ever really gonna want them if they don't stop being so narrow minded!
p.s. you don't have to listen to them! do what you feel is right. if you like the game, play it!
good luck oh and stand up for us girls! :)
its just a game..
the fact that you play as a woman character doesnt mean anything! god! your friends act really childish!
and also its an action game. its not any girly game with dolls or sth like that. keep playing dude if you like!
if that was right i should never play again grand theft auto o_O
LOL =))
Just play it. It's a game, and that character is very hot. I like her, too. It's not a problem if boys play with woman character. Your friends don't know what they loose :P
Yeahh just play it! I say just play what you want and it doesn't matter if others don't - there's no need to tell them if you still do anyway if you don't want them to know.
It's just a game :)
Wait wait wait!! Your friends say tomb raider is bad because the character is a sexy big breasted women? Who likes wearing very short shorts and very revealing shirts?
Are your friends gay or something?
Of course it's ok, it are great games and.. Lara Croft looks great ^^ !
Just keep playing it! (especially Tomb Raider Underworld)
Their right to be concerned. If you play it too much your penis will fall off and you'll develop a taste for the Jonas Bros.
Your friends sound like idiots.
I play just so I can watch a girl from behind. I wish all my characters were girls so I don't have to get close ups of a virtual man's backside.
so you play as a woman char but i rather be looking at a womans butt than playing a male char and looking at his butt
Theres nothing wrong with that.
Play Call of Duty instead
It's a game. Remember that.
just play it actually.. it's just a game.. right..?? ^^
tomb raiders hot and kicks ar.se.
Dude toumb raider is a guys game tell . y would they have a sexy girl??
its a nerdy game tho
sure it is
My brother plays them all, and so does my dad so its not really an issue =)
IT IS POSSIBLE A RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN A 27 YEARS OLD MAN AND 35 YEARS OLD WOMAN? and some advices for the woma
I am having a relationship with a German living in Germany he is 27 years old and I am living in USA 35 years old and I am insecure about the future or what I can do, or if I am wasting time or if he really likes me or how can I know or he just want have funIT IS POSSIBLE A RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN A 27 YEARS OLD MAN AND 35 YEARS OLD WOMAN? and some advices for the woma
age is just a state of mind, its not like you are dating a teenager he is an adult and im speaking from experience as my fiance is younger then me and we couldnt be happier. if you are doubting your future then you need to get to know each other more before you make any long term commitments. only you can tell if its going to work out or not and as i tell everyone, go with you gut instincts, if it doesnt feel right then take more time or leave the situation. distance can cause a bit of a problem as well so trust and communication play a bit part in your relationship. yes it can work out but you both have to be 100% committed to each other. that goes for any relationship not just ones with differences in ages. good luck.IT IS POSSIBLE A RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN A 27 YEARS OLD MAN AND 35 YEARS OLD WOMAN? and some advices for the woma
I hope your doubts are not depending on age difference!
In fact, no problem for that!
It remains the different nationality.... uhmmm... I hope you know each other or at least how %26amp; where the possible relationship will have to take place!?
A so long trip, together a so hard change should have to presuppose a sure well-considered action.
You're not children!
I just broke up with a woman who is 35, I am 26, we had some good times.
Your sisuation is different, u are on 2 dfferent continents and how often are you going to see each other? I smell disaster but it all depends on the commitment the both of you put in.
I can assure you that your biggest hurdle is definitely not the age difference. You're both mature adults so don't worry about that. As for me, I would think you'll be more concern with him ';living'; in Germany and you ';living'; in the USA. I can't see how that could ever be more than just internet flirting unless one of you intent to move to the other's country and start a serious relationship.
at 35-you should already have your answers....
You go girl. Theirs nothing wrong with dating a younger man. A lot of older men are dating younger woman all the time. just have fun.
for gods sake why not age is a number
There's nothing wrong with the age gap.
Your problem would come from geography. But if you really like each other that much, why not give it a try?
honey age is just a number as long as u keep it so and don't act, live talk or walk based on it.
not everyone who dated younger, older or even the same age succeeded in their relationship..so it has nothing to do with age unless u let this issue gets into ur relationship. it just all depends on you and ur beliefs when it comes to age. and WHY IS IT OK FOR GUYS TO DATE YOUNGER GIRLS AND U CAN'T? no reason! ofcourse!!
what u need is stop worrying and living up ur life..love was never about age..u dont love someone coz she's 21 !
its hard to know if he's serious about u or not.. but u can either directly ask him.. questions like : where do u see this going..? do u wanna meet up with me some day? or u can ask him Questions like.. what do u think about long distance love? most of all it is YOU thats got to know what u want out of it..
remember,those who succeeded in online dating.. r those who had a disease of honesty.. so honest and never hid anything on eacother..
and one more thing..u really gotta meet up with that guy.. if ur into something real!
good luck..
It is usually best to date someone that would have gone to high school at the same time you did. That means a 4-5 year difference in ages or less. You'll have more things in common. I am 5 years older than my honey, and it didn't make any difference to us.
The long distance relationship is a problem. If you 2 can't be in the same country then it can't work. If neither of you cannot or will not move to be within 50 miles of each other then it is best to set each other free. I am sorry. Don't wait too long. Decide now how long you should wait for a move, and then stick to the breaking off point. Good luck!makeup class
age is just a state of mind, its not like you are dating a teenager he is an adult and im speaking from experience as my fiance is younger then me and we couldnt be happier. if you are doubting your future then you need to get to know each other more before you make any long term commitments. only you can tell if its going to work out or not and as i tell everyone, go with you gut instincts, if it doesnt feel right then take more time or leave the situation. distance can cause a bit of a problem as well so trust and communication play a bit part in your relationship. yes it can work out but you both have to be 100% committed to each other. that goes for any relationship not just ones with differences in ages. good luck.IT IS POSSIBLE A RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN A 27 YEARS OLD MAN AND 35 YEARS OLD WOMAN? and some advices for the woma
I hope your doubts are not depending on age difference!
In fact, no problem for that!
It remains the different nationality.... uhmmm... I hope you know each other or at least how %26amp; where the possible relationship will have to take place!?
A so long trip, together a so hard change should have to presuppose a sure well-considered action.
You're not children!
I just broke up with a woman who is 35, I am 26, we had some good times.
Your sisuation is different, u are on 2 dfferent continents and how often are you going to see each other? I smell disaster but it all depends on the commitment the both of you put in.
I can assure you that your biggest hurdle is definitely not the age difference. You're both mature adults so don't worry about that. As for me, I would think you'll be more concern with him ';living'; in Germany and you ';living'; in the USA. I can't see how that could ever be more than just internet flirting unless one of you intent to move to the other's country and start a serious relationship.
at 35-you should already have your answers....
You go girl. Theirs nothing wrong with dating a younger man. A lot of older men are dating younger woman all the time. just have fun.
for gods sake why not age is a number
There's nothing wrong with the age gap.
Your problem would come from geography. But if you really like each other that much, why not give it a try?
honey age is just a number as long as u keep it so and don't act, live talk or walk based on it.
not everyone who dated younger, older or even the same age succeeded in their relationship..so it has nothing to do with age unless u let this issue gets into ur relationship. it just all depends on you and ur beliefs when it comes to age. and WHY IS IT OK FOR GUYS TO DATE YOUNGER GIRLS AND U CAN'T? no reason! ofcourse!!
what u need is stop worrying and living up ur life..love was never about age..u dont love someone coz she's 21 !
its hard to know if he's serious about u or not.. but u can either directly ask him.. questions like : where do u see this going..? do u wanna meet up with me some day? or u can ask him Questions like.. what do u think about long distance love? most of all it is YOU thats got to know what u want out of it..
remember,those who succeeded in online dating.. r those who had a disease of honesty.. so honest and never hid anything on eacother..
and one more thing..u really gotta meet up with that guy.. if ur into something real!
good luck..
It is usually best to date someone that would have gone to high school at the same time you did. That means a 4-5 year difference in ages or less. You'll have more things in common. I am 5 years older than my honey, and it didn't make any difference to us.
The long distance relationship is a problem. If you 2 can't be in the same country then it can't work. If neither of you cannot or will not move to be within 50 miles of each other then it is best to set each other free. I am sorry. Don't wait too long. Decide now how long you should wait for a move, and then stick to the breaking off point. Good luck!
Hysterectomy or not ,I'm 41 and my periods last for 11 days or more and heavy and hurts needs a woman's advice
A hysterectomy is probably what your going to end up having in the long run i had an endometrial ablation June 15Th after bleeding on and off for years ( nothing regular ) the ablation didn't work so still hemorrhaging panic/anxiety attacks brought on my menopause so now they are doing the hysterectomy August 29Th which is there ASAP date because of the attacks so please go get it seen to asap ~ good luckHysterectomy or not ,I'm 41 and my periods last for 11 days or more and heavy and hurts needs a woman's advice
consult a gynaecologist immediately dont waste time in dng such things hereHysterectomy or not ,I'm 41 and my periods last for 11 days or more and heavy and hurts needs a woman's advice
I have been having the same problem. Did the D%26amp;C 6 weeks ago Wed. I am still having same problem as before. I went through the shots and pills but no relief. Finally after a year I'll have relief and have the hysterectomy only as a last resort. I'm 41 also. Talk to your doctor and see whats the best solution for you especially if your not planning on having any kids.
See your doctor. I was having the same problem and had an endometrial ablation with a D%26amp;C last week. My doctor thinks that may work in helping with the heavy bleeding and cramping. My doctor also told me that your insurance generally will want you to try other treatment options before having a hysterectomy...sorry! I wanted to go ahead and have the hysterectomy as well, I'm 40.
Definitely see your doctor. I'm going through the same thing, and just last week my doctor informed me that he thinks I have adenomyosis. The only treatment is a hysterectomy.
at 41, if youre through having children, I would certainly discuss it with my doctor...and I say yes, absolutely.
you definitely need to see a doctor. my aunt had something like this and had to go on hormone treatments. definitely get it checked out, please. the fact that it hurts is not normal and 11 days? that's pretty long...you even say 11 days or more--that's close to 2 weeks.
consult a gynaecologist immediately dont waste time in dng such things hereHysterectomy or not ,I'm 41 and my periods last for 11 days or more and heavy and hurts needs a woman's advice
I have been having the same problem. Did the D%26amp;C 6 weeks ago Wed. I am still having same problem as before. I went through the shots and pills but no relief. Finally after a year I'll have relief and have the hysterectomy only as a last resort. I'm 41 also. Talk to your doctor and see whats the best solution for you especially if your not planning on having any kids.
See your doctor. I was having the same problem and had an endometrial ablation with a D%26amp;C last week. My doctor thinks that may work in helping with the heavy bleeding and cramping. My doctor also told me that your insurance generally will want you to try other treatment options before having a hysterectomy...sorry! I wanted to go ahead and have the hysterectomy as well, I'm 40.
Definitely see your doctor. I'm going through the same thing, and just last week my doctor informed me that he thinks I have adenomyosis. The only treatment is a hysterectomy.
at 41, if youre through having children, I would certainly discuss it with my doctor...and I say yes, absolutely.
you definitely need to see a doctor. my aunt had something like this and had to go on hormone treatments. definitely get it checked out, please. the fact that it hurts is not normal and 11 days? that's pretty long...you even say 11 days or more--that's close to 2 weeks.
I'm falling for this absolutely wonderful woman. Can you give me advice on what to do now?
here's a girl in my optometry class (eyes) at university who is about 4 years older than me (i'm 22), but I like her A LOT. Can't stress that enough :) She's very down to earth and likes talking to me whenever we bump into each other. Problem is she lives in Canada and I live in London. She will eventually move back after training here for a year (we're in our final year of university) and that for me is the only thing that's making me undecided about asking her.
Second thing when I look into her eyes, she stares into my eyes with a lovely smile for a very long time. Is this a sign that she's interested in me?
Should I tell her how I feel? I'm only seeing her till march next year and she will move south (2h hours by train) in july. Any help I would be so grateful (I think of her all the time)
ThanksI'm falling for this absolutely wonderful woman. Can you give me advice on what to do now?
There's a funny thing about life - you never know where it will lead you! Many people have had firm plans for their life and then something happens (like they meet the love of their life) and plans change! Since you are so attracted to her, why not take a chance and ask her out? If she agrees, the worst that will happen is that you will get to really know each other and see what happens from there! I would not miss a chance to at least TRY to see if a relationship is possible. It doesn't happen too often where someone totally wonderful enters our life. You may regret and wonder what might have been if you just let her get away. It sounds like you are afraid to be hurt should it not work out and she moves away and you never see her again. But life without some risk taking is boring! And this sounds like just a tiny risk that has the potential to pay off big for you both.I'm falling for this absolutely wonderful woman. Can you give me advice on what to do now?
GO FOR IT, GO GET HER!!! DONT LIVE LIFE IN REGRET BRO, IM FROM CALIFORNIA, HOLLYWOOD AREA, U WANNA GIRL, GO FOR HER
She sounds like a woman who is very sure of herself. Eye contact is a rare thing these days. Ask her to go get a cup of coffee and just spend time with her. Some women are raised properly and learn to look people in they eye. This is a great skill to master. Maybe that would be a great ice breaker. Tell her you love the fact that she looks you in they eye while speaking to you and you are very impressed with that trait. Have her give you some pointers on how she came about this skill. She will adore you for the flattery and more then willing to give you a lesson or two in private. If things do not work out between you two you have lost nothing in forming a friendship with this impressive woman and you will learn a great social skill. I would definitely form a friendship. This girl has her act together.
Second thing when I look into her eyes, she stares into my eyes with a lovely smile for a very long time. Is this a sign that she's interested in me?
Should I tell her how I feel? I'm only seeing her till march next year and she will move south (2h hours by train) in july. Any help I would be so grateful (I think of her all the time)
ThanksI'm falling for this absolutely wonderful woman. Can you give me advice on what to do now?
There's a funny thing about life - you never know where it will lead you! Many people have had firm plans for their life and then something happens (like they meet the love of their life) and plans change! Since you are so attracted to her, why not take a chance and ask her out? If she agrees, the worst that will happen is that you will get to really know each other and see what happens from there! I would not miss a chance to at least TRY to see if a relationship is possible. It doesn't happen too often where someone totally wonderful enters our life. You may regret and wonder what might have been if you just let her get away. It sounds like you are afraid to be hurt should it not work out and she moves away and you never see her again. But life without some risk taking is boring! And this sounds like just a tiny risk that has the potential to pay off big for you both.I'm falling for this absolutely wonderful woman. Can you give me advice on what to do now?
GO FOR IT, GO GET HER!!! DONT LIVE LIFE IN REGRET BRO, IM FROM CALIFORNIA, HOLLYWOOD AREA, U WANNA GIRL, GO FOR HER
She sounds like a woman who is very sure of herself. Eye contact is a rare thing these days. Ask her to go get a cup of coffee and just spend time with her. Some women are raised properly and learn to look people in they eye. This is a great skill to master. Maybe that would be a great ice breaker. Tell her you love the fact that she looks you in they eye while speaking to you and you are very impressed with that trait. Have her give you some pointers on how she came about this skill. She will adore you for the flattery and more then willing to give you a lesson or two in private. If things do not work out between you two you have lost nothing in forming a friendship with this impressive woman and you will learn a great social skill. I would definitely form a friendship. This girl has her act together.
For women only, I need advice!!?
Why are married women attracted to me? I have been hit on 3 times this week at work by different married women. Where can I go to meet single women in a new town, I'm not looking for a girl in a bar on off of the streets, and I'm not a church goer with my busy work schedule. I would like to meet someone with some qualities and possible with some of the same interests as I have. I'm 40, divorced, no kids, managment job, and good looking from what the girls at work have said. Help me out here, any advice? Got any single friends you could hook me up with? Something please!!For women only, I need advice!!?
married women hit on you because you were looking at them.
you made eye contact.
you naughty naughty man.
they are attracted to you because of the way your pants fit
i think the best way to meet people is to get out and join some clubs and groups... volunteer your time.
read to kids at an elementary school. many teachers are single
She won't just drop in your lap.... you have to get away from the house. Take a class. There are many single women in college of all ages.
married women hit on you because you were looking at them.
you made eye contact.
you naughty naughty man.
they are attracted to you because of the way your pants fit
i think the best way to meet people is to get out and join some clubs and groups... volunteer your time.
read to kids at an elementary school. many teachers are single
She won't just drop in your lap.... you have to get away from the house. Take a class. There are many single women in college of all ages.
Monday, August 23, 2010
I'm a writer and I am writing an advice book for young women. Does anyone have any suggestions?
I may not have a PhD but I have been there and done that. I am trying to write an advice book for young women. It may be a hit, it may not but I need some guidance. I usually give good advice but I need some advice questions. They could be from young women or adults, I just need questions the I can answer giving my advice to. They can deal with anything...Friends, Family, Death, Drugs, School, Boyfriends....anything. Even if the question is not your own but you think it would be a very common question, please ask, I would really appreciate it. Thank you!I'm a writer and I am writing an advice book for young women. Does anyone have any suggestions?
What do you do/say to a friend who says she drinks or does drugs?
How do you deal with peer pressure?
Ways to see signs of a predator or stay safe when alone.
I think advice on how to help friends with problems is important.
I'm a real advocate of good old-fashioned manners, so I think it would be nice to have a manners section, especially cell-phone etiquette and how to treat adults.
I'm eighteen and I think that's a great idea. Anything that can help young people today is great. Oh, one more thing, talk about sex and the consequences since I think there should be more talk about that. Thank you so much, I think your idea is great and I hope it's a success!I'm a writer and I am writing an advice book for young women. Does anyone have any suggestions?
My advice to you about writing a book is pick a subject that you know.
If you have to ask for advice here, maybe you should stick with a topic you know more about.
What do you do/say to a friend who says she drinks or does drugs?
How do you deal with peer pressure?
Ways to see signs of a predator or stay safe when alone.
I think advice on how to help friends with problems is important.
I'm a real advocate of good old-fashioned manners, so I think it would be nice to have a manners section, especially cell-phone etiquette and how to treat adults.
I'm eighteen and I think that's a great idea. Anything that can help young people today is great. Oh, one more thing, talk about sex and the consequences since I think there should be more talk about that. Thank you so much, I think your idea is great and I hope it's a success!I'm a writer and I am writing an advice book for young women. Does anyone have any suggestions?
My advice to you about writing a book is pick a subject that you know.
If you have to ask for advice here, maybe you should stick with a topic you know more about.
My fiance is away for work, hasn't called me and I just recieved a call from a woman. Advice?
My fiance has gone on a cruise ship to refurbish some of the areas of the ship. He has been gone for 10 days and he has called me 4 out of these past 10 days and 1 text saying how much he misses and loves me. When we talk he tells me how much he misses me but he can't talk for more than 10 minutes because he either has to go back for work or he says that the phone line is really expensive. He told me that he works from 7am to 1am with 5 1hour breaks throughout the day. I called his number yesterday in the morning and then at night and he didn't pick up. I just miss him and feel frustrated that we cannot communicate more than this. I feel so anxious about what and how he is doing. Every time he calls it says UNKNOWN because he is on a ship.
THEN today I just received an UNKNOWN call and picked up and a woman just said 'Hello', then hung up.
NOW, I am Freaking out. What was that all about? Things go through my mind because I am feeling so distant from him. Should I call him and ask him about this? What should I do?? Am I over exaggerating
Thank youMy fiance is away for work, hasn't called me and I just recieved a call from a woman. Advice?
Hi, I know this must be very frustrating for you. I honestly can not tell you that you should or shouldn't be worried. I don't know what the work schedule is for someone who does cruise ship maintence. I also don't know if the woman that called knows your fiancee or not. I will say this, why would he leave his phone with you if he was cheating and thought a woman could call, so maybe you are over reacting on this part. It's very important that you have piece of mind in your life, how can you live the rest of your life always worried about what he is doing? You need to make the choice to trust him, or if he is the trust worthy type. If you decide that he is not the trust worthy type then maybe it's time to say goodbye, but if he is the trust worthy type then you need to learn to deal with your jealous feelings. Goodluck.My fiance is away for work, hasn't called me and I just recieved a call from a woman. Advice?
try to relax a bit. it was probably a wrong number. i get them all the time. i literally just had a pediatrics office call me about a doctor's appointment and i don't have kids! people mix up numbers.
the fact is on cruise ships he could just be hard to reach! he probably does have a deadline and has to work crazy hours. have a bit of trust.
Girl, calm down, relax...there can be so many reasons for that. I understand you missed him so much, that's why you are freaking jealous of almost everything. Sure it's nothing, he still calling you and telling his deep feelings for you, he loves you.
If it only happened once, you should just consider it an unfortunate coincidence, unless it happens again...then it becomes more than coincidence.
Uh, it could have been a wrong number. No worries.
Find out who the woman was by calling the captain. If not, call the ship corporation.
When he returns, be unavailable FOR a while. Hire a detective to follow him if his Nights are long away from you. I think romeo is looking around.
See if he is hanging around a woman there romantically. If so, do NOT marry HIM. In fact, it does appear another year of being his fiance is necessary Top regain TRUST. If this is his work and he is not in communication regularly, make sure not to sleep with him.
They're using the same phone system in the various offices, she wanted to see if the line wasn't busy so she said hello? when she heard you [or anyone] on the other end she hung up, if the line was not busy she would have made her call. That's how those phones work. Your fiance is right there, she's not looking for him. So, they probably all speak spanish. All he does is take his break and have a drink, a meal or a coffee, if he messed with the guests or employees he would be out of a job, or mabye he gets on the computer. This is his job if you love him you'll accept it, it's normal to only make one call per day anyway, stop making yourself crazy.
There is not one thing you or I can ever do to change our men and make them act like puppets, people do what they want to do in this life, just love him and if you don't have proof then don't suspect him of anything.
THEN today I just received an UNKNOWN call and picked up and a woman just said 'Hello', then hung up.
NOW, I am Freaking out. What was that all about? Things go through my mind because I am feeling so distant from him. Should I call him and ask him about this? What should I do?? Am I over exaggerating
Thank youMy fiance is away for work, hasn't called me and I just recieved a call from a woman. Advice?
Hi, I know this must be very frustrating for you. I honestly can not tell you that you should or shouldn't be worried. I don't know what the work schedule is for someone who does cruise ship maintence. I also don't know if the woman that called knows your fiancee or not. I will say this, why would he leave his phone with you if he was cheating and thought a woman could call, so maybe you are over reacting on this part. It's very important that you have piece of mind in your life, how can you live the rest of your life always worried about what he is doing? You need to make the choice to trust him, or if he is the trust worthy type. If you decide that he is not the trust worthy type then maybe it's time to say goodbye, but if he is the trust worthy type then you need to learn to deal with your jealous feelings. Goodluck.My fiance is away for work, hasn't called me and I just recieved a call from a woman. Advice?
try to relax a bit. it was probably a wrong number. i get them all the time. i literally just had a pediatrics office call me about a doctor's appointment and i don't have kids! people mix up numbers.
the fact is on cruise ships he could just be hard to reach! he probably does have a deadline and has to work crazy hours. have a bit of trust.
Girl, calm down, relax...there can be so many reasons for that. I understand you missed him so much, that's why you are freaking jealous of almost everything. Sure it's nothing, he still calling you and telling his deep feelings for you, he loves you.
If it only happened once, you should just consider it an unfortunate coincidence, unless it happens again...then it becomes more than coincidence.
Uh, it could have been a wrong number. No worries.
Find out who the woman was by calling the captain. If not, call the ship corporation.
When he returns, be unavailable FOR a while. Hire a detective to follow him if his Nights are long away from you. I think romeo is looking around.
See if he is hanging around a woman there romantically. If so, do NOT marry HIM. In fact, it does appear another year of being his fiance is necessary Top regain TRUST. If this is his work and he is not in communication regularly, make sure not to sleep with him.
They're using the same phone system in the various offices, she wanted to see if the line wasn't busy so she said hello? when she heard you [or anyone] on the other end she hung up, if the line was not busy she would have made her call. That's how those phones work. Your fiance is right there, she's not looking for him. So, they probably all speak spanish. All he does is take his break and have a drink, a meal or a coffee, if he messed with the guests or employees he would be out of a job, or mabye he gets on the computer. This is his job if you love him you'll accept it, it's normal to only make one call per day anyway, stop making yourself crazy.
There is not one thing you or I can ever do to change our men and make them act like puppets, people do what they want to do in this life, just love him and if you don't have proof then don't suspect him of anything.
In college, I would have sexual urges for any woman my type, but I get nervous about kids and babies. Advice?
I currently get sexually aroused. I think about sexual intercourse on certain occasions. I currently have sensitive ears, and cannot stand the sound of crying (especially from babies, toddlers, and kids below pre-adolescent growing levels). I would like to have a relationship, but I am uncomfortable going to certain places in the world (w/ people all ages going around). I usually like quiet places. I would like to have a relationship like Winston and Julia in George Orwell's NINETEEN EIGHTY-FOUR. Can you give me any advice? What could I do to make things easier? How could I have a sexual relationship and not have kids?
If you have any advice / tips for me, please post a response, but BE SPECIFIC and tell me what you know.
NO SOURCE LINKS!
NO SIMPLE ANSWERS!
NO UNANSWERED RESPONSES!
NO FALSE ANSWERS (Jokes)!In college, I would have sexual urges for any woman my type, but I get nervous about kids and babies. Advice?
if you don't want kids, use a condom and make sure she's on bc!In college, I would have sexual urges for any woman my type, but I get nervous about kids and babies. Advice?
use condoms, birth control pills and be careful. there are lot of contraceptives you could use you can ask an ob gyne about itmakeup class
If you have any advice / tips for me, please post a response, but BE SPECIFIC and tell me what you know.
NO SOURCE LINKS!
NO SIMPLE ANSWERS!
NO UNANSWERED RESPONSES!
NO FALSE ANSWERS (Jokes)!In college, I would have sexual urges for any woman my type, but I get nervous about kids and babies. Advice?
if you don't want kids, use a condom and make sure she's on bc!In college, I would have sexual urges for any woman my type, but I get nervous about kids and babies. Advice?
use condoms, birth control pills and be careful. there are lot of contraceptives you could use you can ask an ob gyne about it
My boyfriend of 8 years left me for another woman. We have a child together. Please give me some advice?
My boyfriend (who is 33, I am 29) and I have been together for 8 years. We have a 5 year old daughter. He left me for a 21 year old woman who he says he fell in love with and makes him feel better than anyone ever has, within two hours of talking to her. I had no idea we were having any problems or anything was wrong. I was so happy with him. Besides being hurt, betrayed and upset, I can't stop thinking our daughter is going to be affected by this because of this long distance relationship with this new woman. He also has an older son from a previous relationship. He is in a cover band, and travels a lot. I am wondering if he will be gone much more than before. I don't know what to do. We have no custody arrangement or anything. I didn't think there was any need for that. I don't want him to hate me, but do I need to see a lawyer?My boyfriend of 8 years left me for another woman. We have a child together. Please give me some advice?
Not being married gave him an easy way out of the relationship. He knew all along he could do that.
When couples don't get married and just live together, it is usually the guy who does not want to get married. Mostly because of what happened to you. They like having an easy escape route. If you two were married, he would not be able to just walk away like that so easily.
You need to get an attorney and so what if he hates you over this. You need to protect yourself and your daughter. He is not willing. He is only thinking about himself.My boyfriend of 8 years left me for another woman. We have a child together. Please give me some advice?
Well I am divorced and my son was about 4 at the time- it will NOT be easy for your daughter. I'd give you a lecture about how you should have been married when you had a kid but you dont want to hear it... I would get the custody issue resolved- if you dont think he will be compliant with your interests, do NOT talk to him about it- go straight to a lawyer. You may love him and may not have seen this coming but he screwed you over once and will again- trust me
For your daughter's sake, you need to see an attorney as soon as possible.
You need to establish custody, and you need to establish child support. It isn't about making him hate you - it's about making sure your daughter receives the financial support she deserves.
I would say ';Good riddance'; he's a jerk. If he ever wants to come back to you, slam the door in his face. Your going to be just fine raising your daughter by yourself. I would never put my daughter thew the pain of it all. Now you need a lawyer for child support. And ring him dry.
RUN to a lawyer.
This guy seriously needs to grow up, is the new love a groupie?
This happened to me at 24 years, except our kids were grown. I am a lot happier now than I ever was with the ex.
Why should he hate you? You didn't do anything, did you? This sounds like it was all him.
The guy left you high and dry for some bimbo he just met! Of course you need to see a lawyer, set up child support payments and a visitation schedule. It doesn't have to be vindictive in nature but it does have to be done. You can't expect someone who acts like this to be responsible on his own!
Also, yes your daughter is going to be afected by this. How much is going to up to you. Despite your confusion and hurt you have to maintain control for her sake. Answer her questions to the best of your ability without putting her dad down. And is she asks something you don't have an answer for, it is okay to tell her you just don't know.
Not being married gave him an easy way out of the relationship. He knew all along he could do that.
When couples don't get married and just live together, it is usually the guy who does not want to get married. Mostly because of what happened to you. They like having an easy escape route. If you two were married, he would not be able to just walk away like that so easily.
You need to get an attorney and so what if he hates you over this. You need to protect yourself and your daughter. He is not willing. He is only thinking about himself.My boyfriend of 8 years left me for another woman. We have a child together. Please give me some advice?
Well I am divorced and my son was about 4 at the time- it will NOT be easy for your daughter. I'd give you a lecture about how you should have been married when you had a kid but you dont want to hear it... I would get the custody issue resolved- if you dont think he will be compliant with your interests, do NOT talk to him about it- go straight to a lawyer. You may love him and may not have seen this coming but he screwed you over once and will again- trust me
For your daughter's sake, you need to see an attorney as soon as possible.
You need to establish custody, and you need to establish child support. It isn't about making him hate you - it's about making sure your daughter receives the financial support she deserves.
I would say ';Good riddance'; he's a jerk. If he ever wants to come back to you, slam the door in his face. Your going to be just fine raising your daughter by yourself. I would never put my daughter thew the pain of it all. Now you need a lawyer for child support. And ring him dry.
RUN to a lawyer.
This guy seriously needs to grow up, is the new love a groupie?
This happened to me at 24 years, except our kids were grown. I am a lot happier now than I ever was with the ex.
Why should he hate you? You didn't do anything, did you? This sounds like it was all him.
The guy left you high and dry for some bimbo he just met! Of course you need to see a lawyer, set up child support payments and a visitation schedule. It doesn't have to be vindictive in nature but it does have to be done. You can't expect someone who acts like this to be responsible on his own!
Also, yes your daughter is going to be afected by this. How much is going to up to you. Despite your confusion and hurt you have to maintain control for her sake. Answer her questions to the best of your ability without putting her dad down. And is she asks something you don't have an answer for, it is okay to tell her you just don't know.
Would you ever call a woman on a hot line for phone sex or advice?
I work as a Phone sex operator and I have always wanted to ask. Most people think is very dirty but I get a lot of guys that just cant express themselves to their loved one or they have a dark secret , some just call to talk.
I love what I do it never gets dull , I also have lerned alot about sexuality and human nature.Would you ever call a woman on a hot line for phone sex or advice?
Yes I would.....I have actually
I love what I do it never gets dull , I also have lerned alot about sexuality and human nature.Would you ever call a woman on a hot line for phone sex or advice?
Yes I would.....I have actually
I need a woman's advice... I want to plan a suprise for my girlfriend?
I got circumcised about 2.5 weekd ago and i've been keeping it a secret because i wanted to suprise my girlfriend... yeah coming up with excuses has been real hard... But anyways i can finally have sex again this coming weekend. I was just wondering if my girlfriend will actually feel the difference or if there are any posistions etc i can use that will really make her feel the difference?
This would be a good thing if your boyfriend did it right?I need a woman's advice... I want to plan a suprise for my girlfriend?
Are you crazy? Check out an anatomy book - women only have sensation at the opening of the vagina - that's how we can wear tampons.
I really hope you were not so silly as to get that operation done for no good reason.I need a woman's advice... I want to plan a suprise for my girlfriend?
Well just put her hand there and she will know.
regarding the last part of the question ... honastly .. she may not feel anything ... when hard.. a cut and uncut penis look the same.... almost .
its not a big deal to woman ...
honastly i think its an unnecisary ... and messed up thing to do to urself.. or ur child... unless ur religous.... then theres no need....
watch Penn and Teller's Bullshit ..... its a show debunking staryotyps... such as cercomsisionl..... check it out
A circumcised penis doesn't feel any different from an uncircumcised penis...sorry bud!
This would be a good thing if your boyfriend did it right?I need a woman's advice... I want to plan a suprise for my girlfriend?
Are you crazy? Check out an anatomy book - women only have sensation at the opening of the vagina - that's how we can wear tampons.
I really hope you were not so silly as to get that operation done for no good reason.I need a woman's advice... I want to plan a suprise for my girlfriend?
Well just put her hand there and she will know.
regarding the last part of the question ... honastly .. she may not feel anything ... when hard.. a cut and uncut penis look the same.... almost .
its not a big deal to woman ...
honastly i think its an unnecisary ... and messed up thing to do to urself.. or ur child... unless ur religous.... then theres no need....
watch Penn and Teller's Bullshit ..... its a show debunking staryotyps... such as cercomsisionl..... check it out
A circumcised penis doesn't feel any different from an uncircumcised penis...sorry bud!
My boyfriend left me for another woman. She麓s married and has 2 children I麓m not . I need advice !!!?
I am so in love with him when I shouldn鈥檛. He's a pretty dysfunctional man. He's a 34 yr old twice divorced man. An alcoholic with 2 DUI's on his record and now working on probation. I'm a 26 yr old never married woman. He cheated several times. We were together for about two years, this last time he cheated it was with a younger 22 year old married girl with two babies (a six month old and an 8 year old). I work at hooters and have had plenty of chances to cheat on him and never once did because I love him and him cheating on me makes me feel like trash. Especially when he left me for a MARRIED woman a MARRIED woman. And with children !!! Someone please explain to me what happpened. What's wrong with me? what could I have done wrong for him to chose her over me? and then when we talk he literally cries to me telling me that's he's really sorry for hurting me? and says that if he never had told me the truth about sleeping with her, me and him still would have been together?My boyfriend left me for another woman. She麓s married and has 2 children I麓m not . I need advice !!!?
Wow, are YOU ever picking the WRONG kind of MEN!!!
Get over him, what a loser. I don't know that you are going to find the right kind of man working for Hooters.
Guys don't really have a whole lot of respect for women like that sorry to say, even though you are a good and faithful person by the sound of it. You have to know that men have a certain opinion about the kind of girls who work there even when it's likely not the case at all.
Why would you pick a guy with all that ';garbage'; and baggage on his shoulders?
I think you should cut your losses and say good riddens. Guys like him will ping pong back and forth so expect him to come calling again when he's tired of playing daddy-o but have some self respect and lose the loser.
Set your sights a little higher next time and don't give in to men so quickly in future. You shouldn't be that desperate for affection that you will take anyone who throws an interest your way seriously.My boyfriend left me for another woman. She麓s married and has 2 children I麓m not . I need advice !!!?
You didn't do anything wrong, he's obviously a piece of S***. Move on and let some other girl worry about how many times he cheats on her.
I think you really need to examine why you are allowing yourself to be treated so poorly by someone. We cannot control who we love but we can control whether or not we allow others to abuse us. You need to take a look about why you got into a relationship with this disfunctional man and perhaps get some consuelling to discover why you are doing this to yourself. Treat yourself better girl, there are lots of great guys out there who will treat you right, but you have to get yourself to a place where you believe you deserve a great guy who will treat you right. Let go of this guy, he has a history and that behaviour is not likely to suddenly change, you dont deserve this kind of treatment
uh, why dont you have 2 kids and get married, then he will come back to you
Well what are you needing advice on? This guy is not good for you. Why even waste the tears and pain over this guy. You did nothing wrong and there is nothing wrong with you. This guy just thinks that he saw greener pastures. The only advice that I could give you would be to find out who her husband is and let him know what is going on. He has cheated on you serveral times. Why are you letting your heart get broken so many times? He is 34 and not grown up yet. He will never be the kind of guy that settles down with just one woman. Dont waste your time.
What is wrong with you is that you picked a man to trust who wasn't trustworthy. It doesn't matter how loyal and faithful you are to him, or how good you are to him, if he doesn't have the ability to appreciate it. If it is in his nature to be a dog you can't change that with your behavior. Look at who he was before you met him. He is that same exact person today. You are young, single and lovable. You don't need him and just because you can't keep a loser doesn't make you a loser--it makes you lucky. Next time you think about getting into a serious relationship look at the person's character very closely. If you don't like what it shows then reject him, because you can't save em from themselves.
I think your biggest problem is the fact you feel rejected and it makes you want this loser more than you normally would. Get over him and start dating someone else. Once you give him the cut, you will be getting the same thing from him. Pretty sick the way people react to it isn't it? If you just get a little self-esteem you would realize that you deserve better than that kind of treatment to begin with and get angry enough to never turn back. What kind of idiot man hooks up with a 22 yr old girl with an 8 yr old kid? A sick trailer trash pervert that's who. Hell she had that kid when she was 14!!! They deserve each other. And you pine for this guy?
You make it sound like a married woman with children can't have/or take away a man. You haven't done anything wrong I know your hurt and upset but things happen. Honestly you will be better off without him. Maybe he fell for her we can't choose who we fall for (look at who you fell for isn't it obvious). It will be hard but this might end up being good for you. Your young still you'll bounce back no problem it might be hard but it will eventually get easier.
good luck
Say she is new best friend.! You might not know it yet but she has done you the biggest favor of your life by taking that fore flushing bum off your hands for you.
What you need to do first is figure out what is wrong with your self esteem that makes you want to be with someone who clearly doesn't want to be with you. You need to pick yourself up and demand respect and show yourself some in the process and others will follow.
Get out of Hooters. I understand it is what it is but.... it is what it is. Nothing good comes out of it after a time. Case in point.
He used you simple as that. He is searching for a woman.
Sorry to hear, just leave him and u stay alone for sometime,
u may meet another man, but be causes......
Oh honey, it sounds like you think you can help this guy get his life straightened out, and you can't. No one can change anyone. I'm sorry you feel the way you do about him, but please listen to me when I say dump him now. He won't do anything but make your life miserable. I promise you that.
why would you want to be with someone with a bad track record like that?
So was ur boyfriend haveing an affair??? if so u do not need a cheater ,u r so better than that!!!!!!!!! And his record will bring so much drama that u dont even need!!! dump him!! u dont need tht!!!!!
I'm sorry to hear that... Its hard... but when it comes to this, you have to accept that he's not treating you right---by any means--- and he never will treat ANY girl right. Move on because the deeper you get into this relationship... honey, it only gets worse from here. You know what you have to do... Be Brave and DO IT!
so a woman with children cant be as sexy as you??? LOL, you are one bigheaded person and needed a reality check!
the guy's a jerk and you're lucky to be rid of him. The only problem with you is that you kept him around as long as you did otherwise HE's the problem NOT you!! Stop taking his calls and let him know he made his choice and it wasnt you.. he's trying to have his cake and eat it too!! dont let him get away with it.. you're better than that.. i also commend you for not cheating, it's sad how many girls do
If it was not this Married lady then he would have found another Lady anyway. He is seeking a strong lady with the patience to let him play in the open field. He has found security within this Lady. God only knows why. Anyone can cheat Miss. You have the class to over look what other Women are willing to provide to Men like this four time looser. Dump him and move on in your life. Better yourself and prepare your future. When he realizes what he has lost slam the damn door in this loosers face forever. Marry out of love and move away from this Man. He will self destruct himself. Look at the other side. If her ex caught him with his children. I believe that a good *** kicking would justify the situation.
your ? is so stupid, I just threw up with cupid,now I will tell you why, you really love this guy,because you are a joke, and his life will be your yoke, so run from him right quick and find another d*ck
hes a burden on you..focus on getting yourself together..you being with him just adds on more problems to your life..he needs to get his $hit together..be4 he can fully commit to anyone..i suggest for your safety you find someone that will appreciate you and love you enough to not cheat on you..good luck!
You should be counting your blessings. someone is praying for you. first of all it is not you. look at all the things you stated about him. is that how you want to describe YOUR MAN. one thing i know for sure that if a man does not have himself in order he will be no good to the woman he is with. based upon what you have stated, love or no love, you should be thankful that he left. yes it will hurt but that will pass in time. stay focused on you and before you know it you will attract the right person for you. stay strong and love yourself fist! 1
YOU didn't do ANYHTING wrong EXCEPT get involed with a looser and then stay with him to let him treat you like crap.
You can do so much better....don't let him drag you down to his level.
Why in the world would you think something is wrong with you? When relationships break up, as humans we always want to fix something the other may not have valued. I honestly don't think that anything was wrong with you. It sounds like this guys self destructed and purposely cheated for you to leave him. And when you did not, he left you. There is nothing that you can do or should do to get this guy back. Move on and get a real man who will cherish you, be faithful to you and your relationship and be a man
To be in love w/ someone like that, I'm betting you have a self esteem problem. And like most people w/ this problem, I'm betting you have plenty of reasons to be proud of yourself. Focus on the positive and work toward smoothing out your negatives.....and as you make progress, pat yourself on your back and add it to your list of positives. Oh yeah, add to your list of positives the fact he probably felt like you were too good for him; that's why he left you.
Trust me, you don't need this guy....unless you're looking for a lifetime of pain and disappointment.
The 22 year old had a 8 year old ? so she had it when she was 14? hmmmm.confused .
Dump this dude and move on seriously hook up with 1 of your bosses or something that way you are well looked afta .
What u need 2 do is get on with your life. He left you for another woman. The kids have nothing to do with things. You have time to meet and fall in love with someone else, maybe, this time find one without all that baggage. You don't need to be with someone who cheats, cause you will never trust him.
Move on. And leave him ALONE!
Wow, are YOU ever picking the WRONG kind of MEN!!!
Get over him, what a loser. I don't know that you are going to find the right kind of man working for Hooters.
Guys don't really have a whole lot of respect for women like that sorry to say, even though you are a good and faithful person by the sound of it. You have to know that men have a certain opinion about the kind of girls who work there even when it's likely not the case at all.
Why would you pick a guy with all that ';garbage'; and baggage on his shoulders?
I think you should cut your losses and say good riddens. Guys like him will ping pong back and forth so expect him to come calling again when he's tired of playing daddy-o but have some self respect and lose the loser.
Set your sights a little higher next time and don't give in to men so quickly in future. You shouldn't be that desperate for affection that you will take anyone who throws an interest your way seriously.My boyfriend left me for another woman. She麓s married and has 2 children I麓m not . I need advice !!!?
You didn't do anything wrong, he's obviously a piece of S***. Move on and let some other girl worry about how many times he cheats on her.
I think you really need to examine why you are allowing yourself to be treated so poorly by someone. We cannot control who we love but we can control whether or not we allow others to abuse us. You need to take a look about why you got into a relationship with this disfunctional man and perhaps get some consuelling to discover why you are doing this to yourself. Treat yourself better girl, there are lots of great guys out there who will treat you right, but you have to get yourself to a place where you believe you deserve a great guy who will treat you right. Let go of this guy, he has a history and that behaviour is not likely to suddenly change, you dont deserve this kind of treatment
uh, why dont you have 2 kids and get married, then he will come back to you
Well what are you needing advice on? This guy is not good for you. Why even waste the tears and pain over this guy. You did nothing wrong and there is nothing wrong with you. This guy just thinks that he saw greener pastures. The only advice that I could give you would be to find out who her husband is and let him know what is going on. He has cheated on you serveral times. Why are you letting your heart get broken so many times? He is 34 and not grown up yet. He will never be the kind of guy that settles down with just one woman. Dont waste your time.
What is wrong with you is that you picked a man to trust who wasn't trustworthy. It doesn't matter how loyal and faithful you are to him, or how good you are to him, if he doesn't have the ability to appreciate it. If it is in his nature to be a dog you can't change that with your behavior. Look at who he was before you met him. He is that same exact person today. You are young, single and lovable. You don't need him and just because you can't keep a loser doesn't make you a loser--it makes you lucky. Next time you think about getting into a serious relationship look at the person's character very closely. If you don't like what it shows then reject him, because you can't save em from themselves.
I think your biggest problem is the fact you feel rejected and it makes you want this loser more than you normally would. Get over him and start dating someone else. Once you give him the cut, you will be getting the same thing from him. Pretty sick the way people react to it isn't it? If you just get a little self-esteem you would realize that you deserve better than that kind of treatment to begin with and get angry enough to never turn back. What kind of idiot man hooks up with a 22 yr old girl with an 8 yr old kid? A sick trailer trash pervert that's who. Hell she had that kid when she was 14!!! They deserve each other. And you pine for this guy?
You make it sound like a married woman with children can't have/or take away a man. You haven't done anything wrong I know your hurt and upset but things happen. Honestly you will be better off without him. Maybe he fell for her we can't choose who we fall for (look at who you fell for isn't it obvious). It will be hard but this might end up being good for you. Your young still you'll bounce back no problem it might be hard but it will eventually get easier.
good luck
Say she is new best friend.! You might not know it yet but she has done you the biggest favor of your life by taking that fore flushing bum off your hands for you.
What you need to do first is figure out what is wrong with your self esteem that makes you want to be with someone who clearly doesn't want to be with you. You need to pick yourself up and demand respect and show yourself some in the process and others will follow.
Get out of Hooters. I understand it is what it is but.... it is what it is. Nothing good comes out of it after a time. Case in point.
He used you simple as that. He is searching for a woman.
Sorry to hear, just leave him and u stay alone for sometime,
u may meet another man, but be causes......
Oh honey, it sounds like you think you can help this guy get his life straightened out, and you can't. No one can change anyone. I'm sorry you feel the way you do about him, but please listen to me when I say dump him now. He won't do anything but make your life miserable. I promise you that.
why would you want to be with someone with a bad track record like that?
So was ur boyfriend haveing an affair??? if so u do not need a cheater ,u r so better than that!!!!!!!!! And his record will bring so much drama that u dont even need!!! dump him!! u dont need tht!!!!!
I'm sorry to hear that... Its hard... but when it comes to this, you have to accept that he's not treating you right---by any means--- and he never will treat ANY girl right. Move on because the deeper you get into this relationship... honey, it only gets worse from here. You know what you have to do... Be Brave and DO IT!
so a woman with children cant be as sexy as you??? LOL, you are one bigheaded person and needed a reality check!
the guy's a jerk and you're lucky to be rid of him. The only problem with you is that you kept him around as long as you did otherwise HE's the problem NOT you!! Stop taking his calls and let him know he made his choice and it wasnt you.. he's trying to have his cake and eat it too!! dont let him get away with it.. you're better than that.. i also commend you for not cheating, it's sad how many girls do
If it was not this Married lady then he would have found another Lady anyway. He is seeking a strong lady with the patience to let him play in the open field. He has found security within this Lady. God only knows why. Anyone can cheat Miss. You have the class to over look what other Women are willing to provide to Men like this four time looser. Dump him and move on in your life. Better yourself and prepare your future. When he realizes what he has lost slam the damn door in this loosers face forever. Marry out of love and move away from this Man. He will self destruct himself. Look at the other side. If her ex caught him with his children. I believe that a good *** kicking would justify the situation.
your ? is so stupid, I just threw up with cupid,now I will tell you why, you really love this guy,because you are a joke, and his life will be your yoke, so run from him right quick and find another d*ck
hes a burden on you..focus on getting yourself together..you being with him just adds on more problems to your life..he needs to get his $hit together..be4 he can fully commit to anyone..i suggest for your safety you find someone that will appreciate you and love you enough to not cheat on you..good luck!
You should be counting your blessings. someone is praying for you. first of all it is not you. look at all the things you stated about him. is that how you want to describe YOUR MAN. one thing i know for sure that if a man does not have himself in order he will be no good to the woman he is with. based upon what you have stated, love or no love, you should be thankful that he left. yes it will hurt but that will pass in time. stay focused on you and before you know it you will attract the right person for you. stay strong and love yourself fist! 1
YOU didn't do ANYHTING wrong EXCEPT get involed with a looser and then stay with him to let him treat you like crap.
You can do so much better....don't let him drag you down to his level.
Why in the world would you think something is wrong with you? When relationships break up, as humans we always want to fix something the other may not have valued. I honestly don't think that anything was wrong with you. It sounds like this guys self destructed and purposely cheated for you to leave him. And when you did not, he left you. There is nothing that you can do or should do to get this guy back. Move on and get a real man who will cherish you, be faithful to you and your relationship and be a man
To be in love w/ someone like that, I'm betting you have a self esteem problem. And like most people w/ this problem, I'm betting you have plenty of reasons to be proud of yourself. Focus on the positive and work toward smoothing out your negatives.....and as you make progress, pat yourself on your back and add it to your list of positives. Oh yeah, add to your list of positives the fact he probably felt like you were too good for him; that's why he left you.
Trust me, you don't need this guy....unless you're looking for a lifetime of pain and disappointment.
The 22 year old had a 8 year old ? so she had it when she was 14? hmmmm.confused .
Dump this dude and move on seriously hook up with 1 of your bosses or something that way you are well looked afta .
What u need 2 do is get on with your life. He left you for another woman. The kids have nothing to do with things. You have time to meet and fall in love with someone else, maybe, this time find one without all that baggage. You don't need to be with someone who cheats, cause you will never trust him.
Move on. And leave him ALONE!
Advice-- from guys...what do guys look for in a woman...?
wut do u guys look for in a woman?Advice-- from guys...what do guys look for in a woman...?
You answered my question... now I'll answer yours. I think most men would appreciate a woman who knows HERSELF. In other words, it is usually difficult to deal with a woman who doesn't know what she wants... or who usually does multiple things just to feel satisfied with herself and finding ways to crave her inner cravings, wants, and needs. Those kind of women are difficult to deal with because it's NEVER EASY satisfying them in a way they want to be satisfied. These type of women are usually insecure.
So it really helps if a woman learns to respect a man for who he is and not what he has or what he can do for her just so she is 100% satisfied. I really like women who are mature. The immature ones are difficult to deal with. It's like dealing with cases of ADD or bi polar disorder patients. Other than that, it also helps if women show pride in themselves just for being who they are.
And, like most women, men also appreciate outer and inner beauty. Let's be honest, looks are, to some degree, important. After that, it's usually the personality. It also helps if a woman is financially independent. Really, they are given the opportunity to succeed in any field they want.
I'm a mature guy who is 28 yrs old, single, and have been complimented for my looks. Other than that, I have a difficult time getting by with women who do not have a clue about what they want. Also, most women I know are taken, so that's another sad side of coping with being alone.
Anytime you want to talk about this then just let me know. You are free to email me. Just ask. :) Thanks.Advice-- from guys...what do guys look for in a woman...?
Men look for a woman who is different from the rest. It's a given that most females are successful career wise and have some type of spiritual background. But what else do you do? You don't ever want to be known as a female that just looks good and that's it. We require a confident woman as much as women require a confident man. We also can't stand a complaining woman. We alos listen to how women treat and talk about their friends. We know if you do it to them, YOU'LL DO IT TO US! But most importantly, be a woman. Just because you are a woman by sex, does not mean you are a woman mentally! Be confident, use your common sense, and don't tell everything about yourself, and just maybe you'll be blessed with a great guy.
Virtues that are still there and visible after switching off the lights.
You answered my question... now I'll answer yours. I think most men would appreciate a woman who knows HERSELF. In other words, it is usually difficult to deal with a woman who doesn't know what she wants... or who usually does multiple things just to feel satisfied with herself and finding ways to crave her inner cravings, wants, and needs. Those kind of women are difficult to deal with because it's NEVER EASY satisfying them in a way they want to be satisfied. These type of women are usually insecure.
So it really helps if a woman learns to respect a man for who he is and not what he has or what he can do for her just so she is 100% satisfied. I really like women who are mature. The immature ones are difficult to deal with. It's like dealing with cases of ADD or bi polar disorder patients. Other than that, it also helps if women show pride in themselves just for being who they are.
And, like most women, men also appreciate outer and inner beauty. Let's be honest, looks are, to some degree, important. After that, it's usually the personality. It also helps if a woman is financially independent. Really, they are given the opportunity to succeed in any field they want.
I'm a mature guy who is 28 yrs old, single, and have been complimented for my looks. Other than that, I have a difficult time getting by with women who do not have a clue about what they want. Also, most women I know are taken, so that's another sad side of coping with being alone.
Anytime you want to talk about this then just let me know. You are free to email me. Just ask. :) Thanks.Advice-- from guys...what do guys look for in a woman...?
Men look for a woman who is different from the rest. It's a given that most females are successful career wise and have some type of spiritual background. But what else do you do? You don't ever want to be known as a female that just looks good and that's it. We require a confident woman as much as women require a confident man. We also can't stand a complaining woman. We alos listen to how women treat and talk about their friends. We know if you do it to them, YOU'LL DO IT TO US! But most importantly, be a woman. Just because you are a woman by sex, does not mean you are a woman mentally! Be confident, use your common sense, and don't tell everything about yourself, and just maybe you'll be blessed with a great guy.
Virtues that are still there and visible after switching off the lights.
My fiance is away for work, hasn't called me and I just recieved a call from a woman. Advice?
My fiance has gone on a cruise ship to refurbish some of the areas of the ship. He has been gone for 10 days and he has called me 4 out of these past 10 days and 1 text saying how much he misses and loves me. When we talk he tells me how much he misses me but he can't talk for more than 10 minutes because he either has to go back for work or he says that the phone line is really expensive. He told me that he works from 7am to 1am with 5 1hour breaks throughout the day. I called his number yesterday in the morning and then at night and he didn't pick up. I just miss him and feel frustrated that we cannot communicate more than this. I feel so anxious about what and how he is doing. Every time he calls it says UNKNOWN because he is on a ship.
THEN today I just received an UNKNOWN call and picked up and a woman just said 'Hello', then hung up.
NOW, I am Freaking out. What was that all about? Things go through my mind because I am feeling so distant from him. Should I call him and ask him about this? What should I do?? Am I over exaggerating
He is spanish and he is in the caribbean on a ship right now. The lady who said HELLO had a strong spanish accent.My fiance is away for work, hasn't called me and I just recieved a call from a woman. Advice?
To those that are questioning the working hours and habits on cruise ships. It is normal to work 18 hrs days while underway with many breaks like the original poster stated. Performing renovations/maintenance while underway is also very normal. Usually they will happen in the areas where the passengers are not allowed access to. If it is in areas do have access to they will block of areas around there to prevent passengers from actually seeing the areas being worked on if possible.
The more the ship is out at sea with passengers means that the cruise ship makes money. Keeping a ship in port is expensive in itself. So when they can maintenance is down while underway. Making a ship to shore phone call is very expensive also if they are using the ship communications. Getting a chance to go ashore if you are part of the maintenance/engineering crew is rare also.
My fiance is away for work, hasn't called me and I just recieved a call from a woman. Advice?
Maybe she was a relative, and thought she had the wrong number. Maybe she got disconnected accidently. When we took a cruise, i called my mother from our room on the ship. I stayed on the phone for I swear like 2 mins. and the bill was $100. It is very expensive. Next time you talk to him, ask him.
With many years of experience counseling members of my church I can say without a doubt Fred Borman is 100% correct. Often times we tend to shift blame to others then take the hard path of accepting some of the responsibility ourselves. Hopefully you will embrace his heritage and put this relationship back on track.
calm down. i think you're totally blowing this out of proportion. it could've simply been somthing along the lines of the person that went to use the phone next simply hit redial or something stupid like that. i think you're really overreacting.
Soy asi' cunfused por este.
Pienso que el hace trampas en usted!
UNKNOWN.
It could've just been a wrong number you know. The fact that she had a spanish accent could've been a coincidence.
Fred Borman- divine answer, just one minor thing, Spaniards don't eat burritos, we prefer empanadillas ;)
you are 100% over exaggerating. This call could have come from anywhere
So what you got the SAME call yesterday to?????
Or wait, I guess you did not get the answer you wanted YESTERDAY when you posted this....
Hmmmm.....i would just calll him. I'm sure its nothing. Prolly just a quincidence. I hope he returns home to you soon. Take care.
Maybe it was a wrong number, and instead of her saying ';oops. sorry!'; she just hung up. I've had that happen before.
I think you might be over reacting. Wait til you talk to him again.
wow you really dont trust your husband at all.
let's hope it was just a wrong number.
First of all don't overreact...
Just because a woman calls said ';Hello'; then hung up, doesn't mean anything wrong is happening. She knows he is on the ship so there is no reason for her to call his home except to start trouble. Her goal may be to get you to loose your head ';freaking out'; and piss off your fiance with accusations and maby drive him to her.
This happened to me once when I turned a nightcap down. The woman got mad and said ';Whats the matter?!?!?! Im not good enough?!?!?!'; She called my house the next morning to let my wife know that I had been having an affair with her. My wife coolly asked this woman to describe the birth mark on my gentiles. She couldn't because she had never seen them.
Yes phone usage on a ship is usually very expensive especially if it is a satellite phone system, which most are.
The #1 thing in any marriage is not love, it is trust, without trust there can be no love because love is the ultimate form of trust.
LOL, it's probably just a wrong number. Trust your man and show him the love he deserves! Wait till he calls you again and ask him to please stay longer than 10 minutes because the lack of communication is depressing you. Tell him about the silly call and about your irrational thoughts. I'm sure he'll comfort you. Just relax, he sounds like a good man.
My first thoughts are why would your fiance give this woman his home number when he knows he's away from home?
That doesn't make much sense. I think this was just a wrong number and just a fluke that she has a spanish accent. Also I am sure the phone calls to you are extremely expensive. I remember when I was in Jamacia on vacation and I made a couple short phone calls and almost passed out when I saw how much they cost. I am sure this is nothing and your relationship is fine but if you still are uneasy simply tell me about the weird phone call and ask him if he was expecting a phone call. Good luck!
dont listen to Fred Boreman or whatever..
just cuz u dont cook or know spanish dialect doesnt give your husband the right to cheat on you.. of course u should always put out though..
as for the hang up call.. could be a wrong number, but i highly doubt it.
your husband is away on a cruise ship, of course hes gunna cheat on you...what man doesnt cheat?? what women doesnt cheat? WE ALL DO.
meh, when you call and he dont pick up?? obvious cheating...these other people are stupid saying hes not.
he is...
dump his ***
You are overreacting.
Your husband has called you frequently to make sure you're all right. He loves you. He misses you. You can feel secure in that.
What you had to day is known as a wrong number. It's totally harmless. And in case you didn't notice, you two aren't the only spanish people on the globe.
So, put this worry away. You're a big girl now, and you have to learn how to handle being on your own once in a while. If you feel lonely, call up some gals and go for a few drinks. Do some socializing and you'll feel better.
If your husband comes home to a wife who is freaked out, frazzeled, and fustraited...how happy will he be to see you?
Spend the rest of your week preparing something nice for him.
-A big home cooked meal.
-Maybe something naughty to change into his first night back.
-Get some massage oil and plan to give his sore muscles a rub down.
Whatever you plan, make it something relaxing and unstressful (big fancy dinners at restaurants and dancing all night are not good ideas. He'll be very tired).
So instead of worrying about your marriage, you'll be PLANNING how to make it even better. And it'll give you something to look forward to.
You can even drop him little hints on the phone, letting him know he's got a surpise when he comes home.
Heck, even letting him off the leash and sending him out to the bar with his friends would be a really sweet thing to do for him.
One thing is certain; the more time you spend worrying about YOURSELF and how YOU feel, the more difficult it鈥檒l be for him when he gets back. Nobody wants to come home to a jilted spouse. It makes coming home such a chore.
Then you really will be in danger of your husband straying. And that鈥檚 not good. By being a loving and supportive wife, you'll feel better about your position in the marriage. By thinking about HIM FIRST...you've actually served YOURSELF FIRST. You'll have a devoted husband and you'll feel much much better.
So, start laying plans. Go see your girlfriends. Take a trip to see family. Do some projects around the house. Hell, even curl up and watch all the girl movies he never wants to see in your DVD collection. Bring along a little Ben and Jerry鈥檚 for a date.
Keep yourself stress and worry-free. When he comes home to a beautiful woman, a warm house, a good meal, and body massage鈥?you鈥檒l never have to worry about fidelity.
And he鈥檒l boast that he鈥檚 married to the most wonderful woman on the planet!
Good Luck!
Could be a lot of things, could have been a wrong number, more then one number comes up listed as unknown for anywhere in the country. And that is what I would assume it is unless you dont trust him, could be he left his phone lay and one of the staff picked it up and hit the last number called..I mean not everyone is trustworthy and lots of people mess with your stuff when you are at hotels and on cruiseships..they're not supposed to but they do.
Try not to think the worst
Dear HotJewels,
Hello! Fred Borman here!
It would appear to me that we have an unquestionable case of infidelity on our hands. But before we jump up and start pointing fingers here let us ask ourselves the real question which is... who is to blame?
The clear answer of course is yourself. This man is slaving away on a cruise ship while doing what he can to make himself a living while you are spending your days lounging around with nothing better to do than call him in inappropriate times of day. To think that this wouldn't happen eventually is simply naive and thickheaded.
You mentioned that he is Spanish. What have you done to make him feel comfortable around yourself, a non-Spaniard? Have you began learning his native dialect? Have you made it a point to have a hot, fresh Qdoba burrito waiting for him on the dinner table after a long days work? Have you done the things in the bedroom that a Spanish man would come to expect from his partner? I think not, or you would not be in this situation right now.
You are now at a crossroads in life. You can either fight to win back the man of your dreams, or just rollover and die. I would recommend you sharpen your tequila drinking abilities, because if there is one thing that can impress a Spaniard it is tequila.
Your friend,
Fred Borman, Family Counselor
Definitely do not call him again. Wait for him to call you. If he doesn't, so what! Don't lead on that you're suspicious or worried about a thing, and don't mention the woman calling you -- until you confront him in person. Wait for him to get back, sit right in front of his face, and civilly ask him whatever you wish...while watching his body language (nose red, itchy, or tugging at his ear, or looking down or closing his eyes, and a big one is if he can't look you in the eyes). Google search ';body language, how to tell when he is lying'; for websites on details. Otherwise, I can tell you from personal experience, that when someone is guilty, they usually get defensive and/or yell (the angry escape). For me, a man on a ship with those rediculous (unreal!) hours, would not work out. I want my man working in town!
I don't know, working from 7am-1am that's pretty unbelievable, I also think it's kinda weird that he is working on a ship while it's on a voyage, seems like they would wait till it's docked to do the renovations. I'd be suspicious too, sounds like the girl he might be seeing was looking for info too and called your number to see who it was.makeup class
THEN today I just received an UNKNOWN call and picked up and a woman just said 'Hello', then hung up.
NOW, I am Freaking out. What was that all about? Things go through my mind because I am feeling so distant from him. Should I call him and ask him about this? What should I do?? Am I over exaggerating
He is spanish and he is in the caribbean on a ship right now. The lady who said HELLO had a strong spanish accent.My fiance is away for work, hasn't called me and I just recieved a call from a woman. Advice?
To those that are questioning the working hours and habits on cruise ships. It is normal to work 18 hrs days while underway with many breaks like the original poster stated. Performing renovations/maintenance while underway is also very normal. Usually they will happen in the areas where the passengers are not allowed access to. If it is in areas do have access to they will block of areas around there to prevent passengers from actually seeing the areas being worked on if possible.
The more the ship is out at sea with passengers means that the cruise ship makes money. Keeping a ship in port is expensive in itself. So when they can maintenance is down while underway. Making a ship to shore phone call is very expensive also if they are using the ship communications. Getting a chance to go ashore if you are part of the maintenance/engineering crew is rare also.
My fiance is away for work, hasn't called me and I just recieved a call from a woman. Advice?
Maybe she was a relative, and thought she had the wrong number. Maybe she got disconnected accidently. When we took a cruise, i called my mother from our room on the ship. I stayed on the phone for I swear like 2 mins. and the bill was $100. It is very expensive. Next time you talk to him, ask him.
With many years of experience counseling members of my church I can say without a doubt Fred Borman is 100% correct. Often times we tend to shift blame to others then take the hard path of accepting some of the responsibility ourselves. Hopefully you will embrace his heritage and put this relationship back on track.
calm down. i think you're totally blowing this out of proportion. it could've simply been somthing along the lines of the person that went to use the phone next simply hit redial or something stupid like that. i think you're really overreacting.
Soy asi' cunfused por este.
Pienso que el hace trampas en usted!
UNKNOWN.
It could've just been a wrong number you know. The fact that she had a spanish accent could've been a coincidence.
Fred Borman- divine answer, just one minor thing, Spaniards don't eat burritos, we prefer empanadillas ;)
you are 100% over exaggerating. This call could have come from anywhere
So what you got the SAME call yesterday to?????
Or wait, I guess you did not get the answer you wanted YESTERDAY when you posted this....
Hmmmm.....i would just calll him. I'm sure its nothing. Prolly just a quincidence. I hope he returns home to you soon. Take care.
Maybe it was a wrong number, and instead of her saying ';oops. sorry!'; she just hung up. I've had that happen before.
I think you might be over reacting. Wait til you talk to him again.
wow you really dont trust your husband at all.
let's hope it was just a wrong number.
First of all don't overreact...
Just because a woman calls said ';Hello'; then hung up, doesn't mean anything wrong is happening. She knows he is on the ship so there is no reason for her to call his home except to start trouble. Her goal may be to get you to loose your head ';freaking out'; and piss off your fiance with accusations and maby drive him to her.
This happened to me once when I turned a nightcap down. The woman got mad and said ';Whats the matter?!?!?! Im not good enough?!?!?!'; She called my house the next morning to let my wife know that I had been having an affair with her. My wife coolly asked this woman to describe the birth mark on my gentiles. She couldn't because she had never seen them.
Yes phone usage on a ship is usually very expensive especially if it is a satellite phone system, which most are.
The #1 thing in any marriage is not love, it is trust, without trust there can be no love because love is the ultimate form of trust.
LOL, it's probably just a wrong number. Trust your man and show him the love he deserves! Wait till he calls you again and ask him to please stay longer than 10 minutes because the lack of communication is depressing you. Tell him about the silly call and about your irrational thoughts. I'm sure he'll comfort you. Just relax, he sounds like a good man.
My first thoughts are why would your fiance give this woman his home number when he knows he's away from home?
That doesn't make much sense. I think this was just a wrong number and just a fluke that she has a spanish accent. Also I am sure the phone calls to you are extremely expensive. I remember when I was in Jamacia on vacation and I made a couple short phone calls and almost passed out when I saw how much they cost. I am sure this is nothing and your relationship is fine but if you still are uneasy simply tell me about the weird phone call and ask him if he was expecting a phone call. Good luck!
dont listen to Fred Boreman or whatever..
just cuz u dont cook or know spanish dialect doesnt give your husband the right to cheat on you.. of course u should always put out though..
as for the hang up call.. could be a wrong number, but i highly doubt it.
your husband is away on a cruise ship, of course hes gunna cheat on you...what man doesnt cheat?? what women doesnt cheat? WE ALL DO.
meh, when you call and he dont pick up?? obvious cheating...these other people are stupid saying hes not.
he is...
dump his ***
You are overreacting.
Your husband has called you frequently to make sure you're all right. He loves you. He misses you. You can feel secure in that.
What you had to day is known as a wrong number. It's totally harmless. And in case you didn't notice, you two aren't the only spanish people on the globe.
So, put this worry away. You're a big girl now, and you have to learn how to handle being on your own once in a while. If you feel lonely, call up some gals and go for a few drinks. Do some socializing and you'll feel better.
If your husband comes home to a wife who is freaked out, frazzeled, and fustraited...how happy will he be to see you?
Spend the rest of your week preparing something nice for him.
-A big home cooked meal.
-Maybe something naughty to change into his first night back.
-Get some massage oil and plan to give his sore muscles a rub down.
Whatever you plan, make it something relaxing and unstressful (big fancy dinners at restaurants and dancing all night are not good ideas. He'll be very tired).
So instead of worrying about your marriage, you'll be PLANNING how to make it even better. And it'll give you something to look forward to.
You can even drop him little hints on the phone, letting him know he's got a surpise when he comes home.
Heck, even letting him off the leash and sending him out to the bar with his friends would be a really sweet thing to do for him.
One thing is certain; the more time you spend worrying about YOURSELF and how YOU feel, the more difficult it鈥檒l be for him when he gets back. Nobody wants to come home to a jilted spouse. It makes coming home such a chore.
Then you really will be in danger of your husband straying. And that鈥檚 not good. By being a loving and supportive wife, you'll feel better about your position in the marriage. By thinking about HIM FIRST...you've actually served YOURSELF FIRST. You'll have a devoted husband and you'll feel much much better.
So, start laying plans. Go see your girlfriends. Take a trip to see family. Do some projects around the house. Hell, even curl up and watch all the girl movies he never wants to see in your DVD collection. Bring along a little Ben and Jerry鈥檚 for a date.
Keep yourself stress and worry-free. When he comes home to a beautiful woman, a warm house, a good meal, and body massage鈥?you鈥檒l never have to worry about fidelity.
And he鈥檒l boast that he鈥檚 married to the most wonderful woman on the planet!
Good Luck!
Could be a lot of things, could have been a wrong number, more then one number comes up listed as unknown for anywhere in the country. And that is what I would assume it is unless you dont trust him, could be he left his phone lay and one of the staff picked it up and hit the last number called..I mean not everyone is trustworthy and lots of people mess with your stuff when you are at hotels and on cruiseships..they're not supposed to but they do.
Try not to think the worst
Dear HotJewels,
Hello! Fred Borman here!
It would appear to me that we have an unquestionable case of infidelity on our hands. But before we jump up and start pointing fingers here let us ask ourselves the real question which is... who is to blame?
The clear answer of course is yourself. This man is slaving away on a cruise ship while doing what he can to make himself a living while you are spending your days lounging around with nothing better to do than call him in inappropriate times of day. To think that this wouldn't happen eventually is simply naive and thickheaded.
You mentioned that he is Spanish. What have you done to make him feel comfortable around yourself, a non-Spaniard? Have you began learning his native dialect? Have you made it a point to have a hot, fresh Qdoba burrito waiting for him on the dinner table after a long days work? Have you done the things in the bedroom that a Spanish man would come to expect from his partner? I think not, or you would not be in this situation right now.
You are now at a crossroads in life. You can either fight to win back the man of your dreams, or just rollover and die. I would recommend you sharpen your tequila drinking abilities, because if there is one thing that can impress a Spaniard it is tequila.
Your friend,
Fred Borman, Family Counselor
Definitely do not call him again. Wait for him to call you. If he doesn't, so what! Don't lead on that you're suspicious or worried about a thing, and don't mention the woman calling you -- until you confront him in person. Wait for him to get back, sit right in front of his face, and civilly ask him whatever you wish...while watching his body language (nose red, itchy, or tugging at his ear, or looking down or closing his eyes, and a big one is if he can't look you in the eyes). Google search ';body language, how to tell when he is lying'; for websites on details. Otherwise, I can tell you from personal experience, that when someone is guilty, they usually get defensive and/or yell (the angry escape). For me, a man on a ship with those rediculous (unreal!) hours, would not work out. I want my man working in town!
I don't know, working from 7am-1am that's pretty unbelievable, I also think it's kinda weird that he is working on a ship while it's on a voyage, seems like they would wait till it's docked to do the renovations. I'd be suspicious too, sounds like the girl he might be seeing was looking for info too and called your number to see who it was.
10pts for best advice!!! How do I become a stronger woman?
Although some people tell me sensitivity is good, it's NOT GOOD whenever I get a job. I need to toughen up, as any adult (30 or 40) can make me cry if they criticize or yell at me enough.
-Thinking of something else or funny doesn't work.
-Karate lessons are out the question.
-Self help books hardly help.
-Being positive works for a while, until the negatives takes over again.
Why can't I tap into my ';inner strength';?10pts for best advice!!! How do I become a stronger woman?
Read Proverbs 31:10-31
http://www.blueletterbible.org/Bible.cfm鈥?/a>
Pro 31:30 Favour [is] deceitful, and beauty [is] vain: [but] a woman [that] feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.10pts for best advice!!! How do I become a stronger woman?
Try reading ';Becoming a better you'; byJoel Osteen or listen to his cd's. We were never meant to live from the outside in but from the inside out. So you must truly see the need for a change, which you seem to do, and if you do then I think you will stop at nothing to reach it. I used to be sensitive too but, try to wean yourself off the sensitivity. Next time you feel like getting touchy allow yourself to be upset for 2 minutes then keep on reducing the time till you get to seconds. That is the method I used.All the best in your search.
Most self help books are trash IMHO.
I would suggest you read just a single section out of ';The Feeling Good Handbook.'; by Dr. Burns. The chapter on communication...
Building up your self confidence may help you not cry, but I personally don't think crying is necessarily a sign of weakness.
Learn to hate. Become the most important person in the world and that would be you.
In the work place don't get there smiling and laughing looking to make friends, let people do that for you.
Demand respect at all times and from absolutely everything. ( don't ask openly for it but just respect your self)
You can't hit a target you you can't see so don't tell your life story to anyone. So just be calm and cool.
For confidence go sky diving or bunji jumping or find what scares you the most and do it without hesitating.
Push-ups and pull-ups. Plus plenty of squat-thrusts.
Karate helps.
Try the book ';Women Who Run with Wolves';.
And always remember, be positive!
Dont do Karate its completely useless. Enroll in a Brazilian jui jitsu or Muay Thai class. Your self confidence and strength both mentally and phsycally will sky rocket.
-Thinking of something else or funny doesn't work.
-Karate lessons are out the question.
-Self help books hardly help.
-Being positive works for a while, until the negatives takes over again.
Why can't I tap into my ';inner strength';?10pts for best advice!!! How do I become a stronger woman?
Read Proverbs 31:10-31
http://www.blueletterbible.org/Bible.cfm鈥?/a>
Pro 31:30 Favour [is] deceitful, and beauty [is] vain: [but] a woman [that] feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.10pts for best advice!!! How do I become a stronger woman?
Try reading ';Becoming a better you'; byJoel Osteen or listen to his cd's. We were never meant to live from the outside in but from the inside out. So you must truly see the need for a change, which you seem to do, and if you do then I think you will stop at nothing to reach it. I used to be sensitive too but, try to wean yourself off the sensitivity. Next time you feel like getting touchy allow yourself to be upset for 2 minutes then keep on reducing the time till you get to seconds. That is the method I used.All the best in your search.
Most self help books are trash IMHO.
I would suggest you read just a single section out of ';The Feeling Good Handbook.'; by Dr. Burns. The chapter on communication...
Building up your self confidence may help you not cry, but I personally don't think crying is necessarily a sign of weakness.
Learn to hate. Become the most important person in the world and that would be you.
In the work place don't get there smiling and laughing looking to make friends, let people do that for you.
Demand respect at all times and from absolutely everything. ( don't ask openly for it but just respect your self)
You can't hit a target you you can't see so don't tell your life story to anyone. So just be calm and cool.
For confidence go sky diving or bunji jumping or find what scares you the most and do it without hesitating.
Push-ups and pull-ups. Plus plenty of squat-thrusts.
Karate helps.
Try the book ';Women Who Run with Wolves';.
And always remember, be positive!
Dont do Karate its completely useless. Enroll in a Brazilian jui jitsu or Muay Thai class. Your self confidence and strength both mentally and phsycally will sky rocket.
In need of advice to give to a friend - who would you choose? the man or the woman for a relationship?
Sorry to ask, but i have ran out of advice for my friend.
The sitiation is this.
Girl (1) had a 6 year fling with girl (2) - they were best friends and never been with other women before. They lived with eachother and did everything u usually do in a relationship. It was niver oficial as girl (1) could not accept a relationship with another woman
Girl (1) has now moved in with a Boyfriend last week. He has been on the scene for years.
He banned the girls from seeing eachother.After 6 months,the girls met up again last week.
Girl 1 does not share a bed with her boyfriend and only slept together once in 8 months.
The girls have slept together since girl 1 and the boyfriend have been going out, but not since they re-united last week after the 6 month period.
Nobody knows about the woman and are hoping
do you think she really likes the man who she moved in with, or does she like the woman?
she seems happy to settle with the man but may like the girl too???In need of advice to give to a friend - who would you choose? the man or the woman for a relationship?
Your friend is one confused individual. It sounds like she wants a man because that feels normal, but she is sexually and emotionally attached to the woman. Tell her to grow some balls and open the closet door.In need of advice to give to a friend - who would you choose? the man or the woman for a relationship?
It sounds like you may be girl 2 in this story, I think she is getting her rocks of with both.
I think she is having a problem accepting her sexuality. Maybe she is trying to do ';the right thing'; by being with the boyfriend but I think she is really a lesbian and the right thing for her to do is stay with the girlfriend.
Girl 1 is in serious denial of her gayness and should not be ashamed of it. It's unfair to the guy in the relationship and in turn unfair to not being true to herself. She needs to quite worrying about everybody else and do what she feels is right for her.
weird that 2 girls in the same family are gay..
but you need to be who you are, not who your family thinks you should be.
girl needs to make up her mind and either stick with the guy or the girl. she needs to do what SHE wants, not what she thinks her family will accept. it sounds like she's happier with the girl, but wants the guy as a cover.
i'd suggest she do some deep soul searching and do what SHE wants, but she can't keep playing both sides of the fence.. 2 years or 6 years: it's a long time to be doing both.
good luck
she has to do whatever is best for her %26amp; her alone sounds like she may really be more into the girl though but again she has to make a decision she can live with :)d
she obviously has no idea what she wants. it sounds as though she's just stringing them both along until she makes up her mind!
The answers is 27....I suck at word problems.
Unfortunately, she likes the girl better.
I think she's with the man for appearances only. She may feel that's the right thing to do. However, I think she'd rather be with the other woman. Maybe she hasn't come to terms yet with her sexual preference.
It doesn't seem to me she likes the man all that well, if she has only slept with him ONCE sense living with him for 8 months!!
There isn't enough to judge if she likes the girl more or not. I'm sure she cares to keep a friendship though.
I bet Bi sexuals have a really hard time dealing in relationships!! Can't make up their minds! And bet there's lots of drama!!
girl 1 hasn't slept with her boyfriend in 8 months????? Friend asking is being taken for a fool! You cannot know any of these facts are true unless you lived with all parties yourself, therefore it's all suffisition and conjecture! leave them all be to sort themselves out. I'm female and personally have always fancied males! there is simply NOTHING any woman could do for me and she certainly couldn't make me feel the way a man can! Sorry, it's my own opinion and you don't have to like it. Men just KNOW what pleases a woman!!!!! AND how to do it!
I think girl (1) is lying about not having a physical relationship with the guy and wants her cake and eat it too as they say.
sorry, I do not answer anything that involves homosexuality.
it's just too unfamiliar to me and the culture i was raised in.
it's fine if that's your thing but don't expect us older generation to get used to it overnight.
The sitiation is this.
Girl (1) had a 6 year fling with girl (2) - they were best friends and never been with other women before. They lived with eachother and did everything u usually do in a relationship. It was niver oficial as girl (1) could not accept a relationship with another woman
Girl (1) has now moved in with a Boyfriend last week. He has been on the scene for years.
He banned the girls from seeing eachother.After 6 months,the girls met up again last week.
Girl 1 does not share a bed with her boyfriend and only slept together once in 8 months.
The girls have slept together since girl 1 and the boyfriend have been going out, but not since they re-united last week after the 6 month period.
Nobody knows about the woman and are hoping
do you think she really likes the man who she moved in with, or does she like the woman?
she seems happy to settle with the man but may like the girl too???In need of advice to give to a friend - who would you choose? the man or the woman for a relationship?
Your friend is one confused individual. It sounds like she wants a man because that feels normal, but she is sexually and emotionally attached to the woman. Tell her to grow some balls and open the closet door.In need of advice to give to a friend - who would you choose? the man or the woman for a relationship?
It sounds like you may be girl 2 in this story, I think she is getting her rocks of with both.
I think she is having a problem accepting her sexuality. Maybe she is trying to do ';the right thing'; by being with the boyfriend but I think she is really a lesbian and the right thing for her to do is stay with the girlfriend.
Girl 1 is in serious denial of her gayness and should not be ashamed of it. It's unfair to the guy in the relationship and in turn unfair to not being true to herself. She needs to quite worrying about everybody else and do what she feels is right for her.
weird that 2 girls in the same family are gay..
but you need to be who you are, not who your family thinks you should be.
girl needs to make up her mind and either stick with the guy or the girl. she needs to do what SHE wants, not what she thinks her family will accept. it sounds like she's happier with the girl, but wants the guy as a cover.
i'd suggest she do some deep soul searching and do what SHE wants, but she can't keep playing both sides of the fence.. 2 years or 6 years: it's a long time to be doing both.
good luck
she has to do whatever is best for her %26amp; her alone sounds like she may really be more into the girl though but again she has to make a decision she can live with :)d
she obviously has no idea what she wants. it sounds as though she's just stringing them both along until she makes up her mind!
The answers is 27....I suck at word problems.
Unfortunately, she likes the girl better.
I think she's with the man for appearances only. She may feel that's the right thing to do. However, I think she'd rather be with the other woman. Maybe she hasn't come to terms yet with her sexual preference.
It doesn't seem to me she likes the man all that well, if she has only slept with him ONCE sense living with him for 8 months!!
There isn't enough to judge if she likes the girl more or not. I'm sure she cares to keep a friendship though.
I bet Bi sexuals have a really hard time dealing in relationships!! Can't make up their minds! And bet there's lots of drama!!
girl 1 hasn't slept with her boyfriend in 8 months????? Friend asking is being taken for a fool! You cannot know any of these facts are true unless you lived with all parties yourself, therefore it's all suffisition and conjecture! leave them all be to sort themselves out. I'm female and personally have always fancied males! there is simply NOTHING any woman could do for me and she certainly couldn't make me feel the way a man can! Sorry, it's my own opinion and you don't have to like it. Men just KNOW what pleases a woman!!!!! AND how to do it!
I think girl (1) is lying about not having a physical relationship with the guy and wants her cake and eat it too as they say.
sorry, I do not answer anything that involves homosexuality.
it's just too unfamiliar to me and the culture i was raised in.
it's fine if that's your thing but don't expect us older generation to get used to it overnight.
I'm falling for this absolutely wonderful woman. Can you give me advice on what to do now?
There's a girl in my optometry class (eyes) at university who is about 4 years older than me (i'm 22), but I like her A LOT. Can't stress that enough :) She's very down to earth and likes talking to me whenever we bump into each other. Problem is she lives in Canada and I live in London. She will eventually move back after a years additional training here for a year (we're in our final year of university at the moment) and that for me is the only thing that's making me undecided about asking her.
Second thing when I look into her eyes, she stares into my eyes with a lovely smile for a very long time. Is this a sign that she's interested in me?
Should I tell her how I feel? I'm only seeing her till march next year and she will move south (2h hours by train) in july. Any help I would be so grateful (I think of her all the time)
ThanksI'm falling for this absolutely wonderful woman. Can you give me advice on what to do now?
I think you should ask her out on a date. Find out if the two of you really do have a spark. At the very least, you can enjoy your final year at the university together. And if things get serious, you can handle that when the time comes. You'll regret it if you graduate with out giving it a chance.I'm falling for this absolutely wonderful woman. Can you give me advice on what to do now?
wow it looks like something straight from a movie. You should tell her how you feel or else it would eat you up inisde. Like its awesome that you get along well with her
Second thing when I look into her eyes, she stares into my eyes with a lovely smile for a very long time. Is this a sign that she's interested in me?
Should I tell her how I feel? I'm only seeing her till march next year and she will move south (2h hours by train) in july. Any help I would be so grateful (I think of her all the time)
ThanksI'm falling for this absolutely wonderful woman. Can you give me advice on what to do now?
I think you should ask her out on a date. Find out if the two of you really do have a spark. At the very least, you can enjoy your final year at the university together. And if things get serious, you can handle that when the time comes. You'll regret it if you graduate with out giving it a chance.I'm falling for this absolutely wonderful woman. Can you give me advice on what to do now?
wow it looks like something straight from a movie. You should tell her how you feel or else it would eat you up inisde. Like its awesome that you get along well with her
What's the best way for a 32 year old guy like me to meet a nice woman? I'm tired of the bar scene. Advice?
A little background: I just earned my 2nd undergrad degree after years of going to school pursuing ';a dream'; that I thought I wanted, traveling/studying/working abroad, and finally finding a direction that I feel that is more of a fit. Going back to undergrad when I was around 27 years old, I was already a lot older than my classmates. At first I was worried I wouldn't make that many friends, but it became a blessing in the long run because I've made some good friends and they didn't care that I was several years older. I'm also very athletic, funny, and morally respectful to everyone. Not to sound vain, but I'm a decent looking guy who looks a lot younger than I am. While in school I've had chances to date younger women but I didn't feel comfortable with it so I never pursued anything. So now I feel that I'm in a strange position in life. Now that I'm out of school AGAIN, I feel like I'm older than most of the regular college grads and so I can't relate to them, especially some friends who still like to party. At the same time I don't feel that I relate to others my age who are already into their careers, are married, have children, etc. So I feel like I'm in a strange position in life, sort of like in a social limbo. Add to this, I have financial debt from school loans. Going to school for as long as I have, I've accrued a good amount to where I'm ashamed of it, even though my brother has told me that I shouldn't be ashamed because it's school debt, at least, and not like credit card foolishness. But I feel like added to my age, and the fact that I am just starting a career in my field (fortunately I'm in the process of finding a job with this economic crisis so to speak), that having school loan debt will keep me from meeting a loving, quality woman who will want to be with me. I feel like if I found my direction earlier in life that I wouldn't have a problem now. I sincerely feel (and maybe I'm skewed in my reasoning) that women my age or close are looking for a guy who can take care of them financially -- whether they admit or not. I would do anything to take care of my future wife and family, but I feel like I'm being held back because of these things. I don't know what to do, and I'm at the point in life where I'm struggling to be positive and to simply do the best that I can in life, and to not worry. I suppose there's no point in complaining. I feel like it's difficult for me to find a woman that is my age and fits the criteria that I need (beautiful, wonderful smile, positive attitude, takes care of her body, is physically active, has a good job, and is always wanting to learn in life, just like me). Seems like the old adage that ';all the good ones are taken'; seems true. Am I deceiving myself into thinking that all the quality women now are being snatched and taken ';off the shelves'; by guys who have started earlier than me and are getting the attention of all the smart, beautiful ladies. I know there are some women who could be in the same position as me: pursuing their direction in life even if it means a lot of risk and not meeting someone right away. I know there are women like this out there but I haven't found them. I don't want to sound shallow in any way because I have my own faults, but I've been told I have high standards in looking for a woman, which everyone should have. I mean, if I didn't have certain criteria in a wife, then they should just be ';friends.'; It's that special woman that is going to capture my heart. I want to embrace her and love her and to feel love. I want to be able to share my dreams with her. I guess in the position in life now, I'm a lot lonelier than I thought. In the meantime, I've been making myself a better person -- a better ';candidate'; for this type of lady -- so to speak. I've been reading more books for leisure, taking up new activities, learning how to dance, lifting weights, running, yoga, keeping up to date in my field of study (graphic design and photography), eating better, cooking and trying to learn a new recipe each week, trying to sleep better, improving personal habits, learning how to be financially responsible, and drinking lots of water. There's so much in life that I want to do. While I was ';finding a direction'; I've had to opportunity to travel and see the world. At least this is something I can talk about and relate with to a girl. To try to sum this (too) long of a story ';short,'; I feel alone here. I don't have anybody to talk to and I don't want to turn into one of those freaks who become hermits and gain a beer belly. I'm probably the most open minded guy you'll meet. Being of an ';ethnic'; background, I know how it feels to be on the ';outside,'; so I believe this is what helps me to be more sensitive to others. To those who took the patience to thoroughly read and even relate to me, thank you. I'm not sure what kind of advice I'm asking for -- maybe I'm just venting. Maybe I need to find a friend who is in the same awkward position in lifeWhat's the best way for a 32 year old guy like me to meet a nice woman? I'm tired of the bar scene. Advice?
There are PLENTY of people in your situation...and you aren't ';too late'; to meet a woman. I am 29 years old, half of my friends are single, and the other half are in relationships (most with boyfriends/girlfriends....a few who are married....and VERY few of my friends have children). Everyone works at their own pace.
Yes, it's extremely difficult to meet the ';right'; person (especially at a bar....I actually don't drink, so I don't even GO to bars!). Online dating is always an option. Another option is to meet people doing what you enjoy doing. Personally, I like to do community theater (I love to act and sing)...I meet so many people doing that! My problem is that most of them are gay! haha! BUT, there are plenty of straight men to meet as well. I met one guy because he was the cousin of a girl who was in a show with me. I met another guy because he was in a Cancer Benefit concert with me.
Not all women are looking for money. BUT, most women are looking for a man who is financially stable. You don't have to be rich, but no woman wants to come into a relationship and have to deal with your debt (whether it be school debt or credit card debt or whatever). I am a strong and independent woman, but I don't want to have to be financially responsible for my boyfriend because he is in debt. You know what I mean? You might want to get out of debt before you jump into dating or a relationship. Once you have your s**t together, you will meet someone who sees you as a wonderful guy with a great head on his shoulders!
Don't stress...you don't have to be in a relationship at 32 to be happy. You have plenty of time. The more time you take, the happier you'll be in the long run. Never rush things and never ';settle.'; You sound like you're on your way to a great future, so take your time, enjoy life, and everything will fall into place soon!
EDIT: Ok...read the response from the guy below me. Keep in mind he is 15 years old. The things he is telling you to do may work at 15, but not at 32. There are more important things in life as you get older. Do NOT listen to this kid's advice....a 15 year old ';ladies man'; will no longer be a ';ladies man'; at 32. It takes more than a smile and waiting to make a phone call to land a lady!What's the best way for a 32 year old guy like me to meet a nice woman? I'm tired of the bar scene. Advice?
I completely understand. Just focus on ';you'; right now. Once you are content with yourself and where you are in life, people will come along. I know you will get to where you want to be soon...just hang in there and stay positive!!! Best of luck!
Try for a job to get a steady and regular income. Once you are financially sound girls will get more confidence in your ability to take care of them . Do not waste your time thinking about your past and day dreaming. You are still in your prime.
Okay bro, here's the deal. I'm a tad bit younger than you, but good with the ladies. Sorry to inform you that the bar scene is probably the most likely way you're gonna meet a lady. But there are also some other ways. Rule #1 ';Less is More'; so how many times has a girl said she was gonna call you....and then doesn't. It happens to a lot of people. But you have to learn from this. When she says she is gonna call, you get anxious, and you start checking your phone every five seconds. This is because by nature, we want what we can not have, orrrr what is not given to us. So the less she calls you, the more you want her. This same principal applies to women. Moving on, Rule #2, ';24 Hours.'; I know it's tough but you may NOT FOR ANY REASON, call her before the first 24 hours. You have to call at the right time. Too early.... and she thinks your desperate. Too late..... and she has already decided you're not interested and have moved on. I know it's tough but you have to follow these rules. But before you have to follow these rules....you need a lady. So whether it's the bar scene, or the gym, or the movie store, etc. You need to be charming. Smile smile smile is all i can say. Girls like guys who are sweet and charming. You might even score some digits this way. BUT BEFORE ANY OF THIS, please make sure she does not have a boyfriends. That is information you need lol. There is nothing worse than talking to you're ';lady'; and having her tell you she forgot to tell you she has a boyfriend. If you follow all of these rules you will score a lady. If you have any questions on whether she is interested or not shoot me an email.
Oh, and by the way. If there is any doubt in your mind that she doesn't like you......she doesn't like you lol. That's just how it is.
I'm 32 and not married either. I am a single mom and have a bf, but he is my neighbor which is how we met. From your question, it doesn't sound like you have a job? You should get one of them before you try finding a lady. My ex was able to explore his twenties like you did and he is very responsible and ambitious, but waited around for the perfect job. Big mistake/turnoff, you take what you get and keep looking for better. It sounds to me, you need to get out from under your parents. Bars are not the place, try the park or church or even shopping at the grocery store...
i think you think too much. just relax and don't overanalyze the situation. instead of focusing on yourself, focus on others. give. volunteer. get to know your neighbors. join a social group or two (a real one, not an internet one). good luck.
ps: even married guys can gain beer bellies. :-)
There are PLENTY of people in your situation...and you aren't ';too late'; to meet a woman. I am 29 years old, half of my friends are single, and the other half are in relationships (most with boyfriends/girlfriends....a few who are married....and VERY few of my friends have children). Everyone works at their own pace.
Yes, it's extremely difficult to meet the ';right'; person (especially at a bar....I actually don't drink, so I don't even GO to bars!). Online dating is always an option. Another option is to meet people doing what you enjoy doing. Personally, I like to do community theater (I love to act and sing)...I meet so many people doing that! My problem is that most of them are gay! haha! BUT, there are plenty of straight men to meet as well. I met one guy because he was the cousin of a girl who was in a show with me. I met another guy because he was in a Cancer Benefit concert with me.
Not all women are looking for money. BUT, most women are looking for a man who is financially stable. You don't have to be rich, but no woman wants to come into a relationship and have to deal with your debt (whether it be school debt or credit card debt or whatever). I am a strong and independent woman, but I don't want to have to be financially responsible for my boyfriend because he is in debt. You know what I mean? You might want to get out of debt before you jump into dating or a relationship. Once you have your s**t together, you will meet someone who sees you as a wonderful guy with a great head on his shoulders!
Don't stress...you don't have to be in a relationship at 32 to be happy. You have plenty of time. The more time you take, the happier you'll be in the long run. Never rush things and never ';settle.'; You sound like you're on your way to a great future, so take your time, enjoy life, and everything will fall into place soon!
EDIT: Ok...read the response from the guy below me. Keep in mind he is 15 years old. The things he is telling you to do may work at 15, but not at 32. There are more important things in life as you get older. Do NOT listen to this kid's advice....a 15 year old ';ladies man'; will no longer be a ';ladies man'; at 32. It takes more than a smile and waiting to make a phone call to land a lady!What's the best way for a 32 year old guy like me to meet a nice woman? I'm tired of the bar scene. Advice?
I completely understand. Just focus on ';you'; right now. Once you are content with yourself and where you are in life, people will come along. I know you will get to where you want to be soon...just hang in there and stay positive!!! Best of luck!
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Try for a job to get a steady and regular income. Once you are financially sound girls will get more confidence in your ability to take care of them . Do not waste your time thinking about your past and day dreaming. You are still in your prime.
Okay bro, here's the deal. I'm a tad bit younger than you, but good with the ladies. Sorry to inform you that the bar scene is probably the most likely way you're gonna meet a lady. But there are also some other ways. Rule #1 ';Less is More'; so how many times has a girl said she was gonna call you....and then doesn't. It happens to a lot of people. But you have to learn from this. When she says she is gonna call, you get anxious, and you start checking your phone every five seconds. This is because by nature, we want what we can not have, orrrr what is not given to us. So the less she calls you, the more you want her. This same principal applies to women. Moving on, Rule #2, ';24 Hours.'; I know it's tough but you may NOT FOR ANY REASON, call her before the first 24 hours. You have to call at the right time. Too early.... and she thinks your desperate. Too late..... and she has already decided you're not interested and have moved on. I know it's tough but you have to follow these rules. But before you have to follow these rules....you need a lady. So whether it's the bar scene, or the gym, or the movie store, etc. You need to be charming. Smile smile smile is all i can say. Girls like guys who are sweet and charming. You might even score some digits this way. BUT BEFORE ANY OF THIS, please make sure she does not have a boyfriends. That is information you need lol. There is nothing worse than talking to you're ';lady'; and having her tell you she forgot to tell you she has a boyfriend. If you follow all of these rules you will score a lady. If you have any questions on whether she is interested or not shoot me an email.
Oh, and by the way. If there is any doubt in your mind that she doesn't like you......she doesn't like you lol. That's just how it is.
I'm 32 and not married either. I am a single mom and have a bf, but he is my neighbor which is how we met. From your question, it doesn't sound like you have a job? You should get one of them before you try finding a lady. My ex was able to explore his twenties like you did and he is very responsible and ambitious, but waited around for the perfect job. Big mistake/turnoff, you take what you get and keep looking for better. It sounds to me, you need to get out from under your parents. Bars are not the place, try the park or church or even shopping at the grocery store...
i think you think too much. just relax and don't overanalyze the situation. instead of focusing on yourself, focus on others. give. volunteer. get to know your neighbors. join a social group or two (a real one, not an internet one). good luck.
ps: even married guys can gain beer bellies. :-)
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